Ladies With Pride

Not sure if the men learn enough about women. As a matter of fact, most men only recognized women for being the object of lust, a partner to marry to be a mother of their children, the clerk and secretary material and or maybe just a part time toy to flirt around with. Maybe you guys can continue the list. What men seem hard to accept is that the male and female are now even. It’s actually true. We are now even. In the old days, the men hold the sword and fight for the countries, and if that makes u guys think that only men are born to be warriors, to be strong and most importantly, to have that Pride that no women can ever go above...well, maybe Not anymore.

What you men should know is in the modern era, there’s this category of women who might be slightly different from the rest. You don’t find them often, but it’s not hard to bump into one. These women have High pride and dignity. But of course, you won’t know it at first glance. It’s not something that you can hang on your neck or wear on your face to make you notice that you have come across one.

These ladies have their pride and dignity of top on other values. They are not an easy business for the men who seek for taking without giving in return. Ladies, are you one of them?

These ladies…

1) have their inner strength shown in their firmness in stating their principle and making decisions when they deal with people. They know how and when to say No

2) don’t play games with emotions or purposely making stupid drama in front of the men to waste their time - they are not cheap attention getters

3) don’t argue with other ladies over a man because they believe men have the say before an extra affair with another woman takes place- so the first to blame is the man

4) don’t say words of love very easily because they only say it to the one who earns it

5) don’t like to assume what men are thinking or feeling because actions speak louder than words as much as they know men can’t read them that easily too

6) want accurate explanation over something before they can accept it and understand it, as much as they don’t want to jump into easy conclusions.

7) don’t like to date men who don’t know what they want and who have wandering eyes bigger than their brain.

8) asks for much respect from their men because without proper respect for the important woman in their lives, men are almost worthless in terms of self value. He respects a stranger more than he does to you? Uh-Oh. Big Trouble.

9) expect to be her man’s priority cos that’s what her man expects from her. What, so the men want best treatment but share good treatments for you with other ladies who don't even care so much about him? They don't have time for men who still enjoy playing at the playground.

10) are a bit difficult to please because of their conditions but they usually know how to please their man unconditionally. They ask that much because they can offer that much. They only seek for justice for themselves. Why surprised?

Unfortunately, these ladies don’t just plan to be like this because it’s tough to be different. Maybe it’s just circumstances, experience and expectation that make them slightly different from the rest. Being a hard shell to crack, only guys who are up for challenges who go for ladies like them. So for the guys, if it’s worth the challenges, ask yourself. Are you man enough?

The Cost Of Her Smile

“I want to eat sweets. Can you buy some for me?” You say, “Sweets? It’s bad for your teeth. It’s too childish. Later la I buy you some Ferrero Rocher but I buy when I have the time to go to the mall. “But I want the sweets, now” she insists. “Alaa..no need la. I’m sure you like the chocolate more. Later la ok?” But the grocery shop that sells sweets is very near from them. How much do the sweets might cost? It’s as cheap as 3 sweets for 20 sen and for that little cost, why do you give so many excuses just because you think you know what is better for her. You never know that the little request is all she asks for. And you never know that your inability to fulfill her smallest request tell her a lot about how much she actually means to you. If you think her request is too small for her to pout if you exchange it with someone bigger, you can be wrong. If you think that she won’t care if you don’t fulfill it as long as you have bigger things in mind, you are wrong. The sweets could be all she wants and yes, because of your reluctance, you could hurt her so badly. Unless she’s really no one to you, maybe you don’t care. What if she’s the person that you care the most?

It’s funny when sometimes we still find excuses for the simplest thing. What can be simpler than a little request from the person that you care so much. Even when the request is too ridiculous or quite laughable, it could mean a lot to the person. It could be as simple as buying sweets, but it could lead to arguments that cause both of you heartache and tears that might put your relationship in jeopardy. Sometime this is what we do subconsciously. The easiest thing become the hardest thing because we think that the person we love must be asking for the universe before she can be happy. Why make life difficult – if she asks for the simplest thing, give her that simplest thing.

At the end of the day, you’ll realize that The Cost Of Her Smile is not about how much, how expensive or how big. It’s the thoughts from you that she can feel from the little things that she asks for. You’ll realize that to feel hurt in the end just because you have hurt someone you love is – Almost Stupid, when it is all caused by your insensitivity that you don’t believe that the little things are actually all it cost to make her smile. :)

Believe Her Or Not

Girls are just like guys. Some good with words, some don’t. But trust me, in a few things that frequently come out from the girl’s mouth, maybe you should decide To Believe Her Or Not…

Especially when she says that…

1. She doesn’t care about what people say when she’s overweight as long as she’s happy inside. But then she still wants to lose weight, “It’s not because I’m worried what they think but it’s really just for health”

2. She believes that every woman is beautiful in their own way and that she doesn’t wonder why a handsome guy would fall for a “less beautiful” woman than her.

3. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder and that she never compares herself with her colleagues on, Who’s prettier?

4. She thinks a guy would be teasing her around by calling her names like Cutie and tells you that, “I don’t deserve to be called that.”

5. She is not the jealous type that it’s okay for her friend to get all the attention from the guys.

Hehehe. What inspires me to write this is a chit-chat that I had with a friend earlier today. She always gives me the impression that she grooms just for herself and she’s never judgmental towards the other women when it comes to their looks because she always tells me that it’s not good to think bad of others. But today’s spontaneous chat told me otherwise. Even the nicest girl like her is not spared from being A Normal lady that she does think that looking good is so far the best advantage that she would pick from all the other choices that she could have. That yes, we ladies do care about how we look and we easily feel intimidated by those who look better than us. And yes, we listen and care so much about what people say about our looks and it makes us feel down when people say something not so “funny” about our physicals. What makes us different is that some of us are so much into denials thinking that it’s better to wave the white flag than try to be bold just to lose. (Yeahhh…u and your neverending theories kan [256]…go to sleep laaa u dattt… *Lols)

HAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHHAAHHA :ppp

Note: Am I really Kidding? Hehehe. Go Figure.

…Bukan Yang Cantik

I overheard perbualan dua orang salesgirls yang sedang berdiri sambil tunggu customer. Maybe di kedai baju tu. I don't remember sebab benda ni berlaku berminggu yang lalu. Sorang tu yang kenampakan sibuk bercakap dan sorang tu lagi dengar. And ngam2 time sia limpas tu…sia dengar this part,

"Semua ada yang cakap mau yang jujur la, setia la, macam2 la, tapi teda satu pun yang cakap dorang mau yang cantik."

Masa tu, I couldn't help but smile sebab I think the girl yang bercakap tu baru baca dari satu magazine or dengar dari radio tentang "Apa ciri2 idaman yang ada pada perempuan yang dicari oleh lelaki." Believe it or not, I was once in the girl's shoes too. That time I was still wondering apa yang dicari oleh seorang lelaki pada seorang perempuan. Cos dalam macam2 reason tu, satu benda yang the girls CONFIRM yang lelaki akan cari. Iaitu that girl mesti CANTIK.

But the more you read or hear, memang betul JARANG yang terang2 cakap mau yang cantik. Like that one is cliché already. Dorang start sudah cakap pasal quality lain such as understanding la, pandai hormat orang tua la…macam2 la. Semakin banyak membaca dan mendengar, lama2 bila tiba2 terjumpa a guy asyik bercakap pasal kualiti fizikal – Sia mau yang cantik, yang seksi and bla bla bla…suddenly u tengok dia lain2. You rasa yang this guy betul2 immature and belum kenal dunia.

I mean, generally, when we grow up, we tend to judge everything from the physical. Cos itulah satu language yang "tidak payah orang ajar". As long as u have eyes yang healthy, you see something and then get the impression from it. If apa yang u nampak tu something nice, you akan suka. So as we grow up, that very basic thing actually terbawa-bawa. Mata kita ni memang suka tengok yang nice2 only. Tapi sebenarnya – MUNGKIN juga yang "apa yang sedap dilihat oleh mata" kita ni sebenarnya terhenti di sana saja. Sebab impression yang lahir dari pandangan tu cuma Itu Kulit Buku ba guys. Hehehehehe. Itu isi buku belum tau lagi.

