"Never Wrong Them"

Today my day was filled with nothing but hearing complains and sharing dissatisfaction with 2 people who have issues with 2 different people. These 2 people in question, I also have issues with them, the same thing with what the complainants were talking about.

The root to the problem is, again, The Chief Devil; Money. These 2 people did something the same. They both have problems with money, and they both have wronged other people involving money. These 2 people are my acquaintances. They are also ladies like me who have vision of their own. They have a dream and they pursue it. It just that, the outcome is not the same. They have failed to stand by very crucial virtues that really count in life. I can’t deny that sometimes we are so tempted to just sacrifice all these good values that we’ve been practicing forever. When we come across problems and troubles in life, we have to resort to survival strategies. We will look at the priorities at hands, and that is biggest test. Whether or not, we will lose our values just to put our self-importance on top?

Like what these people did, they have changed their priority. Instead of putting other people who support them in their work, they put themselves first. So they did it in such a manner that it hurt those people who were actually the backbones of their job. They did not pay their workers on time. Not only that, after all the tolerance from the workers, they took advantage from it. They abused it to the extent that they were practically making people suffer. After the long wait, they paid their workers lower than expected. These people who were treated with poor professionalism, have started to plant anger and grudge towards these 2 concerned people. As a result, they have caused these people to suffer. What I found out from their complainants today was that, it could be that these 2 people didn’t even know they have gone too far. They claimed to be innocent. Then to that point, I was thinking too, should they be made responsible for all the blames when they have lost the part of the memory of doing the misconducts? I really don’t know anymore. Not enough with wronging the people working under them, they even extend it to making their friends suffer too. They borrowed money and takes forever to pay. They never have enough money to even pay a small amount, but they do have money for other things that are considered not yet settled, and they are busy making new “book”, now with their friends. Suddenly, everyone around them are liable to become one of the victims. It’s just a matter of time, whether it’s sooner, or later. I really don’t know, can they just stop it all and start doing something right from now and fix things from there?

In life, we must have the values that we will NEVER ever compromise. Those people might not be anyone that can give you promotion or credit that put you in limelight, those people might not be known to your superiors, enough to give you some advantages, but these people bust their buns, working day and nite to finish work that you are assigned to do, and you pick their work and claim credit all by yourself. These people have better position in your life, than a King will ever have. DO NOT WRONG THEM. Those who know their values, would rather skip meals so these people can go home with smile, bringing something to feed their kids. Do Not Wrong Them, or your whole empire might go down with your values. Seriously. May these lost people find their way back, o Lord. Let them not wrong more innocent people. It’s not too late for them, just open a way for them to lead a way of righteousness. Amen. 

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This picture is considered expensive. Hahahaha. It has almost 6 hours of my time to prepare them, with the assistance of my cousin. These were the meals I prepared for my family last Christmas. I cooked them all. My cousin only helped me to wash and cut. Definitely something I will remember in a long time...Have you read this somewhere that the biggest gift you will give someone is Your Time? It's because you are willing to spend the time for them and you know that time will never come back. It makes sense. *giggles.

5 Things About [256] That Are - Unbelievable? Believe it.

 I hope it hits to your target question right. *LOLS. This is very spontaneous. I am quite nervous. Hehe

1. I have 2 Fb accounts. 1 is for my personal use where I only have my online buddies in the list, and one is for company. There are so contrast in number, one has 4850 with 230 pending requests (which should reach the quota once I accept all the requests) and the other one only has less than 45 friends. Unbelievable? Believe it.

2. My job now totally counted out my Degree. I remember being asked to fill this form for a certain qualification, and I was asked for any certificates that are related to my field of work. Then when I was too happy to present my degree in the document, the representative said to me, that’s not needed. Other normal certificates will do. I almost thought it’s okay to throw it somewhere. Hahaha. Unbelievable? Believe it.

3. Although I am a Kadazan and a Catholic, I don’t take pork! It’s been this way for so many years since secondary school because I was used to Malay foods at boarding school and not just I have stopped eating pork but I'm also not a fan of Chinese restaurants because suddenly my taste buds have preferences for spices and hotness. Hehehe. Unbelievable? Believe it…hehe

4. You guys know, I have this funny thing going on about me and blogging. I can spend up to 2 hours trying to work on a blogpost (because a lot of delays in between the time) and even how hard it took me to finish it, I always assume that “Everyone will be too busy to read this topic, I’m sure whoever mentioned in the post won’t even notice it” *LOLS. For the times when I learnt otherwise, I laughed so hard and I had that Uh-OH I’m busted, they actually read! Hahaha. Unbelievable? Believe it. *giggles

