So You Actually Want Respect?

Just now, I was at a restaurant having my brunch. I picked a spot where I always sit. Trying to save time to rush back to the office, I hoped not to get choked. AT LEAST, spare me that little time so that I could eat In Peace.

The table beside me were a husband and wife, with a small kid. The wife was talking all the way. I didn’t know to whom she was talking to, whether the husband or the kid. Cos if she was talking to the kid, the kid was too young to understand everything that might come out from her neverending talking. And if she was talking to the husband, the husband’s mind was clearly wandering and was looking elsewhere. “Strange,” I thought.

So when my order was sent, I started eating. Trying so hard to enjoy my food. The taste was the normal kind of good, heck, we are talking about my favourite restaurant here. So I didn’t have an issue with the table beside me. I didn’t care if the wife talked alone. I didn’t care if the husband was agitated with the wife. None of my freaking business. I come there TO EAT. But I couldn’t help it when the husband started to take out that “sheit” – cigarettes. And I was. “Uh-Oh…This is a bad sign!!!”

Let me tell you guys that my irritation against smokers are getting bigger and bigger!! I could stand looking at anybody UNTIL they take out a cigarette. That sight alone can make you a DEMON to me. I would change my direction to the other side where I don’t have to look at you, to go near you or anything like that. I mean, you can be a good looking guy but that piece of cigarette can make you the ugliest creature or A DANGER ZONE I MUST AVOID!!

Wait, before that, let me tell you that I am not that heartless. At least I understand if your heart and lungs depend on nicotine so you MUST have your dose of at least 40 chemicals to feed your organs. So that YOU MUST smoke after you eat anything. OKAY!! I GET IT!! But trust me you can get all the dose of the chemicals you want regardless WHERE you smoke and TO WHERE you puff the smoke to. I wish we have this BOX, just enough for ONE freaking demon and have it closed when the puffing begins. This is to make sure that YOU get what you give. You puff the smokes and you inhale them all back. YES, NOTHING IS WASTED. I’m sure you can savour your 40 chemicals to the fullest!!! But since we don’t have that kind of box yet, so this is the scenario that always happens at the restaurants.

So the husband started to puff away the smokes. There was a fan at high speed just on top of them so using your MAYBE-NOT-THAT-STUPID mind, you can guess that you are giving everyone a dose of your 40 chemicals, and not only that, the ashes were flying all over and hey, we are talking about an eatery here, my friends. Do you eat ashes? And I thought the husband spared himself a little compassion and a less stupidity to Have A Heart that, “I must smoke now but I understand that some people can’t stand people smoking around them” but he couldn’t even DO THAT!!

The moment I turned my face at their table, he was puffing the smokes directly on the wife and kid who were eating at the time, and it was not stupid enough. He actually puffed the smokes directly to my table too. Maybe he didn’t have the intention, he just wanted to make some puffing free-styles variety because maybe it makes his smoking experience more enjoyable. (F*ck Off Lahhh!!) *Lols

I couldn’t believe that I sat not very far from A MORON. I actually stood up and changed my place to the other table – SHOWING MY PROTEST because unless he’s a rat, he must understand that his smokes pissed me off!! They noticed it right away. The husband finished the stick and stopped. Maybe they thought I was rude. Because if you were in their place, you might think that you are that despicable that people want to run away from you and it’s ruDE when people distant themselves from you while you’re looking their way. SO WHAT????

I am at a restaurant, I don’t know you and I come to eat. I don’t have to say Hi, how you you doing? because we are strangers to each other. But I let you have your space and you let me have mine. In this capacity as strangers at the restaurant, as long as we give each other our space to EAT our dish, that’s all. If anyone in our table is making too much noise, we ask them to tone down the volume cos we might disturb others. If a toddler is throwing food around, of course you will ask him to stop doing it because it might hit other people. These are the spontaneous things that we do because WE ARE NOT at our own place, alone. Even if we don’t have to smile and greet each other but we do have the spontaneous things that we do so that we don’t create issues with other people. To them, I might create an issue by changing my place to distant myself from them, but before you count my steps, LOOK AT YOURSELF FIRST. Don’t talk why people are rude to you before you look at what you have done to make them act that way. It’s simple. If you show to me that you don’t learn ENOUGH respect for other people, I don’t see anything wrong why I can’t return “the favour”. Oh, you actually WANT RESPECT?? Give it first before you get one.

Note: The restaurant is quite spacious. There are tables located at the opened area so that the smokers KNOW WHERE TO SIT. But I sat at the center of the restaurant where it’s clearly spared for those who want more peace. Most of the smokers sit at the right spot so though I hate the view, but still I leave some respect for them as another human. But if you violate the even the most basic unsaid rule about respect, I don’t see why you deserve one.

*Bah pasik jari si [256] sebab memaki tadi … *Lols

Can You Tell If It's Dust Or Bra?

Suara hati kamu berkata: Bra? Bra apa lagi si [256] cakap ni. Indakan bra yang "itu"?
 

Jawapan sia kepada suara hati kamu adalah...: Jadi bra apa lagii??? Itu la ba tuuu!! 

Hahahhahahahahahahahahahahahahaha (Erks!!)

Tadi masa baru sampai rumah, sia pegi dapur and then cook something. Bila sia mau buat something sia buka ka tu bekas sampah di dapur. Terus nokotigog my heart. "Macam kenal!!"That dark pink thing...I could not go wrong. But I SHOULD and MUST go wrong because macamana itu benda boleh ada di tempat sampah??? Then I tengok closely, MEMANG DIA!!!!

Luckily tempat sampah tu diletak dengan plastik baru yg kering dan isinya kebanyakkan DUST iaitu habuk2 yang maybe kena sweep dari lantai bilik. Then I picked up the bra and luckily dia tidak terkena kotoran yg basah, just habuk2 saja...Then I said..."Sepa yang buang ni?"

My sister ja yang ada di sana untuk menjawab and memang ngamlah sebab MEMANG PUN KERJA DIA!!! Aiyooooo. First thing yang sia terpikir, sepa yang sakit ati betul dengan bra sia ni sampai dia pi buang? I know for sure my Mom TIDAK akan berani sentuh my barang2, apa lagi mau buang. Tapi ada this one pokemon yang DATANG SEMANGAT JUANG dia mau membanteras sampah dan habuk abis-abisan ni kali. Pantang apa barang yg dekat dengan tu penadah sampah, dia sweep terus masuk and dengan tenaga yang begitu banyak diguna untuk turun tangga dan jalan ke dapur dan buang!!!! Sampai gitu sekali semangat juang dia ni hari.

(HAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHA) 

"Sia pikir kau mau buang sudah tu. Sebab dekat dengan penadah sampah jadi sia sapu terus la pi buang." Dakat tekeluar hempedu sia dengar my sis cakap mcm tu ba. (/me berabis ketawa sampai runtuh tu dinding) Cos inikah orang yang sama teriak2 mengeluh, marah2 bila terpaksa angkat barang sia naik bilik, iaitu barang yang ada guna. Kalau sudah barang yang ada guna pun dia sakit jiwa mau angkat sebab barang tu BUKAN barang dia, imagine la pula SAMPAH orang lain. Kalau sia tinguk ada beberapa plastik sampah lagi yang belum sia buang dan sia letak di bilik bro sia yang kosong sementara ni. Itu plastik memang ketauan adalah plastik sampah sebab kertas2 nda guna yang diisi di dalam. Dan berapa lama sudah tu plastik di sana? Berbulan-bulan sudah teda sepa peduli. Kalau mau harap my sis yg kasi turun, memang dia akan jadi pokemon versi burung pipit yang membebel sebab terpaksa buang sampah orang. 

Jadi sia ada reason why sia rasa SANGAT terkejut when sia boleh nampak my bra yang langsung teda cacat celahnya tiba2 kana masuk di sampah. Alasan dia sebab dia nampak tu bra dekat dengan penadah sampah, but sangatla terang2 itu penadah sampah (yang diguna untuk sapu habuk di bilik ja so dia kering dan tidak kotor) terletak dekat dengan bakul besar tempat sia simpan sia punya baju2 kotor. Dan sia letak baju2 kotor tu pun secara tidak teratur sebab sia biasa test sia punya kebolehan sharp-shooting bola keranjang dengan umban baju2 sia tu dari bilik. Heheheheehehehe. Jadi kalaupun jaringan sia tu tidak mengena, TIDAK MUNGKIN anybody akan tersilap atau tidak boleh pikir yang asal ja namanya baju, TIDAK MUNGKIN baju itu untuk dibuang apa lagi kalau betul2 sebelah dia adalah satu bakul berisi baju2 belum cuci. I mean, MUSTAHIL la kau buli TERSILAP sama ada itu baju adalah "sebahagian daripada habuk2" yang mau disapu. MUSTAHILLL!!! 