Dan mungkin juga lah lelaki2 yang tidak meletakkan kecantikan seorang perempuan tu sebagai criteria yang dicari pada gadis idaman dorang tu sebenarnya sudah PERNAH KENA sebiji sebab pernah mengejar2 si cantik dan akhirnya find out bahawa oleh kerana terlalu obsess dengan kecantikan dia tu saja, akhirnya he learnt a lesson. Sebab finally dia sedar yang setakat cantik dan sedap mata memandang tu saja nda ke mana pun. Satu kali u find out perangai dia teruk, baru u sedar yang apalah ada pada wajah yang cantik. That's why la, from experience dorang sendiri or experience kawan2 dorang, maybe dorang pun find the middle way bahawa bagus cari dulu kualiti itu dan it's a bonus if she's pretty. Another quality yang I think the guy SURE paling suka antara kualiti2 lain yang maybe dorang pun nda sedar – dorang mau perempuan yang SAYANG dengan dorang. Kalau tu perempuan serba-serbinya bagus, tapi dia tidak pun tengok ke arah you, sama juga you akan terus mencari perempuan yang buat you rasa like "the real man" yang tengok u as someone yang boleh protect dia, and orang yang dia boleh harap dan akan rindu you when you jauh and worry if you sakit. Masa ni baru u tau yang "Babai sajalah" dengan kecantikan itu semua. Banyak benda lain lagi yang jauh lebih penting dan berbaloi dalam mencari pasangan yang sesuai untuk spend life sampai hujung nyawa.

So untuk golongan2 perempuan yang diwakili oleh salesgirl yang sia terlimpas tu ari…now kamu jangan heran lain kenapa perempuan2 yang kamu nampak as Si Plain Jane tu pula yang "jauh lebih laku" daripada kamu yang kununnya Si Cantik Manis yang semua akan tinguk bila u limpas. So don't worry so much la about cantik or tidak cantik, sebab tu semua di mata kamu ja. Lelaki yang bakal jadi pasangan kamu tu ada mata dia sendiri. Bukan pun dia minta pinjam mata kamu. Hehehehe. So jangan decide for him sebab dia sendiri yang akan decide if you're "pretty" or not. Dan IF he thinks that you're pretty and you tidak setuju sebab you tinguk di cermin you tidak juga macam tu Snow White, then now you know apa yang dia maksudkan itu adalah you have the BEAUTY yang dia cari, dan beauty yang dia cari tu bukan sama definition sama yang si beauty pageant. So if you ask me, of all the qualities yang ada sama kita, I think itu "Cantik" akan ditaruh di pisuk2 so inda apa la kalau inda menang tu Unduk Ngadau ba… Ingat tuu…dorang mau cari yang baik, yang bersopan santun, yang pandai masak, yang bijak…all of that…dan Bukan Yang Cantik ba…*giggles.

Si Mata Keranjang

Sepa mata keranjang sini???

/me angkat tangan!!!!!

Hahahahahahahahahahaahahaha.

Haa! Silap kamu if u think lelaki ja mata keranjang. Actually…perempuan pun mata keranjang jua baa! Betulllll…nda caya ka??

Perempuan mata keranjang ni…macam lelaki juga. Kadang2 pandai cover line. Kununnya muka innocent bila ada lelaki limpas, padahal satelit dia sudah analisis tu. Oh, kiut ka tu lelaki. Then analisis badan dia lagi. Adakah ketinggian dia ngam sama badan dia. And what about his hair?? Ngam ka tidak dengan muka dia? And then tengok tu arms dia, ada muscle ka tidak? If got muscle nampak so masculine. Diam2 dia piwit kamu tu dalam hati. Hehehehehe

Itu baru yang basic2. Bila ngam sudah di mata dia, dia analisa tu baju yang dia pakai. Ngam ka tidak, or pandai dressing ka tidak. Pas tu, dia tinguk tu seluar. Kalau sikit silap pun, tidak ngam sudah di mata dia. Kalau semuanya mcm okay ja, tapi tiba2 nampak dia punya baju tuck out, inda ngam…Ohooo…Warna seluar tu, ngam ka tidak dengan warna baju. And then what about his shoes. Got socks or not.

And then when he walks by…do you think that only the men will look at the girl’s butt? Hahahaahahahahaha. The girls will also look at your butt as your walk. They also complain is your butt is a little too big for you or otherwise. (*Lols). So actually bukan perempuan ja yang have to worry about hips size…thank YOU for sharing this burden with us, MEN! *Lols.

Jadi…[256], adakah kau mengaku kau ni mata keranjang? Oh well, macam gini saja la. Inda jua la sia mau mengaku, but kalau kamurang paksa jua sia mengaku, sia TERPAKSA jua mengaku untuk menyenangkan hati kamurang tuu…Sampai gitu sekali kan. Baikk sungguhh. (/me berabis ketawa)

Silap haribulan…perempuan punya “Proses Analisis Ke Atas Spesimen Cromosome XY” adalah jauh lagi detail. Siap tinguk lengan tu lelaki. “Ishhh…Gali pula sia tinguk so hairy o that guy…Aiyaaa~!! Yaiii!! ” And then, masa kamurang minum2 depan dia tu, jan kamurang nda tau dia ble detect tu daki di kuku kamurang that. Bila kamu ketawa, dia tinguk tu gigi kamu kalau dia ble nampak plak2 gigi yang kelihatan. (/me pingsan tawa)

And then, bila ada satu lelaki limpas, mata dia pun akan ikut that guy…dengan terang-terang dinampak oleh lelaki yg sedang duduk semeja dengan dia. Ishh…Lelaki pun pandai jua tapuk2 woo…perempuan lagi yg kadang2 lagi staring dari kamurang that. Kalau hensem dan bergaya, lagilahh mata dia ikut tu lelaki sampaiiiiiiiiilahh saaaannaa Ranauu…Nah, apa macam, ada fight ka?

So the women sekarang, more than ever, TAU yang bukan dorang saja yang jadi Subject of evaluation kepada kaum lelaki cos Now dorang pun pandai juga guna mata dorang dengan bulu mata melentik tu untuk BALAS BALIK kepada kaum lelaki. If u think kamu ja boleh mock a lady sebab her butt is too big for her, Guess what? Now it’s Fair and Square. Kamu akan tekejut kalau kamu tu, even back in schooldays, my friend sudah label this teacher sebagai “kelebihan berat” di punggung sebab she always saw him naik his motor. Uinaa…Tu mataaaa…Menganalisis kaitu geng?

Hahahahaahahahahahahaahhahaahhaha…Layan ketawa jap.

Then my pengakuan ikhlas is…Yes, I AM a mata keranjang punya kategori. But not in the sense untuk mencari kekurangan lelaki tu. I always adore a guy for kelebihan dia. But memang sia jenis suka tengok…sia nda segan2 pusing kepala untuk tengok the guy dengan lebih lama. It’s like Appreciating the view ba tu…Ha, sama mcm kamu jua ba. Tapi the guy must have something yg menarik perhatian sia, baru la sia mau tinguk lama. Ha, sama mcm kamu juga kan? Jadi apa beza antara kita?

I remember kawan lelaki sia ni – whoooa…Pandai betul dia cover line. Kalau kau tinguk dia ni, mata tidak pandai merayap pun. Asyik sibuk bercakap tentang kerja, bagi penerangan kepada orang yg datang sama dia. Kalau kau limpas, kau rasa dia tidak pun tau yg kau limpas sebab dia betul2 buat expression yang kununnya dia nda peduli. Satu kali bila sia akhirnya ada chance cakap dengan dia one to one, dia cakap dia sudah pasang satelit since day one lagi. Dia pakai ujung2 mata dia untuk tengok how I eat, how I walk, how I dress, how I talk dan macam2 lagi. Siap laporan ba, bilang si Jojon. *Lols. “How come I didn’t sedar u do all that?” He said, “Ha, jangan silap. Kau pikir lelaki mau kasi tunjuk ka?” Nahh… kalah sudah kamurang oo guys… Sia tinguk pun tidak tapuk2 woo… Apa macam ni geng?

Are we ladies are more Honest about our Wandering Eyes or what? Even in this, we can still manage to do it courteously and pleasantly in the name of PowerSharing ba…so next time, you ladies jangan complen2 dengan your man why mata dia selalu wandering masa keluar makan dengan kau – jan banyak cakap…BALAS balik baa…Kalau dia mau rasa Oren ka, Mangga ka, yang penting u buat balik apa yang dia buat – let him decide apa Perisa yang dia rasa or…is it kana gigit semut itam or semut api. If you think kamurang ja ada THOSE NASTY EYES, you guys are totally wrong.

We Are Now EVEN!! Yesss!!!!! (Hahahaahahahahhaahahahahahahahhahaha :PPPPP)

NOTE: Want to know ciri2 lelaki yang menarik perhatian sia? Senang jaa…Sepa2 yg dapat rapat dengan sia tu, memang dorang ada ciri2 tu… EhemMMmmmmm…ada la yang blushing ni kan. Hahahahahahaaha.

Have a Blessed Monday ya :)

"Operasi Gold-Digging"

Perempuan2 yang suka mengikis harta ni dipanggil Gold-digger kan? Ahaa…then activity pengikisan harta tu bolehlah digelar sebagai Operasi Gold-Digging… Hehehehe. Suka ati dia ja buat nama operasi. *Lols

Dengar cerita2 artis2 kawin VIP ni…macam satu trend pula. Entah dorang sempat ka bercinta dan menyelami hati budi masing2. Or just “Sia kasi kau begitu begini…Kau sanggup jadi bini sia kah?”

