Saturday, February 27, 2010
Speaking of kecurian di tempat kerja, especially handphone yang diletak di atas meja and then tiba2 ada orang datang and ask something, and next thing you know, Oh I lost my handphone!! In that particular building alone, memang kerap sangat kes macam tu. Jangankan cakap orang luar yang datang dan pergi, the suspect could be the ones who you thought were a friend. Then I raised a topic – We never know if the person’s intention is TO STEAL something. Maybe he just came and saw an opportunity to steal and he took it. It’s like, “If I don’t take it, someone would”. Something like that. So it sounds like I’m backing up these thieves…but NOPE. For your information, I had it worse. The whole handbag was taken in front of me, in my own office, by a so-called customer. But after I examined my situation that time, it could be ME at fault. I was being so careless like I could trust everyone. I just left my handbag opened on the floor where everyone could see and I was busy with the pc. Then it occurred to my mind, whether or not the guy came as a thief By Choice or By Chance? If your situation was anywhere giving a green light for A Normal Guy to turn into a thief just because of the chance that you put in front of him, maybe you should partly be blamed.
I remember asking my friend, “Let me ask you. If you jalan2 and jumpa duit, you ambil ka tidak?” She said, “Ui, kalau teda nama dan alamat,memang la ambil. Buduh la kalau nda ambil. But itu tidak sama dengan pencuri handphone tu.” I know, but the concept is the same. If you want to practice the righteous way, you would just walk away because it still doesn’t belong to you. Then I kasi cerita her pengalaman kawan2 sia yang pernah jumpa duit di jalanan. Ada yang jumpa RM10 and terus guna pegi makan and then sakit perut, sampaikan kepada kawan sia yang jumpa dekat RM500 and terus shopping barang2. Apa lagi bila kejadian tu semua berlaku masa masih sekolah. So memang mcm bulan jatuh ke riba ja bila “tertendang” duit di jalanan. Heheheehe. Pokoknya, biarlah RM1 ka, RM10 ka, asalkan duit, memang ringan ja tangan kita mau ambil. Jangankan barang2 yg mahal2 yg kita nda mampu mau beli. Apa lagi kalau masa sedang susah dan sesak. Memang ada saja desakan yang menjadikan kita si Pencuri or si Jahat yang mencari peluang. Pada pendapat sia, naluri manusia untuk memiliki sesuatu dengan mudah tu sesuatu yang quite predictable. Then bila kita mula bercakap pasal prinsip hidup dan nilai2 murni yang kita jadikan pegangan, barulah naluri itu dapat dihalang. Jadi sepa yang kuat moral dia, akan berjaya menepis cubaan2 untuk menjadi Si Jahat By Chance.
Like we heard TOO MUCH of bad things already. We already know all the bad rituals most people do. Oh, he found the money and took it and spent it. Like, Hey!! ENUFF!!! Like you wake up one morning and decide that you had enough of all that. When something bump into you, your crazy mind just pops out and -- Hey, why don’t we do it differently this time? Haahahahahahaahahahahahahaha. Isn’t it funny that Too Much Of Bad Things can eventually lead people to Good Things? I mean, you would never guess in a million years that Too Much Badness just makes you tired and then Oklah…now I decided to be good.
Oh well, How Cool Is That?
Friday, February 26, 2010
The nite before she called, an old friend (a Kelantanese)called me after many years of minding our own business. This friend currently working in KL and we have not met for many years since graduation. She is always remembered as one of our good buddies who shared tears and laughter since matriculation. So we talked all the fun stuff during the phone chat. She almost lost her Kelantan dialect. I could listen very clearly to her words. Unfortunately, she didn’t think the same with me. She begged me to slow on on talking cos she wasn’t familiar with Sabahan dialect anymore. I just carried on talking like she’s just another Sabahan friend. “You call me so you have to adapt to my language”, I thought. Hehehe. So finally she told me the reason she called is because she’s taking a vacation to Sabah this March. She told me about the hotel and others. I asked her if she has informed our other friend (my bestfriend) about it and she said Yes, I have informed her in Facebook. “But she never replied”. Could it be that she’s too busy and her FB account is inactive?” I knew the answer to her question. I always know my bestfriend is Never too busy with Facebook. I’m sure she visits her FB daily. It was when I had a thought about the unreplied SMS the other day. This is more than just her being too busy to not remember opening a text message and not knowing what’s written on it. It’s definitely not for her to overlook the Fb message sent by our Kelantanese friend. “Something is not going on well here,” I thought.
Maybe that explained why I didn’t blow it up. Her not replying a text message is a very small matter. But maybe when she finally came to her senses, then she called me and asked me the questions she should have known the answers to. And when I told her about our Kelantanese friend who called up, she made the sound like it was the first time hearing it. “Oh, she’s coming down?” But when I told her that the other friend has sent her a message in Fb asking her if she can make some time to be the tour guide when they arrive in KK, she said, “Oh ya….belum pula sia ter-reply dia.” So actually she remembered reading the message on Fb but didn’t do anything to reply it yet although it needs an urgent reply.
From her voice, I can sense that this isn’t as simple as she’s too busy. I knew right away that maybe not that she wasn’t thoughtful enough to us, but her little situation made her feel choked to even have the heart to answer the simplest question. I don’t know if I understand how it feels. But one thing for sure, I know that sometimes we need The Space for ourselves that we just want to take a break from anything and just have a quiet time of isolation. Suddenly you don’t want to say anything. Suddenly you don’t want to let people know anything. Suddenly you feel like you just need “nothing” to come in your mind because you just want a peace isolation. Yeah, sometimes life is giving us too much of what we think we can handle. Everything is just sucking your energy away. You need that space to regain yourself and get back all your senses together so people won’t notice the difference before and after the isolation. Yes, maybe I understand it. Maybe we all need that space sometimes. We need to pause and look back to ourselves whether or not we are still in the right track and so we don’t just get carried away with our silly emotion and end up hurting more people unintentionally.
Maybe I myself did that many times already. I just want my own space. Maybe we need the space to really get in touch back with ourselves. Yes, we may do funny things. Suddenly you don’t want to answer the call, you don’t want to talk to people and just mind your own business. But of course, don’t get carried away with that isolation because you need to reconnect back to reality and let the people know that you actually care for them. Maybe you would make many kind of excuses so that they don’t have to understand WHY you do it. But as what you can guess, I think I perfectly understand. That’s why when my bestfriend did that, I don’t make it harder for her. I keep saying, “It’s okay bah. “ She kept saying that she regretted not seeing the SMS because suddenly she felt like she missed the chance to hang out. Guess what? When you deal with something like this…Show them you understand that they might be having that isolation moment cos one day I’m sure you would wish people understand it when you have yours too. :)
Thursday, February 25, 2010
This new friend of mine worked with a new company for only 2 months but she could have written 2 books of curses for her new boss. Everytime she dropped by she would bring a new story about the boss, each time to add more to the bad reputation of the boss. She discovered every time a new “bad thing” that the boss has been committing. She said that all the workers hate the boss. He is taking advantage by taking workers who have problems with IC so that he could pay them low enough without risking that they would quit. He is technically sucking their blood, according to this friend. My friend who was not having any issues with IC or anything, got to ask for high salary because she could secure new businesses for the boss using her contacts from the old company. The boss initially agreed to pay commission to her sales. But when it was time to pay, he made a lot of excuses. From 10%, she was only given 4% because suddenly the boss changed the policy. My friend was dead furious at him. She also found out later that the customers also hate him. He sold second hand computers at high price and almost all the customers came back swearing at him because most of the pc failed to work or start even only after a few days. Some even asked for cash refund. She also found out that the boss was using someone else’s name on the trading license because he is not a Sabahan. The person whose name he used for the license made a report at the district council to bar the boss from renewing the old license. My friend said that it could be that the boss didn’t obey the verbal agreement between them about paying a sum of money to the person whose named used in the license. Not to mention how the boss’ old business was closed down because he couldn’t survive competitions. The new business he ventures in is also new to him and without my friend, he could barely secure a single customer. She said that when the boss was not in, they were all talking about how immoral he is. That was not even after they learnt that the boss registers a new company every time to run from income tax. My oh my!
