Kamu tau kan camana pun orang selalu cakap pasal inner beauty, tetap juga tidak boleh elakkan outer beauty sebab itu yg duluan kena nampak di mata. So can anyone deny that the way we dress akan affect orang punya impression sama kita? Ok, then consider this. Nevermind la if you are not perfect yourself, but if you see someone you know, yang dress the way it doesn't suit her, ataupun doesn't help her with the kind of job that she's doing, how to let the person know without hurting her and so she can take it positively?
Ada this customer ada dressing issue. Honestly speaking, sia betul2 salute sama ni kakak sebab usaha dia kasi besar anak2 dia sebagai single mother. Ke hulu ke hilir menjual produk dia. Dia bertudung dan dia suka pakai gaun labuh and treat it like jubah but not exactly jubah. Just gowns yang boleh dikatakan style dia outdated, not that I say it's wrong to wear it. It's NOT. Tapi for this customer, it doesn't do her justice. Seriously, I mean it!!
I was concerned about the way she dressed sebab itu buat orang prejudis sama dia. Cos sometimes dia bukan senang mau senyum, so bila dia masuk tempat org mau intro barang dia dengan pakaian gitu and muka serious, orang jadi panic! BETUL ni! My other customer said to me, When the kakak masuk her salon, she was a bit scared to see her and she didn't want to buy anything the kakak was selling. So right there I thought, OMG, I should tell her something! But I never got the nerve to tell her cos after some time, I chatted with her, she was much much more than how she dressed. I failed "to judge" her from what she wore.
So the time has finally come. She came to my place just now, finally wearing a blouse and skirt! Wow...whatta sight! I mean she did it voluntarily. Right away I got the chance to finally speak. "Kakak!! Wear like this from now!!" At first dia blank2 juga sebab macam dia heran why sia tiba2 beriya-iya mau bagi opinion. Cos, betul, image dia terus berubah. Then "kebijaksanaan" sia yang nda seberapa tu sia guna di bahagian mau highlight sia punya point. I said, "Kak, bila kakak wear gown macam selalu tu, bukan inda nice tau, TAPI dia bikin kakak nampak macam orang jaaaauhhh yang baru sampai di sini and mau jual barang." So I went on saying yg orang di bandar ni sometimes ragu2 dan prejudis sebab di sini ni banyak pendatang, dan banyak kes2 pukau dan sebagainya. Dorang lebih banyak syak wasangka. Dengan senang ja dorang buli fikir kakak datang dari tempat jauh dan baru mula berjinak2 di sini. Dorang akan ragu2 dan takut2. Then it made my job easier when "She gets it!" In fact dia cakap dia pernah kena viral sebagai tukang pukau, hanya sebab dia punya style macam orang kampung yg baru sampai bandar, sedangkan dia hari2 di bandar cuma dia sibuk cari duit, jalan sana sini. Dia setuju sebab dia relate sama experiences dia sebelum ni bila orang salah faham sama dia. Duii giaa. Sedih sia bila dengar. Kamu tau kah dia ibu tunggal yg berhempas pulas cari duit untuk kirim duit sama 6 org anak dia di kampung? Doiii, kalau lah kita buli tau kisah setiap orang, mungkin ndalah kita fikir yang bukan2.
So sia kasi dia idea sikit. I said, Kak, next time maybe boleh try pakai seluar panjang pula instead of skirt. Sia suruh dia pakai seluar palazo supaya dia selesa, dan sesuai sama imej Muslimah dia. I said, Kak, why not kita try ekperimen style baru tahun ni kan? Macam bersinar2 mata dia tengok sia masa tu. Sia rasa dia baru terfikir yg dia actually lupa untuk fikir penampilan dia sehari-hari. Dia cuma fikir berapa barang laku hari ni dan berapa duit dia ada untuk kirim anak dia. Dia hantam pakai apa seja asal ada. I UNDERSTAND THAT. I said, Cuba kakak try dulu buat perubahan, and see apa impact dia sama business kakak. CONFIRM business makin bagus!! Kakak try dulu, ok??
Of course sepa la sia untuk bagi dia assurance kan? Sia sendiri pun masih bekakai. Hahahahaha. But one thing yang sia learn pasal dunia yang sangat judgmental dan penuh dengan double standard ni, kita manipulate seja sentimen manusia. They want us to look good, lets just look good. Lagipun tiada salahnya untuk dress nicely. Dress baju2 yang nice and bling2 sekali sekala. Bila lagi kita mau pakai baju2 tu semua kan? Asyik2 baju lusuh kita tu juga yg kita pakai. Hahahahaha. That advice untuk sia actually :PP
So, sia actually sangat happy sebab akhirnya sia make it clear tu that customer satu perubahan baik yang dia boleh bikin. Dengan pakai baju yang berbeza, dia betul2 nampak berbeza bah! Jangan main2 sama kuasa dressing ni, guys. Luaran is luaran, you are still beautiful inside, tapi jangan biarkan dressing tu tutup tu beauty. Sama macam make-up. Make-up tu supaya jangan orang tidak nampak inner beauty kita just because kita ada issue with physical beauty. Then use what's there to enhance diri kita yang begitu berharga. Aiseh. Pinjam tagline Loreal pula tu. Hehe.
Kalau kamu dalam situasi ni, I'm sure kamu pun buli cari cara yang betul how to tell your friend that they need to just improve in something, not because kau rasa kau bagus, but kau tau if you don't tell that person, kau macam kasi block dia punya growth. Don't do that. Biar kita sama2 maju, sama2 dress well, sama2 support each other and akhirnya kita semua HAPPY!
Amen! :))
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