Sia mau sebut nama pun, sia nda sampai hati pula mau sebar gossip yang memang betul. That artis kawin diam2 dengan Datuk, and tup tap…mau cerai sudah. Sampat la juga dia ada rumah ½ juta di KL biarpun teda anak. Nah, nda berbaloikah? Kawin paling2 lama pun setahun dua, and then, bila cerai, umur masih muda, teda anak, ada duit, ada harta… Then what? Ahaa…Of course sekarang dia main petik jari saja mau lelaki muda mana satu dia mau…Di zaman sekarang yang ramai lelaki yg suka tumpang duit perempuan, memang lagilah buat janda2 muda yang kaya-raya ni macam Pisang goreng Panas!

Memang mudah untuk kita judge dorang ni. Mata duitan lah, pisau cukur lah, materialistic la…Memang mudah mau mengecam dorang ni dengan macam2 tuduhan. Sia sendiri pun kadang2 cakap lepas juga dengan perangai dorang ni. Dan kalau sia layan lagi laser mulut sia ni…sia cakap…Can’t you guys see it?

IT’S NOTHING BUT A STRATEGY ba!!

You pok satu jerung yang banyak duit, make him marry you, and entitled you to get harta sekian2, make sure at least ada satu rumah, satu kereta mewah di bawah nama you. Cash, and then lain2 asset yang u boleh buat dia taruh di bawah your name. You buat la apa yang boleh sementara itu jerung sedang khusyuk jatuh cinta sama kau. Then after semua sudah secure…you pun mula la cari pasal…

U cakap la dia tu jarang balik rumah cos usually ni jerung2 ni semua sudah berumur, ada bini lain. Lain lagi urusan kerja dia yang ke sana ke mari. Lain lagi dia pok mau cari markas baru. Pok yang gebu2. Inda dapat jadi bini pun, mistress pun jadilah. Yang penting, nikmat dunia jangan disia-siakan.

So si gold-getter ni apa lagi. Mula sudah buat hal Dia cakaplah dia rasa dia tidak dicintai la, diabaikan lah, Selalu ditinggal-tinggalkan lah…or buat la apa2 isu yang menyebabkan itu lelaki pikir dia memang tidak dapat menunaikan tanggungjawab dia sebagai husband. Buat la drama air mata sikit – make the guy rasa so guilty and bagi lagi harta2 yang boleh dibagi. And bila u rasa sudah cukup, then mula la perbesarkan lagi hal2 yang kecil. Cakap la yang you tu masih muda. Dia nda dapat berikan u nafkah batin yang sepatutnya. Then…sudah banyak sandiwara macam tu, tertekan la si lelaki ni. Kalau u berani, u minta cerai la. Kalau u tidak berani, u tunggu dia jatuhkan talak. Heheheheehhehee.

[256] <-- besinar2 sudah tanduk dia menghasut ni urg ni (HAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA)

Nahh…kalau inilah modus operandi perempuan2 ini…apa kita mau panggil ni? Operasi apa ni? Bukan Operasi Gold Digging ka that? At the end of the day, sia mau sentuh satu hal. Memang senang kita kutuk dorang ni, tapi dari segi Strategy of Survival- dorang ni lah yang pakai otak. Mau main bersih di dunia kotor, buli pakai lagi kah? What they do is ikut trend. Kalau itu katam sudah jalan miring, u mau jadi katam yang jalan lurus buat apa? Bagus lagi u jadi pokemon la like that… (Hahahahaahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha)

[256] <--- tulung pasik mulut dia ni sebab laser betul. *Lols.

Sia tulis this post bukan untuk cuba mengutuk golongan materialistic ni, but try to see sisi kehidupan yang selalu jadi bahan kutukan. Don’t worry, sia pun pernah jadi macam kamu juga. Only recently I took my time and fikir betul2. Sia ingat apa yang sia pernah tulis.

“A GOOD LIFE IS NOT A FLUKE"

Kita tau bahawa jadi baik dan lurus tu adalah apa yang BAIK untuk dibuat. Tapi kalau mau cakap pasal kehidupan dunia ni, kadang2 value kau bukan dilihat daripada kebaikan hati kau. If you are penniless, dorang tidak tengok pun dengan u. Pedih memang pedih. Tapi kita mau object pun, memang ini lah yang berlaku. So these ladies hanya play along saja. Ada kesempatan, dorang akan ambil. Tapi buat semua org ada kesempatan yang dorang ada. Bukan semua perempuan ada peluang mau jerat tu jerung2 besar yang ada banyak harta cukup untuk kasi kemewahan sama berapa banyak perempuan yang dorang berkenan. So, kalau berada dalam posisi ini, maybe apa yang gold-diggers ni buat hanyalah menggunakan kesempatan yang ada dan gunakan akal.

My bestfriend told me. “I’m not Materialistic, I am just Realistic”. Which is true right? Everything is about money. I mean, Almost Everything. Sia pernah tengok this talkshow artist2 bercakap pasal hal ni – masa tu sia terkejut sebab terang2 menegakkan harta dan kemewahan. I still remember Azhar Sulaiman bagi pendapat dia, “It’s better that you cry in a Mercedes, than in a Kancil” That means, you mau cinta tu cinta juga, tapi you kena consider the possibilities. Daripada u pok itu lelaki2 yang teda duit, bagus u pok yang boleh bagi u kesenangan. If dia mau curang, dia lari pun, hati u sakit camana pun but you bukan kena tinggal lugai2. At least it is still BETTER than crying dengan tangan kosong.

Sia tulis post ni supaya sia sendiri pun tidak kasi penat2 kepala otak sia mau kutuk2 perempuan yg kejar kemewahan dan menggunakan strategi yang sia tulis tadi tu. Dorang yg buat begitu, dorang yang kaya dan mewah. Hati dorang gembira ka tidak, itu kita pun tidak tau. Tapi daripada hati tidak gembira, and then miskin lagi…lagilah teruk kan. Hehehe. At least if dorang ada anak, tidak la lari2 di jalanan, naik turun tangga, teriak2 macam teda mama bapa. At least orang2 yang berkaitan dengan dia pun dapat kebaikan daripada “kelicikan” dia tu. Sepa tau, dorang cuma perlu licik “sekali” ja, then dorang dapat hidup senang sampai hujung nyawa.

KESIMPULAN: Masing2 cari bahagia dengan cara masing2. Cukup la tidak menyusahkan hidup orang lain kan :) Gold-digging pun, at least merasa jua hidup kaya. Yang kita2 ni pula, jangan pula asyik mau mencari silap, sedangkan hidup sendiri melarat. Pikir2 kan la bilang si anu…ntah sepa tu. Lupa sudah sia. *Lols

The Demanding Girlfriend

I remember talking to my bestfriend when she was caught in triangle love between two men. One man was a special boyfriend and the other one was an old classmate who always had a crush on her. My friend was in love with her boyfriend, and the other guyfriend was showing a lot of affection to my friend since college years. My friend knew that the guyfriend still put hopes on her.

My friend was one example of a very demanding girlfriend, I must say. It was actually the first time that I heard a lady speaks of how firmly she wanted to be treated as a special girlfriend. Because the boyfriend was working in Peninsular, my friend was always accompanied by the guyfriend who would do anything to win her heart. I could say that my friend was starting to have “a second thought” especially when the boyfriend didn’t care much about special occasions. The other guy was gradually winning her attention.

I remember hearing her commenting on her situation. I remember feeling a bit suspicious about my friend’s stand. I mean, her boyfriend might not be there all the way, but since he was the boyfriend, she shouldn’t just simply punish him for that. It shouldn’t be an easy excuse for my friend to just change her heart.

“I don’t know what’s with him. Even if he’s far, he must at least send me a flower or maybe fly here to surprise me – Do Anything just as long as he does something to show me that he cares. He Must Keep Me Excited if he wants me to stay. He cannot stop “trying” when he’s already my boyfriend. He must still do something to let me know that I’m special”

Then I thought, “Wow…that’s very demanding!”

My friend said that when she told that to the boyfriend, the boyfriend answered, “Don’t hope for special treatments from me. I’m not good with that.”

Guess what? She wasn’t kidding. She really dumped her boyfriend not long after for the old classmate who could provide her with all the “excitements” that she wanted. Finally she didn’t mind picking “an easy catch” to a big jaws…just as long as the guy is willing to put extra effort to show her that he cares.

Another female friend spoke to me. She was another case. She has boyfriends all over the place. I tell you, I think I should learn from them. *Lols. She told me, she has a condition for every guy who wants to be her boyfriend. “He MUST call or sms me EVERYDAY.” If he misses a day or two with an excuse, I would forgive. But if it reaches one week without call or sms, automatically he’s not my boyfriend anymore.”

Then again, I was, “Ahh? Ouch!”