Listening to her, it made me thinking, “This man is in BIG MESS!” I found my way to pity him. I mean, all the elements related to him are nothing but negative. The history has it that he quit his job as a government servant because “he couldn’t get the respect from his workmates”. I mean, this man’s life is full of problems. I, as a stranger, shouldn’t judge him. But it made me wondering. I thought that MAYBE the rest about him that my friend didn’t know about is all the good and angelic things. I don’t believe that anyone on this earth can be totally screwed up like that. I mean, it can’t be. Then during her last visit to my place, I asked my friend this question.
Sia tanya dia soalan tu sebab MANA TAU yang maybe boss dia tu tidaklah sejahat mana. But dia just MALANG sampaikan semua benda yang dia buat pun tidak menjadi. Dia sudah baik2 pun still juga screwed up. Ada jugakah sampai mcm ni?
I have had 2 years of bad luck in my life years ago. I call it 2 years of bad luck cos things were all screwed up masa tu. Apa yang sia try, semua nda jadi. And the people around me were skeptical about myself. Like my situation was “the worst case scenario” that I could ever imagine happened to me. If I could name one time was to be called “My Downfall”, that 2 years must be called “My Worst Downfall”. So sia masih ingat macamana kekuatan mental yang paling penting. Semua orang yang berada di tempat sia masa tu mungkin could not survive the pressure. But when u asked me, Did I not try enough? Was I a bad person? I could answer you NO. But memang ada mistake yang sia buat yang menyebabkan I deserved it. I think that it’s true – kalau sia guna rules yang betul dari mula lagi, Life Can’ t be That Cruel to us. Unless we did something yang sambil lewa atau we took a decision out of selfishness – Yes, then only those decisions could echo back in the form of “bad luck”.
Sia tulis ni sebab it has been in my mind lately. Ada orang2 yang dekat dengan sia pun mungkin sedang melalui hal ni dalam hidup dorang sekarang, iaitu … semua element dalam hidup dorang seolah-olah menentang dorang. What I can say is that…Sia sudah lalui tu semua. I don’t know la kalau macam boss kawan sia tu. Maybe dia memang teruk or what. But untuk mereka2 yang rasa diri tu tidaklah sejahat mana but life is not in good flow for you now, mesti ada something yang u guys buat yang menyebabkan benda tu berlaku. The good news is…Ini semua bukan satu verdict untuk kita. It’s just a warning signal that WE NEED TO CHANGE back to our good ways and FIX the bad luck. Dalam kes boss kawan sia tu, sudah puas ikut jalan bengkang bengkok, then try pula ikut jalan lurus kali ni. Mesti lain sikit experience dia. Sepa tau mungkin baru dia sedar bahawa ikut jalan lurus ni jauh ni sebenarnya sangat tenang dan tidak banyak pening kepala. Come to think about it, I realize it even more now yang ini semua cuma satu proses pembelajaran. Don’t ask why some people have it easier than you. You never know maybe they sacrifice so much more than you have so far, to deserve that easy road. We make mistake and God gives us the way to fix it. I truly believe in that.
Each of us might experience being The Lost Sheep at least one time in our lives. Now that you know that you are not going to be lost forever, don’t you just want to find the way back home? :)
NOTE: You have no idea how many hearts will cry tears of joy just seeing you making your way back home. Don’t wait for the aid when you can start finding the way home now :)
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
Memang satu perangai manusia yang sukakan pujian dan penghargaan. You can’t blame anyone for that. But sudah tau begitu, pandai2 la cari jalan tengah. Susah juga kalau menceburi bidang yang u sendiri tidak begitu mahir. Maksudnya, u cuma gunakan peluang yang ada dan gunakan akal u untuk maju dalam bidang tu sedangkan orang lain yang bertungkus lumus buat kerja untuk u. You ada duit, orang lain ada kemahiran – dan bila bergabung, jadilah hubungan simbiosis? Dalam ertikata lain, win-win situation. Or is it actually Parasitism?
I know a few people who do that. Dorang run a business yang dorang kurang mahir dan berharap sepenuhnya dengan staff dorang. Contohnya business pembuatan batik. Ada sorang senior ni yang run the business. Dia hire beberapa pekerja. Sia pernah bercakap dengan one of the staff yang jadi “tulang belakang” kepada kenalan sia ni. Daripada gaji RM350, dilonjakkan kepada RM1,000 gara-gara dia berhasrat mau berhenti kerja. Dia cakap, semua kerja dia yang buat. Bengkel dorang tu macam rupa2 bangsal ja. Langsung tidak glemer dan tidak selesa. Tapi di sana lah batik2 tu dilukis. Boss dia jarang2 pijak bengkel tu. Boss dia pijak tempat2 yang orang nampak, contohnya pentas runway di majlis yang dihadiri artis2 terkenal tempatan, dan diperkenalkan sebagai one of the Designers of Batik. Sepa tau, semua ke-glamour-an itu sebenarnya berpunca dari sebuah bengkel buruk dengan pekerja2 yang tension yang merasa diri tiada kehidupan sebab tidak mix dengan orang dan asyik terperap di bengkel siapkan kerja. Apa lagi bila si boss sediakan rumah yang dekat dengan bengkel tu supaya dorang mudah. Lagilah dorang tidak mix dengan orang luar. Hidup dorang cuma di antara rumah dan bengkel itu ja. Bila staff tu bercakap dengan sia, I felt something deep inside her. Dia rasa tertekan dengan kerja dia. Tapi sepa sangka, dia ni la sebenarnya Nafas kepada business boss dia. Bukan senang mau cari orang yang boleh lukis free hand batik dan tidak pula mengomplen bila tiada caruman EPF. She said to me, “She knows nothing about Batik,” which she refers to her boss. I imagine that the girl won’t stay there forever. She will eventually look for a greener pasture. By then, what is going to happen with the business? I bet the boss would not rather think about it. “Nanti2 sajalah pikir.” Sia tidak mau salahkan the boss why dia tidak pandai buat batik tu sendiri, but itu tidak bermakna yang dia tidak setuju bahawa dia akan dilanda kesusahan bila staff dia tu berhenti. Bukan untuk blame sesiapa, tapi terpikir juga…memang susah kalau bergantung pada orang lain. For example, do you guys opt for machine pernafasan kalau kamu mampu bernafas sendiri? Isn’t it good to be able to breathe sendiri? Aha…something like that.