Jadi apa lagi sia pun membebel la...Sampah yang betul2 sampah ditinguk ja dari jauh biarlah sampai berbulan2.Tiba2 tu bra yang hanya dekat dengan tu penadah sampah pun dia bukan main lagi gembira pigi buang. *Lols. Punyalah sia geram. Suka2 hati ja pigi buang. Sia memang geram sebab itu bra adalah di antara my new collection yg belum pun sampai 1 bulan sejak sia beli. Geleng kepala ja tu pokemon mengingatkan yang buli pula wujud kekeliruan sama ada benda tu adalah suku sakat habuk juga yang HARUS DIHAPUSKAN!!!! 

HAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHHAHAHAAHAHA :PPPPP 

Sia mau test taruh pula barang2 lain yang "ternyata bukan habuk' dan kalau sia berani, sia taruh barang yg berharga sikit. Mau tinguk sama ada simptom ni baru di peringkat anak2 or what. (*Lols) Kalau pun barang2 tu tiba2 teda sudah dekat dengan penadah sampah, alaa...paling2 pun pigi ja tinguk sana bekas sampah di dapur, kan. Hahahaahahahahahhaha 

Sia mau kasi pindah tu sampah betul2 kasi keliling tu penadah sampah, dengan ucapan...kalau yang bra tu ari kau buang, ndakan la yang betul2 sampah ni kau nda buang pula?? 

hahahaahahahahaahahahahahhahaa. Kena sebiji ba kan my sis today. Nasib laa dia dapat sister yang ada mutan pokemon dis. *Lols

Hahahahaahahahahahhaahahhaha...have fun all!

Sindrom Professor Serba Tau

Ini lagi satu perangai manusia yang buli bikin itu Pinatubo melatup bah. Hehehehe. Kau pikir semua perkara tu “kacang” punyalah! Then bila orang bagi penerangan, kau main angguk2 saja, as if kau mimang sudah kelulusan PHD dalam bidang ni. Apa kamurang mau, Geografi? Sains? History? Maths? Alaa…kacang baitu!

Pernah nampakkah Sindrom macam ni?

Remember the lady I told you guys about in the previous post? Dia cakap mau datang my house, ok fine, sia lukis pelan lagi. Macam pelan di belakang kad kawin tu sudah jadinya. Dengan checkpoint2 penting dan sangat jelas! Checkpoint yang sia bagi di pelan tu bukan main obvious dan “you can’t go wrong” sudah. Dia yang minta pelan tu, dan sia kasi la. Bukanpun sia yang susah2 mau buat kalau bukan dia yang minta. But gara2 itu attitude Sindrom Professor Serba Tau, dia main dengar nda dengar ja apa sia cakap. Dia cakap, "Ohh sana kah. Senang ba tu mau cari." Wah baguslah. Senang kerja sia kan? Sia siap bagitau nombor rumah lagi…dan sia cakap balik2 itu nombor rumah. “Ingat ahh itu nombor rumah.” Dia main angguk2 ja. I thought confirm la dia akan jumpa.

Kali tinguk…tadi tengahari dia call sia. Dia mau datang sudah ambil barang. Punyalah sia terkejut. Even itu first checkpoint yang sangat penting pun dia tidak tau. For example, kalau ada satu taman bunga, and cuma satu taman saja yang ada di kawasan tu, then kalau dia jumpa taman tu, dia mesti sangat senang jumpa lokasi rumah sia. Tapi rupanya, even the first check point pun dia langsung tidak tau menau. It’s like, “Where am I? I’m lost!” Sia jadi mcm tu patung ja di sana imagining macamana susahnya sia terangkan tu benda dengan dia hari tu dan dia asyik mengangguk macam tidak sabar suruh sia stop explain. Dan ini kawasan adalah kawasan dia, so sepatutnya memang teda masalah mau cari, MELAINKAN wujud itu Sindrom yang buat kau rasa 10 inci atas darat – “Hey I know everything ba. Apa lagi mau kasi explain panjang2?”

And then masa dia drive, dia call sia and kasi sound out my voice – Sia kena bagitau dia belok mana, ikut sebelah kiri ka kanan. Sia jadi pissed off masa tu. Sebab u ask me to ulang suara everything. And then itu tidak apa lagi. Macam dia pula buat suara pissed off sebab dia totally lost and tidak tau mana mau pigi. Tiba2 sia pula yang jadi “Si Tukang Kasi Keliru” sebab as if sia kasi instruction yang tidak betul. Semua checkpoints yang sia ulang2 sebut sebelum ni, semua jadi “benda baru” sama dia. Like dia “belum pernah dengar” pun tu benda2 semua. Now you tell me la sama ada si [256] ni capat panas ka atau mimang ada urg cuba mau percik2 air panas ke arah sia? *Lols

And I couldn’t help but raise my voice sebab I was really really pissed. Then last2, dia dapat juga jumpa. Tapi…Salah rumah pula!! Cos dia pigi ubah itu nombor. Let’s say sia bilang tu nombor 12, dia tukar tu nombor pigi nombor 2. Dia pigi buang lagi tu angka 1 sana. *Lols. Then I said, “Aiyooo, salah la itu nombor rumah” Then dia sempat lagi blame me di phone, “Tapi hari tu kau cakap Nombor 2 ba.” Adoiii, buli2 lagi ada masa mau blame sia.” I tell you lah, there’s NO WAY sia akan lupa my own nombor rumah. Tapi yg sia tau, kalau rasa diri tu Professor Serba Tau mungkin ada harapan lagi kasi twist-turn fact sebab mesti kepala otak Professor ni pact gila dengan information terkini kan? Heheehehe (/me buat muka geram versi pokemon)

Then bila finally sampai depan rumah sia, sia buat muka “sangat manis” sama dia. Sia lupakan sajalah macamana jangkitan Sindrom PST yg berlaku sama dia tu, cos yang penting dia sudah jumpa my house. Tapi…masa dia keluar tu. Dia membebel lagi. “Punya susah mau cari rumah kau ni. Nombor rumah daripada No.2 jadi No.12” – Nahh nahhh…sia tarik nafas ja dan tahan hati ja mau geleng2 kepala. Kalau sia ni naga, confirm ada keluar api sudah secara nda sengaja. *Lols. If sia ni Pikachu, confirm kana keluar karen sudah dari pipi sia wooo… Hahahaahahahahahahahahahahaha.

Tapi since dia ni jauh lagi senior dari sia, dia nampak juga my face yang kegeraman sama kepeningan yang dia bagi sia hari ni. I was really really PISSED, I tell you!!! Kalau dia anybody yang younger than me, confirm sudah kana teriak oleh suara doremon sia ni. Kalau Tidak Tau, CAKAP!!! Ask abis2 sampai u tau, baru u suruh orang stop explain. Jangan jadi itu bodoh sombong yang macam tau semua perkara!! Padahal satu apa pun tidak tau. Ini lah satu penyakit orang2 kita yang MALASSSS mau dengar, bongkak dan pikir diri tu sangatttt la tau semua perkara. Semua hal tu macam Peanut, or Piece of Cake saja!!! Haiyaaaaaaaaa!!! (Alaalalala…keluar karen laini kalau sia ni Pikachu baa Hahaahahahahahaha)

Ini Sindrom ahh…kalau kamurang pakai…Confirm ada satu hari kamurang kana api naga jadi-jadian. Paham? Sama ada kamurang kena tempias air liur boss kamu or lecturer kamu sebab kana teriak depan2 muka. Sebab I tell you guys one thing. Nobody expects u to know everything. Then sudah lah mcm tu, when it’s time untuk orang kasi u penerangan, guna itu telinga betul2!!! Kalau masih tidak paham, guna itu MULUT untuk bercakap. Bukan kamu main angguk2 ja dan refuse untuk dengar – as if kamurang tu si Professor Serba Tau, cos at the end of the day, memang nobody is good enough to be someone who Knows Everything so Sindrom Professor Serba Tau ni tidak ngam dipakai di planet ini. Ada paham kaa???

Haiyaa!!!!

/me :PPPPPPPPPPPPPP

Moral of the story: If you don't hear it the first time, ask someone to repeat it the second time, "Sorry I can't hear you" or "Sorry I don't understand". Cos kalau terkena itu sindrom, silap2 orang kena ulang tu benda lebih dari 2 kali gara2 sikap bongkak yang kununnya diri tu sudah tau semua benda. Bila kana suruh buat, apa pun tidak tau. Wait until kamu sendiri kena macam ni oleh orang lain baru u tau tinggi rendahnya itu langit. Tinguk kalau itu naga jadi-jadian buli keluar api ka inda. (Hahahaahahahahahahahah)

When The Jokes Are Going Too Far…

Minggu lepas adalah masa yang paling free for me since 2 years ago. Suddenly I don’t have to think about work and other things. I use the time to spend a lot of time online, browsing around the internet – but I mostly spend my time on Facebook. Thanks to my brother Jojon for lending me his account for me to browse around.