Oh well, That’s Very Demanding. Hahaahahaha Most of these ladies who are fit to be called A Demanding Girlfriend are usually those who are “the ladies on demand” where at least 2 men are craving for their love. So no wonder they become that demanding right?

Or else…maybe we don’t need to be popular to be demanding. Maybe this is exactly what we should do, don’t you think so?

To the men…don’t you think we, as the most special lady in your life, should demand for a special treatment from you? Don’t you think when you are late you should explain to us why? Don’t you think you should feel guilty when you don’t return our call or reply our sms? Don’t you think you should soft-talk us when there’s something that you want to speak to us, even if it’s the simplest matter of “don’t wear that dress in public”? Don’t you think we deserve more respect, that you can’t simply raise your voice and accuse us doing something we don’t do? I mean, the way you do things to other people, don’t you think we deserve to be treated slightly better? If we sulk or pout, don’t you think you should do something to coax us and make us smile again and tell us that everything is not as bad as we thought? Isn’t being your special girlfriend is an enough reason to demand for all that?

Then after this, hopefully you don’t complain to us why we ask for too much. As a matter of fact, I don’t think we ask for too much. We deserve to be asking it all to begin with. If we can’t even ask to be treated more special than normal, what’s the point of being the most special lady in your life?

Fair enough? *giggles.

Note: Treat Your Girlfriend Good, Ok?

Gara-gara Sekeping Gambar Passport

Ada ni customer datang tadi buat sia ketawa dekat mau pingsan. We know kan, gambar passport ni quite mahal juga untuk diambil. Hanya untuk 4 keping gambar, paling murah RM 10, itupun lain lagi kalau mau express. Dan satu kali keluar, muka pun kadang2 bikin ketawa. Kadang2 macam orang baru bangun, kadang2 macam orang marah, tekejut, dan yang paling haru, kadang2 macam orang gila pun ada juga.

HAHAHAAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHA

Jadi…ada ni customer sia tadi. Kasi tinguk sia tu gambar passport dia. Mimang lawa la muka dia sana. Sia cakap la, why don’t ambil gambar baru? Since that itu gambar, biarpun lawa, tapi nampak mcm gambar lama, dan gambar tu sudah terlekat di name tag. Negatif tu gambar pun sudah hilang. But dari gaya dia cakap, I know yg dia berkeras mau guna gambar passport dia yang lama tu juga. Ini buktinya.

Dia cerita la, gara2 gambar passport sekeping tu, dia pernah bawa tu gambar yang sekeping tu pegi satu kedai gambar. Dia minta tulung tu apek macamana mau cuci gambar yang sama kalau teda negatif. So this apek guna kaedah gambar balik, dan buat negatif. Geli hati sia. Di zaman modern ni pun, masih ada yang mau guna kaedah gambar balik ka? Lainlah kalau orang tu sudah tiada. Ini masih lagi ampai2 sana. So lepas dia snap balik tu gambar, dia suruh tunggu kejap sebab dia mau cuci 4 keping. Semua service tu dia caj dia cuma RM 5 ja ba. Jimat la tu kan. Hehehehe. Sebab dia ambil gambar lagi, then dia cuci lagi…kira jimat la juga.

Bila dia datang balik untuk pi ambil tu gambar, satu kali tinguk…

“Kau tau...tu muka sia macam tu muka nenek kebayan ba. Itu mata pegi sana pipi, itu hidung pegi mulut…”

Then sia menyampuk, “Then itu mulut…di mana pula?”

“Itu mulut tidak tau di mana!!!!”

Terus sia nda tahan burst out laughing sampai sia rasa mau jatuh kerusi pun ada ba. Tu customer pun, daripada marah2…dia pun ketawa juga tinguk sia ketawa. Then dia cakap,

“Sia bayar tu apek RM3 ja, terus sia capat2 jalan. Bagus la tu sia mau bayar dia dengan muka sia yg macam tu. Punya sakit ati sia. Terus sia kasi kuyak tu gambar ba!!!

Lagi2 la sia ketawa nda henti2. Punyalah payah journey dia untuk mempertahankan gambar passport yang sebiji tu ba. Hahahaahahahahaahahahahaha. Adoiiii…apa la ba salahnya dia pegi mekap lawa2, and ambil gambar baru. Dia ni pun phobia juga ba sia rasa sebab untuk dapatkan gambar passport yang cantik ni bukannya senang. Biasanya macam zombie ba muka kita kalau dalam gambar passport kan? Hahahaahahahahahaaha.

Jadi kamu imagine la…sampai begitu sekali. Lain yg dia hara, muka nenek kebayan yang dia dapat. Gara2 dia takut kerugian pula kalau pegi ambil gambar baru, hanya untuk mendapatkan satu gambar passport yang bikin takut. HAHAHAAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

Sia pun pernah macam tu juga dulu time masih student. Suka betul dengan gambar passport sia satu ni, sampaikan sia rugi berpuluh2. Sebab kedai lain tidak cuci macam yg original. Nda puas hati, sampai pegi lagi tukar kedai lain. Begitu juga result dia…last2 sendiri juga jara. Hahahaahahahhahahaa. Berbaloikan perjuangan kita untuk sekeping gambar passport itu? Hehehehe

Alaaa…pi ja la ambil gambar baru. Biar la macam muka zombie terkejut, tapi yang penting muka kamu juga. Tapi kalau muka tuan puteri sekali pun, tapi bukan muka kamu, nahh…camana tu? Tapi sayang betul. Pilihan yang ada cuma nenek kebayan ja ba. Jadi bagus lagi tu zombie terkejut la kan, guys?

Hahahaahahahahahahahaahaahahahahahahahahaha

Note: Sia lupa suruh customer sia cakap sama tu apek…next time tidak payah ambil gambar balik. Sekarang ni ada picture scanner ba. And if kita mau jimat dalam hal2 gambar passport ni, ambil gambar pakai camphone, yg penting muka kamu tu ngam. Background dia kamu photoshop ja ba. Hahahaahahahahahaahahaha. Yaa…tu pun pesan nenek kebayan jua tuu… sia cuma tulung sakap jak. *Lols

10 Things That Could Make A Woman Sexy

1.What She Wears – The more skin she shows, the sexier she is. No wonder the market is full of clothes that you thought are made for little girls. No peeps, those are for the ladies so that they could show off more of their thighs and chest. *Grinzzz… (*Lols)

2.Her Body Shape – Bigger breast and hips matched with a smaller waist – The men lurvee those curves, ladies. Should you wonder more why the products for breast enhancement are selling like hot cakes? And those smaller hipped ladies envy those with wider hips although the wider hipped ladies thought those hips are “a pain in the a$$” hahaahahahahahahahahahaa. Ok kidding. :P

3.Her Body Volume – Skinny is more beautiful? Yeah maybe, but NOT sexier. A lot of men decides they prefer the fleshy ones. Don’t know why, you ask them! (So it’s okay to munch into high carb and sugary dessert to achieve what…”Enough flesh to flash?” Erkss!! Hahahaahaha

4.Her Lips – Ouch! Some men thinks those ladies with thicker lips very appealing. So ladies, get the lips stung by bees. /me points at Angelina Jolie *Lols

5.Her smile – according to Kennedy. What kind of smile that the men think is sexy? Sarcastic smile? Baby smile? Clown smile? Hehehehehehe ( Erkss…I made those up :P) Is sharp smile like mine is included in the list? (Hope so. Hahahaahahahahahahahahahhaha. Kiddingz!)

6.Her Hair – This could be right. Some ladies have nice hair to bring out their sexiness. So which one is sexier? Shorter or longer? Some men likes if the ladies do an updo style so it can show the neck. But coloured hair has its own appeal. What colour to the guys find more appealing? Please let me know cos I’ll visit the saloon for Christmas for a new hair colour. (*Lols) Kiddingz!!

7.Her Moves – Ahaa…Maybe, right? When a lady is blessed with graceful moves, everything will look sexy. It’s even the simplest thing like playing with the tips of her hair will make the men droll. Hahahahaahahahha. Not to mention, the graceful dance moves. If you can shake your booties the men will be crazy all over you! Heheheheehe

8.How She Walks – Aha…Is it true? What kind of walk… Catwalk? Hehehehehehehe.. If we are not good with catwalk, can we just do away with penguin walk and still looked sexy? Hahahahahahahaha

9.Her Voice – I don’t know if the voice can make her sexy. What about a very lovely lady with nice body shape, but manly voice? Can she lose her sexiness? Hehehehehe. But I think it’s such a blessing for the ladies to have a proper female voice cos it’s so uncool when people thought you were some guy when you talk on the phone. You guys decide again if a girly voice is enough or is it the way she talks? You decide. *Grinz.