The other day, my sister asked for my help. Her superior asked for her favour for his coming presentation. The thing is, the last time, my sister asked for my help to do the same type of work for her. So after her workmates and superiors saw the work, they liked it. So when there’s a job like that, they just hand it to my sister. So my sister has to ask for my favour again. It’s not exactly a favour. She put a certain price so I would want to do the job. But this time, the timing was bad. I was busy with my new place. My sister gave me 2 days to do it and she assumed that I agreed. Only after less than a day, she called me. “I need the work in 1 hour”. Then I was like, “Whatt???” She said his superior had an urgent call for the presentation. So my sister came to my office and indirectly “forced” me to do the work. That was crazy. You know the likes of  gonna snap on something like that. This isn’t Symbiosis. I didn’t have anything to gain from the job and I didn’t want the money, and I didn’t have the freaking time!!! And to be a compassionate sister, the work wasn’t even for her! It was for her superior, who is a more experienced man who should KNOW something how to do the job on his own. Anyway, I did the job anyway and asked my sister to do the double-check since that she was rushing and I had a lot of job to do too. At least, she must spare me My Time after I had sacrificed my time. But my sister was like stuck there and said she couldn’t do it because she was slow on that and she didn’t have much time left. My goodness!!! “Kerja kamu ni macam kerja budak2 saja. Just hope itu budak sekolah rendah tidak tau taip macam ni.” *Lols. Because of their lack of creativity, their work looked like mess. And I had to sit there fixing their work…My goodness!!! You guys are so-called reliable people and don’t even know how to do this?? I was kinda mad because I knew my sister wanted some compliment from her superior for presenting the work, and the superior wanted to get compliments from other people for having a “well-touched-up” work. Everyone seemed to have something to gain but who’s doing the work again? Yess, ME!!! I was so pressured because of this chain of compliment-chasers and nobody would know it’s  who did all the job. No thanks for the recognition but PLEASEE, can you guys not be too much of a Parasite? TRY to be good in the skill you want to be recognized for. Equip yourself with the necessary knowledge. You guys can’t just turn someone’s life upside down just because you are too lazy and too dependent on others. If they want my help, they must Follow my time, agree? Do I have to cancel my schedule just because you don’t know how to do your own work properly and I have to sit there and fix all the little mistakes? This is crazeeeyyy!! You can multiply the payment 10 times, I still don’t want jobs like that again. I have the pressure of my existing job and now I have to share the burden of other people’s work too? This is wrong!!! My goodness! At least, you excel in the job you are assigned to do, right? Until when that I could stand in and do the work behind the scene when others get the compliments for it? Don’t you guys want to earn the compliment on your own? I tell you that you gonna land yourself in trouble if you prefer to resort to Parasitism – I’m talking about human beings who have no constraint to do anything they want. It’s only either you want or you don’t want. Or maybe you’re just plain lazy. So do you prefer to be a Parasite forever?
Challenge yourself. Never ever be that dependent as you were last year. I am still doing it too. I rather sweat extra sweats just because I don’t want to drag people in my own mess. Do you have forever to start and be responsible with your own life? It’s time, guys. Start now!!!
Note: You guys jangan heran…my sister used to having me membebel inda tentu and she has to tahan telinga cos the job that I could do for her is more important than my laser-talk. Hahahahaahahahaahahahahahaahahahhaaahahaha :PPPPPPPP
Sunday, February 21, 2010
Then they looked at each other, wondering…”Who made the mistake?” I just looked at their little drama. Hehehe. But according to the special offer price, it was RM749. So I don’t have to worry if they gonna charge me the same price like the man, which was RM50 more expensive. The salesgirl who made the mistake explained her mistake which was not intentional. The thing is, the customer didn’t bother and just paid the amount. Yes, it was cheap for that best-selling printer. Anyone who bought it at the old price (RM1100) would think any price below RM1k is cheap. I’m wondering, if he learns that he could have it cheaper by RM50, would he complain? I think he would.
So when I made the payment, the cashier told me, “You’re lucky, you know. Everyone else before you paid RM799 for this printer.” Do you guys know what I replied, “Actually it wasn’t me who is lucky, but it’s them who are unlucky.” Hehehehehehe. Then the cashier said, “Shssss…diam2”. Hahahaahahahahahahahahahahahaahahaha
If I compare myself with the man, I feel like I’m RM50 richer than him. But actually, it’s not so. Because I paid the real price of the printer. It’s just pity that he doesn’t check for the price properly cos that contributes to the fact that…I’m not RM50 richer, but it’s him who is RM50 poorer.
Note: Never think that the salesmen are doing it right all the time. You never know when they make the smallest mistake, small enough for you to detect. RM5 doesn’t sound like much, but I’m sure you still don’t want to be RM5 poorer because of anybody’s mistake (including you), and now we are talking about RM50. Be extra alert next time. It’s okay to be a little whiny like that irritating . (Hahahaahahahahahahahahahahaha) But at least I got the price right…hell, I don’t have RM50 to lose for a careless mistake.
Friday, February 19, 2010
With these little changes in schedule and stuff, I almost run out of things to write about. I have started a few topics and I always got disturbed or lost direction in the middle of typing, so that explains why I have been silent in this blog for days. I even have had this crazy thought yesterday that IF this thing going on longer, isn’t it possible that I might just LOSE my drive to blog?
I’m so pressured because Time Management is still an issue for me. And if I don’t schedule my time wisely, my leisure time (which I would happily spend on blogging) would chip into my work time. I don’t mind to break the rules but this could make me feel bad in the end. I should have found a better formula so I have a time for everything and still have my work in tip top condition. Wow…after years and I’m still talking about formula? Where have I really been all this time? Ouch! That hurts! Hehehehe :P
I know you guys are supporting me (in silence...hehehe) I’m so thankful that this life gives me a way to connect with you and I do appreciate you guys SO MUCH! Be around for me…I might lose myself in this hassle.
No, I can handle this. Hehehe.
Stay with me, ok? *Winks
I am a bit emotional when I write this. Yesterday, one of my goodfriends dropped by at my office and I told her about the bad news about one of our goodfriends. That friend’s husband is recently diagnosed with nose cancer. We all feel sorry for her. She has been the softest person among us but she’s blessed with a good life. Now life is turning its back on her. We get the news from someone else and not from her own mouth. Whether she thinks that it’s not that serious to share it with us, or she is just so affected by it that she rather not let many people know.
So when I told that friend who dropped by yesterday, she gave a different reaction. This friend is nothing new to the big C. She lost her mom from breast cancer years ago. So when I told her about the pitiful situation of our other friend whose husband diagnosed with nose cancer, she said, “It’s not that terrible. He could still recover. You never know.”
Even the Big C is not giving a clear view of HOW close it is to the Big D. According to her, breast cancer could run in her family cos her other aunt is also one sufferer. And surprisingly, her aunt is still alive until today. Her mom first discovered a small lump on the breast which was very early and it was considered only the 1st stage. You hear it so much from the TV that if you detect the disease at the early stage, your chance of recovery is almost 100%. But this is what happened to my friend’s mom. After the cancerous lump was removed, it came again silently after spreading to the chest area after only a few years of relief. And it was when things were not going better for her mom. Finally, her mom called to eternal rest after years of fight. Speaking of the aunt, who was only diagnosed with breast cancer at 4th stage, which my friend would refer her breast as “totally damaged”, which was given only 6 months to survive, is still around after 10 years suffering from it. The damaged breast was not even removed. She only visits the hospital for the monthly procedure. Yes, she is still very much with her normal life. She eats anything like healthy people. So my friend has a reason why she is not so alarmed talking about the Big C, cos the fact is…You Never Know how close you are to the Big D. You might not be that close and still have many years to live. You just never know.
But speaking of not having to deal with the Big C, don’t forget that the Big D is going to happen eventually. Then I told my friend… “Don’t you think these diseases are just excuses so that we don’t just die from sudden death?” Or maybe, it’s not even excuses at all. Actually, we need NO excuses at all. If it’s time, it will happen. The Big D doesn’t need an excuse or a reason. You can just sit there healthily and laughing and your life could be snatched from you in a split second. You never know.
I don’t know what to say. I just hope that we are given enough time to experience this life and to spend enough time with our loved ones and carry out our mission in this world. I just hope that The Big D isn’t so scary to us anymore– knowing that we are blessed so much with such a wonderful chance to be once be alive and that we have no regrets…Cos we have lived our life to the fullest. What are we waiting for, right?
We have so much things to do. We have a life and we must begin appreciating this biggest gift, NOW!! Do we have time to quit hoping because of our troubles? Do we have time to ruin other people’s lives out of jealousy and hatred and greed? Now you know how small these problems are when you think that Everything will come to an end once your have reached the end of your road.