You guys sedar ka Facebook ni bagi u guys satu saluran untuk share the fun stuff and updates, get connected and get in touch more with your existing and long lost friends – That one you guys sedar. Apa yang u guys tidak sedar or overlook, is that…oleh kerana everyone is able to see the your friends’ activity, and when dorang comment, everyone can menyampuk and read it. Sedar atau tidak, dalam beberapa hari sia browsing around page Facebook ni, sia sudah nampak macamana perkara yang sepatutnya jadi baik, tapi jadi tidak baik pula. Sepa sangka gara2 “terlalu bergurau” dalam komen2 gambar tu sebenarnya boleh menjejaskan keharmonian rumah tangga? Seriously!!

I saw my ex-schoolmate (secondary school) punya Facebook page. She is married to a guy yang pernah duduk satu kelas dengan sia (time pre-U) so I know both of them. This guy memang category handsome macho. I remember yang I myself was so attracted to his looks. Memang handsome. But then the guy pursued his degree at a different university, it was where he met that ex-schoolmates of ours. Lepas habis study, we heard they got married. So ramai yang rasa the girl was lucky to get this handsome guy. Bukan saja handsome, alim dan jenis goodboy punya. So after many years tidak tau cerita dorang ni, akhirnya nampak dorang di Facebook. So tengok la pictures2 lelaki tu posing macam2. Then semua ni mandak2 yang kenal that guy pun bagi komen macam2. But komen dorang bersifat gurauan yang keterlaluan. Dorang cakap la yang “Dia ni dulu buaya. Dia kasi tinggal ja sia masa sia mengandung” Something like that. My oh my. Does that sound like a joke? Then disambung lagi oleh sumandak yang seterusnya, dan seterusnya – semuanya mengiyakan apa yang the first girl cakap. Dorang rasa seronok pula panjang2kan cerita tu. “Ya, memang dia ni dasar buaya.” Selepas sia baca komen yang bersambung-sambung dan diikuti dengan gelak ketawa, suddenly sia rasa si Isteri sudah jadi mcm tunggul yang “tidak wujud” di situ. Mostly yg bagi komen tu ada juga yang sia kenal, sebab dorang pun ex-schoolmates juga. Mungkin jokes2 mcm tu biasa didengar time masih study. Semua benda dijadikan jokes. Tapi dalam dunia sebenar di mana keruntuhan rumahtangga ni sangat mudah berlaku berbanding dengan ketahanan rumahtangga, rasanya benda2 yang boleh mengganggu emosi rumahtangga tu actually a bit more sensitive. Apa lagi bila si Isteri ni kenal that guy lebih kemudian daripada kami. So apa cerita yang berlaku sebelum dorang kenal, the Isteri tidak begitu tau. So I saw the Isteri komen balik- trying to hide her emotions. Tidakkan la dia mau tulis, “It’s not a joke, guys. Stop it.” Nah, nama pun sudah social networking. Tidak syok pula kalau tiba2 emotional pula. Silap2 u kena kutuk pula the whole networking gara2 bersikap “kurang matang” cos melenting hal2 gurauan. But I understand what the wife feels.

Then 2 days ago, I went to have lunch with my bestfriend. Kami cerita2 la hal Facebook ni. Then I raised the issues about “gurauan” yang keterlaluan. Guess what? Dia terus setuju. Sebab dia pun kena!! So I spent some time visit page yg di mana “gurauan” itu berlaku. Actually ni berlaku di page another friend kami yang memang satu course dengan drg dulu. Kan my bestfriend ni married coursemate dia sendiri, so memang dorang ni semua sia kenal juga. Si mandak sorang ni (pemilik page Facebook tu) memang perempuan yg lawa dan social. Dia ni memang femes dari dulu sebab dia tidak mengenal batas pergaulan. But I think she’s a nice person juga. So sekarang ni dia sudah single balik, so actually she’s waiting to hook up with a new guy. So dia subscribe to this game “Who Loves Me Today” and then the game will give 3 names setiap hari, dan nama tu diambil dari list Friends dia. So untuk beberapa hari, husband my bestfriend ni yang keluar di list tu. So kawan2 lelaki yg nakal2 tu bagi komen la, “Ohh kau ada hati pula sama dia selama ni ah.” Then disambung2 lagi dengan batu api kawan2 yang lain. Dan tiba2 my bestfriend jadi mcm patung yang teda perasaan. Sebab husband dia pun ikut main juga. Dia macam kesukaan pula kena cakap2 mcm tu. Then maybe sebab kepala otak tu terlalu bergurau, actually benda tu sudah jadi keterlaluan. I know my bestfriend. Dia ni tidak boleh tahan sikit pun cemburu. Apa lagi bila keluar semua komen2 mcm tu. Ditambah pula dengan game2 macam tu yg sebenarnya mengganggu emosi. Then akhirnya the next day, nama bestfriend sia tu pula yg masuk list “Who Loves Me Today” then tiba2 pula husband my bestfriend buat komen yg dia kecewa sebab nama dia nda masuk list tu hari tu. Doiii…I know what my friend is feeling!!

She told me, ada a few times when they argued about something, she saw her husband senyum2 depan Facebook time baca and write comment, She told me that sight hurt her. Seolah-olah that Facebook lagi best daripada anak bini sendiri. So sepa sangka ada pula side effect social networking yang beri kebebasan kepada kawan2 untuk tulis komen. Kita bukan boleh control tangan orang. Silap2 kejadian lampau yang memalukan pun dorang tulis sana, dengan alasan “Cuma bergurau” tapi akhirnya, memalukan dan menyakitkan hati kawan.

So ini cuma satu contoh saja. Ada bermacam cara yang akan membuatkan GURAUAN kita tu jadi punca kesakitan orang lain. So bergurau tu biar berpada-pada. Bila sampai topik sensitive, slow down sikit. Tidak rugi juga kalau kamu miss satu gurauan daripada kamu risk satu persahabatan. Sebab, if orang buat gitu dengan kamu pun belum tentu kamu dapat handle. So if social networking site macam Facebook tu actually mengeratkan dengan kawan2, biarkan dia jadi begitu saja. Jangan pula sampai social sites mcm tu pun buatkan laki bini gaduh. Ini bukan soal emotional atau tidak. Kita perlu watch our jokes first – then baru kita mau cerita sama ada orang itu terlalu emotional atau tidak. The purpose or gurauan is to make people laugh. Bukan untuk menimbulkan syak wasangka yang tidak patut. Nahh…think before you joke. Jangan kena batang hidung sendiri baru mau sedar. Hehehehe.

Sekian, terima kasih.

NOTE: Orang yang menulis ini sebenarnya TIADA akaun Facebook so boooo sikit sama dia. (Hahahahaahahahahah jaat!!! :PPP)

Stepping On Someone...Anyone?

Since 2 years ago, I put this as my mission. I won’t trouble anyone on my way to my dreams. Tell me I’m greedy. But I just want to claim the victory alone. Yeah, but semua org akan dapat kesenangan. Sia dapat what I want, and dorang pula tidak perlu disusahkan dalam proses itu. I mean, apalah guna membina satu istana di atas peluh orang lain? That’s the point. Sia cabar diri sia sampai ke tahap itu supaya JANGAN sampai orang lain yg susah gara2 sia mau capai impian sia. Kalau nda, teda guna sia pegi sekolah bertahun-tahun. Apa yang sia dapat? At least tunjukkan la yang kau memang sudah jadi orang yang betul2 orang. Ada otak mau pikir.

I still remember about a year ago, ada this office mau buka dekat dengan tempat kerja sia. The guy yang in-charged ni bukan main lagi – lukis pelan renovation, pakai software canggih2 and then bila start talking with me – dia jack2 dia punya boss yang kununnya ambil business bukan alang2. Semua paling kurang pun puluh2 ribu. Ok fine, good for them. Tapi satu kali dia mau call boss dia, dia tanya, “Eh, teda kredit o, buli pinjam telefon kau? Please la, penting ni. Kejap ja” Tekejut sia kejap. Cakap sampai ke negeri China sudah jauhnya, tapi rupanya mau call boss dia pun kena pinjam my phone. But ndapa, maybe dia mau jimat masa. Hehehe. And then, pelan yang canggih2 tu, bawa laptop canggih depan2 sia…Kasi tinguk how itu software boleh buat 3d punya renovation plan. Lepas tu, “Ala, sia mau print ba ni tapi teda printer kami. Boleh kau tulung print?” Benda2 kecil begitu sia tidak patut berkira la ba kan, but sia rasa “geli hati” sebab “something is not right” but I didn’t know what it was. Tidak apa, sia tell myself yang apa salahnya tolong menolong, lagipun dorang gonna be my neighbour juga. And then masa perabot sampai, that office masih renovation, teda tempat simpan tu perabot semua. That guy masuk my place and ukur…”I think macam muat tu perabot semua kami simpan sini sementara.” Sia tinguk ja that guy dengan no emotion. Dengan tiba2 sia rasa dia sudah menamakan diri dia sebagai sia punya rakan kongsi or anyone yang ada hak ke atas tempat kerja sia tu. Sia tidak tau mau ketawa ka, mau maki dia ka, or mau halau dia keluar. (Hahahaahahahahahahahahahahahahaha) I mean, sia betul2 tidak tau how to react sama ni stranger yang sia baru kenal beberapa hari itupun pasal dia yang selalu pegi menyibuk minta macam2. Sia cuma boleh geleng kepala ja tinguk. Dengan umur yang jauh lebih senior dari sia – sia nampak dia macam budak kecil yang belum berapa kenal dunia sebenar. Tapi ndapa. Sia tidak judge dia begitu cepat. I don’t think a guy that senior boleh jadi begitu naïve dan tidak pakai akal. And then, tidak cukup dengan tu, contractor yang buat kerja di ofis dorang tu, tidak ada kerusi. Then, “[256], buli pinjam kerusi extra kau? Kasi ja berapa yang kau ada.” (/me tahan geli hati). Ok, fine, sia kasi jugalah. And then tidak pandai kasi balik. Pun sia tidak complain. Banyak lagi benda lain sia mau buat selain daripada mau jaga itu kerusi. Tidak cukup dengan tu, hari2 mesti datang my place, untuk tengok – “Apa lagi sia buli pinjam dari kau ni ah?”

(HAHHAAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHA)

Bila benda tu sudah keterlaluan, barulah sia terpikir. “This is TOO MUCH!!!!” Masa tu I think I have the right to be angry. Dulu masa tempat keja sia ni masih kosong dan baru mau move in, sepa berani cakap yang sia pernah susahkan dorang? Biarpun barang kecil2 mcm screwdriver or paku – semakin kecil semakin la sia mampu untuk beli sendiri. Even tukul, or whatever yang sia perlu – Jangan harap sia ada masa pegi tanya orang lagi sama ada dorang ada atau tidak tu alat. If you want telefon line, you pegi Telekom and register. If you want fax, buy a fax machine. Does it take a genius? Kita ni bukan di asrama or di sekolah lagi – semua benda u berharap sama orang sebelah katil or sebelah locker you. Cabaran dunia ni terlalu banyak – but kecil2 mcm tu pun u tidak boleh handle, apa lagi u boleh handle?

Ini yang sia rasa lucu dengan sikap segelintir manusia yang mau capai Utopia dengan memijak belakang orang lain. This isn’t about “Oh, kamu ni ambil masa sia ja, sikit2 mau minta tulung” or “Kamu nda buli beli sendiri ka tu benda. Murah ja ba tu” It isn’t about that. This is about ATTITUDE yg suka bergantung dan menyusahkan orang. If orang ada attitude begini, kalau dia buli suruh kamu tuang tu air minum pegi mulut dia, dia akan suruh!!! People like this find pleasure in being dependent dengan orang lain. Dorang tidak mau susah lebih sikit, or tidak mau usaha lebih sikit – kalau ada yang boleh disusahkan dulu, susahkah orang tu dulu, kalau betul2 tidak dapat, barulah TERPAKSA susahkan diri sendiri. Tapi impian mau jadi company yang berprestij. Sepa sangka, even pensel pemadam pun pinjam sebelah ofis. ATTITUDE ini betul2 tidak ngam. Sampaikan sia dekat2 mau teriak that guy, “Alang2 sudah kamu pinjam semua dan buat mcm rumah sendiri, are you sure you don’t want my job ka?” (HAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHA)

Sia cakap ni bukan suka2. Sia pun pernah kena cuci telinga cos sia pun pernah jadi mcm dorang dulu. “[256], u tidak boleh terlalu bergantung. Ini cuma cabaran kecil saja pun u tidak boleh handle? Ada betimbun lagi cabaran di luar sana.” Masa tu sia betul2 tertampar, but still sia tidak paham. NOW I understand sebab sia sudah sahut cabaran tu supaya jangan sampai ada orang yang berani lecture sia begitu lagi. Cukup satu kali malu. Bila u simpan impian mau jadi businessman yang berjaya, u mesti berani invest ba kan? U ada RM10 tapi mau make itu jadi RM1 million ka – dengan – “Alaa, apa2 hal semua buli minta pinjam ba tu sepa2 yang ada”. Doiii…sampai bila juga kamu mau mcm tu? Berpada-pada la ba sikit. Sia tidak kisah kalau ada satu kali u guys take advantage of my kindness, tapi sia kesian sama u guys in the long run kalau u tidak ubah. Cos sia cuma susah sekali saja kerana kamu, tapi kamu akan susah sampailah kamu sedar dan berubah!!

I know, in my situation sekarang, I have friends yang TRYING to use me untuk memudahkan diri sendiri. They do it courteously la juga…tidak mau terlalu ketara. But U THINK I’M STUPID ka? Kalau kawan2 lama sia or my relatives or family members tu lain cerita. We have “blood issues” with them, kita jangan terlalu berkira. But ini orang2 yang baru kenal sikit, sudah pikir “How to use her to get what I want?” Haa, u guys nampak my face smiling sweetly 24 jam u think u can step on me? Sometimes I enjoy it yang people judge us on first impression. Nampak sia ni nice sikit, mulalah naik minyak. Again – if you tidak ubah your approach…you won’t get there. Cos sooner or later people will get so sick and tired of being your stepping stone. It’s obvious that you guys belum nampak reality kehidupan ni. Orang lain teda masa mau rely on orang lain. Kalau buli buat tu bangunan KLCC dengan tangan sendiri, dorang sanggup buat. Cos orang yg ada mission teda masa mau tunggu orang lain untuk provide semua benda untuk kesenangan dorang. Sebab kalau bergantung dengan orang, itu orang terajun paya pun u pun terpaksa ikut sebab terlampau malas dan tidak mau berusaha. Ask yourself, Sampai bila???

My Serious Goodbye To 2009

2009 is conclusively a BAD year for me as a whole. Although I have sweet memories that happen this year, but luck was always not on my side. And the tests and challenges that I have to survive have tested my strength to the max. I almost lost my drive and energy. My big decisions were proved to be wrong. I was forced to make a U turn for the biggest decisions that I have made from last year.

Do you think it’s easy? I have to recollect my sense and strength – I have to tell myself again that I was just the victim of circumstances. I have done my best but still I ended up regretting a few things. I hate feeling regrets. I know that maybe I was not that smart but at least smart enough to decide. I still failed. 2009 showed it to me that I was STILL FAR from getting there. Sheittttt… *Lols.

Well, I don’t want to write much. I seriously want to leave this year and I don’t want to turn back. I don’t care about New Year resolutions. I don’t care about counting down to the year transition on 12 midnite. I don’t care all that. I just don’t want another bad year. I have ENOUGH of all that. I don’t care about formality. I don’t care about welcoming the New Year with a friendly smile because 2010 doesn’t even recognize a warm smile. Cos by any chance, 2009 could recognize a warm smile, it won’t end up like this…me saying a harsh goodbye and waiting impatiently to leave this year.

Anyway, just to be fair. Maybe it’s true that 2009 showed me my bad decisions. But maybe I don’t know how many new opportunities and good people that I have met this year that actually brings me happiness for the rest of my life. I never know cos maybe 2009 is just the beginning of many wondrous things for me. I don’t know yet.

2009, although it has to be harsh now, but it’s not too late for me to change my label on you. I can imagine that when good things happen to me in 2010, I will have to refer back to you because it’s you that saw how everything started. You know what? Maybe I just have to leave so much space for that “reunion” with you cos who knows, your name might keep playing back as I recall all the things that I don’t know would turn big. Maybe it’s meant to be that you have to be this humble for now, 2009. One thing I can do for you is…I’m not giving up on you yet.

But for now, I need to move on. I need to give you a serious goodbye. Yes, you may come again back in the picture, but please hold something good in your hands when you knock. Until that, I just don’t want to turn back. I have to leave you here.

2010…I don’t know about you. But I speak of you too many times I thought I have already coming to the end of you, but actually, you have not even started yet. I’m glad though. Because maybe I can still decide what I want to do with you. I want to decide that you gonna be a wonderful year for me. I keep my fingers crossed.

Yeah, finally [256] can say it straight to be point. *Lols.

NOTE: Actually I have so much works delayed for my blog, so I have to keep my new posts sweet and simple… (at least for now). Hahaahahahaha :P

Who Should Move Out?

Once upon a time, I was rushing to find a public phone to call my boyfriend. I was at a big shopping mall, walking alone. Then I stopped at a public phone, and I dialed his number and I got him on the phone. he found it hard to hear my voice, and I also found it hard to hear his voice. Guess what? It was because of the NOISE. The public phone I picked was exactly the opposite of a music shop that is selling cds and cassettes. Knowing that I was using the public phone nearby their shop, should they tune down the volume so that I could talk on the phone?

The answer is NO. I was the one who should look for other public phone. Why should I pick the one that is located at the front of a music shop? How can I expect a music shop to be silent, with that nature of business? So I have no right to curse the shop for playing loud music cos they are the first one who landed in that place. Anyone else who comes after them SHOULD fit and accept whatever they have brought in.