5. People know me as a workaholic which should go with the trait of hardworking but I am the opposite. I am the laziest person that I know. Among them is when I notice I almost have nothing else to wear for the next day, you know why I suddenly do laundry the night before. Hahahahaha. About the same attitude in everything else. I would delay a work for months and when I am reaching the deadline in another hour, I can finish doing it in half and hour. That’s just the lucky case. The worse case is when I got caught not even starting a task I was given and I’m lucky that my customers usually forgive me but I could never forget the kind of stares they gave me that time. Hahahahaha. Unbelievable? Believe it! Hehehe

Whooppsss…I did this post almost 3 hours late than I should. I hope I am forgiven for this, because I did double-laundry earlier and I was too tired and went to nap in the middle of writing this so luckily I got up before the sun shines and I practically forgive myself too, just one time, and I am now assuming I am still on time for my Blog Challenge Day 11. Hehehehehe :PP

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This is a gift to one of my first cousin's wedding, years ago. I could not recall what year, but he was my first cousin who first got married at a young age but very rare story that they did not even stay married for long because my cousin went abroad to work and left the wife for at least 2 years. As a result, they got divorce after a procedure was done by the wife and my cousin's parents and now they are both with new partner. Looks like they are happier with their new partner and life. One of those rare case, almost unbelievable too. This picture is considered antique cos it's from a memory card of my broken phone... hehe. Luckily it saves me for today's post (which is already 3 hours late) Hahahaa

Keeping It Burning But Never Get Burnt

When we walked into a relationship, it gave us cold feet, butterfly in the stomach, not to mention getting a goosebump everytime you guys see each other. You can never deny that the early stage of relationship is the best stage. If only this remains like this for as long as you guys are still in love. And guess what, logically speaking, if both can still having that “early stage thrill”, I’m sure no relationship would ever end. It’s always the lost of Spark that makes the relationship less matters.

The question is, is that possible to keep the flame inside your heart for your partner? So that there will be no expiry date to the kind of feeling that makes your heart beat faster. If only that’s possible. I don’t say that it’s not possible, but the reality is that everything has its own course, and everything is going towards that end of line where suddenly to break apart is the only favourable solution available. But wait, ladies and gents. It can’t sound that easy, right? Don’t we have something to not be part of this cruel ending. No, since when life is that predictable. I believe that…There Something We Can Do…

It’s between 2 hearts that have vowed love for each other. There’s a special bond that ties those two. Of course when there are outside elements of strong force that could get between you two and somehow makes the bond start to loose. Not to mention human nature that makes the process easier. We can get bored, we always judging each other and we sulk over small things and all the other emotional elements that never go to rest. Then is it possible to keep the feelings burning?

In my opinion, YES it’s possible. When 2 persons want the same thing so badly, how can anything be stronger than that, except for the will of God of course. So when 2 persons still fight for the relationship, that’s like the first green light that things can work out. Of course, over time the feeling will fade away a little bit, especially when you guys share so much and the thrill of curiosity starts to take the excitement little by little. It’s cruel, right? How come something so good that has gotten better and better, is only for the sake of making it bad and turns to worse from there. Can we defy this?

From my little mind, can I just suggest a few things that can be done. I have never tried them yet but I am just using logic. I think like what most people think, to have a little bit of ups and downs in a relationship is crucial to give it a little adventure. Everytime you guys make up from an argument, it makes you two wiser about the relationship and wiser about each other. When it starts to go on a flat boring line, no arguments, no jealousies, no sulking - yeah, Peaceful as it seems, but it’s the sign that you must do something to spice it up. Do something new, surprise each other, change your way of doing it in the relationship; for example, when he listens to you all the time, it’s time for you to listen to him instead. No one is the master and the slave in a relationship. You two have both equal power. Never hold too much feelings, say it and let the partner know how much he means to you too. Or just try to generously show it in action. All the little efforts, although most of them might go unappreciated, it’s how you put a fight to keep the flame burning that matters. When he does the same, how can this go wrong. When this continues, if one of you are really tempted to walk away for the most stupid reason, your value as a partner will hold your partner back. Just in case the worst thing happen to your relationship, The kind of efforts that you give, will stand out. Eventually any sane person out there can evaluate. They can never deny the person who loves them the most, especially when they have once loved the person so much too. Maybe this will bring back all the reason why you two are best stuck with each other. The grass might be greener at the other side, but who cares, when you have the most beautiful flower with you.

Never give up without giving your best fight. And yes, you can keep it burning. Some people have proven this if you are lucky enuff to find any of them. I have, and I believe that I can do the same. Same with you. So go ahead and keeps the fire inside you burning, burn endlessly, for the rare kind of love that is worth fighting for…AMEN :)

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My ring...:)

Perhaps A Few Little Things That Men Don’t Know

 Men sure know a lot about ladies. Men do know how they need attentions, how they like to be pampered, to be flattered, to listen to your sweettalking, to hear you talk about your feelings for them, to be loyal, to be caring…All those stuff. You guys know all those already.

