Guys And Their 10%

Aha. What The Heck Is That 10%?

I still remember when someone posed this question in the chatroom. “Which do you prefer, a handsome guy or a macho guy?” I answered, Of course macho guys.” Handsome is just the face, and face is only like 10% of him, and macho is more like the 90% of him.” How can I rely on just 10% of him? Hahahaha. Now you know what I mean by 10%.

[256] and her wandering eyes. OMG. She actually admits it!! Hahahaha (Erks…Me, I mean…hehe)

I think this is not the first time that I tell you guys that I DO have wandering eyes. I appreciate Nice Views and I appreciate cuteness and beauty In Everything. Aha…So? What makes you think this doesn’t include guys and their handsomeness?! Oh come on…It’s like, it’s whether guys or girls everyway. We can’t run away from good-looking hunks around us. /me evil grinzzz… *Lols. Kidding! I mean, No Kidding! Hahahaha

Well, Yes…I really like the sight of handsome guys. Again, looks are subjective. Many people say that Brad Pitt is handsome, but I don’t think he’s handsome. He’s more into the Macho type. It’s the way he brings himself that makes him attractive. Maybe how he talks. How he moves. Everything contributes to Not so much about the looks, actually! But as a whole, he’s still a good-looking guy. Good looking means someone who is good to look at. Yeah, direct translation. Hahaha. Tom Cruise is in the handsome category. Although he's short and all, but the face is handsome. Of course we speak about face when we talk about handsomeness. So when I say that “this or that certain guy” is handsome, what I mean is, The Face. Not the whole thing. Just 10%!

I have associated with quite a few handsome guys. Some of them only have their 10% as an attraction and not more than that. Some of these guys know that they have this asset of being handsome, unfortunately, they think that it’s ENUFF to make the girls go all crazy about them. They think that with that handsome face, they can simply snap their fingers and the girls will follow their command. Hahahaha. Should I ask these guys to Think Again?

I usually let the guy know he’s handsome if I think so. If I do that, it doesn’t mean Anything more than just a notification. Don’t think that your 10% can make a girl fall all over you. Don’t think that your 10% is enough for you to make a complete collection of part-time lovers and don’t think that your 10% is all you need to be a reigned Casanova. The answer is NO. Your handsomeness is just 10% of you and who says it’s Anything Much? I don’t care if you guys want to reverse this for the girls. Maybe you can do that but do it in your blog, cos now it’s my blog so it’s my turn. Hahahaha… Kidding :PP

Beside handsome, being well built, you guys should also know by now that I like rugged guys. I am attracted to guys who are kinda expressive, the way that makes them look More A Man. For example, Tattoo. Your tattoo, alongside your 10%, are gonna catch my eyes. If you have a gifted talent of good listener and then, showing (or faking?) some amount of good heart and good head on your shoulder, Aha! That’s Bingo. I’ve found a few of them and the advantage to appear in my life in the right time and place, he might just be the most special in my life for that season. Yes, for a certain season as long as he’s still worthy to be there. When something goes wrong, you prove yourself to be not more than a sucky boyfriend, you tell lies, you can’t set your eyes and heart for one girl only, guess what… Who cares about your 10% anymore. It’s funny when some think that they definitely gonna bring around that 10% and start on clean slate of a new drama. You can do that to some girls, but not all.

Guys are sometimes more obsessed over womanly beauty, than girls to manly beauty. They would start putting your picture on their laptop wallpaper and even handphone. Aha. Sounds familiar? Hahaha. Guess what, for some reasons these guys might think that their 10% should be serving the same purpose too…maybe right to some, but Not All. Just because you’re handsome, it doesn’t mean your face is the first thing she wants to see early in the morning. This happened to me not long ago. The man earned his spot in my life and I appreciate his good looks and sometimes flattered him for that. I always told him when I like to see certain picture or which pic of him was my favourite. Maybe he felt so flattered. Maybe he thought [256] doesn’t compliment people that easily. Ok, fine. He had his reasons. One thing he did not know, I NEVER save any of his 10% picture(s) in my laptop, not to mention in my handphone. He caught me with a sweet question, “You did save the pic in your lappy, right?” Then I took a long moment to answer. Darn, I hate to lie. “Errrrr…Of course yes! I told you I like the pic, right…” Damn, I might not be a good liar, but he didn’t have a liar detector. Hahahaha. I NEVER asked him if he did save my pictures. I assumed that he was just like me. If I think that I won’t put his pic in my wallpaper, I won’t expect him to do the same to my pic. I was wrong about him. But he was wrong about me too.

I did save the pic of his car, his tattoos, his trophies… But NEVER his 10%. I may think he’s handsome, but don’t ask me why, I am NOT interested to keep the pics of his 10%. My take is very simple. I don’t need the pic of his 10% if he’s really meant to be in my life. I don’t and won’t keep a 10% of someone who might end up with someone else. Yeah, you heard me. So…I might like handsome guys, but I am so not obsessed with your 10%. It just works on first impression. The rest of it, I care more if he's a piece of my destiny. There's a sweet twist to this. Being a person who has a soft sport for guys's handsome 10%, I still think a guy's value only has a little to do with his 10% and what you like in a guy is NOTHING just about his 10%.

We don't love a guy because of his 10%, but if we love a guy we will love his 10%, even if he's not Mr. Universe. :)

One Great Way To Learn A Man

One obvious way to learn a man is how he speaks of the ladies in his life. How he speaks of his ex girlfriend(s) to the things that he comments about his female friends and the female that he saw on the street. He couldn’t hide so much because from how he see things with other women is how we gonna see things with you.

If he complains that the female friend’s butt is too big for her, you know he’s doing the same ridiculous observation on your body contour . If he thinks that a female is “not that pretty because her chin is too slanted”, that means he would find a way to evaluate you so much on your looks. If he comments that the lady who just passes by looks really funny wearing a slipper at town, u know that he cares about the silly details of how you gonna make impression with other people with how to present yourself in public.

The words that he speaks about the other women will also show you how much he would respect a lady. If he speaks about his mom and sisters in the most respectable manner, you know that you will earn that respect too if you become someone special in his life. So the guys can pretend to see you like a princess in the early stage of courtship, he couldn’t mislead you anymore than he already did before he started giving comments about the other ladies in his life.

For me personally, if he has to go against me to protect and to stand by the important women in his life from getting bad reviews from me, this is actually A Very good sign that this man will stand by my side and this man will also fight for me if I become part of his life. Yes, I don’t mind if he has to almost lose the relationship with me because at the end of the day, we ladies realize even more that sugar-coated words are only a man’s sword to win our heart at the beginning but how he gonna treat us in the long run is what matters more. If one day he has to pick between you and her sister, it’s a good sign that he picks his sister. You can see it right away how he sets priority in his life and he must be really rational to know that Family Must Come First and a responsibility towards his family is number one; even if he has to put his romantic relationship on the line. If this man becomes your husband one day, you’ll know why you should be thankful for that.

So men…it isn’t hard to read you guys actually. You can’t pretend to be a Prince Charming if you can’t even speak the right language to your own mom. We know we have to decide once again if it’s worth it to spend another year with you trying to figure out what kind of a life partner you would become.

So…Treat The Ladies Nicely, you guys… :)

The Cost Of Her Smile

“I want to eat sweets. Can you buy some for me?” You say, “Sweets? It’s bad for your teeth. It’s too childish. Later la I buy you some Ferrero Rocher but I buy when I have the time to go to the mall. “But I want the sweets, now” she insists. “Alaa..no need la. I’m sure you like the chocolate more. Later la ok?” But the grocery shop that sells sweets is very near from them. How much do the sweets might cost? It’s as cheap as 3 sweets for 20 sen and for that little cost, why do you give so many excuses just because you think you know what is better for her. You never know that the little request is all she asks for. And you never know that your inability to fulfill her smallest request tell her a lot about how much she actually means to you. If you think her request is too small for her to pout if you exchange it with someone bigger, you can be wrong. If you think that she won’t care if you don’t fulfill it as long as you have bigger things in mind, you are wrong. The sweets could be all she wants and yes, because of your reluctance, you could hurt her so badly. Unless she’s really no one to you, maybe you don’t care. What if she’s the person that you care the most?

It’s funny when sometimes we still find excuses for the simplest thing. What can be simpler than a little request from the person that you care so much. Even when the request is too ridiculous or quite laughable, it could mean a lot to the person. It could be as simple as buying sweets, but it could lead to arguments that cause both of you heartache and tears that might put your relationship in jeopardy. Sometime this is what we do subconsciously. The easiest thing become the hardest thing because we think that the person we love must be asking for the universe before she can be happy. Why make life difficult – if she asks for the simplest thing, give her that simplest thing.