With this kind of acceptance and understanding, now is it fair if I expect that kind of understanding from other people too? If I first land at this place, they can’t complain that I am doing what I am doing. You can’t complain why I make the door at the right and not the left. You can’t complain if you think my place is not arranged. Most importantly, they can’t complain about the noise that I make in my place. You can’t expect me to change my ways just because you’re taking the lot beside me. Before you decide to move, you should aware of all the things you should deal with. Not just freaking move and asking people to make changes just because “Hello the King is just renting the lot beside you.” Stoopid laaa. *Lols.

This is so unfair when they always know it that my place is sometimes going to be very silent or very noisy. You don’t go and expect that I’m being silent when you need peace, and if you need entertainment, “Oh it’s okay to play the music out loud” – So, are you officially making yourself the King or Queen of this building?

(HAHAAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA)

It’s very simple with me. If you want to talk about RIGHTS, think about other people’s rights too, not just Yours, Yours and Yours. For example, remember when I told you guys that a flirty doctor almost opened a clinic near my office? He talked to me once and I really didn’t like the idea of having a neighbour like him. Can I call the building’s owner to not sell the lot to the doctor “because I DON’T LIKE IT”? Because I don’t reign myself as the Queen of the building, I told my friends that if that doctor opens a clinic nearby my office, I WILL MOVE OUT. I mean, I will respect your rights to that extent. I don’t ask for too much. Who comes first should get the proper respect from those who come later. And if I really can’t take it anymore, I should take necessary measure – whether you want to close your office, move out – do anything you can – as long as you can keep the peace.

NOTE: [256] <- dijangka dia ni nda puas ati kana komplen baini kali. (Hahaahahahahaahahahahahaahahahaha)

Are Customers The Real Boss?

w Ada this one customer who came yesterday. A tall guy. Quite good looking juga. But the job was done shortly after. Actually he first came months before and even cerita2 with me pasal his family business. But maybe he thought I didn’t remember, so he acted as if it was the first time he came. Sometimes I have to pretend to not remember because I don’t want to continue talking from where we left. Like my friends said, sometimes I am just too friendly. This friendliness is bothersome and sometimes ends me up in trouble. I must get straight to business.

Just now, he comes in again for the third time. “Yes? Any problem from yesterday?”, I asked. He said he wanted something else. So it was a relief that he didn’t come to tell me that I made a mistake. I hate it when my customers come back just to tell me I made a mistake. Anyway, this time, it was kinda irritating a bit. Because he started to ask me personal questions. “What should I call you?” This guy is younger than I am. It’s obvious. He looks younger, a bit immature – You can tell from the way he talks. But still, decent for someone his age.

I think it’s not important what to call me. He comes as a customer and gets the product or service that he wants. That’s what customers do. Yes, maybe Customers Always Right, or Customers Are The Real Boss – Fine. I will live with that. But only when it comes to matters concerning business. Being a customer doesn’t give you the right to get in someone else’s private. No no.

“Are you married?” He asked me. I considered that a joke. I laughed. “I need to know, cos if you’re married, I will call you sister, if you are not, I will call you by name.” I laughed again. “Think what you like.” I answered jokingly as I was doing some browsing with my pc. Oh man, he looked really seriously curious. “Tell ba. Are you married?” Damn it, damn it, damn it. It was starting to piss me off. Then, to add salt to the wound, he actually looked around my table and look for pictures. People usually put personal pictures on their office desk, right? Damn it. This is going too much. I don’t care what his reasons are. I think my personal life doesn’t have anything to do with whatever reason he comes there.

So after seeing that I refused to tell him anything personal, we were back into business. I said, come again after an hour. Again, he did it. “Can you give me a call? Please? Who knows I forgot right? Then you call me first, ok.?” Whoaaa… it was really pissing me off. You guys must see the look in his face. It was the kind of look that ladies like me don’t like seeing. It was some kind of signals that this thing could be a little more than just business. “Call me la ba, why not? Alaaa, call la ba.” Judging from him asking personal questions, I started to not feel good about agreeing to call. It’s like, another detail I leak if putting me in danger. *Lols. Yeah, female and their sports car mind. *Lols. (Check my post “Boys And Girls Don’t Think Alike”)

I answered him nicely. “Emmm…No need. You come 1 hour from now. Simple and easy, right. I’m sure you’ll remember.” He was a bit embarrassed. Usually, I will just offer to call my customers. But I must follow my guts too. It’s not an unbreakable rules that Customers Are The Real Boss. No. In fact, without people like me who do something for customers’ benefit, I think even customers find a dead end to their needs. In other words, we need each other. And even if the customers think they are always right because the money comes from their purse, it doesn’t give them the right to dig into people’s life just because – hey, I paid for your goods/services – I can ask anything and get answers. Damnit laaa… No Way.

I wonder. Is it because I am a female that I am exposed to situations like that? I imagine if I were a guy, would a female customer asks something about my personal life, like, Hey, are you married kah? And then if I refuse to answer, would she bug me until I say it? It’s not for the intention of being secretive actually. But it’s really not the customers business. They don’t have to know and I don’t think it hurts if I don’t tell. As simple as that.

Just stick to business la ba. Why, next I should give my identity card also ka if you ask for it? Ohh because you’re a customer so you are the boss la kunun kan? *Lols (Baahh…sudah2 la tuu 256. Hahahahahahahaaha). So after an hour, he came again to pick up his stuff. He asked for my namecard. I pura2 cari2 my namecard di wallet. "Alah sudah habis la. Sorry." Adakah sampai dia mau tanya sia stay with sepa, and where I stay? Purlesseee laaa... Biarlah lose satu customer macam ni. Paning sia mau layan. Enuff is enuff!

NOTE: Jangan dibiar tu 256 membebel, sampai bisuk tu karang. Hahahaahahahahhaa. Erkss…self talking again. Hahahahaha.

Stop The Freaking Firestone!!!

I have talked about perangai Batu api yang boleh menghancurkan hubungan baik sesama manusia. Now, if you are in the environment yang penuh persaingan, saling dengki mendengki dan sebagainya… I have a way supaya kita akan sentiasa hidup dalam keadaan aman.

Mulut org kita tidak boleh tutup. Ada2 saja yang kita nda puas hati dengan si anu dan si polan. Tapi benda ni akan diterukkan lagi dengan perangai Batu api sesetengah orang yang jadikan ni sebagai profession sampingan, sama ada dorang sedar atau pun tidak!! Batu api ni adalah org yang mengambil kesempatan daripada ketegangan atmosphere yang melibatkan emosi sekurang-kurangnya dua pihak yg terlibat. (Ya, bila lagi sia mau guna sia punya BM yang sukur2 kredit SPM ni kan guys… *Lols /me pingsan tawa).

Sia pernah terjerat dan sudah pun jadi mangsa si Batu api ni. I have written at least one post about situation yang berlaku di tempat kerja sia yang pernah tegang gara2 sikit punya masalah. Tapi kehadiran si Batu Api di kalangan kami ni menyebabkan org mau masam2 muka dan tidak bertegur. Sia sendiri jadi mangsa kepada si Batu Api ni menyebabkan hubungan sia dengan kenalan sia tu jadi renggang. Suddenly I felt hatred and anguish – semua gara2 mendengar mulut si Batu Api. Nasib baik tidak lama sebab I found the way to make it right. Something was very wrong with the whole thing. People talked at the back and when it comes to the right person, the words were changed in a way that made you think it was much worse than the real thing. It was crazy.

So I made the decision yang I won’t let this Batu Api win again. And one more thing, you guys kena paham yang sometime you are put in the right situation where YOU can be that Batu Api itself. Batu Api is all about the words that you speak to someone, that make the person feels bad about another person. Yesterday, someone tried to “push” me to be that Batu Api. I have a very easy petua how you guys can STOP THIS and keep the good energy.

I know exactly about ketidakpuasan hati 2 kenalan sia ni. Dorang ni dua2 adalah pesaing and at the same time, kawan2 yang duduk semeja borak2 pasal macam2 hal. Sepa sangka, itu semua lakunan saja. Dalam hati masing2 tidak puas hati dengan sesama sendiri. Being someone OUTSIDE the loop, I got to talk to both parties and walaupun sia tidak tanya dorang, dorang sendiri luahkan dengan sia. Then sia jadi sedia maklum dengan ketengangan dalaman dorang ni. So yesterday, one of them datang tempat sia – Just untuk digging some dirty little secrets – “What the other person speaks about me? Anything she told you?”