Let’s start LIVING now, guys. We have a lot of jobs to do. :)
Note: The most interesting line that my friend said was, "It all depends on how badly do you want to stay alive. If you quit hoping, you'll lose the fight against anything that is trying to invade your body." Maybe that's the secret why the sick Aunt is still around despite late detection. Ask yourself. How badly do you want to be alive? Suddenly this is a lot more than just a The Big C and the Big D. Don't quit this fight to stay alive. Survive this till our last breathe.
Tuesday, February 16, 2010
I’m not used to “giving price” to one’s sweat, that’s why I always ask, “How much do you ask for if I ask for your favour?” The main reason I ask is so I know how much the person is expecting so that I know how much I’m going to pay. It’s like a fair trade. But there are times when the people you ask for favour from are not bold enough to name the price. They tend to say, “It’s Up To You.” Or “Ikut kau saja”
Doii!! Punyalah sia nda suka bila orang cakap macam tu. I actually prefer it to be professional. I ask for your favour, I should pay a certain price that you think equivalent for the task that you do for me. So lately I needed a lot of work to be done. I needed a lot of people to do tasks for me. It’s even harder when your family members offer to do the job – and usually if you pay them, they will feel embarrassed to accept the money. Of course usually we prefer our family or relatives do the job for us thinking that we could save money because they won’t ask you as much as the what other people would. But if this is what you’re after, you might be wrong cos sometimes you could end up paying more, thinking that you have to be compassionate with your family members. “Jangan terlampau berkira sama sodara sendiri” orang cakap. Hehehe. Well, what do you say?
Tomorrow I’m going to ask for some “helping hands” to move my stuff to my new workplace. So I asked my mom just now, how much should I pay these guys?
My mom said, RM 50 sounds like a good amount. I asked, “Tidak terlampau banyak ka tu?” Cos all they need to do it lift the furniture downstairs, that’s all! Then my mom said, “Kira macam kau tulung2 juga ba dorang tu. Lain kali besar hati dorang mau tulung kalau ada apa2.” Then I was thinking – I thought that RM50 was too big for the task. But the same guys helped me before, I actually gave them RM 100 for helping me to move my stuff into another room and to disconnect the electrical appliances. “Sepa suruh kau kasi banyak sebelum ni,” said my mom. Then I went pening sekejap. For tomorrow, the job is much easier. I thought that it is a large amount for them, and it won’t be so much task for them because lifting the heavy furniture is just nothing to them. But I spare them compassions knowing that it would be a big amount for them and it would mean so much to them because money doesn't come easy. Like my mom always say, “Macam sedekah juga ba tu.” But then, look at me, am I in the position to be a big-hearted donor? Now that I will need to use a lot of money to arrange things since I move to a new workplace, is this the time to be generous? Hahaahahaha.
I agree with my mom that it would mean a lot for the people if I can be a little generous to them. I know that it’s gonna make them happy. I know that God will be happy too. But what I have in my mind is I should be in a very good financial situation before it’s proper for me to “donate”. Erks. But the question is, is it just an excuse? Will there be a time when we have Enough to share a little portion of what we have with others? Or are the people who use this excuse are just plain stingy? Like so kedekut like Haji Bakhil? *Lols
I remember having my brunch at a nearby restaurant. It has been many mornings that I eat there. Biasanya akan ada ni apek tua yang datang dari meja ke meja untuk minta derma. Macam sudah jadi satu jadual untuk dia yang dia akan datang restoren tu setiap jam sebab biasanya dalam tempoh tu memang orang yg duduk di meja tu sudah bertukar. Awal2 tu, memang sia tidak akan bagi. Sebab masa sia mula selalu datang makan di sana, sia sentiasa pikir my problems so memang sia rasa yang sia sendiri pun lebih banyak problem daripada tu apek. *Lols. So maybe kebanyakan orang di sana pun pikir mcm sia cos jarang yg mau bagi. That apek memang sedikit disabled dan dia memang sudah tua. So adakah orang2 di sana memang ada cukup2 duit untuk bayar makanan saja, or dorang rasa tu apek malas berusaha or dorang takut tu apek akan sentiasa minta dengan dorang bila dorang bagi sekali? Ahaa… macam2 sebab.
But until one morning. Hati sia hepi sikit. Sia tengok keliling. Sia cari itu apek. “Mana tu apek ah?” Hahaahahahaha. Then betul2 panjang umur dia. Nda lama tu, dia datang lagi dan mula lah pegi dari satu meja ke satu meja. Yang funnynya, oleh kerana mood sia bagus tu hari, sia memang mau derma sama ni apek. So lucu juga sia rasa cos biarpun dia sedang menuju ke arah meja sia, dari jauh lagi sia ready untuk bagi dia. Itu apek pun takajut tu kali sebab “uii…bersemangat jua ni urg mau kasi derma,” dalam hati tu apek. Hahaahahahahahahahaha.
Pernah juga dulu. Masa sia keluar lepak dengan kawan2 sia. Ada ni org pekak/bisu yang datang and jual that red bean yg ada tulisan, dorang minta RM5 untuk setiap tu. It’s like menderma and get a gift. Tapi ganjil pula kan sebab dorang yg tentukan jumlah derma tu. Heheehe. So masa tu sia terus kasi keluar duit and bagi. Dalam hati sia, “Dapat berkat juga ba tu.” But then, my friends mcm sembunyi expressi terkejut dorang. Maybe dorang pikir yg, ndakkanlah si  nda pandai pikir yg dorg tu semua lengkap anggota badan, cuma bisu dan pekak saja. Tapi kejanya cuma minta derma. Tangan dorang buli buat byk keja yang layak untuk dorang digaji. Then…the question is…
Adakah kejadian “memberi derma” tu adalah berpandukan kepada keikhlasan tangan yang memberi atau “kelayakan” orang yg menerima derma tu?
Bagi sia, biarpun sia tau org tu sangat susah dan layak menerima derma, tapi kalau sia sendiri pun rasa diri sia sendiri pun tidak berkemampuan untuk bagi apa2, still I don’t give. Tapi kalau rasa diri berkemampuan, biarpun orang tu bukannya susah sangat, tetap ringan juga tangan memberi. Pokoknya, memang bagus dapat share something dengan orang dan buat dorang senyum. Kalau rezeki kita murah, inilah masanya bila kita tidak payah berkira berapa yang kita mampu bagi dengan orang sebab kita nda tau bahawa apa yang kita bagi tu mungkin dapat menyelamatkan satu nyawa atau menyebabkan kebahagiaan dan kegembiraan. Mungkin kita tidak tau pun yang ada orang bersyukur dalam doa dorang “for sending me an angel” dan angel itu adalah kamu. Pikir punya pikir, like my mom said…itu harta bukan bawa pigi dunia sebelah. Kalau mampu, share2 la dengan mereka yang kurang bernasib baik :) Sepa tau, esok lusa, masa kamu pula :)
Note: Mudah-mudahan Tuhan kasi banyak rezeki boleh share2 dengan orang yg baik hati...and hopefully dorang get inspired by it and dorang pun akan share2 juga dengan orang lain bila dorang senang nanti :)
Sunday, February 14, 2010
I don’t believe in the hype of celebrating Valentine’s Day anymore because I hate to remember how I got too carried away with celebrating the day and forgot why I celebrated it in the first place. So what I do now is trying to get in touch with the REAL purpose of celebrating it. That’s why, I don’t let this day distract me. I still believe anyway that sometimes people need excuse to do something more special for the people they love, so if this day is that excuse, go ahead. Celebrate it. But don’t forget that it’s for the two of you to love each other more. It’s not about expensive gifts and dinners. Get your feet on the ground and realize that the person standing in front of you is WHY you celebrate the day. If the person standing in front of you brings no flowers or chocolates, as long as he is there. That person is the Purpose of your Valentine’s.