At the end of the day, you’ll realize that The Cost Of Her Smile is not about how much, how expensive or how big. It’s the thoughts from you that she can feel from the little things that she asks for. You’ll realize that to feel hurt in the end just because you have hurt someone you love is – Almost Stupid, when it is all caused by your insensitivity that you don’t believe that the little things are actually all it cost to make her smile. :)

…Bukan Yang Cantik

I overheard perbualan dua orang salesgirls yang sedang berdiri sambil tunggu customer. Maybe di kedai baju tu. I don't remember sebab benda ni berlaku berminggu yang lalu. Sorang tu yang kenampakan sibuk bercakap dan sorang tu lagi dengar. And ngam2 time sia limpas tu…sia dengar this part,

"Semua ada yang cakap mau yang jujur la, setia la, macam2 la, tapi teda satu pun yang cakap dorang mau yang cantik."

Masa tu, I couldn't help but smile sebab I think the girl yang bercakap tu baru baca dari satu magazine or dengar dari radio tentang "Apa ciri2 idaman yang ada pada perempuan yang dicari oleh lelaki." Believe it or not, I was once in the girl's shoes too. That time I was still wondering apa yang dicari oleh seorang lelaki pada seorang perempuan. Cos dalam macam2 reason tu, satu benda yang the girls CONFIRM yang lelaki akan cari. Iaitu that girl mesti CANTIK.

But the more you read or hear, memang betul JARANG yang terang2 cakap mau yang cantik. Like that one is cliché already. Dorang start sudah cakap pasal quality lain such as understanding la, pandai hormat orang tua la…macam2 la. Semakin banyak membaca dan mendengar, lama2 bila tiba2 terjumpa a guy asyik bercakap pasal kualiti fizikal – Sia mau yang cantik, yang seksi and bla bla bla…suddenly u tengok dia lain2. You rasa yang this guy betul2 immature and belum kenal dunia.

I mean, generally, when we grow up, we tend to judge everything from the physical. Cos itulah satu language yang "tidak payah orang ajar". As long as u have eyes yang healthy, you see something and then get the impression from it. If apa yang u nampak tu something nice, you akan suka. So as we grow up, that very basic thing actually terbawa-bawa. Mata kita ni memang suka tengok yang nice2 only. Tapi sebenarnya – MUNGKIN juga yang "apa yang sedap dilihat oleh mata" kita ni sebenarnya terhenti di sana saja. Sebab impression yang lahir dari pandangan tu cuma Itu Kulit Buku ba guys. Hehehehehe. Itu isi buku belum tau lagi.

Dan mungkin juga lah lelaki2 yang tidak meletakkan kecantikan seorang perempuan tu sebagai criteria yang dicari pada gadis idaman dorang tu sebenarnya sudah PERNAH KENA sebiji sebab pernah mengejar2 si cantik dan akhirnya find out bahawa oleh kerana terlalu obsess dengan kecantikan dia tu saja, akhirnya he learnt a lesson. Sebab finally dia sedar yang setakat cantik dan sedap mata memandang tu saja nda ke mana pun. Satu kali u find out perangai dia teruk, baru u sedar yang apalah ada pada wajah yang cantik. That's why la, from experience dorang sendiri or experience kawan2 dorang, maybe dorang pun find the middle way bahawa bagus cari dulu kualiti itu dan it's a bonus if she's pretty. Another quality yang I think the guy SURE paling suka antara kualiti2 lain yang maybe dorang pun nda sedar – dorang mau perempuan yang SAYANG dengan dorang. Kalau tu perempuan serba-serbinya bagus, tapi dia tidak pun tengok ke arah you, sama juga you akan terus mencari perempuan yang buat you rasa like "the real man" yang tengok u as someone yang boleh protect dia, and orang yang dia boleh harap dan akan rindu you when you jauh and worry if you sakit. Masa ni baru u tau yang "Babai sajalah" dengan kecantikan itu semua. Banyak benda lain lagi yang jauh lebih penting dan berbaloi dalam mencari pasangan yang sesuai untuk spend life sampai hujung nyawa.

So untuk golongan2 perempuan yang diwakili oleh salesgirl yang sia terlimpas tu ari…now kamu jangan heran lain kenapa perempuan2 yang kamu nampak as Si Plain Jane tu pula yang "jauh lebih laku" daripada kamu yang kununnya Si Cantik Manis yang semua akan tinguk bila u limpas. So don't worry so much la about cantik or tidak cantik, sebab tu semua di mata kamu ja. Lelaki yang bakal jadi pasangan kamu tu ada mata dia sendiri. Bukan pun dia minta pinjam mata kamu. Hehehehe. So jangan decide for him sebab dia sendiri yang akan decide if you're "pretty" or not. Dan IF he thinks that you're pretty and you tidak setuju sebab you tinguk di cermin you tidak juga macam tu Snow White, then now you know apa yang dia maksudkan itu adalah you have the BEAUTY yang dia cari, dan beauty yang dia cari tu bukan sama definition sama yang si beauty pageant. So if you ask me, of all the qualities yang ada sama kita, I think itu "Cantik" akan ditaruh di pisuk2 so inda apa la kalau inda menang tu Unduk Ngadau ba… Ingat tuu…dorang mau cari yang baik, yang bersopan santun, yang pandai masak, yang bijak…all of that…dan Bukan Yang Cantik ba…*giggles.

Is He The One?

The Valentine’s Day is coming up. I know that most of those who are in the courtship are especially very nervous and excited for the day cos this is the time that you guys gonna reveal “more” of your affection for each other.

What IF one clairvoyant comes to you and says, “She/He’s not the one for you. The right one is still out there.” What would you feel? Of course when the emotions are running high, of course you would answer the clairvoyant back, “She has everything I want! She must be the one!” Then it’s the time to ask you…

“How do you know if she’s the one?”

I have been browsing around Oprah’s website lately and I spent some time reading about Soul mates theory. Oh man, I have actually written about The Theory of Soul-Mate long ago and I have published it some time in this blog. So Soulmate theory is nothing new to me. But I’m not here to mend the theory based on other people’s opinion. I just want to highlite One Point that about the idea of our Mr/Miss Right.

We heard A LOT. And then we also ask for A LOT. Oh boy. Come to think about it, some of our requirements are not realistic at all. What we want is not Mr/Miss Right, but Mr/Miss Perfect!! Hahahahahaha. Nevermind. You guys will learn sooner or later that Nobody’s perfect! So maybe this is when you will make use of this One Point that I am going to highlite here.

According to what I read from the website that I can agree with, which I write back using my own words and understanding; - The Right One is the one who can make you progress as a better human being as time goes by. The person doesn’t necessarily be everything you want by the time you meet him, but YOU will lead him and be that best version of human being, and at the same time, he makes you progress as a better human being too.

So she might be hot and beautiful – but she doesn’t make you be a better person in the real sense of human values – it will all be temporary. Having a partner is NOT all about showing off or bragging to your friends that you get the best girl on demand. No. This is more than just superficial. If the person is fun to be with at the time but doesn’t contribute to your self-progression, I think that gonna spell the end for you guys too. Cos if that connection doesn’t exist, both of you are said NOT to be right for each other. At the end of the day, you will understand that relationship is not just meant for a year or two, but it’s for the person to stay beside you through thick and thin, and achieve great things together. Imagine what a boring and meaningless life could be with both of you are not “growing” in many senses cos life changes with time. You need to keep in pace and still be happy with each other.

Yes, maybe I have thought so long before. Though I didn’t have the proper words for it that time, but I just knew that I was holding back TOO MUCH of myself just because I dated the wrong kind of guy. I didn’t ask for someone who have the same interest as me, but at least he appreciates the passions and the talents that I have. And he just supports and let me pursue what I want. If you’re dating someone who’s “holding your breath” – Uh-oh…maybe that’s a red signal over there. Cos the longer you spend with that person, imagine how much you are wasting for yourself. We ain’t gonna live forever. So it’s not too late yet. If you’re in a steady relationship, this definitely is the time to re-examine whether or not your partner is The Right one for you to “till death do us part” with. Hehehe.

Some people who are lucky have found their match and have accomplished great things together. For the rest of us, as long as we are still breathing…the Hunt is on. So whether or not your partner is The One, now you have the clue :)

Si Mata Keranjang

Sepa mata keranjang sini???

/me angkat tangan!!!!!

Hahahahahahahahahahaahahaha.

Haa! Silap kamu if u think lelaki ja mata keranjang. Actually…perempuan pun mata keranjang jua baa! Betulllll…nda caya ka??