Ahaa… petuanya macam ni. Biarpun you guys tau apa mau dijawab, dan buat satu cerita yang sangat adventurous untuk didengar, jangan susah2 diri kamu untuk mulakan cerita itu. U save your energy untuk diri kau, buat kerja kau dan cari duit untuk feed your banks. Apa u susah2 mau mula cerita yang could be a starting point to a heated argument? Dorang yang tidak puas hati sesama sendiri, tiada kaitan dengan kau. If you think you want to do something noble dengan bagitau ketidakpuasan hati pihak yang satu lagi, stop it right there. You are not doing what you think you’re doing. You’re making things worse. Jadi you guys know apa sia cakap dengan kenalan sia yang datang bertanya tu? I said, “Ohh…until you speak to me, I don’t know that you guys have something going on.” Padahal sia tau semua cerita dari A sampai Z. Sia cakap ja sia tidak tau. Dulu sia tidak buat macam tu sebab sia pikir sia mau tulung kawan. Tapi akhirnya sia pun termasuk dalam pergaduhan dorang. Kenalan tu rasa tertampar dengan jawapan sia sebab she knows that I was just trying to be fair and not meddling in their business. She knows I know everything. Maybe because she’s very experienced, she understood why I did it. I REFUSE to talk. Sudah2 la sia jadi kamurang punya referree. Sia nda berminat. Yang paling sia nda minat, adalah menjadi si Batu Api yg bikin panas.

Dan one more thing, IF you guys have to go mengadu dan meluah perasaan tentang kebencian or ketidakpuasan hati terhadap orang2 tertentu, you guys have to come to the right person!! Seriously. Sebab ada orang murah hati mau lend telinga, tapi dia tidak tahan untuk simpan tu semua. Akhirnya semua yg you cakap dengan dia, akan dijadikan version baru bila sampai di telinga orang yg kamu nda puas hati tu. Dia tokok tambah abis-abisan … sampaikan cerita kereta terlanggar ayam sampai ayam tu mati, jadi kepada cerita kereta tu accident gara2 mau elak langgar ayam. Sampai gitu sekali dia punya kreativiti putar cerita. Dulu budak2 buli laa… ini benda gaduh2 ni u rasa macam fun. Bila orang lain gaduh, you rasa best sebab you rasa you ni baik sebab you tidak gaduh macam dorang. Dalam dunia bekerja ni, sudah2 la tu. Berhenti bawa mulut. Kita ni ada banyak benda lagi mau dibuat. Kasi mati tu cerita di sana. Bila orang luahkan pada kau, kau tumpang dengar ja. Lepas tu buang tu perkara jauh2. Jangan mau pass2 lagi.

You want to be professional? Buatlah macam tu. Hidup ni begini singkat, kita teda masa mau gaduh2 dan kita teda masa mau tinguk org lain gaduh. Hal dalam kain sarung kita sendiri pun nda terjaga, jangan pula ada masa mau jaga hal dalam kain sarung urg lain. (Pandai2 ja si 256 ni buat perumpamaan. Haahahahaahahahahahahah)

You guys try buat your first mission. You have no idea how much you do for this earth just with your little favour. Stop the freaking firestone – Don’t be one and don’t make someone to be one, and help stop someone from being one. World peace, people, remember that.

Coward!!!!

Sia mau tegur perangai segelintir lelaki ni yang betul2 tidak patut. I don’t know what kind of reputation that you guys inherit from your generation if this is all you can become.

You guys started everything, main ayat2 cinta, and then that’s all you’re good for! You don’t bear responsibility for whatever you have said. Fine, go ahead. But the most irritating thing is, you guys can be so selfish and so so COWARD because you force the girls for their attention but you decide that you can come to them whenever you want, but they CAN’T come to you when they want to. Like you are protecting your life, and privacy – all you want, but when you need the girls, you make them feel that it’s their responsibility to be there for you. That really really sucks.. Do you know that?

You want someone to listen to you, you want someone to talk to you – oh, you can come to them. But when they want you, Opps sorry…”You have to follow my time. See la if I’m free.” Paling buduh lagi, when he has all your numbers, and you have nothing but the office number. So that he can ask his secretary to give any kind of excuses why he is not there at the office.

If mau disoal-siasat…Macam2 la jawapan minta kesian. Keluar la macam2 excuse like his life and time are complicated that’s why he can’t be open that he has certain special female friends who can contact him in his private time. And the ladies will understand because he’s just another male friend and not anyone more special. But then in his time of needs, he tercari-cari dorang and demand macam2. Mau keluar together la, mau pick up la, mau send you home la, mau lunch la --- and everytime that happens, the ladies have to squeeze their schedule thinking that chances like this “don’t come always”, simply because these guys are like “Hot Cakes” – People are CRAVING for them!! Consider yourself lucky if they want to ask you out and spare hours just to spend time with you. Bullsh*T laa!!

And then pandai2 lagi complen…”Why your phone susah betul mau get through ni??” or “Why you always busy when I’m free oh? Bila la dapat keluar sama2 ni?” Or “I want you to make yourself free next month cos I’m free that time.” F*ck Of*lah!! Suka2 hati mau demand macam2. Gara2 macam ni punya kawan lelaki, orang lain boleh salah paham seolah-olah kau yg terhegeh-hegeh mau kawan dengan dia. Sebab bila kau cari dia, satu ofis pun boleh tau gara2 kau tidak dapat contact terus dengan dia. Silap2 orang sibuk2 cakap belakang yang kau ni tergila-gilakan kawan lelaki kau tu. Buduhhh punya kerja eh!!!! (*Pasik mulut si 256 sebab memaki (Hahahaahahahahahaahahahahahaha :PPPPPPPPPP . Uiii pasik itu jari2 bah!!)

Apa yang kawan2 dia tidak tau adalah macamana dia punya drama sandiwara semasa mau memikat the ladies. Main tangkap leleh punya bahasa ba. Kalau sia kena macam ni punya perangai ah….fine, I’ll be polite. Sia dengar saja masuk telinga kiri keluar telinga kanan, tapi the truth is, you guys deserve none other than my second class attention. I will not have time for you, and I couldn’t care less to know where you go, what you do, who you go out with – tu semua kau punya pasal!! I will still be polite if you guys call my phones but for me all the conversation will go with the wind once I press the button End Call. Luckily sia belum pernah jumpa sebegini gila punya lelaki, but kalau jumpa satu pun kira sia betul2 unfortunate. Dorang ni Coward a.k.a pengecut dan seolah-olah lontar batu sembunyi tangan. Kalau sia ada kawan macam ni, bikin jatuh air muka sia ja kalau sia play my part as a good female friend sedangkan dia punya perangai masih main teka teki sama kau. Nda pasal2 dia buat diri dia seolah-olah lelaki Terhangat di Pasaran. Yang lebih ridiculous ialah - bukan pun kau yg cari dia dulu. Dia yang terhegeh2 mau sorong2 diri dia mau kawan dengan kau. And in case you guys are curious, I’m not alone. Semua perempuan pun tidak akan suka macam ni. Bukan saja u guys susah mau dapat respect kawan2 perempuan you, they will think twice to consider you more than a friend, if you know what I mean.

Be brave, be bold – and be a man la ba! Apa kelas mau pikir sendiri punya diri saja. Even kenalan2 biasa pun tidak buat macam tu bah. They even make themselves available if you need them, inikan lagi kawan macam kau; yang actually bukan pun try mau jadi “just a friend” but more like a suitor sebab kalau sudah mau sangat dengan satu perempuan tu, kalau buli kamu sanggup terjun untuk buktikan kasih sayang kamu tu. Cakap bukan main berapi-api lagi. Haiyaa…masih ada kah ini punya creature dalam dunia ni? Itu pun, nasib baik dapat kawan perempuan yang sporting dan tidak ambil pusing bila you guys susun langkah mau memikat. Belum tentu lagi u guys tidak pegi canang satu daerah kalau u yang kena buat macam tu. Sudah cukup grateful ada orang yg bagi muka dengan sandiwara kamurang tu dan tidak kasi malu kamu dengan sebarkan cerita perilaku kamurang tu. Eiiii…macam2 ada bah kan!!!

Sudahhh!! Enuff!! If you are this type, shooo shoo!!! Main jauh2!

/me berabis ketawa sampai jatuh kerusi. Sepa pasik sia sia balas ahh…jagaaaa… Hahaahahahaahahahahaahahahahaha

"I Am A Friend Of Both You And You Enemy"

Have you ever been the middle person of two rivals? Well, caught between two friends who are enemies to each other, how do you handle it? Will you show your clear support to one party or do you give fair share to both?

In certain situation, I refuse to pick. Because friendship is more important to me. I have had arguments in the past and I tell you, it’s anything but good news. I know what’s inside the heart of the two rivaling parties who never get along. They don’t feel good about it either. You don’t need to add salt to the wound by siding one of them when they are both your friends.

I have some friends who are not likable to many. People even throw at me some kind of funny stares how the heck I could be a friend to people who they dislike so much. But then, you guys look at me and where I stand. Why I could be a friend to these people most of my other friends hate? Why the people that they call “enemies” could stick to me and call me friend ?