10.How She Writes – Ahaaa…this one is dedicated to me. (Hahahahahahhaahahaha) Erks, a desperate move to make it 10 ba guys…hehehehehehe. I remember that my bro Ulal told me, even the way that I write is also sexy. The words that I use and how I use them, there’s a sense of sexiness in it. He said to me he already thought so from the early time he saw me chatting in the channel. “Even your SMS is also sexy.” Ya kaaa? Alalalalalaaa… Where got wooo…so gud gurl thisss… *Lols. Kiddingz! :PPPP

Nah…kesimpulannya sangat mudah. Sebab SEXY is subjective ba. U can list banyak lagi ikut your own taste. It’s nothing wrong because SEXY could be a good impression to other people. It’s a good feeling that you have towards someone. It’s very thrilling to see this quality in someone coz it raises excitement, compared to when you think someone is just pretty or fair or smart. Sexy is just something else, and it’s so so exciting. Hahahaahaha. I don’t know. Maybe the guys know better! Hehehehehe

P/S – This post is among the most express ones that I wrote so far, because I need to run!! Hehehehehe. Happy Wednesday Peeps…muahsss all

"…But Do You Know What The Millionaires Are Looking For?"

I watched this Oprah show not long before. It made me laughed.

This episode discussed about “What the women look for in a man”, something like that la. So ada this lady, maybe represents the women out there yang belum jumpa Mr Right dia. The problem could be, Why dia belum jumpa lelaki idaman dia? So kes dia ni dijadikan study case.

So they asked her apa criteria lelaki idaman dia? My Gawdd… Punyalah high taste tu perempuan. Betul2 menggelikan hati. Benda2 macam tu we only speak when kita masih budak2 yang tidak tau banyak benda. Even benda2 yang kecil2 pun dia put dalam criteria dia. It’s like, combination of permintaan cliché perempuan2 di dunia ni. Semua sifat2 baik yang ada pada lelaki yg serba serbinya baik, dan menyayangi dan berkerjaya. Boleh dikatakan, perempuan ni betul2 inginkan seorang lelaki yg SEMPURNA, teda sikit pun cacat celahnya. Dia mau yg handsome, baik, penyayang, bertanggungjawab dan… tidak cukup dengan permintaan tu semua, dia mention lagi yg dia mau itu lelaki ada MILIIONAIRE… Maksudnya, sudahlah perangai teda cacat celahnya, muka pun serba serbi kacak belaka, still, SHE WANTS A MILLIONAIRE, guys…

I must take this moment to layan my ketawa kejap.

HAHAAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

Doiiii?? Dia buat lawak ka apa ohh? Sukar mau dipercaya yang ada perempuan yg ada citarasa begitu tinggi. I wonder di mana dia hidup all this while. Sure ka dia hidup di bumi ni juga? Hehehehehehehe. Cos untuk seorang perempuan dewasa, sepatutnya hidup sudah ajar dia bahawa KESEMPURNAAN itu tidak wujud baaa… Doiiiii. Matai laaaaa… *Lols. (256 <-- confirm tekejut tahap gaban ni urg ni. *Lols)

So the guest speaker masa tu, who is a famous author (not famous enough for me to remember his name laa…heheheeheh :P). Lepas ja dia dengar apa perempuan tu mau, dia cakap ni…

“That would be, The Lord.”

All the audience ketawa. Memang pun lawak gila. Memang pun God saja yang begitu sempurna ba. Then dia tanya soalan ni balik, “But do you know what the millionaires are looking for?”

Hahahaahahahahahahahaaha. Kalau sia jadi tu perempuan, sia rasa sia akan feel embarrassed. Bukanlah berniat untuk make the woman feel bad, yang seolah-olah permintaan terlampau tinggi, tapi adakah dia pernah pikir sama ada dia tu actually LAYAK untuk lelaki yg sebegitu sempurna?

Looking at the lady. She’s in fact very average overweight black American woman. I mean, speaking of PERFECTION… What does she expect a rich handsome guy would want in a lady? So…maybe she has to be realistic too. But this NOT to say yang dia physically tidak layak untuk tu, but permintaan dia tidak logic ba. Biasa la cara orang respond to this…I think supermodel like Amber Chia pun tidak minta yg lebih2 macam tu.

Actually, I felt a bit odd pula. Maybe a little upset too. If ramai perempuan macam tu, ladies…MEMANG TIADA baaa lelaki macam tu. Hehehehe. If ada pun, mesti dia kaki perempuan, tidak pegi sembayang and lain2 hal. At the end of the day, you have to adjust your requirement. Semuanya happen di hati ba tu. Tidak payah pikir banyak2. Ini semua tidak boleh pakai tuu. Kau minta macam2, tapi hati kau terpikat pula dengan orang yg keluar dari criteria tu. Nahh, masa tu baru kamu tau yang mau set standard dan criteria ni semua, just a waste of time bah :)

One more thing, just to make it more fun la kunun. Inda kisah la macamana outcome dia. But ADILKAH kalau sia cakap, sia mau lelaki sebaik yang sia mampu untuk become? If sia mau dia religious, sia pun kena religious juga ba kan? If sia mau my guy to be loyal, sia pun first kena ada that quality kan? Nahh, macam ni baru ngam. Jadi now you know why sia nda akan list panjang2 tentang criteria lelaki pilihan sia, sebab I know, benda tu semua tidak valid lagi. Akhirnya sia punya deria yg akan respond to that. As long as I’m attracted to that guy, I will let the rest run its course. Sinang cerita.

*giggles.

When Your Ex Comes Back To Claim Her Rights…

This is what she did.

First, she caused the breakup. She said she didn’t love him anymore. She has totally no feelings left for him. She crushed her guy’s heart into little pieces, she made him cry a river of tears and then, when the guy was trying hard to move on, she just didn’t want to let that happen! She still calls up the guy, asking for favour, asking for a nite hangout – claiming it to be the last time they go out together and at the end of the date, she told him that she still loved him. And then the guy said he doesn’t love her anymore, she cried helplessly in front of him. Omigawd, what did she want?

He still recalled her high voice screaming at him when she first announced the breakup. She said do not call me, do not sms me – cos we have broken up! Now, not long after that, she is doing all the above. Leaving the wounded-hearted innocent boyfriend wondering, What Did This Girl Want from me?

As bitter as it is to admit, I did something like that too before. I came back to my ex’s life just to “CLAIM MY RIGHT” to get his attention whenever I wanted it. I thought that just because I was his first love, I could always remain the number one. Surprisingly, I did it NOT because I wanted my ex back. I did it just for the thrill of knowing if he still loved me. I did it just to feed to my selfishness and ego, and maybe self-esteem too. Especially because he has a new girlfriend now, I thought that she could never beat me, especially because it was me who caused the breakup. I wanted to test my ex just for the fun of it. I was glad that my ex actually entertained me and would sneak to talk to me behind his new girlfriend. After learning that I still got my ex’s attention, I was satisfied with the finding, but that’s all. If he wants to go back together, I definitely say no. So you men out there, IF your ex does something like this, MAYBE she has something very similar in her head. DO NOT jeopardize your current relationship or good life just because of an EX who comes back to claim her right. Cos she might just come to shake things but it’s NOT like what you think. She might want you at the time being just because she’s feeling lonely, and she won’t want you anymore as soon as the loneliness is gone.

She thought that she has rights over you just because she is your ex and she becomes your ex because she dumped you. Girls like this always think that you men are only pretending to move on, when she is actually very much in your heart and mind. That’s why she’s using the advantage to “make use” of you. The worst-case scenario, she might think that you’re on her fingertips. She can have you back whenever she wants to. All she need to do is snap her fingers, and you’re back in her palms.

So what happens when the girls are only day-dreaming about this RIGHTS as an ex-girlfriend? What if the the ex-boyfriend rejects her and claims NO-REHOOK-UP against her even after all the attempts? Ahaaa…she won’t believe it right away. She would still do something to make him show that she’s still the queen. The best weapon—TEARS!!! Yes, the girls would cry if that’s the only last thing to touch his heart. Usually, men will feel touched, but is that enough?

Of course it’s not enough. From my guyfriends’ experiences, they would refuse to hook-up back with the ex who comes back to claim her rights. He might still love her but MEN AND THEIR EGO, do I need to explain more? I don’t think many men are that stupid to fall for this trap. If she did love him, there would be no breakup to begin with. You can think clearly with your sane mind. So if you get confused why your ex is suddenly so clingy, now you know what to think. She’s thrilled to claim her rights back. The rights that she thought she still has, as your ex.

So girls, what if you get rejected by the man whose heart you broke? The answer is very simple. You are only his EX. When you become his ex for whatever reason, your rights on him are NULLIFIED. In other words, you don’t have a freaking right over that guy anymore. Leave your freaking ex-boyfriend alone because you only mess things up with that “claiming” thing. You don’t have a right to claim, you understand me? There are many fishes in the sea, go catch one! And leave that old piranha with the new mate. *Lols

Although I did something like this before, I realized halfway that it won’t do us any good. Get a freaking life and wish all the best to your ex-boyfriend. Go hunt another jaw, you ladies!