I still remember one Valentine’s when I received 2 expensive gifts from 2 different guys. A gold necklace and a gold bracelete. And I hate to remember it because I was so heartless and immature back then to practically keep 2 guys in my life at once. I saw it how I mocked the purpose of Valentine’s. I could preach about how I could only love one guy at a time, and I think I was telling the truth. It’s just that, life put me in a funny situation that I actually fell in the trap of betrayal and not brave enough to settle the matter. I learnt the hard way that Love is also responsibility. If you cease to love your partner, tell the truth. Don’t make someone who loves you cry because of your act of irresponsibility.
Make this day a memorable one, okay :)
Happy Valentine’s Day to all the people that I care and love. Yes, including you my readers :) ♥ ♥ ♥
Friday, February 12, 2010
People always know that I’m not easy to get close to. But I think I have changed mode recently.
Recently I think I’m going Green a.k.a Mesra Alam (*Lols) cos I got a step closer to my online friends – maximizing my off-days with chatting with them on IRC and on the phone.(What?? Mesra Alam that has nothing to do with plants? *Lols) Although I don’t pick many names – but I’m sure I picked the most worthy ones. They are all nice guys. Hehehehe.
What makes me laugh so much is their maneuver to dig my details. I mean, after hours talking, maybe I look like I’m kinda generous with my neverending train-talk, but still maybe I think they hope I can be more generous than that. Hehehehehe.
I think last nite was a record-breaking in the history of phonecall-length that I ever received in many years. Hahaahahahahaahaha. I want to thank Wine for the long chat and I know that he tried so hard to stay awake and kept pace with my train-talk that he had to sip for tea and I even heard his mom questioning him about who he talked on the phone with. I’m smitten by the fact that Wine won’t end the conversation and I’m sure he waited hour by hour for me to finally say, Okaylah…I think we should end here, but it never happened. Hahahahaahahahahahahahahaha.
I have warned you guys that I am a Hyper talker and it must take really a big heart to stand talking and pretending to enjoy the conversation. *Lols.
Without IRC, I won’t know you guys. So knowing people like you from IRC is among the pleasant things that won’t make me regret all the times that I have spent online. It’s totally worth it.
You guys are all charming in your own way. Definitely worth it for me to go Mesra Alam once in a while. Who knows this can contribute to the betterment of the ozone layer for our mother nature. Hahahaahahahahahahahahahaha. So Twofivesix going Mesra Alam again? I don’t think it’s healthy to do it always. Enough doses of Twofivesix for now, right guys?
Thursday, February 11, 2010
Pernah nampakkah Sindrom macam ni?
Remember the lady I told you guys about in the previous post? Dia cakap mau datang my house, ok fine, sia lukis pelan lagi. Macam pelan di belakang kad kawin tu sudah jadinya. Dengan checkpoint2 penting dan sangat jelas! Checkpoint yang sia bagi di pelan tu bukan main obvious dan “you can’t go wrong” sudah. Dia yang minta pelan tu, dan sia kasi la. Bukanpun sia yang susah2 mau buat kalau bukan dia yang minta. But gara2 itu attitude Sindrom Professor Serba Tau, dia main dengar nda dengar ja apa sia cakap. Dia cakap, "Ohh sana kah. Senang ba tu mau cari." Wah baguslah. Senang kerja sia kan? Sia siap bagitau nombor rumah lagi…dan sia cakap balik2 itu nombor rumah. “Ingat ahh itu nombor rumah.” Dia main angguk2 ja. I thought confirm la dia akan jumpa.
Kali tinguk…tadi tengahari dia call sia. Dia mau datang sudah ambil barang. Punyalah sia terkejut. Even itu first checkpoint yang sangat penting pun dia tidak tau. For example, kalau ada satu taman bunga, and cuma satu taman saja yang ada di kawasan tu, then kalau dia jumpa taman tu, dia mesti sangat senang jumpa lokasi rumah sia. Tapi rupanya, even the first check point pun dia langsung tidak tau menau. It’s like, “Where am I? I’m lost!” Sia jadi mcm tu patung ja di sana imagining macamana susahnya sia terangkan tu benda dengan dia hari tu dan dia asyik mengangguk macam tidak sabar suruh sia stop explain. Dan ini kawasan adalah kawasan dia, so sepatutnya memang teda masalah mau cari, MELAINKAN wujud itu Sindrom yang buat kau rasa 10 inci atas darat – “Hey I know everything ba. Apa lagi mau kasi explain panjang2?”
And then masa dia drive, dia call sia and kasi sound out my voice – Sia kena bagitau dia belok mana, ikut sebelah kiri ka kanan. Sia jadi pissed off masa tu. Sebab u ask me to ulang suara everything. And then itu tidak apa lagi. Macam dia pula buat suara pissed off sebab dia totally lost and tidak tau mana mau pigi. Tiba2 sia pula yang jadi “Si Tukang Kasi Keliru” sebab as if sia kasi instruction yang tidak betul. Semua checkpoints yang sia ulang2 sebut sebelum ni, semua jadi “benda baru” sama dia. Like dia “belum pernah dengar” pun tu benda2 semua. Now you tell me la sama ada si  ni capat panas ka atau mimang ada urg cuba mau percik2 air panas ke arah sia? *Lols
And I couldn’t help but raise my voice sebab I was really really pissed. Then last2, dia dapat juga jumpa. Tapi…Salah rumah pula!! Cos dia pigi ubah itu nombor. Let’s say sia bilang tu nombor 12, dia tukar tu nombor pigi nombor 2. Dia pigi buang lagi tu angka 1 sana. *Lols. Then I said, “Aiyooo, salah la itu nombor rumah” Then dia sempat lagi blame me di phone, “Tapi hari tu kau cakap Nombor 2 ba.” Adoiii, buli2 lagi ada masa mau blame sia.” I tell you lah, there’s NO WAY sia akan lupa my own nombor rumah. Tapi yg sia tau, kalau rasa diri tu Professor Serba Tau mungkin ada harapan lagi kasi twist-turn fact sebab mesti kepala otak Professor ni pact gila dengan information terkini kan? Heheehehe (/me buat muka geram versi pokemon)
Then bila finally sampai depan rumah sia, sia buat muka “sangat manis” sama dia. Sia lupakan sajalah macamana jangkitan Sindrom PST yg berlaku sama dia tu, cos yang penting dia sudah jumpa my house. Tapi…masa dia keluar tu. Dia membebel lagi. “Punya susah mau cari rumah kau ni. Nombor rumah daripada No.2 jadi No.12” – Nahh nahhh…sia tarik nafas ja dan tahan hati ja mau geleng2 kepala. Kalau sia ni naga, confirm ada keluar api sudah secara nda sengaja. *Lols. If sia ni Pikachu, confirm kana keluar karen sudah dari pipi sia wooo… Hahahaahahahahahahahahahahaha.
