Living In Your Friend’s Goodness World

My friend’s opinion is that most people will get their bestfriends from school. The working world is full of backstabbers and friendship for purpose only. If you have something that benefits them, then only they  be nice to you. So is this true in your case?

Come to think about it, it’s the same everywhere we are. At school before, or at work now, even at home, even at the family reunion, it’s always a bunch of people with different nature, attitudes, habits, appearances. The only thing about school is, we know each other at the earlier age. So we get to share things and make memories with each other to bring with us even after graduation. So it’s really not right to generalize people we meet at different age. We cannot run away from dealing with individuals with different personalities, different outlook in life, different way of thinking etc. Question is, are you willing to do that much to start accepting or be accepted by some new good friends?

My opinion is – since we know nobody’s perfect…Accept weaknesses of others, and be gladly to do so even more to those who can accept ours. In my surrounding now, I do have a few people I can sit and chit chat with, I can go to have meals with, I can even share some personal things and secrets too. If you ask me, are they my new bestfriends? It doesn’t matter, right? It’s not about the label. It’s about good company. Knowing them as imperfect humans, after some time, I know their weaknesses and advantages. I had that moments of dissatisfaction towards them, but I put them all in the past. Because of our maturity, we tend not to go to “the weakness area”. We wilI keep that part untouched.  Knowing that everyone have their good sides, always be at THEIR GOODNESS SIDE whenever you have encounters with them. Allow only healthy friendship, good conversation, good laugh, good stories – so you don’t need to always have your good schoolday friends to be there before you can enjoy a good company. That’s more like survival method in the world where you are not living alone. You gotta tap their good nature so you can even help them shine better! It’s no secret but just in case you have not yet started, stop finding faults in people. If they are bad from B-Z, then just mingle at their A zone. The better you can keep good relation with people, the better your days gonna be. Remember, everyone has that good side in them. Bring your good side out, and associate with their good side. Do this and you are one way ahead in making this world a better place for you and me J

The Compulsive Hoarder I Could Become

Read the title. That's what I'm gonna become if I don't try to curb this habit now! Look at where I am. It's always packed with stuff. Look at my office, my room. Goodness gracious! There are so many things in there. If any of you are still puzzled with the meaning of hoarding...in simple words it's the habit of collecting or keeping things, even if they are unnecessary. I mean, from all of your stuff, you are only using 10-20% of it. The rest are just filling the empty space. So does that sound horrible enuff?

Whoaa!! Do I want my place to look like this? I better do something dude!!

That's why I prepare big garbage bags to fill in stuff that I don't find necessary, and get rid of them. I should do this long time ago but as a mini-hoarder (errr...) you must understand that it's not something easy for me. Everything looks valuable to me. If I don't need it now, maybe I might need it next year, or years from now. I'm saving them for things I am not sure of! So you know, when I look at my place, I wonder if that thought of "saving things for when I might need them" is worth it. What I can see is I'm getting lost in the pile of unused stuff. Garsh! This has to change, right? 

So I am done with one full garbage, I have at least another 4. If I can take out 5 garbage bags, I am sure my place will look more practical, more spacious and I guess it will help me to calm my mind better. Hahaha. I guess that changes have to be done - for goodness sake. What about you? Any drastic changes you gonna make in your life for this 2014? It sounds like a good thing if you answer yes. Whatever your plans are, together we gonna materialize them! Good luck, buddies!

Catch The Ball!

That's What Faith Can Do

If Love Is Only Skin Deep…

You guys recall the court case where the hubby sued the wife for faking her beauty? After they have the first child, he questioned why the child is not as good looking as any of them. So he accused the wife of cheating with other man. That’s when the wife had to confess that she went to have plastic surgery a few years back. And that’s how she got her beauty. What do you think when you read about the case? It was crazy, right? I mean, gosh, was there no such thing as genuine feeling involved? Especially when what triggered him was the looks of the poor child. How can you even do this? So after the wife confessed, he sues him and won. Whoa, seriously. Logically, you won’t do that to someone you are married to. Why? Cos I think that after marriage, it’s more about attitudes and compatibility that make you guys happily be together. It’s not about looking like a Miss Universe 24-7. Any good looks are not enough to keep you happy when other things are screwing up.  Helloo reality!

