I talked to a a friend recently, and she told me how many times her heart had been broken by some guys. One of the severe heartbreakers was this guy, whom she’d been dating for 6 years, just to see the guy married another girl. And she wasn’t even told about it until she heard it from his cousin. She even thought of jumping off the building when she knew about it. Until this time, she still HASN’T FORGIVEN the man. She still thinks that he was so heartless for doing what he did. Though it has passed for more than 10 years ago and the man has 2 kids and she herself is pregnant with her first kid. The last time the guy contacted her – he told her that he wanted to marry her and make her his second wife. One reason is because the guy said that his life has not been good eversince. The girl said that, “Of course. He’s paying for what he did for me.” Then I thought for a while. Have we done something like this before? Have they forgiven us or they are still like this lady, who holds grudges and hoping that we will face our karma for what we did?
In my religion, forgiveness is a very big word. It’s in fact something that you must give before you get. Which means, before you are forgiven, you must first forgive. Think about all the silly things we did in the past. Think about how many hearts we have broken without thinking how much it would hurt them. Did they deserve to be hurt by us, in the first place? Why did we hurt them? Did we do it for fun? Did we even feel guilty? Did we know how much pain we cause them? We can make all the excuse in the world that we were young back then. We were not aware of our own actions. That we used to be selfish and put ourselves above other things, even to the extent of stepping on someone else’s back. The most common hurt is involving love. Have we learnt anything yet as we grow older?
Imagine how many times we cheated our partner, lied to them, promised them things we didn’t intend to keep, say sweet words we did not mean and give them false hope which then we broke. Until you have become whose heart was broken by somebody, you wouldn’t know how hurt it could be. Sometimes the pain lasted for half of a person’s life span. Betrayal of the heart is very very hurtful. For those who have felt it, Do you still wish to spread the hurt by doing more and more wrong things to others?
DO NOT DO THAT.
What’s past is past. You can say all you want. You can say sorry, you can say you regret, you can say that you have learned from your mistakes but all those MEAN NOTHING until you finally MAKE UP for all the mistakes. How? Start doing it totally the opposite. No more broken promises. No more false hopes. No more empty sweet promises. Those are hard to keep, I know. That’s why that’s the way you can say that you totally learn from your mistake. Until something like that is done, you are forever in the grudges of the people you hurt. Why hurt people? You don’t have a million years to live. You only have less than 100 years. Or even short. In fact, some of us have lived more than half our lives in this world. Do we have tomorrow to make up for our mistakes? We MIGHT NOT have tomorrow. The time is NOW. Love is what that made us. We must not give love a bad name. THINK before you speak or do something. DO not break another heart. Pray for their wellbeing, and hope that with that, they can slowly forgive us sincerely.
Romans 3:4 -
God forbid: yea, let God be true, but every man a liar; as it is written, That thou mightest be justified in thy sayings, and mightest overcome when thou art judged.