Hahahahahaahahahahahahahahahahahahaha. Kidding. Note: Girls, my point is – Don’t embarrass yourself . Move on. :)

To Be In Someone's Wet Dream

Aha…this is the renewed version of this post. Because the one you read before, I only copy-paste from the original one I took from my old blog. Now, I write it again, much shorter and to the point. Okay, here we go.

I remember meeting my guyfriend one Thursday. This guy friend was on the phone with me everyday and we really enjoyed each other’s company. I even called him, My bestfriend – for months. We had a nice chat that few hours because it had been months since we met each other.

So, the next Monday, as usual, he called me from the office. “Ada sia mau kasitau kau. Sia mimpi kau semalam.” Then, as usual la, I joked, “O ya kah? Mataii. Apa la kunu sia buat dalam mimpi kau tu? Jangan ja sia buat inda tentu2 ah” Terus sia ketawa. “Huiyooo, punya mengancam kau dalam mimpi sia.” Terus automatik sia dapat tangkap sudah yang dia akan cakap barang “inda tentu” la tu. (Hahahahaha) “Uiii, apa sia buat oo? Capat kasitau!” Then dengan tidak malunya, dia describe. Dengan penuh emosi dan excitement. Nasib baik dia kawan baik sia, so sia buli ketawa mcm tu gila walaupun sia sebenarnya mau cover malu. This guyfriend described dengan teliti what he saw and what we did. In fact… it was way TOO DETAIL, sampaikan sia pun heran. Macam dia nampak wayang x-rated ja ni bah. Hahahahaha.

Dia cakap, macam tu benda betul2 terjadi ba. Sebab, when he woke up, “I’m wet.” Terus sia tekejut. “Haa?? Sampai begitu sekali ka?” Terus dia jawab, “Iya bah. Kawan sia ketuk ba pintu bilik sia, tanya sia apa sia buat, sebab dia dengar bunyi bising2 kan.” Lagi laaa sia heran. “Apa kes pula bunyi bising2 ni?” Sia cakap dalam hati ja. Macam ada ja ba nda kena sama cerita dia tu. U guys tau la sia ni kan, kuat menganalisa.

Lepas sia layan cerita dia tu, dia cakap sama sia, “Kau pasti ka teda singgah tempat sia semalam? Ada kau mimpi benda yang sama ka?” Terus sia ketawa. “Ui kau gila ka sia singgah tempat kau? Kau pikir dekat ka tu. Kalau ada tetinggal bra sia sana tu mungkin la kau ada bukti mau tuduh sia.” Haahahahahahahaahha. Sampat lagi ba sia buat lawak.

“Dalam mimpi tu kan, ada kau kasitau sia sesuatu. Yang kau ada mole di –certain part of your body-. Betul ka ada?” Nah, masa dia kasitau sia tu, sia mimang not sure ada mole ka tidak di bahagian badan sia tu, so hari tu juga sia check2, mimang betul ada. Tapi benda tu sia nda kasitau dia pada hari yang sama la. The next day baru sia bagitau dia.

Cuma selepas dia berabis-abis kasi describe mimpi dia tu, oleh kerana kemusykilan sia tu, sia cakap la…”Wait, ini mimpi kau ka kau punya imaginasi oo? Apa pasal terlampau detail juga ni? Mimpi begitu detail meh?” Terus sia ketawa ba berabis. Lain sudah tu suara kawan sia ba masa tu, macam malu ba dia punya nada suara. “Aik, kau nda pecaya ka sia mimpi? Jadi kau tuduh sia buat2 la ni cerita kan?” “Bukan sia tuduh kau buat cerita, but sia rasa MUNGKIN mimpi kau ni sudah bercampur sama imaginasi kau ba, jadi tu la pasal detail.” The fact yang dia terlepas cakap yang kawan dia ketuk pintu bilik dia sebab dia buat “bising” dan buli pula dia jawab sama kawan dia, “Oh bunyi computer ba tu.” --- inda heran ka tu? Melainkan “mimpi” dia ni adalah ketika sedar!!! Wahahahaahaha.

Macam ni laa. Kita pun bukan budak2 lagi. We know that benda2 macam ni mimang biasa berlaku. Sama ada dia mimpi ka, dia fantasize ka atau apa. Kita teda hak mau larang org mau pikir or imagine apa dorang suka. Walaupun kita buat benda nda tentu2 dalam pikiran dorang, sekurang-kurangnya, itu cuma dalam pikiran dorang. Nda jua ada affect sama kita. Dan dalam kes kawan2 lelaki yang kita percaya, selagi hubungan tu sihat dan ada batas, sekali sekala bergurau tu teda salahnya ba kan. Cuma kita paham2 sendiri saja la ba tu kalau dorang sudah begitu terbuka untuk share benda2 yang quite private mcm “wet dream” tu…alah, itu kan perkara org dewasa. Biasanya, dorang pun tinguk org juga. Kalau dorang rasa kau buli terima tu benda, baru dorang berani share. Kadang2 pakai gambar ja pun they can fantasize sampai ke negeri China tu. (*Lols). Kita nda jua buli buat apa2, cos naluri manusia tu mimang mcm tu. Ada2 ja. Kalau kau cakap, jangan imagine nda tentu2 pasal kau pun, bukan jua dorang dengar ba tu. Sama jua kepala otak dorang yang dorang dengar. Hahahahaha.

Sia teringat tu my other guy friend cakap sama sia. “Men Are Animals. They have animal desires.” Jadi, apa macam guys? Setuju ka? Korang mau mengaku ka korang tu ada animal desires? Hahahahahahaha.

Apa pun, apa2 hal pasal wet dream ni, sia rasa, paling bagus keep sendiri saja la. Lainla kalau mimang pasangan sendiri. Walaupun benda tu normal, org tu tidak payah pun tau ba. Takut2 kamu hilang kawan pula kalau terlampau open dengan gurau senda korang tu. So…masing2 saja paham la tu kan. Hehehe.

Cinta? Wah...Penatnya!

Semua org tau yang being in love ni mimang sangat2 indah. Kamu rasa kamu mcm berada di cloud-9, floating in the air dan kaki tidak memijak bumi. Kamu tanya Kenapa? Jawapannya, Cinta. Cinta itu memang sangat indah. Tapi cinta tu juga membuatkan kamu tidak duduk diam. Dia buat hati kamu sentiasa bimbang. Kamu bimbang sesuatu yg buruk akan berlaku sama kekasih kamu bila dia keluar rumah. Kamu bimbang keselamatan dia. Kamu bimbang dia jumpa sama girlfriend lama dia. Bimbang tu satu hal. Lain lagi cemburu. Bila dia cakap dia attend satu majlis keramaian atau function yang kamu tidak dapat ikut, hati kamu mula terdetik rasa cemburu. Cemburu kalau2 ada perempuan yang akan menarik perhatian dia dan akhirnya buat dia jatuh hati dan lupa pada kamu. Not only that, bila dia sebut perempuan lain, wajah kamu mula berkerut dan hati kamu tidak senang. Di dalam hati terpikir, adakah kekasih sia ni diam2 menaruh minat sama orang lain?

Bila kamu ingin melakukan sesuatu, kamu berpikir dua kali. Adakah perbuatan kamu tu akan mendatangkan prasangka pada kekasih kamu? Kamu takut dia salah paham. Kamu takut dia cemburu. Pikir punya pikir. Entah berapa kali kamu stop daripada membuat apa yang kamu mau buat, hanya gara2 menjaga hati kekasih kamu yang kamu sayang tu.

Rindu…ini lagi satu. Rindu itu begitu menyeksakan. Dia jauh daripada kamu sekejap saja pun, hati kamu tidak sanggup. Kalau boleh mau berkepit saja sama dia. Tapi kalau terpaksa juga berjauhan, setiap saat hati kamu dibelenggu dengan kerinduan. Terlampau rindu, sampaikan air mata pun mengalir. Best tu best juga kalau sekali sekala berjauhan, tapi kadang2 perasaan tu tidak tertahan. 1 hari bagaikan setahun.

Air mata – nda payah cakap la. Adegan air mata mimang bila2 masa saja. Bila dia marah kamu, kamu menangis. Bila dia salah paham dan tuduh kamu bukan2, kamu menangis. Bila kamu terlalu bimbang, rindu dan cemburu, lagila kamu menangis. Dalam bertahun-tahun kamu bercinta sama dia, IMAGINE LA… selagi cinta itu wujud di hati kamu, setiap saat itu adalah satu perjuangan dalam drama emosi kamu sendiri.