You saw people who you think are average or below average looking, with the special person beside them. There are people who love them despite not being a beauty pageant material. So you know, a lot of people out there know this secret. It might perform some magical moment of first hand attraction when you saw someone appealing, but then it won’t stay for long, just by itself. So these people who are so obsessed with the idea that you must walk beside someone who can make people turn at you and get consumed with jealousy. Come on. Do we still have this species nowadays? Hahaha.

How thick is the skin? It’s just a very thin layer, right. If you love relies on that thin layer, you gonna have episodes of stupid experiences trying to find for the perfect one. Oh come on. You make me go back to the statement of, “as if you are that perfect yourself”. But I don’t want to repeat that (which I just did…LOLS). I want to say Kudos to those perfectionists that I used to know, but come back to me with their new outlook of soulmate. They proved my theory right. You are at the right track! 

Note: Been There, Done That!

Rest In Peace, 2013

How was your 2013? I need to write at least a summary to it. It has been a year full of this and that. I mean, seriously, I can’t say I like everything of the this and that, but I can say I have a fair share of ups and downs. Err… cliché again. Okay, lets get into a bit of detail. I think that we do grow from year to year. Our expectations change. Our outlooks change. A lot of things are just not the same anymore. We have our struggles, works, family, problems - they just make us better.  It’s not the comfort that changes us, it’s the challenges! The most significant thing about 2013 is the year of faith. It ended on November. But I’ve done something during those months, and I do think I embraced a few new things in my life because I have growth spiritually. I’m glad that I did what I do. So no regrets. Of course I’ve done things that I am not proud of, but the rest of the things, I just continue doing what I know best. A test of faith, I can see. That’s what Year of Faith made me survive. I have no regrets. The good things are coming from here onwards. Nothing can make us lost again. We know who guide us. We know which light to follow. We know the route home. We will always be in the right track. Continue our glorious journey for this 2014. God Bless! 

2014, My First and Foremost…

My dear readers, Hello and Hi. So here we are again, breathing fresh air of 2014...

My first post for 2014. I did not even have a finale for my 2013 post. Garsh. Was I that busy? Or just lazy? This has to change, right? So here I am again. Trust me, so many times that I wanted to write, and everytime I failed, imagine what I was losing! It feels like a good melody that cross the songwriter’s mind, hum it  but doesn't have the equipment to record it or write the notes down, the next thing, it’s gone. It’s not cool, right. Ah, this too has to stop. I have to start writing again. There’s sthing in me that start to disconnect from me since I stop writing. I’m not sure what’s that but I’m sure it’s sthing that I like about myself. I have to get it back :)

So, welcome back to the blogger world, 256! 

Note: I miss the days when we got to "meet" often when I was having my crazy-days of blogging everyday. Yeah, I miss those days :))

"Missing The Bus"

Imagine you are at this familiar bus stop where usually there are some people who wait the bus at the same time. You know that you will not have to wait long cos there are a number of buses that will pass that route and most of the time, it's barely 10 minutes waiting.

So one day you find yourself waiting alone in the bustop. Maybe the rest have catched the earlier bus so you may be a little late. So you stand there alone, and finally saw a bus coming. You expect the bus to stop, but to your surprise, it doesn't stop. The driver fails to notice that you are waiting for a bus. Maybe he thinks that you want to cross the road because you don't wave you hand to stop the bus. But then you know, every bus driver should know that when someone stands there at the bus stop, is to wait for a bus. But it's too late. That bus has left.

Can you imagine the feeling? 

Imagine that this is your reaction. You are so pissed that you manage to shout and give a bad gesture to the driver. Surely the passengers must be wondering why are you acting that way. Logically, you can get another bus in no time so why so sensitive?