Which should I focus here? The bad qualities of my rivaling friends or my good qualities that make both of them to still be in good terms with me? All I can say is, I don’t CARE. If I can find one reason to be your friend, I will go for it and I am NOT a kid anymore that I hear so much what other people gonna say. I even feel something good inside when someone that most people don’t like, is a friend of mine. I focus more on how a peaceful person I can become that YOUR RIVALRY won’t stop me from making friends with your enemies. And by me making friends with your enemies, DOESN’T MAKE ME YOUR ENEMY. I am trying to send a loud message there, don’t you think?

But I can’t deny, in order for this to happen. I need to have very high integrity. I can’t ENJOY the show of them fighting among each other. If I can’t do much to fix it, I might as well, STAY AWAY from it. I won’t advice you guys, Hey, come on. Stop it. U guys jangan quarrel mcm budak2 ba, please? No no. I won’t do that. One rule I should obey, NEVER make things worse for them. If one party wants me to sit there and listen what they dislike about the other party, I will sit and listen. And then when the other party does that, I will do the same. And what’s the rule? Never Leak Anything that turn them into BIGGER ENEMIES because you have to understand these both parties are good people to begin with. They only have big misunderstanding. If you happen to be in between them and you’re putting on A BIGGER SCENE than the parties themselves, I CALL YOU A LOSER. Feel ashamed on yourself. Don’t Do That.

I have also involved in big arguments with my friends at least once in my life, so I won’t be playing angels here. I know what arguments are. I respect both of you and I hope that with your friendship with me, I can be the bridge to make you guys find LESS reason to prolong the arguments. Come to think about it, If your enemy, who is also my friend, IS THAT BAD, How could the person become a friend of mine, when I myself, at the same time, a friend of yours? How evil can someone be when he/she can be a friend to one of your friend. That’s something to ponder upon. :)

Stupidity Won't Kill, But...

You guys pernah ka jadi org yang ditugaskan jadi leader? Tanggungjawab kamu adalah to make sure that kerja berjalan dengan lancar dan semua org bawahan kamu buat kerja dorang. Sia rasa, nda kisah la dalam apa2 situasi, kadang2 mimang kita diuji juga dalam menangani mcm2 karenah manusia. Biasa la, ada orang yang IQ dia tinggi sikit atau rendah sikit dari yang lain. So, sepa mau diblame ni? Terlebih didikan atau terkurang didikan?

Sia dengar tu cerita kawan2 sia yang menangani karenah org bawahan dorang. Macam2 karenah ba timbul. Ada yang disuruh buat A, dibuatnya B. Baru2 tu, ada kawan sia mengeluh panjang ba. Dia cakap dia sudah suruh tu satu pekerja dia ni buat satu list kerja sementara dia ada urusan di luar ofis. Satu kali dia balik, buli2 dia nampak tu pekerja kan duduk termenung saja. U imagine la 4 jam u tiada di ofis, tiada satu pun kerja yang dibuat. Itu pekerja cakap, “Macam tidak ngam pula sia tinguk kalau tu barang kena buat mcm tu.” Heran terus ba kawan sia. Sebab masa dia kasi tu kerja, tu pekerja angguk ja mcm tau ja apa mau dibuat. Selepas 4 jam terbuang begitu saja, senang2 ja dia cakap dia tidak tau buat tu barang. So kawan sia ni, apa lagi. Dengan geramnya, dia tunjuklah macamana mau buat. Simple explanation saja. Sampai tu pekerja punya muka tersipu-sipu sebab dengan penerangan begitu simple, baru dia tau itu kerja sangat mudah ba. Jawapan dia, “Tau la sia ni, lambat pikap sikit. Teda degree kan.” Terus dia buat muka yang seolah2 dia cakap, “Opps, bukan salah sia. Mimang tahap pendidikan mcm sia ni, sia nda akan terpikir buat tu barang mcm tu.” Sia dengar kawan sia cerita pun sia buli panas hati ba. Hahahaahahahahah. Bikin panazzz betul. Buli2 dia cakap macam tu.

Ada lagi satu kejadian yang lain. Kawan sia ni ada kedai pengantin ba. Masa tu dia keluar, so staff dia call. Dia tanya ada customer mau beli ni “satu benda” yang teda kena display price. So kawan sia ni berabis la tanya, “Barang yang mana satu ni?" Staff dia tu cakap..."Yang macam REBEN2 yang ada BUNGA ni ba...” So, when dia describe tu benda sebagai REBEN yang ada BUNGA, automatik kawan sia pikir itu adalah one of koleksi reben2 yang ditaruh bunga, which harga inda lari RM1.50 ja gitu. Satu kali, bila kawan sia sampai kedai dia, rupa-rupanyaa... itu REBEN2 yg ada bunga tu adalah CORSAGE – iaitu description yang lebih tepat adalah, BUNGA yang ada REBEN. Dan yang paling patut dia sebut adalah, Bunga yang ada pin di belakang..HA, itu la explanation yg paling2 cikai dia buli kasi ba. Harga satu pun dekat RM5 ba itu barang. Gara2 itu staff dia kasi explaination salah, itu CORSAGE hampir HABIS di pajak oleh tu customer sebab terkejut harga begitu murah untuk CORSAGE orkid yg begitu cantik. Punya la kawan sia control abis sudah tu marah dia sebab kesilapan itu TIDAK PATUT berlaku, tapi berlaku juga... gara2 apa? Wait until you hear apa staff dia cakap. “ Tau la sia ni. Sekolah pun nda tinggi. Sia nda tau macamana mau cakap.”

Terus kawan sia cakap. “PUNYA BUDUH!!!!!!!!! Ini bukan pasal kau SPM saja ka, atau kau ada degree ka, PHD ka, ini semua org yang asal ada OTAK pun buli buat sudah ba. Kalau setakat mau describe satu benda Bunga yang ada reben kepada Reben yang ada bunga pun tidak tau, apa lagi lain2 hal? Lepas tu, kasi harga RM1 untuk satu barang yg harga RM 5, walaupun dia sudah tau standard harga barang2 di kedai tu mimang simpang malaikat 44 mau kasi harga mcm tu punya murah untuk barang yang begitu cantik. Kau bawa kau punya sijil SPM pun sia buli kuyak depan2 kau ba sebab ada otak tidak mau pakai.” Berabis sia ketawa baa sebab dia cakap tu bukan depan pekerja dia, tapi depan sia! Lepas geram la ba tu. Hahahahahaahhaaha. Sakit sudah perut sia ketawa ba. Tapi, sia actually quite setuju juga dengan kawan sia tu.

Kalau semua org mcm tu, bila mau maju. Hanya kerana kau SPM dan boss kau ada degree, kau rasa kau akan melanggar hukum kalau kau berpikir jauh sikit dan bertindak cerdik sikit – sebab kau rasa, tahap pendidikan kau tu mimang kau ada hak untuk jadi lembab sikit, dan buat mcm2 kesalahan bodoh, alasan? – “Mimang akal sia ni nda seberapa, sebab setakat SPM saja kan”. Tolonglah, jangan benda ni berlaku sama sia sebab I can't promise to be gentle. Bukan apa, begitu byk SPM leavers yang cemerlang di luar sana, kau di sini masih lagi sibuk bercakap, Sia ni SPM leaver saja, mimang ada pikap sikit. Come on, get a life. Paduli apa kau ada SPM saja ka atau ada Degree, kau buli buang laut itu sijil kalau kau TIDAK BOLEH APPLY even the most simplest common sense. Itu pendidikan yang lepas2 tu nda payah mau kana ungkit2, yang penting, depan mata tu u guys buli handle ka tidak? Come On La!!!

Do Something Smart Today. Start Somewhere!!!

Bikin Malu Sama Lelaki Saja...

Who doesn’t love this creature who are made to be a leader, who are made to be a father, a loving romantic boyfriend, a protective brother…Who people, Who? Dalam dunia ni cuma ada perempuan dan lelaki saja (yang selainnya tu dikira minoriti saja). Tiada guna mau musuh2. Sia tulis this posting bukan sebab sia saja2 mau kutuk. Ubah your mentaliti kalau mau maju. This is my pandangan terhadap apa yang berlaku di sekeliling kita. The famous line, “Who wears the pants in the family” – Masih valid ka tu?

Sebagai seorang perempuan, sia ada byk reason untuk adore kaum lelaki. Apa lagi yang hensem2, yang macho2, ditambah lagi dengan gaya yang gentleman, smart, pandai main gitar, pandai menari…wow…mudahnya untuk menyukai kaum lelaki. Bodohnya sia kalau saja2 mau cari pasal sama kaum lelaki ni. Dorang ni sudah diciptakan untuk melengkapi perempuan dan without them, populasi manusia pun tidak akan berkembang ba. 

Hahahahahahahaha. Ok persoalannya di sini…lelaki ni dilahirkan sebegitu hebat; dan kerana kehebatan itu lah, dorang ni ada tanggungjawab besar di bahu dorang. Bukan saja2 kamurang kana lahir hebat mcm tuu…hanya untuk jadi LOSERS, you understand me??