Perempuan mata keranjang ni…macam lelaki juga. Kadang2 pandai cover line. Kununnya muka innocent bila ada lelaki limpas, padahal satelit dia sudah analisis tu. Oh, kiut ka tu lelaki. Then analisis badan dia lagi. Adakah ketinggian dia ngam sama badan dia. And what about his hair?? Ngam ka tidak dengan muka dia? And then tengok tu arms dia, ada muscle ka tidak? If got muscle nampak so masculine. Diam2 dia piwit kamu tu dalam hati. Hehehehehe

Itu baru yang basic2. Bila ngam sudah di mata dia, dia analisa tu baju yang dia pakai. Ngam ka tidak, or pandai dressing ka tidak. Pas tu, dia tinguk tu seluar. Kalau sikit silap pun, tidak ngam sudah di mata dia. Kalau semuanya mcm okay ja, tapi tiba2 nampak dia punya baju tuck out, inda ngam…Ohooo…Warna seluar tu, ngam ka tidak dengan warna baju. And then what about his shoes. Got socks or not.

And then when he walks by…do you think that only the men will look at the girl’s butt? Hahahaahahahahaha. The girls will also look at your butt as your walk. They also complain is your butt is a little too big for you or otherwise. (*Lols). So actually bukan perempuan ja yang have to worry about hips size…thank YOU for sharing this burden with us, MEN! *Lols.

Jadi…[256], adakah kau mengaku kau ni mata keranjang? Oh well, macam gini saja la. Inda jua la sia mau mengaku, but kalau kamurang paksa jua sia mengaku, sia TERPAKSA jua mengaku untuk menyenangkan hati kamurang tuu…Sampai gitu sekali kan. Baikk sungguhh. (/me berabis ketawa)

Silap haribulan…perempuan punya “Proses Analisis Ke Atas Spesimen Cromosome XY” adalah jauh lagi detail. Siap tinguk lengan tu lelaki. “Ishhh…Gali pula sia tinguk so hairy o that guy…Aiyaaa~!! Yaiii!! ” And then, masa kamurang minum2 depan dia tu, jan kamurang nda tau dia ble detect tu daki di kuku kamurang that. Bila kamu ketawa, dia tinguk tu gigi kamu kalau dia ble nampak plak2 gigi yang kelihatan. (/me pingsan tawa)

And then, bila ada satu lelaki limpas, mata dia pun akan ikut that guy…dengan terang-terang dinampak oleh lelaki yg sedang duduk semeja dengan dia. Ishh…Lelaki pun pandai jua tapuk2 woo…perempuan lagi yg kadang2 lagi staring dari kamurang that. Kalau hensem dan bergaya, lagilahh mata dia ikut tu lelaki sampaiiiiiiiiilahh saaaannaa Ranauu…Nah, apa macam, ada fight ka?

So the women sekarang, more than ever, TAU yang bukan dorang saja yang jadi Subject of evaluation kepada kaum lelaki cos Now dorang pun pandai juga guna mata dorang dengan bulu mata melentik tu untuk BALAS BALIK kepada kaum lelaki. If u think kamu ja boleh mock a lady sebab her butt is too big for her, Guess what? Now it’s Fair and Square. Kamu akan tekejut kalau kamu tu, even back in schooldays, my friend sudah label this teacher sebagai “kelebihan berat” di punggung sebab she always saw him naik his motor. Uinaa…Tu mataaaa…Menganalisis kaitu geng?

Hahahahaahahahahahahaahhahaahhaha…Layan ketawa jap.

Then my pengakuan ikhlas is…Yes, I AM a mata keranjang punya kategori. But not in the sense untuk mencari kekurangan lelaki tu. I always adore a guy for kelebihan dia. But memang sia jenis suka tengok…sia nda segan2 pusing kepala untuk tengok the guy dengan lebih lama. It’s like Appreciating the view ba tu…Ha, sama mcm kamu jua ba. Tapi the guy must have something yg menarik perhatian sia, baru la sia mau tinguk lama. Ha, sama mcm kamu juga kan? Jadi apa beza antara kita?

I remember kawan lelaki sia ni – whoooa…Pandai betul dia cover line. Kalau kau tinguk dia ni, mata tidak pandai merayap pun. Asyik sibuk bercakap tentang kerja, bagi penerangan kepada orang yg datang sama dia. Kalau kau limpas, kau rasa dia tidak pun tau yg kau limpas sebab dia betul2 buat expression yang kununnya dia nda peduli. Satu kali bila sia akhirnya ada chance cakap dengan dia one to one, dia cakap dia sudah pasang satelit since day one lagi. Dia pakai ujung2 mata dia untuk tengok how I eat, how I walk, how I dress, how I talk dan macam2 lagi. Siap laporan ba, bilang si Jojon. *Lols. “How come I didn’t sedar u do all that?” He said, “Ha, jangan silap. Kau pikir lelaki mau kasi tunjuk ka?” Nahh… kalah sudah kamurang oo guys… Sia tinguk pun tidak tapuk2 woo… Apa macam ni geng?

Are we ladies are more Honest about our Wandering Eyes or what? Even in this, we can still manage to do it courteously and pleasantly in the name of PowerSharing ba…so next time, you ladies jangan complen2 dengan your man why mata dia selalu wandering masa keluar makan dengan kau – jan banyak cakap…BALAS balik baa…Kalau dia mau rasa Oren ka, Mangga ka, yang penting u buat balik apa yang dia buat – let him decide apa Perisa yang dia rasa or…is it kana gigit semut itam or semut api. If you think kamurang ja ada THOSE NASTY EYES, you guys are totally wrong.

We Are Now EVEN!! Yesss!!!!! (Hahahaahahahahhaahahahahahahahhahaha :PPPPP)

NOTE: Want to know ciri2 lelaki yang menarik perhatian sia? Senang jaa…Sepa2 yg dapat rapat dengan sia tu, memang dorang ada ciri2 tu… EhemMMmmmmm…ada la yang blushing ni kan. Hahahahahahaaha.

Have a Blessed Monday ya :)

His 5 WisHes

Whatta sweet start for another Ice-Breaking session this year!! Hahahaha. Since August 2008, who would have guessed that Ice Breaking still happens between me and my readers after posting almost than 500 posts in this blog. Hahahahahaahha. Isn’t that intriguing?

Read the topic again…Who is “His” that I’m referring to? He might not be my earliest reader but I can say that he’s one of the most loyal readers of My Conscience (Yeah, that’s the name of my babyblog). Actually, I know that I have quite a few silent readers. This guy isn’t considered silent anymore, but he decides to break the silence to another level when he got the chance to chat with me in private message yesterday. He told me that he visits my blog almost everyday. He asked me, “Do you believe that?” I was not surprised at all. I said, “I do.” I always suspected that it was his address that visits my blog everyday, a few times a day sometimes. So you know, this reader isn’t a stranger to my blog anymore. He also posted comments quite frequently. I don’t think he appreciates if you guys want to guess. Hahahaahahahahahaha. If you have anyone in mind, save it! *Lols.

I remember that he complained that I was not so generous about my details the last time he private messaged me. So yesterday, I actually let him have all the time in world to chat with me. Actually, I recalled that he did private messaged me months ago – that he wanted my YM or anything so that he could get to know me more. Because of my freaking policy, I wasn’t generous with all that. That time, he was not more than a new chatter to me, so did anyone say Ice Breaking with [256] is easy?

So yesterday, he actually caught me in the right timing when I could actually spend the time chatting without really having to chase the time. Actually he started the chat with apologizing that he didn’t drop any comment in my blog as of late. Doiii…why do you have to say sorry for that? Hahahaahahaha. You guys, stop making me feel like I was still that sulky daddy’s girl and, in her adult version; a reader has to say sorry for not dropping comment just to say, “[256], I’m still around. I still read your blog everyday. Please accept my apology because I couldn’t think clearly enough to write something in the comment box. ” Ouch?? Hahahahahahaahahahahahha. It’s like giving me a chocolate bar, coaxing me to not pulling a long face…Ohhh Don’t Sulk, ok? My goshh stop it!! Oh Nowww I’m laughing. Hahahahaahahahaha.

The most interesting part is that, slightly longer than 30 minutes on the clock, he actually said, 1 of his 5 wishes about me has been granted. I was like, “What??” He said that the 1 of the 5 wishes is to have a chat with me more than 30 minutes. Hahaahahahahahaaha. It was from 2.10 PM, according to him. (Sorry, I wasn’t the clock keeper in this case, ok? Hahahaahaha) Wow, isn’t that interesting? I already know the second and the third wishes, and the 4th one is predictable. But the 5th wish – I couldn’t guess. I hope it’s nothing funny, ok? Heheheehehehe.