Tapi since dia ni jauh lagi senior dari sia, dia nampak juga my face yang kegeraman sama kepeningan yang dia bagi sia hari ni. I was really really PISSED, I tell you!!! Kalau dia anybody yang younger than me, confirm sudah kana teriak oleh suara doremon sia ni. Kalau Tidak Tau, CAKAP!!! Ask abis2 sampai u tau, baru u suruh orang stop explain. Jangan jadi itu bodoh sombong yang macam tau semua perkara!! Padahal satu apa pun tidak tau. Ini lah satu penyakit orang2 kita yang MALASSSS mau dengar, bongkak dan pikir diri tu sangatttt la tau semua perkara. Semua hal tu macam Peanut, or Piece of Cake saja!!! Haiyaaaaaaaaa!!! (Alaalalala…keluar karen laini kalau sia ni Pikachu baa Hahaahahahahahaha)
Ini Sindrom ahh…kalau kamurang pakai…Confirm ada satu hari kamurang kana api naga jadi-jadian. Paham? Sama ada kamurang kena tempias air liur boss kamu or lecturer kamu sebab kana teriak depan2 muka. Sebab I tell you guys one thing. Nobody expects u to know everything. Then sudah lah mcm tu, when it’s time untuk orang kasi u penerangan, guna itu telinga betul2!!! Kalau masih tidak paham, guna itu MULUT untuk bercakap. Bukan kamu main angguk2 ja dan refuse untuk dengar – as if kamurang tu si Professor Serba Tau, cos at the end of the day, memang nobody is good enough to be someone who Knows Everything so Sindrom Professor Serba Tau ni tidak ngam dipakai di planet ini. Ada paham kaa???
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
I bet you can name A LONG LIST of what you dislike and hate to see in other people.
We can’t help it. We are just born to hate things that don’t meet our preferences. We tend to avoid these people who have the qualities that we dislike.
I generally dislike people who use foul language. I mean, that’s the first impression that you must pass before I can even think of making friends with you. And then, I dislike RUDE people. Rude means the person cannot show some respects for other people. And then I dislike people who have no principles. I hate people who like to suck up just to get something. I hate people who pretend to be good because of a hidden agenda. Whoa, I tell you I can name A LOT MORE!!
I thought of this topic after I had a deal with a lady, who is my mom’s age. She’s very experienced. Being a breadwinner in her family, she sure has a good Survival Strategy. With not so sophisticated office to run her business, still she’s able to lure many thousands into her bank account just by chipping in to government-funded projects and grab as many small opportunities as possible. To me, her experiences are her winning point. To her, I’m just a “toddler next door”. Erks. Maybe, right? Who knows.
This is what the lady did yesterday. I had a negotiation with her. She named a price – even lower than the discount price. It’s A Statement, not A Question of “Can I get this price?”. It’s like – I have to accept that price or argue with her. And IF I decide to argue, don’t you think it will make me look like the bad person because I argue with an older lady (exactly my mom’s age)? In this case, I have to keep my manners in place so that I don’t lose a friend. But if you were in her place, don’t you think you should play your part too? I definitely HATE IT when she takes advantage of her seniority over me. I HATE IT when she takes advantage of the situation that I don’t want to raise conflict. I HATE IT when she knows that  is not the type who would lose face over things like this. Yes, I do hate it. It’s painful to even think about it. I don’t care about the money I lost over the deal. It’s just money. But it’s the attitude of –MAKING USE- and –TAKING ADVANTAGE- of other people. I tell you. If you have these attitudes, you gonna make A LOT OF people hate you. Ask yourself ONCE AGAIN, if you have people like that, come to you and make a deal “out of friendship” and squeeze your to your last drop of blood, Tell Me To My Face – Are you sure you are NOT gonna hate it?
I thought of this while I was busy doing something. I ask myself…
“256, Are you sure you ARE NOT like that when you’re in her situation?”
I can say YES to that question. But then, here comes many other questions that I ask myself.
How sure am I that I DON’T HAVE any the attitudes that I hate in other people?
How sure am I that I am NOT HATED over the same qualities that I hate in other people?
See that, people? That’s my point here. I don’t write this post to emphasize about the little deal with the lady. The bigger question is, sometimes we stare too long at other people that we forget that we have our own shortcomings too.
If you can write the LONG LIST of what you hate in other people, make sure you are not hated for the SAME THINGS people can find in that list.
I always think that I am sometimes hot-tempered, and I do speak bad language when I’m mad. Yes, I do swear. And yes, I like to get into arguments especially when I think I’m right. I would raise my voice just to emphasize that Hey, I have a point and you’ll see I’m right all along. Yup, I am this type. Some people even refer me, si 256 yang tidak mau kalah. *Lols
I have seen girls who are soft and so polite, like you won’t hear their high pitch voice in a million years. Definitely I’m not one of them. I’m the type who wear pants daily, and no one can force me to wear baju kurung again since after college years. That tells you I'm not so much into "ayu2" appearance. So I think my points femininity is running thin the more I tell you guys about what I’m like. Hahaahahahaahaha. The only thing that looks so friendly in me is my Smile. I realize about it too. People got fooled by my smile thinking that Oh she’s soo friendly. Yeah, maybe sometimes I am. But I think I’m quite harsh when it comes to the words that come out from my mouth. I always expected to gain that reputation of being somekind of a sharp tongued person, but matched with some okay manners that save me from the title Miss Monster. *Lols.  and her neverending bla bla bla. My oh my, she talks a LOT! Hahaahahahaha
I remember when I was in secondary school, I received some comments from the new friends. “Soft betul o suara kau ni,” then I was like, “Ya ka?” Then I thought, Oh, she must have caught me in the low mood when my voice was translated into a rare chord. *Lols. But as I grew up, my language got even harsher. Maybe I was once a softie too, but not for long. I tend to be more vocal and opinionated. (Nothing new to my blog readers. Hahaahahaha)
So I always think that I am The Vocal one among my friends. So I remember during the college holidays, when we spent our time at home, I received a phonecall from a closefriend of mine. She was also my course mate and my housemates in the hostel. She was among the friends who know so much about me.
Her: Kau ada call ka tadi?
Me: Tadi? Teda. Why?
Her: Bro sia cakap ada kawan sia cari sia tadi.
Me: Ohh…nah, bukan sia la tu. Teda dia kasitau nama?
Her: Teda pula, but my bro cakap, “suara dia manja maaanjaaa.” Jadi tu la sia tanya kau tu.
Me: *terdiam kejap. Isshh bukan laa. Kalau sia jadi kau, sia terus pikir tu orang si F. Cos setau sia, suara si F yang manja2. (Kenyataan cuba mempertahankan reputasi brutal *Lols)
Lepas ja dia call tu, sia terus rasa lain ni ba… Sia nda tau pula biarpun sia ni banyak cakap and sometimes tu memang berbisa juga, rupa-rupanya kawan2 sia anggap sia ni tidak lebih daripada si suara Manja yang suka membebel. Hahahaahahahahaahahahahahahaha. So I’m not brutal enough ka pula all this time? Doiiii…sampai hati dorang kan…Bah ya laa…ku terima seadanya.
/me pingsan tawa
So now you guys paham why I always refer my voice as “my doremon voice” and whatever funny expression that I made turn me into a pokemon cos I have to accept the fact that because of my small voice, I can’t as brutal as I thought I could be. Hahahaahahahahaha. Have fun all :)
Monday, February 8, 2010
What IF one clairvoyant comes to you and says, “She/He’s not the one for you. The right one is still out there.” What would you feel? Of course when the emotions are running high, of course you would answer the clairvoyant back, “She has everything I want! She must be the one!” Then it’s the time to ask you…
“How do you know if she’s the one?”
I have been browsing around Oprah’s website lately and I spent some time reading about Soul mates theory. Oh man, I have actually written about The Theory of Soul-Mate long ago and I have published it some time in this blog. So Soulmate theory is nothing new to me. But I’m not here to mend the theory based on other people’s opinion. I just want to highlite One Point that about the idea of our Mr/Miss Right.
We heard A LOT. And then we also ask for A LOT. Oh boy. Come to think about it, some of our requirements are not realistic at all. What we want is not Mr/Miss Right, but Mr/Miss Perfect!! Hahahahahaha. Nevermind. You guys will learn sooner or later that Nobody’s perfect! So maybe this is when you will make use of this One Point that I am going to highlite here.