Apa mau jadi sama lelaki zaman sekarang ni? Of course bukan semua. Tapi golongan yang masih mengekalkan reputasi lelaki ni semakin KURANG. Semakin banyak yang tidak perform dan yang lebih teruk lagi, dorang sikit pun tidak rasa “bersalah” dengan ketiadaan daya maju yang begitu melampau. Erkks…sounds rough. But wait…read until the end.

Berapa banyak kes kamu dengar yang lelaki sekarang ni duduk guyang kaki di rumah, sedangkan bini dorang bertungkus lumus cari duit untuk keluarga? Tidak cukup dengan itu, sudah tau bini tu keluar bekerja, anak kecil di rumah pun tidak mau jaga. Terpaksa lagi hire org gaji untuk jaga itu anak. Dengan alasan, dorang takut tidak mampu jaga tu anak dan oleh sebab itu, paling selamat ambil orang gaji supaya itu anak punya kebajikan terjaga. Ada juga yang masa kawin, semua harap duit ibu bapa…lepas kawin, itu bini lagi tanggung semua. Itu bini biarlah kerja di ladang ayam saja pungut telur, susah macamana pun, still dapat kasi makan anak dan laki dia yg teda kerja lain, pigi moginum saja. Sikit pun tidak malu. Kalau pandai malu kana cakap2 org tu, kira bagus sudah. At least, gara2 takut kana cakap, terus pandai juga keluar cari duit. Ini tidak!!! Sikit pun tidak malu. Mungkin di hati tu ada jua sikit malu, but THEY ARE SO HELPLESS. Dorang rasa dorang sudah stuck dengan situasi dorang yang teda education, teda peluang kerja, dan macam2 lagi alasan la! Oleh itu, dorang face day by day dengan mengikut kepala otak dorang…Malas mau pikir pasal masalah dan tanggungjawab. Cos dorang tau…itu bini dorang tidak akan biarkan dorang mati kebuluran, apa lagi dengan adanya anak. Mau nda mau, itu bini kena jua buat sesuatu supaya hidup dapat diteruskan. Sounds Familiar?

Itu kes rumahtangga. Macam2 style. Pokoknya, semakin banyak lelaki sudah lepas tangan ba. Apa yang lebih mengharukan…I tengok sendiri ini lelaki2, lengkap tubuh badan, tiada cacat, tiada sakit…betapa UNDERutilized nya dorang ini. Betapa sia-sianya semua kurniaan itu sedangkan dorang tiada jiwa seorang fighter. Tidak mau berusaha. Tidak mau pakai otak. Tidak mau susah2. Now you tell me, sudah cukup ka untuk dorang ni dipanggil LOSERS? Not yet? Okay carry on reading.

Setiap manusia ada kelemahan. Tapi sudah tugas kita untuk tau kelemahan kita dan perbaiki. Satu kelemahan yang TIDAK BOLEH diterima, untuk kaum lelaki ni adalah, PENGURUSAN KEWANGAN. Seriously. Jangan pula tuduh sia ni mata duitan. Look at this in a bigger picture. Kenapa perempuan mau lelaki yg berduit? Jangan tanya org lain la, ASK ME. I will answer you right away. Bukan itu DUIT yang kami kejar. Untuk sia, kewangan seorang lelaki itu menggambarkan ACHIEVEMENT dalam hidup. Kalau dia ada simpanan yang kukuh, that means dia sudah capai sesuatu dalam hidup dia. Dia sudah boleh pikir jauh2 untuk capai yang lebih lagi. Tidak kira apa tahap pendidikan dia. Tapi kalau dia ada simpanan dan bijak berbelanja, dia mimang sudah jadi lelaki yg sepatutnya. Tapi apa jadi sama kebanyakan lelaki sekarang?

Dorang prefer guna itu istilah “Biar Papa Asal Bergaya”. Betul2 bikin malu. Sudah tau baru masuk kerja, tiada simpanan, simpan sampai 2, 3 perempuan, pegi pula ambil kereta Waja yang installment buli bayar ka tidak? “Ah, nanti la hujung bulan pikir!”. Hari2 call girlfriend, bawa makan, jalan sana, jalan sini…baru minggu pertama, sudah pokai. Masa kerja, terpaksa minta belanja kawan2. Kalau teda mau belanja, pinjam pula duit dorang, “nanti gaji bayar.” Kalau sudah tiap bulan pinjam sampai RM500, dapat bayar Cuma RM200, kumpul punya kumpul baki dia…lama2, GAJI pun negatif woo!! I bet, banyak kamu dengar kes mcm ni!!

Dalam berkawan pun…lelaki zaman sekarang ni pun lain sudah. Kalau dulu, dorang rasa, cukup la kalau tu perempuan lawa, kiut, bersopan, dorang mau pok sudah. Zaman sekarang ni…kriteria tambahan seorang perempuan idaman, ADA DUIT! Gila punya kerja. Sikit pun tidak malu. Kalau lelaki itu berduit, semestinya dia nda kisah ba if itu perempuan teda duit kan? Melainkan itu lelaki jenis yang manggas dan pokai saja, baru la dorang akan pok perempuan yg berduit dan biasanya perempuan berduit ni adalah org yang lebih berkerjaya dari dorang. Satu perkara yg paling2 bikin malu adalah lelaki yg MEMINJAM duit kawan perempuan dorang. Bukan adik atau kakak, ataupun bini…cuma kawan biasa saja pun pun sudah pinjam2 duit perempuan. Mimang I am old-fashioned when it comes to this. Sebab sia pandang kaum lelaki ni kaum yang dilahirkan untuk jadi ketua ba. Jadi bila sudah jadi macam ni…sia rasa benda tu sangat memalukan.

Maybe I myself have guyfriends yang mcm tu. Sekarang ni, sia pun terpaksa jua tengok apa tujuan seorang lelaki tu berkawan sama sia. Adakah sebab dia pikir sia ni boleh memberikan kepentingan material sama dia or whatsoever. I really feel that you guys should STOP right there and start to mend that damn ego that has been awfully broken. You guys tidak malu ka? Malu la sikit geng! Guna la itu tangan, kaki dan tubuh badan yang sihat untuk tingkatkan diri. Yang paling penting sekali, guna itu KEPALA OTAK kamurang tu untuk maju. Malu sikit sama perempuan. Jangan kami pula yang penat2 kerja dan kamu pula yang tukang kira berapa income yg kami boleh dapat dari usaha kami sendiri. Bikin malu lelaki saja. Think about it and Do Something!

WHAT SHOULD YOU DO TO THE PEOPLE YOU HATE?

You have people that you dislike or hate? Okay great. You come to the right place. I go straight to the point. This is how I see it. I don’t really have enemies, but I do have this category of people that I call “THE TOXIC PEOPLE” in my life. They are the people who bring bad energy to you. When you are around them, you don’t feel like being yourself. They bring you bad influences and they always give you the reason to feel down. Identify who the toxic people in your life. At least, you know who they are. What you want to do to them is up to you. But this is what I do…

I GET RID OF THEM. As much as I can. Yes, it’s to the extent that you don’t give your phone number to them. I know it’s not nice, I know it could sound pretty rude but THAT IS THE BEST option there is. I don’t make enemies with them. I don’t argue or raise the hot issues, or even tell them to their face how disgusted I am at them. NO. That’s not my way.

AVOID THEM as much as you can. If you have to deal with them once in a while, you have to be in control of how much emotion you show. Don’t show that irritation because this will create a bad force of energy in the air. It’s not good for YOU. What I do is I limit my conversation with them and at the same time, show some “gap”, a signal that you need a space in between. You don’t sit beside them or when you have no choice but be near them, don’t start any conversation that will touch your personal matters. The way I do it…I usually give these people the signal that I need a gap between us by showing very much different reaction when I am around the people that I like – Suddenly I’m very noisy and friendly, and there’s a lot of whispering and soft talking when talking certain matters – giving them the idea that you’re willing to share private matters with certain people. So, given that the people do have some brains to think and heart to feel…THEY WILL KNOW WHERE THEY STAND. And you don’t have to argue or embarrass yourself by saying the wrong words – They will know how to give you the space you want without much words said. At the same time, your relationship with them will not labeled as ENEMIES neither GOOD FRIENDS.

After all said and done, It’s the concept that you guys should know. IF WE CAN’T MAKE FRIENDS WITH THEM, DON’T MAKE ENEMIES WITH THEM. In other words, IF YOU CAN’T BRING THEM ANYTHING GOOD, DON’T BRING THEM ANYTHING BAD. Remember, we are only humans. We have weaknesses. Don’t blame yourself for having bad feelings to certain people, but then, you keep your humanly virtues in the right place, don’t hurt them just because they don’t know how much irritation they bring to you. This way, we can avoid bad energy from polluting the atmosphere and avoid yourself from making more mortal sins, if you know what I mean.

DON’T WE WANT THIS WORLD TO BE A BETTER PLACE? That’s a little piece that we can do to contribute. Try it. It might work on you too :)