Maybe because of what men already know, they think that ladies are demanding creatures. They want everything for themselves, they want everything from you to make them feel loved, they want every last piece that you can give them. So maybe that’s why men overlook the part where ladies don ‘t exactly want everything from their men’s lives. Ladies do want men to keep a few things and never want to steal these things away.

Little did men know that,

We don’t want them to lose their buddies just because they are paying too much attention to us or spending too much time with us,

We don’t want them to put us above their families all of the time, unless it’s crucial and necessary cos they have certain respect for men who know how to set priority and their parents and siblings should never get less attention from them for whatever reason

We don’t want them to be less efficient in their job just because they are busy in the wonderland with us. Their job and how they earn money should never be compromised because of our presence in their lives.

We don’t want men to try and be Mr Perfect cos we aren’t Miss Perfect either. We won’t mind that you look funny and silly knowing that it’s much better than seeing you all wrong trying to fake things up.

And if I shall add more serious demand from ladies, they are:

We know that men value us for certain qualities that they find in us, but we wish that, seeing us with the same kind of affection without our makeups, without our appealing clothes, without our groomed hair and without us wearing our angelic halo – Is part of that.

One more thing if I should add, Ladies want it badly that men make it a lifelong commitment to love us and treat us right, in health and in sickness, for better and for worse – and we give forever for men to prove that.

Those sound familiar, too familiar that the men overlook this. That…

We don’t want men to lose “who they really are”, they can keep the history and the past, even the embarrassing ones. Yes, and hopefully when they understand this, they finally care enough just let us be who we really are and accept our shortcomings and never judge us for our past mistakes. And that, it’s within our will that we ask for as much as we can give. Men won’t believe this but it’s true.

With this understanding, maybe we can see a brighter road ahead of us. Amen.

*giggles :))

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I only have 3 sets of lipsticks at the moment that I know are still around. I have a few that I misplace and have not found yet. *LOLS. I left the other one at the office. I've been using SilkyGirl Moisture Rich for years. I know some of the colours that really suit me but I'm not telling which. Hehehe. The blue one is only experimental, I bought it from Cosway, forgot the name but I will use it when I am in aggressive mood. Hehe. Although it's not the main reason why I use lipstick, but I think lipstick does make your smile look sweeter. *giggles

When You and Loneliness Are In The Same Room…

 Don’t you guys feel a bit weird thinking that when we are so much surrounded by people, making their kind of noise, telling you that definitely you aren’t alone, and the next thing, you complain about feeling lonely?

I can’t deny that I feel this way sometimes. There’s a tiny feeling of “emptiness” that suddenly sets in, but I seldom admit that it’s called loneliness. I think that it’s not fair to admit to be lonely when around us are people that we love and care. Why do we still feel lonely?

Yeah, and sometimes we deal with it using many kinds of ways. We indulge in activities that play as a therapy to FILL that empty space. For example, food therapy. Munching on all the “sinful” food to feel full, but just a temporary relief. There’s something missing, that no amount of carbs or sugary foods can even make up for it. Been there before?

I am not here to tell you ways to curb loneliness, if you Google it, you will find all the links that tell you to mix with more people, to socialize more, to connect with friends and all those stuff. No, I am talking about the kind of loneliness that exists in the people who have pretty much everything in their lives, but still feeding to the feeling of emptiness for the reason they can’t explain. Maybe it’s a mix of feelings, from frustrations, from rejections, from pastime failures, that suddenly create this gloomy atmosphere that you suddenly feel “so alone” and left out.

You know what, this might sound a little egocentric. But I always believe that we are SO special, with all the ability to sail where we want the ship to go. I believe that when we have almost everything in our lives, especially when we have our family and loved ones, we have a job that we like, we have friends that we can call and hang out, we almost have it all. You have NO RIGHTS to feel lonely. That’s what I mean. You don’t go and create that empty space “just because everyone is talking about loneliness, why shouldn’t I” – You better be kidding.

Lets do this. Whenever we start to feel that loneliness, NO, STOP IT. No way it gonna consume us. Let it not be longer than a few minutes. That’s what I do. When I’m in high time, I will tell myself how much I have in this life. Day to day I will do that. I pray to God everyday for all those things that I have in my life. So the more I think about it, the more I remember. Whenever I feel insufficient for some reason, which will occasionally happen, I will recall back all my blessing, and feel whole again. Cos if you let the feeling to dwell longer, it’s that long that you gonna waste your goodself. You don’t deserve to feel like you are still at the bottom when you have actually reached a height. You can’t let down all the people who look up to you and get inspired by you. Remember that, that Loneliness is just a make believe. Believe it :)

No more loneliness, no more teary eyes, no more silent hours full of self pity, No more… :)

You guys know what, everytime I am facing difficult emotional situations and react in a stupid way, I always shout to myself, “SHAME ON YOU”. You believe it or not, after all the sharing I did in this blog alone, I feel like the world is laughing at me. If I can’t beat my own temporary emotional ordeal, then who is that person who writes this blog. She and I couldn’t be the same person. The blog writer is someone who is strong and sensible with her mind and action, she doesn’t look like someone who will let loneliness overtake her. And so, I am thankful, this will always bring me “back”. I have a number of people who told me how much I inspire them. I can’t let them down. 

