The Ultimate Reason Why People Get Married

Of course you will talk about having kids legally, or to legalize sexual intercourse, or to complete normal cycle of a human being when they reach adulthood, you want to live with the one you love, you want to have someone to grow old with and build family together, you want to have someone take care of you and so on. I really don’t want to go deep into something that most of you know better than me but to me, there’s n ultimate reason why people get married.

What should be the main reason people get married is...

 TO HAVE A BETTER LIFE THAN BEING SINGLE

A lot of marriages out there get to complete the little reasons which some I have mentioned above, but they miss the ultimate reason why they get married. Instead of having a better life, they have a worse life. Instead of peace, their lives become a nightmare when the marriage constantly gives headache and problems. Instead of laughter, it’s tears all the way.

The people who have experienced a wrecked marriage might agree with this. We see a lot of divorce cases and separations and even the aftermath feud about who’s gonna take care of the kids and other stuff. Taking example from this lady friend who was divorced by her husband of almost 11 years, and they have no kids, it’s like she would wish that the 11 years were never happened. She thought that it was better off that she was single from the beginning than to end up that way. She thought that she has wasted her life just to be back to “single”, with 11 years missing from the life diary.

This could also be the reason, why many married ladies, advice this to those who are not married.

“BETTER DON’T GET MARRIED, OR YOU’LL END UP LIKE ME.”

They refer to their troubled marriage life, with irresponsible husband who only know how to make babies but the wife is the one who takes care of the kids while the dad is busy looking for someone else to make his mistress or just part time girlfriend or even a secret wife. They saw it that their man was never enough and didn’t honour the marriage vow as much as they did. The hurtful wives conclude they wish they never got married in the first place, rather than to end up in a miserable life.

THEY HAVE A POINT.

If you know the outcome of your marriage life, do you still want to get married when you are better off being single?

Look at your single life. You have the freedom. You have all the money to spend. You can go out and date with anything without feeling guilty or thinking that you are wronging someone and you can simply do what you want without asking for permission from your partner, no jealousy game and no heartache. Life would still be giving you your share of tears and laughter as you go by with the days, you will still have occasional sadness and misery from your troubles, but if marriage is that biggest contributor of your problem, imagine how much heartache you save yourself from. Most importantly for the ladies, you don’t have to endure the excruciating pain when you man cheats on you for another woman. You don’t have to feel like your heart is torn apart and bleeding profusely when your man starts to treat and see you as a bunch of rubbish that has no value. That happens a lot in the relationship stage. But marriage is different. You give and devote your life to the man who you thought gonna love you forever. To deal with broken relationship is painful enough, some even commit suicide. Now we are talking about broken marriage. Imagine that.

I really don’t blame the ladies why they discourage the single ladies to get married because Yes, they have experienced the wondrous joys of the wedding celebration, they have felt the reward of finally being together with the one they love and finally feel that the person is solely belongs to them – such a indescribable blessing to feel that way. They have fought for their love and get united with their match from heaven in a ceremony witnessed by friends and family, before God. But after everything, I’m sure that’s why the pain feels much more painful because they have felt such happiness and they thought they don’t deserve such sorrow. How come the paradise that they build together for years crushed and wrecked like all the years never happen.

The single ladies haven’t felt all that yet. They are still having some unclear visions of how it’s going to be like. Is it gonna be heaven or otherwise? I’m curious too. With all the happenings with the marriage institutions in today’s world, I become even terrified of the outcome. Marriage is a gambling. Yes. No one knows how it’s going to turn out like, you have to go through that process and find out yourself. But in my position now, you get the logic that I totally aware of the ultimate reason WHY people should get married. To all the single people out there, ask that question, if what you have next is showing some potential that you gonna reach your marriage goal, yeah, maybe it’s worth to take the risk. What about those who could not yet see HOW marriage that they opt to get would make them reach the goal? Don’t ask a lot of question if you can’t even answer this one.

“IS THAT MARRIAGE GONNA MAKE YOUR LIFE BETTER?”

If he’s jobless, lazy, has wandering eyes, keeps too much secrets, bad-tempered, irresponsible, no religious faith, lack of motivation etc – with the few I have mentioned, be realistic if you think sharing your life with the person with this criteria gonna make your life BETTER. Or maybe you can ask for magic or miracle to turn things around the way you favour after the wedding happens. Oh come on. Get real.

Until you find some security to start the gambling, ask no more questions why the single ladies choose to be single. Trust me they might know better what they are doing. :)