According to what I read from the website that I can agree with, which I write back using my own words and understanding; - The Right One is the one who can make you progress as a better human being as time goes by. The person doesn’t necessarily be everything you want by the time you meet him, but YOU will lead him and be that best version of human being, and at the same time, he makes you progress as a better human being too.
So she might be hot and beautiful – but she doesn’t make you be a better person in the real sense of human values – it will all be temporary. Having a partner is NOT all about showing off or bragging to your friends that you get the best girl on demand. No. This is more than just superficial. If the person is fun to be with at the time but doesn’t contribute to your self-progression, I think that gonna spell the end for you guys too. Cos if that connection doesn’t exist, both of you are said NOT to be right for each other. At the end of the day, you will understand that relationship is not just meant for a year or two, but it’s for the person to stay beside you through thick and thin, and achieve great things together. Imagine what a boring and meaningless life could be with both of you are not “growing” in many senses cos life changes with time. You need to keep in pace and still be happy with each other.
Yes, maybe I have thought so long before. Though I didn’t have the proper words for it that time, but I just knew that I was holding back TOO MUCH of myself just because I dated the wrong kind of guy. I didn’t ask for someone who have the same interest as me, but at least he appreciates the passions and the talents that I have. And he just supports and let me pursue what I want. If you’re dating someone who’s “holding your breath” – Uh-oh…maybe that’s a red signal over there. Cos the longer you spend with that person, imagine how much you are wasting for yourself. We ain’t gonna live forever. So it’s not too late yet. If you’re in a steady relationship, this definitely is the time to re-examine whether or not your partner is The Right one for you to “till death do us part” with. Hehehe.
You guys sedar ka Facebook ni bagi u guys satu saluran untuk share the fun stuff and updates, get connected and get in touch more with your existing and long lost friends – That one you guys sedar. Apa yang u guys tidak sedar or overlook, is that…oleh kerana everyone is able to see the your friends’ activity, and when dorang comment, everyone can menyampuk and read it. Sedar atau tidak, dalam beberapa hari sia browsing around page Facebook ni, sia sudah nampak macamana perkara yang sepatutnya jadi baik, tapi jadi tidak baik pula. Sepa sangka gara2 “terlalu bergurau” dalam komen2 gambar tu sebenarnya boleh menjejaskan keharmonian rumah tangga? Seriously!!
I saw my ex-schoolmate (secondary school) punya Facebook page. She is married to a guy yang pernah duduk satu kelas dengan sia (time pre-U) so I know both of them. This guy memang category handsome macho. I remember yang I myself was so attracted to his looks. Memang handsome. But then the guy pursued his degree at a different university, it was where he met that ex-schoolmates of ours. Lepas habis study, we heard they got married. So ramai yang rasa the girl was lucky to get this handsome guy. Bukan saja handsome, alim dan jenis goodboy punya. So after many years tidak tau cerita dorang ni, akhirnya nampak dorang di Facebook. So tengok la pictures2 lelaki tu posing macam2. Then semua ni mandak2 yang kenal that guy pun bagi komen macam2. But komen dorang bersifat gurauan yang keterlaluan. Dorang cakap la yang “Dia ni dulu buaya. Dia kasi tinggal ja sia masa sia mengandung” Something like that. My oh my. Does that sound like a joke? Then disambung lagi oleh sumandak yang seterusnya, dan seterusnya – semuanya mengiyakan apa yang the first girl cakap. Dorang rasa seronok pula panjang2kan cerita tu. “Ya, memang dia ni dasar buaya.” Selepas sia baca komen yang bersambung-sambung dan diikuti dengan gelak ketawa, suddenly sia rasa si Isteri sudah jadi mcm tunggul yang “tidak wujud” di situ. Mostly yg bagi komen tu ada juga yang sia kenal, sebab dorang pun ex-schoolmates juga. Mungkin jokes2 mcm tu biasa didengar time masih study. Semua benda dijadikan jokes. Tapi dalam dunia sebenar di mana keruntuhan rumahtangga ni sangat mudah berlaku berbanding dengan ketahanan rumahtangga, rasanya benda2 yang boleh mengganggu emosi rumahtangga tu actually a bit more sensitive. Apa lagi bila si Isteri ni kenal that guy lebih kemudian daripada kami. So apa cerita yang berlaku sebelum dorang kenal, the Isteri tidak begitu tau. So I saw the Isteri komen balik- trying to hide her emotions. Tidakkan la dia mau tulis, “It’s not a joke, guys. Stop it.” Nah, nama pun sudah social networking. Tidak syok pula kalau tiba2 emotional pula. Silap2 u kena kutuk pula the whole networking gara2 bersikap “kurang matang” cos melenting hal2 gurauan. But I understand what the wife feels.
Then 2 days ago, I went to have lunch with my bestfriend. Kami cerita2 la hal Facebook ni. Then I raised the issues about “gurauan” yang keterlaluan. Guess what? Dia terus setuju. Sebab dia pun kena!! So I spent some time visit page yg di mana “gurauan” itu berlaku. Actually ni berlaku di page another friend kami yang memang satu course dengan drg dulu. Kan my bestfriend ni married coursemate dia sendiri, so memang dorang ni semua sia kenal juga. Si mandak sorang ni (pemilik page Facebook tu) memang perempuan yg lawa dan social. Dia ni memang femes dari dulu sebab dia tidak mengenal batas pergaulan. But I think she’s a nice person juga. So sekarang ni dia sudah single balik, so actually she’s waiting to hook up with a new guy. So dia subscribe to this game “Who Loves Me Today” and then the game will give 3 names setiap hari, dan nama tu diambil dari list Friends dia. So untuk beberapa hari, husband my bestfriend ni yang keluar di list tu. So kawan2 lelaki yg nakal2 tu bagi komen la, “Ohh kau ada hati pula sama dia selama ni ah.” Then disambung2 lagi dengan batu api kawan2 yang lain. Dan tiba2 my bestfriend jadi mcm patung yang teda perasaan. Sebab husband dia pun ikut main juga. Dia macam kesukaan pula kena cakap2 mcm tu. Then maybe sebab kepala otak tu terlalu bergurau, actually benda tu sudah jadi keterlaluan. I know my bestfriend. Dia ni tidak boleh tahan sikit pun cemburu. Apa lagi bila keluar semua komen2 mcm tu. Ditambah pula dengan game2 macam tu yg sebenarnya mengganggu emosi. Then akhirnya the next day, nama bestfriend sia tu pula yg masuk list “Who Loves Me Today” then tiba2 pula husband my bestfriend buat komen yg dia kecewa sebab nama dia nda masuk list tu hari tu. Doiii…I know what my friend is feeling!!
She told me, ada a few times when they argued about something, she saw her husband senyum2 depan Facebook time baca and write comment, She told me that sight hurt her. Seolah-olah that Facebook lagi best daripada anak bini sendiri. So sepa sangka ada pula side effect social networking yang beri kebebasan kepada kawan2 untuk tulis komen. Kita bukan boleh control tangan orang. Silap2 kejadian lampau yang memalukan pun dorang tulis sana, dengan alasan “Cuma bergurau” tapi akhirnya, memalukan dan menyakitkan hati kawan.
So ini cuma satu contoh saja. Ada bermacam cara yang akan membuatkan GURAUAN kita tu jadi punca kesakitan orang lain. So bergurau tu biar berpada-pada. Bila sampai topik sensitive, slow down sikit. Tidak rugi juga kalau kamu miss satu gurauan daripada kamu risk satu persahabatan. Sebab, if orang buat gitu dengan kamu pun belum tentu kamu dapat handle. So if social networking site macam Facebook tu actually mengeratkan dengan kawan2, biarkan dia jadi begitu saja. Jangan pula sampai social sites mcm tu pun buatkan laki bini gaduh. Ini bukan soal emotional atau tidak. Kita perlu watch our jokes first – then baru kita mau cerita sama ada orang itu terlalu emotional atau tidak. The purpose or gurauan is to make people laugh. Bukan untuk menimbulkan syak wasangka yang tidak patut. Nahh…think before you joke. Jangan kena batang hidung sendiri baru mau sedar. Hehehehe.