WOW…PENATNYA… Kamu lalui lah perkara ini selama beberapa tahun, dan when something bad happen sama relationship kamu, satu bom sudah meletup. Wah, pedihnya hati kamu, sampai makan pun tidak selera. Mau berkurung di bilik dan tidak mau jumpa org. Ada yang tumbuk pintu, hantuk kepala di dinding… sakitt betul. Rasa hati mcm dihiris sembilu. Nangis la sepuas hati. Teriak la sekuat-kuatnya. Asalkan kamu buli kasi luah kesakitan itu… walaupun biasanya lebih ramai yang sudah menyembunyikannya. Hati rasa mcm berdarah-darah. Nafas pun tidak menentu. Dekat2 rasa mcm nyawa mau dicabut. Begitu la siksanya bila cinta itu putus. Tapi…Tiba2…

Tiada lagi kebimbangan. Tiada lagi kecemburuan. Tiada lagi syak wasangka. Tiada lagi kerinduan yang menyeksakan. Yang paling best… Tiada lagi yang akan halang kamu untuk buat perkara yang kamu mau buat. Adegan air mata semakin beransur tiada. Tiba-tiba… begitu banyak bebanan yang terlepas dari bahu kamu. Tiba2 terasa ringan.

Kamu tengok muka kamu di cermin, mungkin kamu bukan lagi org yang sama. Sebab cinta itu pernah buat kamu buta. Buta dengan perkara2 tertentu. Buta sama kemampuan sebenar diri sendiri. Cinta membuat kamu leka dan lalai. Cinta membuatkan kamu hidup di alam yang separuh sedar.

Kenapa harus sia lepaskan cinta itu hanya untuk mendapat perkara2 yang lebih baik dalam hidup sia? Untuk melihat hidup ini lebih baik dari sepatutnya? Kenapa sia harus memilih antara dua? Kenapa dan Mengapa? Kenapa mesti CINTA yang seindah itu, begitu memenatkan jiwa dan raga sia…sampaikan sia rasa dapat kebebasan yang begitu besar bila sia kehilangan Cinta itu. Pikir-pikirkanla.

Alangkah bagusnya kalau kita bleh dapat kedua-duanya. Mungkin masa itu akan tiba juga, siapa tau, kan. :)

What?? Are You A Lesbian?!!

I still remember back in college. One of my new roommates ni tomboy ba. Muka bukan main garang. Tidak mau senyum. Sia pun takut ni. But satu kali dia senyum, terus mcm katun ba muka dia. Langsung teda sudah “macho” dia… cos nampak terus keperempuanannya. Hahahaahaha. Okay, dipendekkan cerita. Entah kenapa, I felt so secured when I was with her. I felt protected. The fact that she jalan mcm lelaki, and she didn’t senyum sembarangan like most girls yang control ayu. Hahahahaha. I remember, walking along with her. I got really really manja sometimes by hugging her arm and the most extreme was, I even laid my head on her shoulder when we cerita2 in the dorm. She acted so cool because most of our friends yg perangai mcm sia, akan manja sama dia ni. One day…I learnt my lesson. After I felt so comfortable being her friend and be around her, she said to me, “Now, you’re my girlfriend (makwe). And yang paling bikin malu lagi, dia cakap depan2 yang lain ba yang I was officially her makwe. I was like, “WHAT?? Kau gila ka?” Punya malu sia tu masa. Sebab sudahlah dia tu mcm tomboy, bila dia announce dia ada makwe, lagilah org confirm dia ni “bukan setakat tomboy” pada luaran. And suddenly, that sarcastic smile on her face kan became a view yang sangat2 mengelikan di mata sia. Sia rasa sia menjadi mangsa pula masa tu, sebab selama ini, sia lihat dia sebagai seorang perempuan, dan seolah-olah selama ini, dia actually ada satu “romantic” feeling towards all the friendly touching and stuff. Yikes!! Punyala sia geliii tu masa. Deii mataizz. Terus sejak tu, sia tidak lagi cakap dekat2 sama dia because I was sending her the message, “Do Not Call Me Your Makwe” AGAIN!!!

Actually, this friend of ours already has a steady makwe back in her hometown. We should have known better that THIS THING called “attraction towards the same sex” DOES EXIST. Yes, people. It Does Exist. Are you one of those?

I won’t talk much about this because sudah bertimbun kes2 di seluruh dunia. We know this thing really do exist. This is not about culture, it’s not about lifestyle… IT’S EVERYWHERE. It’s born with you. Sometimes, we tend to accuse yg, bagus2 kita dilahirkan perempuan dan lelaki tu berpasangan, mau juga yang sama jantina. Nowadays, it’s not something unheard of. Same sex marriage even legalized in some countries. It’s something against the religion, I guess? I think everyone have a thousand reasons why Same Sex Relationship is WRONG, but maybe we need only ONE TRUE REASON why we have to ACCEPT it as…what do you call it, A FACT OF LIFE? What If… You are born with it. You find yourself attracted to this person from the same sex and you’re so helpless. Your feelings get stronger and stronger. It’s almost unbearable. You need the person so badly and it’s more than just…A Normal Attraction. It becomes sexual and it becomes more intense than just sexual. Your needs and longing desires come from the most sensitive part of your heart. You want to be with the person and you want the person to be part of your life. Okay, stop there. Now…how do you handle that? Now you can scream, “For Pete’s Sake, I Know This Is Wrong, And I Don’t Ask For This!!! Can You People Understand?!!! I Don’t Ask For This, Okkayyy???!!

In this country, Same Sex Relationship is still considered a TABOO. People still have to hide and you still can get that funny stares if you get brave enough to admit, “I Am Gay” and guess what, mostly it will followed by laughter, Hahahahaha, You Must Be Kidding. But hey, I don’t have to knock on your head to tell you once again, “Something Like This Is As Real As Can Be.”

Di sini, sia bukan mau berdebat ini punya isu. Isu yang mcm gini, kalau mau berdebat pun sama mcm anjing menyalak bukit. There’s Nothing you can say or do that can fix this. This isn’t fixable. You can’t Fix A Fact. You can’t go to a your gay friend and say, “Hey, bagus kau bertobat la. Kau ni buat dusa ja suka sama jantina. Bagus kau insaf la, Bagus2 sudah Tuhan jadikan kita berpasangan, kau gatal pegi suka sama2 lelaki tu, apa pasal? Kau gila sudah ka?” Sia rasa, kau timbak pun kawan kau tu, nda jua kau buli ubah dia punya sexual orientation tu. Sebab daripada apa yang sia pernah baca, dorang ini bukan tiada otak mau berpikir. Dorang mungkin pintar dan hebat dan sangat2 maskulin, and believe me… dengan penerimaan masyarakat sekeliling dan tohmahan buruk orang ke atas dorang, dorang ini sudah CUKUP TERSIKSA. Kamu ada ka satu keburukan yang kamu paling2 tidak suka? Satu keburukan yang buat kamu diejek dan diketawakan? Nah, mesti kamu pernah juga cakap, “Bukan sia yang minta dilahirkan macam ni.” Now, you put yourself in the shoes orang2 yang suka sama jantina, and FEEL IT. It’s something like that, my friends.

Okay, I’m straight. I lurvee guys. At least, I am rest assured that I have nothing to worry about when it comes to my sexual tendency. Sia tidak dapat pikir untuk mereka yang TIDAK senasib dengan sia. One thing I know for sure, To Be Different Is Not Easy. Sia tidak dapat tulung you guys pikir macamana mau handle this stigma yang masyarakat beri pada kamu. Sia cuma ada my little voice untuk share something sama orang lain yang SIAPALAH KITA UNTUK MENGHAKIMI MEREKA dan sebelum kita mau bertindak jadi Tuan Majistret mau menghakimi mereka, bagus lagi kita tinguk diri sendiri yang BELUM TENTU sebaik mana. Jangan la susah2 mau pikir apa mau jadi sama dorang ini sebab Berat Mata Memandang, Berat Lagi Bahu Memikul. Dorang pun manusia juga, ada hati dan perasaan. Jangan la kita menghukum sesama sendiri dengan sesuatu yang dikurniakan dari atas. Sikit pun kita tidak layak untuk tau apa dalam pikiran kita punya Creator to let something like this exist dalam hidup ni.

Kita terima saja each other dengan kebaikan yang ada pada diri dorang, dan kalau dorang ni di kalangan kawan2 kita, jangan pula kita menyisihkan dorang hanya kerana sexual tendency yang berbeza, apa lagi kalau dia tidak pun melanggar batas2 persahabatan. Bottom line, kita cuma mahukan keamanan saja ba. We hope the best for the human race and masing2 la pikir pasal amalan masing2. Siapalah kita untuk menghakimi dorang, apa lagi bila dorang sendiri pun tidak minta untuk dilahirkan begitu. Think about it. :)

Note: Pasal kawan sia tu, sia mulanya kasi batas pergaulan sia sama dia supaya tiada salah paham, and sekejap saja, sia dapat juga anggap dia mcm kawan perempuan yang lain, without prejudice. Sia anggap benda2 yang lepas tu satu gurauan dan sia langsung tidak kasi besar2 perkara tu sebab org pun bukan tiada otak mau pikir. Kau sendiri kena pandai send the right signal yang u have limits that others can’t cross. As simple as that. Jangan jadikan benda ni mcm “kudis” dalam persahabatan yang buli dibuat secara sihat. :)

Perigi Mencari Timba?

