The Ultimate Reason Why People Get Married

Of course you will talk about having kids legally, or to legalize sexual intercourse, or to complete normal cycle of a human being when they reach adulthood, you want to live with the one you love, you want to have someone to grow old with and build family together, you want to have someone take care of you and so on. I really don’t want to go deep into something that most of you know better than me but to me, there’s n ultimate reason why people get married.

What should be the main reason people get married is...

 TO HAVE A BETTER LIFE THAN BEING SINGLE

A lot of marriages out there get to complete the little reasons which some I have mentioned above, but they miss the ultimate reason why they get married. Instead of having a better life, they have a worse life. Instead of peace, their lives become a nightmare when the marriage constantly gives headache and problems. Instead of laughter, it’s tears all the way.

The people who have experienced a wrecked marriage might agree with this. We see a lot of divorce cases and separations and even the aftermath feud about who’s gonna take care of the kids and other stuff. Taking example from this lady friend who was divorced by her husband of almost 11 years, and they have no kids, it’s like she would wish that the 11 years were never happened. She thought that it was better off that she was single from the beginning than to end up that way. She thought that she has wasted her life just to be back to “single”, with 11 years missing from the life diary.

This could also be the reason, why many married ladies, advice this to those who are not married.

“BETTER DON’T GET MARRIED, OR YOU’LL END UP LIKE ME.”

They refer to their troubled marriage life, with irresponsible husband who only know how to make babies but the wife is the one who takes care of the kids while the dad is busy looking for someone else to make his mistress or just part time girlfriend or even a secret wife. They saw it that their man was never enough and didn’t honour the marriage vow as much as they did. The hurtful wives conclude they wish they never got married in the first place, rather than to end up in a miserable life.

THEY HAVE A POINT.

If you know the outcome of your marriage life, do you still want to get married when you are better off being single?

Look at your single life. You have the freedom. You have all the money to spend. You can go out and date with anything without feeling guilty or thinking that you are wronging someone and you can simply do what you want without asking for permission from your partner, no jealousy game and no heartache. Life would still be giving you your share of tears and laughter as you go by with the days, you will still have occasional sadness and misery from your troubles, but if marriage is that biggest contributor of your problem, imagine how much heartache you save yourself from. Most importantly for the ladies, you don’t have to endure the excruciating pain when you man cheats on you for another woman. You don’t have to feel like your heart is torn apart and bleeding profusely when your man starts to treat and see you as a bunch of rubbish that has no value. That happens a lot in the relationship stage. But marriage is different. You give and devote your life to the man who you thought gonna love you forever. To deal with broken relationship is painful enough, some even commit suicide. Now we are talking about broken marriage. Imagine that.

I really don’t blame the ladies why they discourage the single ladies to get married because Yes, they have experienced the wondrous joys of the wedding celebration, they have felt the reward of finally being together with the one they love and finally feel that the person is solely belongs to them – such a indescribable blessing to feel that way. They have fought for their love and get united with their match from heaven in a ceremony witnessed by friends and family, before God. But after everything, I’m sure that’s why the pain feels much more painful because they have felt such happiness and they thought they don’t deserve such sorrow. How come the paradise that they build together for years crushed and wrecked like all the years never happen.

The single ladies haven’t felt all that yet. They are still having some unclear visions of how it’s going to be like. Is it gonna be heaven or otherwise? I’m curious too. With all the happenings with the marriage institutions in today’s world, I become even terrified of the outcome. Marriage is a gambling. Yes. No one knows how it’s going to turn out like, you have to go through that process and find out yourself. But in my position now, you get the logic that I totally aware of the ultimate reason WHY people should get married. To all the single people out there, ask that question, if what you have next is showing some potential that you gonna reach your marriage goal, yeah, maybe it’s worth to take the risk. What about those who could not yet see HOW marriage that they opt to get would make them reach the goal? Don’t ask a lot of question if you can’t even answer this one.

“IS THAT MARRIAGE GONNA MAKE YOUR LIFE BETTER?”