Sekian, terima kasih.
NOTE: Orang yang menulis ini sebenarnya TIADA akaun Facebook so boooo sikit sama dia. (Hahahahaahahahahah jaat!!! :PPP)
Saturday, February 6, 2010
Omigawddd!! Haahahahaahhahaa. Now, can we ever stop at once and accept the beauty of things? *Lols
This thought just occured to me. If someone claims that he loves me, how come he’s not jealous when I get a bit more attention than what I should deserve? I talked to a guyfriend recently and he asked me, “Do you think it’s silly to feel jealous?” I answered, Hell No. He said, some of his friends thought that jealousy is silly. But I said, only when you become jealous that you know you feel more for the person. If you are hard to get jealous, Uh-Oh, that’s dangerous. You guys might send the wrong signal to your gf that you don’t love and care for her. Or maybe it’s just something in the blood. Some people are just hard to get jealous. Fullstop. Is that so?
I honestly hate it when I start to get jealous. Jealousy ties me up to an emotional attachment that sometimes I want to deny so much. Jealousy is like pulling me to a place before I’m even ready to go there. Something like that. I hate it when it comes uninvited. But luckily I’m not the kind who get jealous easily when I saw my friends are looking hotter than me or wear all the fancier things than what I could afford. Maybe because I also don’t dress up or colour my hair just to trigger jealousy in other people. I know some of my friends who get jealous because of stuff like that. I also believe that Jealousy is not your fault. Yes, I accept it that it’s in the blood. You know you shouldn’t feel jealous, but you still feel jealous, and you can’t help it. It’s your nature’s call.
But I do believe anyway that NO ONE is ever so safe from jealousy. Especially when you have a hearty thing going on with someone. You MUST feel jealous to verify that, Yes, there’s something hearty going on. If not, isn’t that strange? I must admit anyway that I’m used to having jealous boyfriends. Not enough with that, I also have had guyfriends who got jealous even when they don’t actually have a hearty thing going on with me. So, if a normal friend can feel that, why doesn’t a “more than normal” friend feel that? Which one do you prefer, ladies? A guy who gets jealous or who doesn’t?
I don’t know. To me, jealousy is not so cool but I need it as a security that he does care for me. Blame it on my former boyfriends cos they create the tradition that – 256, I’m not jealous until I’m in love with you. But is it fair for me to measure one’s affection from jealousy? Hahahaaha. I know it’s silly to ask that. But as funny as it gets, I believe that jealousy is here for a reason too. Maybe it should be put in the right place so it can make 2 close things – closer, and not make 2 close things break apart.
Anything too much is never good. So No Jealousy or Overly Jealous – both spell disaster, agree? Erkss. *giggles.
Last nite I came across Facebook pages of my old schoolmates and seniors. I found a few influential names and then got access to the pages of the rest of them in their friendlists. I was so delighted to see that these people are still around, and some of them really make it big in their careers.
The most interesting part is when I found out that my A-list ex-schoolmates (they are The Smarties, high achievers list) are still very much with the same group of friends. I mean, some of them used to be the A-list students back then, but it wasn’t final yet. Each of them go their own way, some landed average jobs that might not be sophisticated enough to brag about. But it doesn’t matter at all. Most importantly is that, I never really get the chance to assess HOW they could land themselves as the A-list students back then. Yeah, I wasn’t in that list. *giggles. I found out that most of them have blogs!!! Some of them are not only smart, but hot and beautiful, and still think that blogging is their cup of coffee. To my surprise, I recalled that those who have blogs were all bright English students since secondary school. Maybe it was coincidence. I wasn’t even sitting at the same class with them because their standard was higher than average students. So…let’s talk about their blogs.
To my surprise, even if they are all good in English, and they write their blogs in English, I could still feel the passion and the emotion of their writings…BUT…some are not good enough for me to want to read what I have missed. I’m surprised that even with a very good range of vocabulary, and I’m sure they have been very familiar with creative English much earlier than I am. I found one that made me want to read EVERYTHING. I could not stop because her writing is just sooo good. Compared to the rest of them, this friend referred herself as “The Ugly Friend” because she’s really the average look among the rest of the A-List students. But look at her writing skill! I’m so impressed! The fact that I know this lady, I bumped into her when I went shopping to the hypermall where she’s working, I remember turning my head to her and shouted her name with my jovial tune, and she smiled back, “Long time no see!!!” she said. Yes people, this is the owner of the blog that I found last nite. Her blog is very plain-looking to compared to mine, but wait until you read—I’m sure you could go WOW too. I smiled that I just discovered A Talent, by accident. Cos even if I have time to talk to any of them, I won’t be asking about their Facebook account or anything, let alone, “Do you have a blog?”. So, I’m delighted that I found their pieces this way.
I mean, I see that my friends and their blogs are also belong to a blog networking that they create. “Do I want to be part of that networking?” I have this thought that I wanted these ex-schoolmates know that I have a blog too and they might find something they like. Or at least, my little thought said that I want that lady to read my blog and see if she likes it. Cos honestly, I have my own taste in reading too. And I can tell if I enjoy reading something or not. As much as I think I enjoy reading the friend’s blog, I hate to admit that I also enjoy reading my own writing. But I don’t want to sound like I’m so full of myself. No no. I could read my posts over and over again and end up smiling. Cos like it wasn’t me who wrote them all. Something else is giving me the force to write something and that’s why I read my own writings as if they weren’t mine.
I came across at least 5 blogs from the people I know and I found out that – writing is a talent that HAS TO BE gifted. Although I know that none of them really tries so hard to produce a good blog but neither do we. I’m sure the lady with the superb blog also doesn’t try so hard to make her blog that good, but it’s just so good. Eventhough I can list many blogs with good template and presentation, and hers are definitely not in the list cos it’s as PLAIN as can be. It’s just black and no graphics, no nothing. Her writing skill is THAT DAMN good that I thought I came across the best blog that can make me fall in love in minutes. The pleasure of reading, the emotions, the dilemma, the rambling minds – she described it all in the simplest words and YES, it’s like watching a well-directed movie. Remember what I said about a Good Author? A good author to me is the one who can make me create a movie in my mind and as I read line by line as the movie progresses. Do you want to stop watching? Of course you don’t. That’s the sign that you come across a good movie. And wait, but we are not talking about movies here. We are talking about good blogs. Can that be enough to tell you that Writing is something gifted.
Isn’t it a waste if we fail to see how gifted we are? And even if we know, we fail to use it, it’s the same like not knowing it at all. I tell you people something. Life isn’t easy for me. I’ve been through hardships and survived emotional aches mostly due to my nature and life challenges. I’ve come a long way and still have something strong to hold on to. I have reasons why I see life a bit more differently. I have reasons why I tend to exaggerate the small details and I have reasons why I tell you that the pleasure of knowing and using the talents gifted to you by our Creator is Indescribable.
She might not be pretty and hot, but she found her strength and she uses it. And then, I also realize something else. Maybe it’s not really about the writing skills. It’s the SENSES that makes you see life in such a way that make you have thousands of interesting approach to write it down. You see your surroundings like an unfolding art that can be further appreciated if you write it down and share it with people. I found out that, A Good Writing is translated from the mind. You must first have it “created so beautifully” in your mind then the little writing skill can make you form all the words needed. My oh my – Thank God for this.
Reading a good writing is almost magical.