Well, the second wish is already granted. It was a detail about me. I didn’t mind about it because I believe more than one person already know about it. But the 3rd wish is about being the 7th person to have it so you must earn it. You can guess what. Hehehehe.

Speaking of the first wish that I was generous enough to grant, he was asking for 30 minutes, he get 3 hours. How about that? Hahahahahahaha. I want to say thanks to him because spending more than 3 hours chatting wasn’t hard at all!! (but I must cut it into half if I really count his silent moment typing and thinking what to write Hahahahaa) In those hours, he got to tell me why he likes my blog and he made a little comparison of my blog with the other chatters’ blogs.

I must say that – he actually likes my blog for the BEST reasons I can ask for. He appreciates my writings the most that I could hope for. He understands and sees the value of my every writings. It’s from the chat with him that I realize even more than not every bloggers treat their blog the same way. Some bloggers write just for fun. They write the pieces they could and forget about it. I’m not like that, and he appreciates it. My blog is my passion. I told him that before we even have blogs, I already started writing and keep it in my pc even though nobody is reading. So you know why I was a bit excited when I finally have the right channel to share my writings with others. Isn’t this what Passion all about? It is for me. Maybe you guys have to go back to my post, “Do you feel my passion?” I think this reader feels it. Hehehehe. I bet he does.

I want to say that I really do appreciate it. You don’t know how rewarding it is to have one person says what you want to hear about your work. My work is everything to me. I don’t even care to be recognized. So if you can tell me you like my work, that’s enough. I don’t need to hear more compliments about the hands that do the work. I want you to come here for my blog and not for me! I’m just a 3-digit number so don’t bother about me. (Hahahaahahahahahahahahaha)

My point is simple. If you like something for the right reasons, you will have this rare experience of delight in your heart. Other people don’t have to agree with you to make you feel it. So in whatever part of life that you do it, it’s very rewarding to just appreciate the beauty of something in its most natural meaning and sense. Just let it be real.

Speaking of His 5 Wishes, I can’t promise I can grant all 5. Or I hope he doesn’t add more on the list of wishes coz that’s gonna be a quite a task for me to fulfill. Hahaahahahahahaahahahahaha.

Oh well, that’s interesting. You guys are fun, aren’t you? *giggles.

NOTE: 5 is quite humble, don’t you think? But that’s already 2 wishes more than what the Genie in the bottle would grant you. I’m playing the generous Genie here, oh yayy… *Lols

The Demanding Girlfriend

I remember talking to my bestfriend when she was caught in triangle love between two men. One man was a special boyfriend and the other one was an old classmate who always had a crush on her. My friend was in love with her boyfriend, and the other guyfriend was showing a lot of affection to my friend since college years. My friend knew that the guyfriend still put hopes on her.

My friend was one example of a very demanding girlfriend, I must say. It was actually the first time that I heard a lady speaks of how firmly she wanted to be treated as a special girlfriend. Because the boyfriend was working in Peninsular, my friend was always accompanied by the guyfriend who would do anything to win her heart. I could say that my friend was starting to have “a second thought” especially when the boyfriend didn’t care much about special occasions. The other guy was gradually winning her attention.

I remember hearing her commenting on her situation. I remember feeling a bit suspicious about my friend’s stand. I mean, her boyfriend might not be there all the way, but since he was the boyfriend, she shouldn’t just simply punish him for that. It shouldn’t be an easy excuse for my friend to just change her heart.

“I don’t know what’s with him. Even if he’s far, he must at least send me a flower or maybe fly here to surprise me – Do Anything just as long as he does something to show me that he cares. He Must Keep Me Excited if he wants me to stay. He cannot stop “trying” when he’s already my boyfriend. He must still do something to let me know that I’m special”

Then I thought, “Wow…that’s very demanding!”

My friend said that when she told that to the boyfriend, the boyfriend answered, “Don’t hope for special treatments from me. I’m not good with that.”

Guess what? She wasn’t kidding. She really dumped her boyfriend not long after for the old classmate who could provide her with all the “excitements” that she wanted. Finally she didn’t mind picking “an easy catch” to a big jaws…just as long as the guy is willing to put extra effort to show her that he cares.

Another female friend spoke to me. She was another case. She has boyfriends all over the place. I tell you, I think I should learn from them. *Lols. She told me, she has a condition for every guy who wants to be her boyfriend. “He MUST call or sms me EVERYDAY.” If he misses a day or two with an excuse, I would forgive. But if it reaches one week without call or sms, automatically he’s not my boyfriend anymore.”

Then again, I was, “Ahh? Ouch!”

Oh well, That’s Very Demanding. Hahaahahaha Most of these ladies who are fit to be called A Demanding Girlfriend are usually those who are “the ladies on demand” where at least 2 men are craving for their love. So no wonder they become that demanding right?

Or else…maybe we don’t need to be popular to be demanding. Maybe this is exactly what we should do, don’t you think so?

To the men…don’t you think we, as the most special lady in your life, should demand for a special treatment from you? Don’t you think when you are late you should explain to us why? Don’t you think you should feel guilty when you don’t return our call or reply our sms? Don’t you think you should soft-talk us when there’s something that you want to speak to us, even if it’s the simplest matter of “don’t wear that dress in public”? Don’t you think we deserve more respect, that you can’t simply raise your voice and accuse us doing something we don’t do? I mean, the way you do things to other people, don’t you think we deserve to be treated slightly better? If we sulk or pout, don’t you think you should do something to coax us and make us smile again and tell us that everything is not as bad as we thought? Isn’t being your special girlfriend is an enough reason to demand for all that?

Then after this, hopefully you don’t complain to us why we ask for too much. As a matter of fact, I don’t think we ask for too much. We deserve to be asking it all to begin with. If we can’t even ask to be treated more special than normal, what’s the point of being the most special lady in your life?

Fair enough? *giggles.

Note: Treat Your Girlfriend Good, Ok?

"I Still Love You"

Semalam, ada sorang kawan perempuan sia ni SMS sia. Semalam tu adalah hari pernikahan jejaka idaman dia. Dia sempat lagi ada affair dengan that guy a few months ago. Masing2 ada tunang. So gara2 terikat dengan komitment masing2, byk hati yg mau dijaga, akhirnya dorang terpaksa cuba lepaskan sesama sendiri.

Masing2 sayang menyayangi…spent time together, and then had to let each other go. Ini semua gara2 lelaki tu yg nda cukup satu. Pegi goda tunang orang, sedangkan sendiri pun sudah bertunang. And then…mula la menyalahkan takdir. Well, sometimes memang silap sendiri kan?

So semalam, lelaki tu finally bernikah sama tunang dia yang dia lebih dulu jumpa daripada kawan sia ni. Dorang masih sempat cakap di telefon. Cara dorang ni, seolah-olah yang lelaki tu mau “jalan” sudah. *Lols. You guys sedar that? Kadang2 perkahwinan orang yang kita sayang-but-we-can’t-be-together-with, seolah-olah adalah Noktah. Almost like, A Goodbye, pergi yang nda akan balik2 lagi. Hahahaahahaha. Lucu pula.

So dorang ni sempat juga la bercakap di phone dan mengucapkan “kata2 akhir” sebelum yang si lelaki tu akad nikah. Sia paham apa kawan sia rasa. Dia bagitau sia dia menangis juga sebab teringat balik semua kenangan dorang. Dan yang buat dia tambah sayu, the guy sempat cakap, “I Still Love You.”

Doiii???

Hahaahahahahahaha. Okay [256], don’t be rude. I know the guy, I know the girl. So I know apa cerita dorang ni. Sia ada reason untuk ketawa kalau sia dengar benda2 macam tu keluar dari mulut lelaki tu. Lelaki tu buaya darat gigi tembaga ba guys. Hahahahaahaha. Ayat2 cinta tu semua macam teda ja sama dia. Dia suka2 ja main tabur2 like that…sedangkan perempuan yg dengar tu bukan main lagi sampai nda tidur malam. Sedangkan dia mau nikah sudah pun dia masih lagi cakap benda tu dengan perempuan lain. Ada nilai ka love tu sama dia ni?You guys know apa sia cakap dengan kawan sia?