If he’s jobless, lazy, has wandering eyes, keeps too much secrets, bad-tempered, irresponsible, no religious faith, lack of motivation etc – with the few I have mentioned, be realistic if you think sharing your life with the person with this criteria gonna make your life BETTER. Or maybe you can ask for magic or miracle to turn things around the way you favour after the wedding happens. Oh come on. Get real.

Until you find some security to start the gambling, ask no more questions why the single ladies choose to be single. Trust me they might know better what they are doing. :)

"He's Stealing My Wife!"

A filed a case against C, for seducing B, with the intention of having sexual intercourse with her at Plaza Condominium, Jalan Wan Kadir, Taman Tun Dr Ismail in Kuala Lumpur, between July 2007 and September 2008.

"I was shocked to see Darren Choy arriving with Daphne because I was not told about the man (Darren).

"I was also shocked to see Darren Choy's right hand on her shoulder and kissing her on the left cheek, very close to the ear," said Chong, who is the first prosecution witness in the case, in the proceedings before Magistrate Engku Ahmad Rashdi Engku Abdillah.

This is a very rare case. Usually we hear the cases where 2 women argue over a man, leaving the man looking innocent. This time it's TOTALLY the opposite. A is Ryan Chong, B is Daphne Iking and C is Darren Choy. When this happened, Ryan was Daphne's husband. Now they already got divorced.

C (Darren) faces a maximum jail term of two years, or fine, or both, if convicted. The case is being heard under Section 498 of the Penal Code (Enticing or taking away or detaining with a criminal intent a married woman). (This is the first time that I hear something like this goes to court!)

A (Ryan) said, "I do not want to see him (Darren) use his position as Adidas managing director to seduce Daphne and ruin my entire life."

C (Darren) said, "“I am not rich enough to ‘entice’ her with diamonds and pearls, and other finer things in life. Besides, I don’t think she will fall for that kind of trick, since as I have said before, she’s smart,” said Choy, adding that he has known her for three years.

The most interesting part is when B (Daphne) said, “This is not my case. It’s funny, my name is associated with the case, but I have got nothing to do with it and, therefore, I will not be present at any of the hearings,” she was quoted as saying in media reports.

Since Ryan is now divorced with Daphne, this is like a revenge towards Darren and he's going to get him to hurt his ego as Daphne's husband at the time the "crime" took place. Well...just wait and see how this case goes.

Maybe you men would not think twice before you make any instances towards someone's woman. A lesson to learn :)

"Leave That Man, I Dare You!!" : Part II

Yes I am very furious when I write this. I am very mad at how this world has to toy with us. And I hate how helpless we are because we can only stand to become A VICTIM and we can’t even fight this flow. FUCK OFF!!! Who said we can’t? I’d say FUCK YOU to all the people who says “I’m not guilty. I’m just a victim.” When you find out that you’re wrecking a marriage, I DARE YOU TO STOP IT, you idiot!!!! I’m talking about a peaceful marriage that goes shaky only when you start to come in the picture. When you know a man is taken, STOP IT and don’t go ahead with whatever angelic agenda that you have cos there’s nothing angelic in you when you start to ruin an institution. YOU JUST A DEVIL IN ITS WORST FORM, that even Lucifer is only your number two. I tell you why. You are given so much blessing, women. You are given a beauty that are appreciated by others, and then you are given the brain to think what’s good what’s not. And I tell you what else. YOU ARE GIVEN sensitivity of a woman that God gives ONLY TO WOMEN, when you can easily feel the pain of others and you can easily feel compassion towards others. You would save a kitten from getting drown or you would save the helpless little puppy from getting run by a car – YES, WE WOMEN WOULD DO THIS because of the blessing that God gives us. We have A HEART that feels MORE. The men ARE NOTHING without us. Now you tell me how do you use your gifts. I don’t blame you for looking for love. You only want to look for the man that God made for you.