This is the thing that the passengers won't get to feel unless they become you. First, you are feeling ashamed that you have to wait alone and a bus that is not full, doesn't stop to pick you. Second is, you know you can have another 5 buses for the next half an hour, that's not the problem. The problem is, that earliest bus that you can catch Should Stop for you. That's what the bus is for, right? That's how the driver gets the income from, right? So for no reason, the bus just fails to do that.

So there are happenings in our lives that similar to that situation. 

Sometimes you just be the person who misses the bus you don't deserve to miss. And it doesn't really matter how many buses after that, just that moment of missing that bus you expect to catch. 

5 minutes isn't long but if only you catch the bus on time, you could have saved that 5 minutes. :))

The Jobless Story

I get SMS from an acquaintant, asking about vacancy, If I know anyone or anywhere who have vacancy that she can apply. She has been asking this to me for so many times in a few months. Whenever she gets bored at home, she will SMS be if I know where she can get a job. Having a few people like her who come to me and asked about vacancy, it got me wondering. Actually it's really not hard to find a job if they really want to do anything as long as they have a job. The thing is, they are very picky. They don't want a job that is tiring. They don't want to come home late. They want somewhere very near their house area and on top of all that, they want a job that pays good. 

Before this, I told them the office nearby needed a clerk. It was the vacancy everyone was asking me for. Then, I said to them, "You know how to type, right? Cos you will have to type customer's letters." Even that basic thing they did not know. They replied me with, "Oh, if computer saya tidak berapa pandai." What?? Then how? So they have to let go the  vacancy because of lack of skills. Then they did ask me if I needed extra assistant. The thing is, I don't know what can they do to assist me cos to them it might look fun when they have someone to teach them something new and then get paid at the same time, and go home at 5, who don't want that, right. When they themselves know they won't have much to do because they don't really have sthing that they are really good at. Is this mindset normal?

Those who are stuck like this, I hope they can just get busy polishing their skill, maybe attend courses - at least know how to type! One shouldn't stop learning and expect others to be considerate, giving them the job that they know what to do instead of what they are needed to do. Even if you have any "orang dalam" in the government or private sector, all they can help you is get you the chance that thousands out there don't get, but in the end, they can't help you if you have no qualification, unless you are talking to a very considerate Owner of the company, and they give you the job out of pity. But u still need to prove yourself, if you can be productive or not. You'll still get kicked after a few months if you fail to contribute. 

So if the locals have this kind of mindset, maybe it's true that our economy will be in trouble if we rely on them, cos there are many jobs out there that need someone to do but won't suit their requirement. So is that why all the boutiques and shops normally employ foreigners? 

I can only write this but only you can do sthing about it. You can't just wait for things to fall on your lap. The older you get, the more people expect from you so you can't keep telling people "I don't know how to work with computers" just like you did when you just finished your SPM. It's time to upgrade!! 

You Pay or You Do It Yourself. Simple Isn't It?

My supplier told me that he doesn't want to do the work because it can take him hours, or even the whole day to do it - when he can earn so much more doing something else. That's why he finds someone else to do it, because he still needs to get the job done to keep business coming in. Which also means, the work that he doesn't want to do, is an important work to him. But when it comes to charges, he doesn't want to pay high, cos to him it shouldn't cost that much. Of course if he argues about charges, he'll get the remark, "Then do it yourself". Which we already know he won't. LOLS. So what's the solution?

Something that some people fail to address is the "value of time" and that creativity can come from practice and experience, but you can't expect it to just come anytime when you need it, that's why, "creativity cost something", and it can cost A LOT cos not everyone has it. The only reason people can argue about charge is when they think that "time and creativity" don't have charges - and this will be true if they use the ones of their own. Which means, stop arguing about charges and go ahead "Do It Yourself". But in his case, he puts a lot of value to his own time, and no value to others' time. So if they can't sort it out, means No Business. No Business means No Money. No Money means they can start packing and forget about the business altogether. 

Ridiculous, right. Very basic understanding. But I believe people learn as long as they live. So thats why we are here. Learning as much to live well. Those who can adapt to this, will survive in what they do. :))