“Sia pun buli cakap ba macam tu!! Lagi hebat punya pun sia buli cakap. Apa juga, setakat cakap. Budak kici pun buli.” (Hahaahahahahahahahahaha)

Sia geram sebab kawan sia ni nda pandai serik2. Sudah pun dia tau tu lelaki playboy, masih lagi dia nda serik. InilaH kalau hati sudah suka. Memang payah. My question is…

Kalau cinta sayang setakat di mulut, apa juga kan? Kalau kau betul2 cinta, dari awal u fight for it ba. Both pun belum kawin masa jumpa dulu. Semuanya belum terlambat pun. But nothing changed juga. Still juga that guy hanya tau cakap manis ja. Untuk kasi pujuk hati kawan sia tu, dia cakap dia mau buat kawan sia jadi bini number dua. Suka2 ja cakap kan. Sudah2 la drama ni semua.

Apa pun…mungkin sia tidak patut cakap macam tu. Sepa tau dalam hati dorang tu kan? Come to think about it…Marriage ni belum pun ending kepada cerita dorang ni ba. Though sia tidak sokong kecurangan rumah tangga, but it won’t change anything, right? Kalau orang mau curang, dia still akan curang, right? So rasa lucu pula bila dorang cakap macam seolah-olah lelaki tu mau jalan yg nda akan balik2 lagi. Heheheehehe. Seolah-olah itu adalah phonecall yg terakhir. Padahal…lepas tu akad nikah pun dia masih boleh dial number tu perempuan and sambung cerita! Hahahahahahaha.

My point is… semuanya ada pada hati ba. Daripada apa yang kita tengok berlaku di dunia sekarang ni, pertunangan, perkahwinan, dan semua ikatan2 ni, looks like makeover pula. Semua mekap2 saja. Dalam hati tu lain. Kalau dia kawin berapa puluh kali pun, kalau hati tidak jujur mau cinta pasangan, kejadiannya tetap sama. Maybe we should kurangkan cerita2 ni.

Try to be with the one who you love and loves you, The Most.

Mungkin harap2 kita ble kembalikan the sacredness of wedding vows ni kan. :)

Note: So u heard someone saying “I still love you” to you on his wedding day? Freaking kidding me. Who cares what you say. It’s about what you do. Biar la cinta dia sebesar mana, but look – he’s marrying someone else. So u guys pikir la sendiri. Don’t toy too much with feelings ba. Sudah2 la tu.

"…But Do You Know What The Millionaires Are Looking For?"

I watched this Oprah show not long before. It made me laughed.

This episode discussed about “What the women look for in a man”, something like that la. So ada this lady, maybe represents the women out there yang belum jumpa Mr Right dia. The problem could be, Why dia belum jumpa lelaki idaman dia? So kes dia ni dijadikan study case.

So they asked her apa criteria lelaki idaman dia? My Gawdd… Punyalah high taste tu perempuan. Betul2 menggelikan hati. Benda2 macam tu we only speak when kita masih budak2 yang tidak tau banyak benda. Even benda2 yang kecil2 pun dia put dalam criteria dia. It’s like, combination of permintaan cliché perempuan2 di dunia ni. Semua sifat2 baik yang ada pada lelaki yg serba serbinya baik, dan menyayangi dan berkerjaya. Boleh dikatakan, perempuan ni betul2 inginkan seorang lelaki yg SEMPURNA, teda sikit pun cacat celahnya. Dia mau yg handsome, baik, penyayang, bertanggungjawab dan… tidak cukup dengan permintaan tu semua, dia mention lagi yg dia mau itu lelaki ada MILIIONAIRE… Maksudnya, sudahlah perangai teda cacat celahnya, muka pun serba serbi kacak belaka, still, SHE WANTS A MILLIONAIRE, guys…

I must take this moment to layan my ketawa kejap.

HAHAAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

Doiiii?? Dia buat lawak ka apa ohh? Sukar mau dipercaya yang ada perempuan yg ada citarasa begitu tinggi. I wonder di mana dia hidup all this while. Sure ka dia hidup di bumi ni juga? Hehehehehehehe. Cos untuk seorang perempuan dewasa, sepatutnya hidup sudah ajar dia bahawa KESEMPURNAAN itu tidak wujud baaa… Doiiiii. Matai laaaaa… *Lols. (256 <-- confirm tekejut tahap gaban ni urg ni. *Lols)

So the guest speaker masa tu, who is a famous author (not famous enough for me to remember his name laa…heheheeheh :P). Lepas ja dia dengar apa perempuan tu mau, dia cakap ni…

“That would be, The Lord.”

All the audience ketawa. Memang pun lawak gila. Memang pun God saja yang begitu sempurna ba. Then dia tanya soalan ni balik, “But do you know what the millionaires are looking for?”

Hahahaahahahahahahahaaha. Kalau sia jadi tu perempuan, sia rasa sia akan feel embarrassed. Bukanlah berniat untuk make the woman feel bad, yang seolah-olah permintaan terlampau tinggi, tapi adakah dia pernah pikir sama ada dia tu actually LAYAK untuk lelaki yg sebegitu sempurna?

Looking at the lady. She’s in fact very average overweight black American woman. I mean, speaking of PERFECTION… What does she expect a rich handsome guy would want in a lady? So…maybe she has to be realistic too. But this NOT to say yang dia physically tidak layak untuk tu, but permintaan dia tidak logic ba. Biasa la cara orang respond to this…I think supermodel like Amber Chia pun tidak minta yg lebih2 macam tu.

Actually, I felt a bit odd pula. Maybe a little upset too. If ramai perempuan macam tu, ladies…MEMANG TIADA baaa lelaki macam tu. Hehehehe. If ada pun, mesti dia kaki perempuan, tidak pegi sembayang and lain2 hal. At the end of the day, you have to adjust your requirement. Semuanya happen di hati ba tu. Tidak payah pikir banyak2. Ini semua tidak boleh pakai tuu. Kau minta macam2, tapi hati kau terpikat pula dengan orang yg keluar dari criteria tu. Nahh, masa tu baru kamu tau yang mau set standard dan criteria ni semua, just a waste of time bah :)

One more thing, just to make it more fun la kunun. Inda kisah la macamana outcome dia. But ADILKAH kalau sia cakap, sia mau lelaki sebaik yang sia mampu untuk become? If sia mau dia religious, sia pun kena religious juga ba kan? If sia mau my guy to be loyal, sia pun first kena ada that quality kan? Nahh, macam ni baru ngam. Jadi now you know why sia nda akan list panjang2 tentang criteria lelaki pilihan sia, sebab I know, benda tu semua tidak valid lagi. Akhirnya sia punya deria yg akan respond to that. As long as I’m attracted to that guy, I will let the rest run its course. Sinang cerita.

*giggles.

"My Hero"

I told this guy once. “You’re my hero”. He said, “Hahaha, you’re being funny again.” He didn’t believe it. He thought that [256] has a heart of stone. There’s no where she could look at me as…what…a hero? Freaking kidding me. He thought so.

Actually, I was telling the truth. I couldn’t describe why I had this feeling of “awe” as if I just saw a being that makes me feel “strong” when I saw him around. If he wasn’t there, I would look all over for him, secretly. Just the feeling of having him around made me feel safe and good. Yeah, that was strange enough.

Maybe because he has a very strong character. I think that’s very important for me. People with strong characters attract me easily. These people can make me shut up and listen to them. He has that. Despite me being fragile, he could be tough and hard on me, and still I find the way to understand, accept and live with it, without making that a reason to turn my back on him. Although he needs other characters that are bad enough to balance this rare quality, I still look at his strong points. I couldn’t explain WHY besides all that, I still think he’s cool.

And maybe it’s lucky, that he thinks high of me too. Maybe he didn’t call me anything near “My Heroin”, but he always told me that I’m Rare. “I can live all this life and find only one person like you. If I lose you, I don’t know if I can find someone like you again.” He told me that many times. Despite his harshness, those are among the few good things that sounded almost like sweet-talking, but this guy sucks at sweet-talking. He doesn’t know how to sweet talk because he has plenty of rough bones in his body. He’s totally a winner in shooting swears and curses. It left me hopeless in wanting to hear sugarcoated words guys always say. But still, he never failed to mention that “this unplanned” meeting with me, changed his initial plan. In a short time, I became that influential in his life that he even has a “special name” for me when he spoke of me to other people. He didn’t want these people to know who I am, but he wanted them to know that “he has a special friend” and you people don’t have to know who she is. When I tried to be open to other people that he and I are goodfriends, he said, “I don’t want others to know. Just as long as we both know.”

When I became comfortable about being friends secretly, he broke the rule. Suddenly he changed his mind. He didn’t mind if others know. Could it be that he wanted to secure his position in this friendship? He didn’t mind if a certain group of people know about our friendship, and he even wanted me to show to them that “he’s special” to me. I didn’t mind to play his game just a little. In the name of fun, why not. One thing I wasn’t sure if he knew was that…yes, he was special to me. He might not be the most gentle guy I know, but still, he was special. I met a few other goodfriends after him, who have almost all the better qualities than him…I still reserve the “hero” place for him.