That’s why I’m writing this post to cry out to all the ladies out there. I heard a lot of cases of broken marriage because of the 3rd person. I feel so sad. I feel soo soo sad. Although most of these people don’t even know me, but I feel sorry for them. A friend was divorced by her husband of 10 years. One day she’s the queen, the next day she’s just a garbage. I know that a problem in a marriage is not as simple as we look at it. Problems in marriage can get very complicated that only the 2 people know about it. I cry out that LETS NOT BE THE REASON why 2 people, who are once in love, separate and lead each other’s way. LETS NOT BE THE REASON WHY the sacred vows before God are broken and violated. I BEG YOU, ladies. Just forgive these men for being an asshole once. After you find out that he’s been lying to you and still carry on with him and let him leave his woman, you’re opening a firehole for yourself, ladies. THIS MAN IS NOT WORTH IT. If he does something like that to his woman, he would do something even more horrible to you because you ALLOW HIM to continue to be that asshole. You get me?

I’m using this approach because I want you ladies to start looking at this in a bigger picture. Yes, your dream might be crushed if you leave him, but if you don’t, you crush so many dreams that happen before you come. It’s not worth it. People have gone through so much to still be together and you come as a poison and make another lady turned into a rubbish to the man who promised her the world. If you think that the other lady is just no one for you to do this favour to, THIS IS NOT ABOUT THE OTHER LADY. This is about your integrity as a human being. God will repay you if you do your part to preserve a good element that we still have on this earth. YOU CAN’T RUIN THEIR MARRIAGE. They are many ladies out there who are wetting their pillow with tears every night because of what you did. This is not how you prove “how dangerous” you are. INSTEAD, you should be STRONG ENOUGH to walk out from a man’s life to teach him the lesson that he should never betray his woman. If you can do that, that’s DANGEROUS. THAT’S HOT. THAT’S BEAUTIFUL. THAT’S POWERFUL. Then only I can say you’re using your assets the right way.

How many of you who are still contemplating of what to do when you find yourself trapped between two people who are tied with marriage vows. You take this post as a motivation. Yes I know it hurts so deeply. I know that you would even cry to sleep and cry again when you wake up. I know the pain is so real if you start to love the man. TRY to imagine this. WHAT IF you are in the lady’s place, whose man is stolen by someone else, who is in your place now? Imagine your hopes are destroyed in a glimpse of eyes. Just the thought of it makes your breath run short, right? STOP IT. It’s time to do something good. TRUST ME GOD will repay you and give you back something much better than what you have let go.

THIS LIFE is just a playground, people. Imagine that. God wants to see who can stay righteous and correct their ways. Or maybe if you’re selfish enough, don’t need to think about others. Just think that you want to do the right thing. I don’t want to scare you with Karma because that shouldn’t be the reason why you do good things. You do good things because of the sake of the goodness itself. Who cares about KARMA. What I believe is when you are good, you will get a reward from your Creator.

LADIES, WE ARE NOT A HOME-WRECKER. We are honourable ladies who do the right thing. We have education. We have religion. We DON’T break people’s marriage. I’m sure when you get married one day, you don’t want that to happen to you too. Let’s do the right thing. THANKS.

NOTE: Sorry for my bad language in this post. To be honest with you guys, I’ve been in the position to be a home-wrecker to some marriage. I feel sorry for the ladies affected and I feel it even more when my own friends experience it. I corrected my ways before it’s too late. I see that men can be loyal but they still pick to be disloyal when they find another lady who is willing to be the partner in crime. They are victimizing you, don’t you know it? Don’t let them make a fool of yourself. If the men need some lesson, go ahead and teach them. Anyway, in certain cases, yes, some marriages are bound to end because of so many problems. I believe that destiny has a way of making you guys be together eventually, in a proper way. Just don’t go ruin the marriage and create a make believe destiny on another lady’s grievance. And to the MEN who think with their dicks…I have a message for you guys. You guys can never take advantage of us. We have a way of teaching you how to put the brain back to where it belongs. MEND YOUR WAYS before it’s too late.

"Leave That Man, I Dare You!!" : Part I

This is a WAKE UP CALL to all the dangerous ladies out there.

Warning: Bad language and vulgarity are switched on in this post. Matured adults only pls.

I use this word “dangerous” to describe how much ordeal you can bring others just by being who you are, doing what you do.