To the men, you guys don’t like meh if ada perempuan mengurat kamu? You guys will do anything untuk mengurat perempuan but when ada perempuan mengurat kamu, pandai pula kamu jadi resistant. Inda heran kai tu? If ada kawan2 lelaki sia minta nasihat, mimang sia akan cakap, “Use your own judgment la. You’re a big guy already ba.” Abis, there’s no way sia dapat jadi mata dan telinga kamu untuk menilai untuk kamu. If u guys think tu perempuan menarik, LAYAN JA BA! (Hahahaahaha) I mean, yeah, first impression counts. But then, mesti jua kamurang terpaksa guna otak korang untuk menilai sama ada org tu sesuai untuk kamu ka nda untuk jangkamasa panjang.

IT HAS TO START SOMEWHERE, RIGHT? Inda kisahlah kalau perempuan yang mula! True or not? Not True? Aiks… masih wujud ka pula lelaki punya pikiran mcm tu? Kamu MAU juga kamu yang mula mengurat tu perempuan? Deii mataiz la berkira. Hahahahaahaha. Kidding. ANYWAY! I UNDERSTAND! Sia pun berpikiran KOLOT juga like you guys, DON’T WORRY! Hahahahahaha. Kena sebiji.

Actually, perkenalan tu harus bermula di satu titik kan. Apa buli buat kalau perempuan tu yang membuka bicara. Jangan la terlampau mengikut resmi. Tapi mimang menarik, if ada masih lelaki yang cakap, “Sia lebih suka sia yang mula, bukan tu perempuan.” Great. Tapi bila korang mengurat, kamu komplen jua kalau tu perempuan susah mau dapat. (Hihihi) Ada2 saja la korang ni.

Untuk perempuan2 di luar sana, jan la ba korang terlampau forward sangat. Malu kita ging. Betapis jua sikit, jan free2 kana cakap miang. But inda jua ba masuk jail tu kan. So kamurang mau mengurat ka apa ka, etika tu jangan lupa. Jan ja korang rampas boyfriend orang cukup la ah. (Ya, terutama boyfriend sia la. Dilarang keras! Hahahahaha)

So Perigi mencari timba atau sebaliknya, jangan besar2kan hal kecil. Asalkan hati bahagia, ON SAJA BA! Hehehehe. Pandai2 la korang ah.

(P/S- Jon, sengaja sia terjangkit sikit2 sama falsafah mu tu. Hehehehe)

Stop Comparing Me With Anybody, Understand?!

I start to freak out when people have certain expectation towards me. I don’t know which part of it that I begin to make people think and believe in something, and have certain impression about me. I just go with the flow. Though I am someone who is always hard on what people gonna say about me, but when I mingle with a new society as I age, I don’t really try that hard anymore. I just present myself the best I can in most comfortable manner. That’s all.

And nevermind about which part of this that goes wrong, before I know, I am already put in this position where some people appreciate my good qualities and here comes the bitter part; they start to compare me with the people who they used to look up to, and find analytically the reason HOW and WHY these people and me is better than the other. Now you tell me how stressful could that be. The funny part is – I Don’t Ask for all this. In other words, DON’T COMPARE ME WITH ANYBODY, UNDERSTAND!! Yes, even if I’m gonna win all the points, I refuse to be compared. Even IF I were that good, it’s still not to my favour that anybody put me as the benchmark to what is good, what is better. No! Please Don’t Do That!

No kidding. I have received some remarks lately. I was put in the Battle of 2 Women that I was involuntarily involved and judged. And guess what? “This self-proclaimed jury” said to me the verdict. “You’re more -- than her. You’re more -- than her. You’re more -- than her. You’re more -- than her. In other words, you are BETTER than her in Everything.” I almost dropped my jaw. No, I wasn’t impressed with the evaluation. You can say anything flattering to me. I’m not a kid anymore. I don’t buy free compliments. It was cruel to the other person, and it was also cruel to myself because now I have to prove that I really deserve all the glory of winning the battle. Gotta be freaking kidding me!

NO, STOP IT! I don’t want to hear all that! I am just a normal human being and I am indeed very weak myself. I don’t want any eyes to set on me and wait the moment that I do wrong. One wrong move and already I’m crushed. NO YOU IDIOT! Stop It! I don’t ask for all this. Please just let me be a human being that YES I make mistakes and yes I am not that good. Never ever compare me with any woman because I KNOW FOR SURE, whoever that woman is, she’s good in her own definition. Please just accept me as who I am and I have nothing to prove. I really really do have nothing to prove because I never tell you guys that I am good. You can only talk to me, see my work and you know what is good, what is not. Just appreciate me in areas that I’m good at and just accept me and my weaknesses. Stop Comparing Me With Anybody!!

Would You Still Love Diamonds, IF...

Just now, I mistakenly thought my friend said something about her boyfriend bought her the “stone” because he knows she likes it. I was like, “DIAMOND, IS IT?” Since that I only heard part of the story, of course I got it wrong. My two friends threw that look, “DIAMOND? ARE YOU CRAZY?” (Actually, she talked about the diamond-like decoration on the tudung…errkss). I said, “Oops, I thought you meant the real diamond.” She said this, “Of course I love diamonds. I would faint in disbelief if my boyf bought me diamond.” I just laughed. “Are you sure you like diamond?” Then these thoughts occurred to me. Then I asked her… DO YOU THINK YOU WOULD STILL LOVE DIAMONDS IF… IT’S NOT SOMETHING THAT COST SO MUCH? “You see ahh…itu diamond kan actually mcm kaca saja bah. Dia jernih dan tiada colour. Kenapa orang suka? Is it pasal u guys mimang suka or pasal u guys know dia mahal? WHAT IF DIAMOND DOESN’T COST THAT MUCH? WOULD YOU STILL LOVE IT? That’s a question to think guys! *giggles. As for me, yang bukan materialistik ni (kunun-kununnyalaa *lols), I’m not fond of something because it’s expensive. Again I have to say that IT’S THE SENTIMENTAL VALUE BEHIND IT yang means EVERYTHING TO ME. But if my boyf can afford to buy me a diamond and still resort to silver, I definitely gonna go crazy mad at him! *Lols P/S – I can’t afford a diamond ring and maybe I don’t even deserve it, but I have one, my little humble ring! *giggles!

THE PRICE OF MESSING WITH SOMEONE'S HUSBAND

Not here to embarrass anybody or judge anybody. I am here sharing my views with all of you, especially those who find themselves in the “victim’s situation” in any of my articles. Are you some single lady, very available and is just waiting for the right guy to come into your life? What’s your take on a relationship with a married man? Will you go for it? I’m asking the single ladies, not you, Mr. Somebody’s Husband! You guys should know by now that I always make my little research on as many issues as possible. I learn so much from others’ experiences. This year alone, I already heard so much, learn so much. Being a good listener, I seldom take other people’s stories for granted. That what makes me a good counselor to many of my friends. I don’t only listen, I analyze and give some fruitful views. Speaking of the ladies who mess with somebody’s husband, I can only describe to you that I was once sitting in my dear office, looking at the 2 ladies sitting on my left and right, discussing about each other’s guy – They both are going after somebody’s husband. And these ladies are both my acquaintances. So, now you think I don’t know what I’m writing about?

To cut the story short…I will only make a conclusion. All the single ladies who are having serious relationship with married men – They are always THE ONES TO LOSE. The married men are only fooling around with them and after all the promises the men make to leave the wife and kids – they never actually intent to keep their words. They will eventually CHOOSE THE WIFE AND KIDS. The married men usually only make the single ladies as their mistress or “part-time companion” but NEVER a wife. Even how beautiful and sexy you are compared to the wife, the wife STILL WINS. The common sense is – the memories with the wife are usually STRONGER than any attraction with the newer lady. THE KIDS – A father might get tired of looking at the wife, but THE KIDS are more than just “a few heads running around the house” – They are a bundle of responsibilities on the dad’s shoulder. Plus – given a sane mind and some sense of humanity, a man can stray from his reality for a temporary lusty attraction, but eventually he will gain back his senses through the years and lessons and REALISE that, his real backbones are none other than the wife and kids that are always there in his life. So, my advice will be – If you’re aiming for a lasting relationship with a married man, THINK TWICE LADIES. Before anything else, What would you feel if you are in the wife’s shoes? If you have the choice, DON’T PLAY WITH FIRE. All the ladies I know, NEVER WIN THE BATTLE AGAINST THE MAN’S WIFE – Because we are speaking of Her Husband, not some free available single man. So save yourself tears you have not yet cried, and pains your heart has not felt --- again…DON’T PLAY WITH FIRE. Play the game fair, don’t steps on other lady’s back – STAY AWAY FROM SOMEBODY’S HUSBAND!