I tried to explain this. Others might be good and gentle, but they become “ordinary” to me. The normal charming guys love to speak what I want to hear. They talk with the tone that is soothing to my ears. They always say nice compliments to brighten my day. Suddenly everything becomes cliché to me. I start to doubt if they really mean it or not. I’m looking for something that stands out in the crowd. I want something REAL. As far as I recall, life is not so gentle to us too. Then maybe anything too nice or too gentle is only fake. This guy, with all the glory of his harshness, made me think for a second that, he’s indeed the “most real” of them all. I didn’t have to worry when or where I gonna see the worse side of him, because he’s been showing it forever. For all those reasons, so if I were to award someone “My Hero”, as history has it, he was once the winner of that award.

And all that happened after listening to all the bad rumours going around about him. Even the people that I care, requested me to stop making friends with him. But I didn’t comply. Because I am an adult. I don’t just walk in and walk out from a friendship just because “people don’t like him”.

But maybe, fate has a way of telling us when things are not meant to be. Something happened and I made a decision to end it there. He was shocked and he wasn’t ready for it. He even threatened to do something silly if I ended the friendship. So I fixed my words and left it hanged so instead of a FullStop, it becomes a QuestionMark.

I never told anyone that trying to let go off “a hero” was not that easy. But I always know, replacing him was quite simple. Loadsa other guys can effortlessly substitute “that hero” place, but if I wanted to do so, I would have done it long before. But I realize that I would leave that place empty. I won’t substitute it just for the sake of having someone. I decided I could live without someone to reign as “a hero”.

The most interesting part is that, he might jump into conclusions about many things, but he always thought I was kidding when it comes to “being my hero.” Maybe he knows I don’t seem to need his protection. I don’t even look like I’m gonna make use of his strong arms for comfort. For him I was just good in my place and – “she doesn’t need a freaking hero.”

But a decision has been taken…I gave myself time to accept this as the best decision and try to be happy with it. I managed to get over my mighty hero. But I’m not sure if that mighty hero is Over me? With that heart of steel and face to save, he didn’t want to come and beg me --- to solve this QuestionMark. He waited for the time that I come crawling back to him. But it never happened. He has to know his match in this game of “Whose heart is the toughest?” I’ve told you guys, I usually win that game. Not because I want to win to feed my ego, but in this case, I honestly think that he’s only good to be memorize “as a hero” I once had. Anything more than that would be too much for him. He couldn’t meet any expectation beyond that.

For months, I should have realized that some of the funny things happened for a reason. I finally found out “my hero” is never over me. He’s been “stalking” me, watching me from afar and finding out my updates without me knowing. Now he’s showing the tendency to come back and CLAIM something from me. Now he lost the “toughest heart” game. He lost it. He came back to me first. But it’s not the game that matter.

I am NOT into it anymore. I don’t want to open a closed book. I thought that the chapter of “My Hero” has passed its time. Just by trying to make ways for him again, my cortisol is pumping into my bloodstream. It’s never normal with him. It’s always like this. I have to deal with unbearable pressure and stress when he’s in my life. Maybe others have the reason to tell me to “leave” that goblin. Yeah, a monster or a goblin, anything they referred him as, but guys…he was once “My Hero”.

I’ll remember him as once “My Hero”, I promise. As long as he doesn’t do anything bad and destroy the last pieces of good memories I have of him, I will always remember the good things about him. But sadly to speak, the best word I want to say to him now is…

Leave Me Alone.

You were ONCE my hero, but Not Anymore.

So just let me go :)

NOTE: Kalau suruh si 256 tulis bunga2, mimang dia la hero…*Lols… Tatapzzz… Hahahahahahahahahaha

Part II: The Value Of A Man

Check out the Part I for this post.

WARNING: This page is considered 18SX. It's advisable that you must have a good moral ground before you proceed.

Here’s a story that tells a lot.

This man is a married man, with 4 kids. His first child is reaching 20 years in a year or two. Imagine how long he has started to become a father. Being a government servant who seldom shows up in the office, he definitely is one type who are lucky to get the job but never grateful. He definitely fails as a worker. Luckily, his wife is working too. This man is dating my friend (she’s the Toxic Lady, refer to my older post). My friend has an obsession of going out with married men, because she was told by a fortune teller back in Thailand that she is destined with a married man. After hopping from one married man to another, she finally stuck with the Worst on the list. This man definitely breaks all the records. Almost unheard and unthinkable. Read on.

Affair this guy with my friend bukan rahsia lagi. Sebab benda ni sudah bertahan lebih dari 3 tahun. This toxic lady has a bad mission. Dia mau wreak marriage ini lelaki dan ikat that lelaki to be her man. Although this man is actually good for nothing, the toxic lady decides that dia tidak peduli tu semua. She announces that dia tidak perlukan lelaki untuk jadi leader or untuk tanggung dia. She only needs a man to be a bed partner, and according to her, this man memang very good in bed. Please take note that I don’t call her the Toxic Lady for nothing, okay? Now you know why I have taken out her name from my friendlist. She’s totally wild and out of this world. Walaupun dia anak orang berduit dan ada nama, she has a respectable career and luxury life, sepa sangka yang she still choose to be a “beggar” in love. Dia tidak peduli itu lelaki ada anak2. Yang dia tau, this 4$$hol3 memang not even good as a father to begin with. Not to mention, a good husband. He totally sucks in all his roles. She can take advantage and just try and sweep him away to be her “legal” companion,

Bila wife dia tau pasal affair husband dia ni, dia sudah pikir masak2 dan decides yang dia tidak boleh ubah anything. Mungkin dia pun pasrah yang husband dia tu betul2 S*x addict yang tidak boleh ditangani lagi. Dia lagi tau sebab that man is her husband. So untuk divorce pun teda guna. Anak pun semakin meningkat dewasa. Akhirnya pertimbangan sebagai seorang dewasa tu sangat2 diperlukan. Mau tidak mau, dia ketepikan harga diri dia dan TERIMA saja apa laki dia buat. As long as the husband still comes home and be the father to their children. Apa dia mau buat di luar, lantak la. The worst thing yang dia buat untuk lepaskan kemarahan dia tu adalah be on the phone with the toxic lady. Then jadilah conversation yg totally uncivilized between them. Keluar semua kata2 makian dan sumpahan. The worst thing adalah they actually bergaduh and compete about Who actually please the man better in bed!!!! Sia sendiri pun almost choked bila sia dengar cerita ni. Sia tidak sangka orang yg berpelajaran tu pun boleh cakap benda2 macam tu. Sillynya untuk sia rasa hairan. Itu sia belum kira lagi berapa banyak married men yang hidupnya jadi tunggang langgang oleh sebab dia. Those men yang pikir mau one nite stand saja, but terkena dengan si Toxic lady ni – kena kejar sampai lubang cacing. Nyaris2 rumahtangga dorang hancur just because they thought this Toxic lady is just another brainless p*s**. You guys pikir balik apa yang your d*ck does for you la. Mau tunggu sampai u kena roll kereta baru mau sedar?? (Woo….tulung kipas lu si 256 nii… *Lols)

Yang lebih teruknya, masa dia sudah start together with this toxic lady, that guy tetap mencari peluang mau scr*w other girls. And dia cakap terang2 dengan that toxic lady. The last one yang kami tau, he said to her he was looking forward to scr*w this 16 years old schoolgirl, just to prove is that young girl is still virgin or not. That girl yang dia pok tu pun lagi muda dari anak sulung dia, and maybe sama umur dengan salah satu dari anak dia. Can you imagine that? You pikir sendiri tamadun apa yg dia pakai. And this toxic lady sudah sign untuk diri dia jadi s*X machine yang Tiada perasaan untuk dijaga. She’s officially making herself the dumbA$$ of the Eve generation because that guy anggap dia macam “barang”. Kalau ada guna, baru cari. Kalau teda duit baru cari. Kalau mau “itu”, baru cari.

But apa pun, lelaki sorang ni betul2 pecah rekod. Tidak cukup dengan apa yang sudah dia buat, baru2 tu the Toxic lady found out that the man also scr*wed her own enemy, iaitu workmate dia yang memang musuh tradisi. Biarpun that woman is also married. Ini lah ceritanya kalau sudah berjumpa di kalangan ‘mereka2”. Akan keluarlah cerita yang akan buat kepala kamu meletup. Totally unthinkable.