In the midst of us celebrating our womanly freedom of knowing what we want, doing what we like and going after our goals, LET’S NOT FORGET how many people that would get hurt in the process. Do you want to build your glory stepping on the back of innocent people? Ask yourself that. If you don’t have a heart, you can stop reading now. This post is not for you.

For the rest of you, listen up. Just because you are single, attractive, powerful and whatever you want to add to that list, it doesn’t give you the right to use these advantages to ruin another woman’s life. Yes, you hear me.

I have written about Triangle Love before. I backed up for 3rd person, saying that she who comes the second in the man’s life, not necessarily the bad one. Look, no correction for that. But I have something to add. When I write that, it doesn’t mean that you can just interrupt in other people’s good relationship thinking that “oh 256 said the 3rd person is not that guilty.” Wrong. I have to give a different emphasize this time. THE MEN.

MEN are VERY WEAK creatures. Ouch? Yes you heard me. It takes a lot of guts for me to write that because that also means that I dedicate a disgrace to all the men in my life. I tell you why they are weak. Maybe because God gives them physical strength, He gives them something to balance that. They have one weakness that could RUIN IT ALL. Their weakness is when their brains can easily change hands. From inside the head to inside the pants. This…my dear friends, is MEN’s biggest weakness, apart from their shortcomings whether it’s from their habits or attitudes. They ALL share the same trait. I’m sorry. I’m highlighting this is because this trait is the reason WHY you dangerous lady can become the most wanted criminal on earth. 

You know they are weak. They can say one promise to the woman they love and simply forget about it when they meet you the next day. That’s not bad enough. Men can even forget the freaking 10-20 years of marriage, with the women they walked the aisle with, just as simple as meeting one dangerous lady that turns all the right buttons on him, that makes the brain dislocated from the head to the pants. When men start to think with their dicks, this is what happens. They forget the people who sacrifice for them. They forget all their promises. Hell, they even forget their wives’ names. When all this stupidity takes place, ask yourself, do you want to be the cause of this? Ladies, what are you trying to prove? That you’re hot? That you’re freaking irresistible? That you can turn a good man into bad by manipulating his biggest weakness? WHAT ARE YOU TRYING TO PROVE??? DO YOU EVEN KNOW???

When this “tragedy” happens, maybe it’s a new chapter for you. A new man, with some criteria that you are looking for. Yeah, he might be that hot to you. When you make your move, what do you expect? Do you expect that he would turn his back and say No Thanks to you? When you use your most dangerous weapon on him, what do you expect? Knowing that he’s already “the weakest creature” on this planet, hell, I bet he forgot that the word No does exist. I bet that he will forget that he has a woman who is dedicating her life to him. He simply forgets about it when he’s with you. He starts to build new promises around you, and forgot that he said the same thing to the lady who is waiting for him at home. By saying those promises to you, already nullifies his promises to his lady that “You’re the only one I love for the rest of my life.” So what do you expect? That he will keep those promises to you when he already fails the woman who has more rights on him? At the early stage, the men would LIE to you that they actually have someone who comes before you. They make you believe that you’re free to come into their life and be their queen. Yeah, what do you expect from this weakest creature? The Truth? Gotta be kidding me. Not when the brain got dislocated, okay?

When you make a man forget his sanity and let him ruled by lust, Viola, you just turned a good man into a demon. Not only you make him cheat his woman, but you also allow yourself to be the victim and the subject of one man’s sin and infidelity. Depending on your agenda, if you’re trying to prove how hot you are, YES YOU ARE HOT, but sorry, that doesn’t bring you to heaven. Not when you are using yourself to turn someone’s life upside down. Maybe most of you don’t know that you become another lady’s home-wrecker until it’s too late. So, are you just plain hot, but brainless? When you trust men so easily like that, when you swallow everything he said and then later on found out that he lied about almost everything, you thought you had right to fight. You want to make the men responsible for their promises for making you believe that you are the only one who he loves. So when you find out that there’s another woman who is already in his life and you are only the second, you start showing your POWER of “Who’s more dangerous, Me or You? I can make him leave you!!!” and there goes 2 women fighting over A PIECE OF DICK “He’s Mine!!” SHUT THE FUCK UP YOU WOMEN!!

To be continued in Part II