Early this year, the toxic lady did something very silly. Her last resort untuk tame the wild guy is by letting herself get pregnant. She finally got pregnant of the guy’s child. She thought hati lelaki tu akan lembut dan sanggup tinggalkan keluarga dia and marry her. You guys know apa that lelaki cakap? “Kasi gugur tu anak. Sia tidak mau tu anak.” And then masa dia pegi clinic to get the procedure done, and inside the car, the guy bukan main senyum lebar. “Nasibbb baik…” Perasaan terlalu lega (“I just killed an unwanted human?”) Tidak cukup dengan pre-marital sex, and then suka2 getting planned pregnancy dengan lelaki yg bukan husband sendiri, I don’t know apa lagi mau cakap. Memang Toxic lady tu banyak silap juga. Tapi sebagai seorang lelaki, you are expected to be a leader kan? Kalau jumpa orang sesat, kamu mau sesatkan lagi? Di sini la letakkan pertimbangan kamu sebagai lelaki. Ada bangkai depan mata, mestikah kamu take advantage dari kekurangan perempuan macam si Toxic lady tu? Kalau kamu betul2 lelaki yang “Ada Value”, sia berani cakap dengan kamu yang kamu TIDAK akan dibawa oleh arus kesesatan tu. Jangan kamurang lupa yang dia ni husband orang, ada 4 anak yang panggil dia Bapa. Kenapa masih tidak tau apa2 pasal mau handle life ni? Dia punya tabiat buruk tidak mengenal siapa. Biarlah dia tu musuh girlfriend dia ka, or saudara bini dia ka, or anak buah kawan dia ka, kalau dia ada chance, dia akan sambar. Apa punya jenis lelaki ni? Ini lah contoh lelaki yang betul2 pikir guna d*ck dia. Sorry to say. Kalau dia pakai otak, sia tidak percaya ada org sanggup hidup mcm ni.

The other day, when I was on the phone with my bestfriend. We talked about kawan kami yang sudah sangat jauh tersesat ni. Now it’s like waiting What’s Next from her. Apa pun, sia bukan mau backup my friend ni. Sia sudah disown dia as my own friend, despite knowing her since we are 16 lagi. Bukan alang2 untuk sia simply mau disown kawan sia sendiri yang sudah lalui macam2 benda sama2. Sia terpaksa korbankan semua good points dia sebab cara hidup dia yang betul2 tersasar. Walaupun sia tau dia punya approach memang totally immoral, but I know dalam hati dia, dia mencari cinta. Dia mau disayangi. What to do if she’s not happy enough and grateful dengan family dia. Tapi she only wants a man untuk love dia, sayang seikhlasnya. But memang dia sangat susah mau jumpa. So at least she finds a man who can fill the blank space in her life. Dan untuk capai tu, dia tau kelemahan lelaki. Dia guna badan dia untuk dapat kasih sayang lelaki. Walaupun sudah entah berapa kali approach dia silap, berapa kali dia menangis dan diperbodohkan, dia tidak pandai serik. Yang dia tau, lelaki confirm akan datang tempat dia kalau dia offer apa yang dorang mau. In this case, I pity you guys if you let your other head do the thinking. Bukan salah kami kalau You Men tidak tau camana mau kawal nafsu. Gara2 nafsu kamu, keluarga kamu akan musnah. Gara2 nafsu kamu, reputasi kamu akan jatuh. Gara2 nafsu kamu, kamu akan kehilangan VALUE kamu sebagai seorang lelaki. I said that word to my bestfriend. “This guy totally Tiada Value. If derived to price tag, RM 0 ba. Totally No Value.”

Finally, sia masuk point utama kepada topik ini. What Is The Value of A Man?

Actually, we women tau yang kami tidak dapat harap lebih2 sangat daripada kamu. Kamu sendiri bagitau kami yang kamu akan menduakan kami in one way or another. Kami sendiri nampak dan tau macamana you guys are mostly lust-driven. Kami mau nangis pun teda guna, mau ketawa lagi la teda guna. Sebab mangsanya teda lain dan teda bukan, adalah perempuan juga. Kita mau judge pun susah cos dosa pahala tu urusan Tuhan. Cuma apa yang sia boleh simpulkan sebagai seorang perempuan, semua kejadian2 yang haru biru ni yang akhirnya membolehkan sia meletak NILAI pada seorang lelaki.

Kalau kamu semua macam tu, akibat nature kamu. Then we women kena berlaku adil dalam hal ini. Since that you guys are so helpless when the other head are getting “bigger” than the real head, then mungkin kita cerita macam ni saja la.

Sekurang2nya, macamana pun kamu punya hormon memang tinggi daripada lelaki normal, or kamu ada tarikan yang makes the girls glued to you, and kamu ada duit untuk afford lifestyle yang begitu, KAMU MESTI at least hidup dengan ada prinsip. PRINSIP is a big word to me. Macamana pun nafsu kamu tu tidak terkawal, kamu MUST ada rules yang kamu tidak boleh break. Kalau kamu kerja, kerja betul2. Jangan asyik pikir mau pok silap kawan2 ofis kamu yg seksi2 tu. Kalau sehamsap mana pun kamu, peranan sebagai abang kepada adik2 kamu tu tetap diutamakan. Biarlah kalau kamu terpaksa miss that chance untuk pok silap one lady, tanggungjawab kamu tetap di atas itu semua. Kalau kamu sudah kawin, kamu mesti utamakan anak bini kamu. Biar pun kamu terpaksa hilang kawan. Yes…sampai begitu sekali. Ini adalah rules yang UNBREAKABLE. Nothing should come above TANGGUNGJAWAB kamu. Kalau kamu ada anak, kamu ajar anak kamu betul2 untuk ke jalan kebaikan, biarpun kamu tu pun bukanlah sebaik mana. Kalau kamu seorang guru, kamu mesti concentrate on ajar student kamu biarpun student kamu tu sangat cute dan seksi. Kalau kamu dengan kawan2 perempuan kamu, kamu jangan sekali2 simpan niat buruk – “Manatau dia pok one nite stand dengan dia ni”. Orang percaya sama kamu, biar la dia tu hot hotchie lady ka, or what…kamu kena obey kepercayaan orang sama kamu. Ini yang sia maksudkan dengan hidup yang berprinsip. Biarpun kamu cakap kamu cuma lelaki biasa, tapi INI yang akan membezakan kamu dengan lelaki2 lain. Sebab hal2 begini lah yang meletakkan value atas diri kamu. Kamu akan ketepikan kelemahan kamu sebagai lelaki, sebab ada benda2 lain yang lagi penting daripada nafsu kamu. Senang cerita la. Lelaki yang ada pegangan adalah lelaki yang ada value di mata kami.

Contoh cerita di atas tu—adalah cerita tentang lelaki yg TOTALLY LOST IT. I told my bestfriend, if lelaki macam ni tiba2 vanish dari this earth, this earth sikit pun tidak rugi. That’s rude I know. Tapi dia sudah membuat pelanggaran hukum yang sangat2 terlampau. Hidup yang TIADA ARAH. Tiada Prinsip. Dia main hantam keromoh saja asal nafsu dia puas. Tapi u guys kena ingat. That Nafsu yang u guys mau kasi puas tu TIDAK akan pernah puas pun. Ini barang hanya akan lead u to kehancuran saja. Bagus lagi u guys pause and renung baru IF it’s worth it, or not. Sia betul2 kesian dengan org macam ni. Biarpun hidup ini cuma sementara, tidak semestinya kita guna tubuh badan kita ni dengan tidak berhemah. Sampaikan tidak peduli soal maruah dan harga diri. Biarpun kamu lelaki, kamu jangan pikir yang kamu ada lesen untuk scr*w around. Tidak payah cakap pasal hal dosa dan pahala. Kita semua pun ada dosa. Tapi it’s so unforgivable untuk live hidup ni tanpa peraturan dan prinsip. Sia2 la kita kena bagi apa yang telah dibagi pada kita. It’s umpama layang2 yang simply fly away ikut ke mana angin bawa dia. So you guys imagine la betapa tersasarnya tamadun yg kita bangga2kan ni. Sampaikan buli jadi kes Haruan makan anak. Why guys, why?

Actually…if benda ni pahit untuk ditelan, u imagine how worse it is for us women. Kami lagi banyak bebanan untuk ditanggung. Kami tidak payah jadi seteruk kamu untuk dapat mcm2 tohmahan. Setiap langkah kami semua dinilai. Cara kami berpakaian. Cara kami cakap. Orang belum tau lagi perangai kami sedalam-dalamnya, but already people are judging us, especially the Men, of course. Kana cakap pisau cukur la, slut lah, bitch la, Whoaaa…! Macam2 lagi lah! Jadi kalau kita terpaksa main banding2, actually cabaran kamu tidaklah seberat mana pun. Itu yang makes us women wondering…If ini pun kamu tidak boleh buat, apa lagi yang kamu boleh buat?

Tidak kisah la kamu handsome ka, cunning ka, macho ka, tegap ka – itu semua hal2 fizikal yang mengaburi mata ja. At the end of the day, if kamu hidup cuma berlandaskan nafsu, tanpa pegangan dan prinsip – It's totally denying the values sebagai human being yang bijak dan ada akal fikiran. Totally wasting semua pemberian. Unless you guys tidak kisah, it’s okay la . Just live with it. But untuk sia, hidup cuma sekali. Apa salahnya fight habis2 untuk dapat dapat yang terbaik. Untuk dapat yang terbaik ni, biasanya nda mudah. Kena sacrifice sikit. Tapi, NAFSU kita ni antara cabaran terbesar. Persoalan sudah terjawab. If you guys wondering, apa quality kamu yang makes you stand out? The girls pun mungkin tidak sedar hal ni lagi. Tapi akhirnya, dorang pun mengaku bahawa…It’s YOUR VALUE as a man yang dorang cari tu :)

Do You Have It? :)

Part I: The Value Of A Man

Men – You guys are born with physical strength that women don’t have. This strength pairs with the simpler mind that can think much clearly in difficult situations. Plus, with necessary wisdom, you guys are expected to make decisions that can make things better. That’s why you are expected to be a leader. You guys are born to Take Charge and be the protector, shelter and comforting arms for your loved ones. Imagine, if you guys can’t be all that, What Else can we expect from you?

But the world is getting older. We are not that naïve anymore. Men are in fact the major contributors of the crime statistics. Violence– abuse on women and kids of any kind, even at home where the root of family institution should stand strong. Any kind of emotional, mental and physical abuse that the female can try to withstand. You Men … the same creatures that do the selling and laundering of women – just to dedicate it to your own species. You Men, are the same creatures that molested and raped the women that you don’t deserve and still have the ways to blame the women back. You Men, are the same creatures that sweet-talked and promised the ladies the world, just for those promises to be broken afterwards. You Men, the same creatures keep a few mistresses or another wife or two, without the knowledge of the lady you legally married. You Men, the same creatures that claim that you guys can only love us so much, but still, “1 woman is never enough” – And you claim that you guys are born with desires and needs that need to be satisfied and because of that, “Don’t blame us for this nature.” That we must understand why you can’t say No to all the other ladies whose last name you don’t even know. You tell us that this has nothing to do with love. We women didn’t understand how come you say that you love us, but still you have desires for other women and still claim that you only love us.

We women have hopes for you, Men. We have high hopes for you because of WHAT God created you to be. We believe that Men are not just born to be strong for Nothing. We believe that Men are not just born to be called a Leader, for nothing. As a matter of fact, the mightier you are, the higher our hopes are in you. The women hope that by the time they give birth to a baby boy, he’s going to be a good son. He’s going to be the protector of his little brothers and sisters. And soon, when he goes to school, he will be the class leader, leading his other friends to follow the school rules and disciplines. And be the example of the other friends – in attitudes and also in grades. Yes, that’s the women’s hope for you. And when that boy grows up to be a man, we women hope that you can be a young guy who knows his steps. Mix with the right friends and we hope that you guys can stay strong and not get dragged in unhealthy activities that are done by the teenagers who are not supported by a good family ground. We women don’t know if you are that strong to avoid yourself from bad influences. We don’t know. But we do have hopes for you that that strong arms of yours should come so well with a working brain. And we have concerns for you too. We are concerned if you get a little nasty with your jumping hormones that you might get yourself into troubles. We are concerned that one wrong step could cost you the rest of your life that has initially started so beautifully. We are so concerned about the possibilities that this life bring, give us NO assurance that anyone who starts well will also end up good and well.

And then you guys become adults; matured men with all the experiences and knowledge to add to your points. Here, it’s almost the same with having the ability to put your hand on this world, because with that freaking hands, you can make a difference. The world will have the limelight on you because here is when your real battle begins. We women can be that strong too. But we know you have the advantage because you have to deal with less discrimination and double standards. No one will question you if you are appointed to be a leader. You can go anywhere without having to worry that people trying to take advantage of you. You can mix with more people without too much concerned about your safety because you know you are strong enough to protect yourself. With these less constraints, please don’t question anymore WHY we women have hopes on you.

We hope that you can be a boss that can lead the company to success. We hope that you can make us the good workers under your supervision. As a friend, we hope that you can be a friend that can help us and respect our womanly right in your capacity. We hope that you are in the position to offer your time and energy for us, you will do it because you honour the word friendship. We hope that you respect us as a weaker counterparts and never take advantage of us.

And then when the love knocks your heart, this will add another fun journey to your life. We women hope that you can always be a good lover, as charming as you are when you first start to knock our hearts. We hope that we can build a relationship that is sincere and honest. And as fate would have it, when we become husband and wife, we hope that you can stay truthful to us and mean every vow that you say when we first got married. “For better and for worse, In Sickness and In Health, Till death to us part.” And when we have children, we do hope that you be the best father to these kids that are born from our loving union. We hope that together we will face the obstacles that life throws at us. We hope that we will stay strong together until the end of our lives.

Yes, despite all the hopes we have in you Men, we always know of this one weakness that you guys have. It’s so pity that you guys can be so good in many things, but it only takes a single weakness to bring you down. Suddenly it sounds like a joke, when Men are ruled by Lust. It’s the only thing that they can’t say No to. In a more harsh language, some women said that Men are easily ruled by “their second head” located below the waist. Tell us again that God is fair, or what. When the other head gets the better of them, they don’t even remember their freaking name. It’s in fact the reason that degrades the whole male generation. This is alone, the reason how you guys break our hearts so many different ways. Because of this, You Men simply lose your good judgment. Because of this, you would not mind losing your virtuous ways. Because of this, you Men can simply forget about the people you really love and care. Because of this ALONE…We don’t know if we CAN STILL PUT HOPES on you Men. The history told us that you gonna break our hearts countless ways if you don’t get hold of yourself.

We don’t know anymore if you can be that lover that we hope. We don’t even know anymore if you can be that husband that we hope. We sure don’t freaking know anymore if you can be that father that we hope. Today’s world told us that Men have the records of breaking ALL the rules. Even the case when a Grandpa or father who raped her own daughter/granddaughter is Not anymore an eye-opener. When you break the most sacred man’s role, We Don’t Know what else we can hope on you. We don’t even know if we even dare to hope at all..

To be continued...

Note: In Part II, I will tell you guys a story of a guy who make me want to write this post. And I will tell you guys WHAT is the value or a man. Wait for the second part :)

Lelaki Curang: Why?

Sia dengar macam2 debate pasal hal ni di Oprah. Macam2 pendapat keluar. Pandangan daripada orang yang sudah menulis buku dan buat kajian tentang kenapa lelaki curang, hinggalah kepada yg keluar dari mulut lelaki2 yang pernah curang dengan wife dorang. Dalam banyak2 tu, ada yang tidak masuk akal. Ada yang sukar dipahami dan ada yang setakat ada benda untuk dicakap supaya wife dorang tidak menyalahkah diri dorang bahawa dorang tu adalah reason why laki dorang curang.

But dalam banyak2 tu, sia rasa ada satu pendapat yang cukup mudah dan logic. Lelaki curang adalah kerana…

"ADA PEREMPUAN YANG SANGGUP CURANG BERSAMA-SAMA DENGAN MEREKA."

Maybe betul juga kan? It takes two to tango. Bolehkah dianggap curang kalau hanya lelaki tu saja yang mau dengan perempuan lain sedangkan perempuan tu tidak mau dengan dia? Mungkin itu masih boleh dianggap tanda2 kecurangan di peringkat awal. Tapi sekiranya perempuan tu tidak layan, tentu benda tu terhenti di sana. Jadi tiadalah drama2 sandiwara semasa yang akan berlaku selepas tu kan? Tiadalah perkara2 yang teruk akan berlaku. Akhirnya, satu episod kecurangan itu berakhir sebelum sempat bermula.

Tapi apa boleh buat. Bukan senang untuk kita kawal perbuatan orang. Kalau your man sudah berminat dengan perempuan lain, bukannya kita dapat halang perempuan tu untuk bagi respond dengan your man. Tapi sekiranya dia tidak bagi respond, mungkin ini sajalah yang diperlukan untuk menyelamatkan keadaan.

So ladies, finally Kecurangan lelaki itu actually terpulang pada kita.

Suddenly we realize that the men could be at our fingertips.

Make It Or Break It, that’s the decision to make :)