No more lonely days, you blessed people :)

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These are among the rewards for me if I lose weight. Hahahaha. I bought these pants, which come in different colour, styles and cuttings, they are all nice, and I can only wear them if I lose some weight. *giggles. Pssts...I have more or less 10 more pairs not shown in this picture. Whatta motivation. Hahahahaha.

And 7 Is Still My Favourite Number...

What?? why 7? Why not 256? *giggles. Ok kidding. Hehehehe. I don't want to talk about the numbers, just teasing u guys. Hehehee. But yes, 7 is still my favourite number. That's why I choose to make it different today by making my first voice post of the year, marking the 7 of January and the 7th day of my blog challenge. This voice post is unlike those before, that I had to repeat a few times to finally feel satisfied of the result. Now, it's like, I don't care!! Hahahahaha. Me and my perfectionism, please lay low, let me just be happy with all the defects and mistakes. Let me feel a taste of my own originality, yeah, never edit anything and let everyone hear the mistakes of pronunciation and what not. I'm sure you guys have started to get used to it since my few last few karaoke session. *LOLS. Hey don't laugh!! Hahaha

This is almost ME! This is how I talk in real life. I talk so fast, it's like a train and it almost has no break. I receive a lot of teases in my life for being a hypertalker, and it's not like I never warn you about that. You know what, just accept me as I am lah...Hahahaha. Thanks guys...Muahss (*giggles)

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This handbag is really funny. I have another pinkish handbag that is many times cuter than this but because of my "destructive nature", I was terrified that my pinkish handbag started to have some scratches so I saw this bag today and I bought it! The only reason I bought it was because of the small portion of golden colour. Don't u guys know I likeee golden colour? Hehehe. (Ok, the pinkish handbag, I can explain *LOLS) I bought this bag so I don't do more damage to the pinkish handbag and I will use it again when I damage this one. *LOLS. OMGG 25666...Hahaha. Note: The golden colour really shows but too bad I might need a much expensive camera for that...*giggles. Kidding...hehe. I can't explain my crazy choice sometimes. The next thing, I want something moderate and this bag is a result to that...hehe

Can’t Lose Them This Way, Not Like This

Can I just assume that sometimes our ego gets the better of us. We keep a little grudge and refuse to show it, refuse to even admit it. Or you might ask me back, Grudge? What grudge? Heck, you don’t even admit that something is there, something that is causing you heartache, but you will never agree to it in a million years. How can anyone help to ease the pain away?

Look… I’ve been there. There’s something that someone does, someone that you can rely on, someone that you’ve have so much trust on, someone who has proven his worth to you – and after everything, all the person needs to do is just mistakenly trip a step and it hurt your guts. Just one single mistake that the person does, without a bit of intention, has managed to wound your heart but not in the way that you can easily define. Something hurts you, maybe you feel betrayed or that you’ve been failed, but it’s just deep in the valley, way way beyond words. Maybe because of your nature to keep things to yourself or you think it’s better left unsaid. Either way, but you are on the way of losing someone from your life. Are you sure you want to continue??
 

I am speaking about a kind of weird scenario that happened between you and a friend. Not just any friend. Usually only a special friend that has a special place in your heart that can cause this. I still remember feeling this way towards my bestfriend, when we were still back in college. We were roommates of two and she used to really look up to me when we first became friends. Then when we got closer, things didn’t look neat all the time. We did have disagreements sometimes. I guess that we could never avoid that. We are humans living amongs humans, and not angels. We will hurt each other with or without us knowing. 

I still remember that I always booked a seat for her because she was in a different class but we sometimes combined during one subject session. Knowing that I always arrived first, I must book a seat for her. One day, a mistake happen that she was not aware that she mistakenly told another girl that the seat that I booked for myself was not taken so the gal took the seat. When I came, I was so shocked that I got no seat. I was so mad, but it was a misunderstanding, and she thought I already have a seat. Silly right? I remember she was a bit mix up because of the discussion that she had from the previous session and she did not put much thought into the seat, and it pissed me off. Especially when I knew I’ve been booking seat for her without her having to remind me and that was what she did to me. She was shocked that she did a mistake. The thing that I was really made about was, the gal that became the victim. She was innocent. Because of my bestfriend’s mistake, she had to give the seat to me and took a different chair and sat at an awkward position in the class and I saw that embarrassed face on her when some guys laughed at her for sitting at the corner. My heart was so in pain to see what my bestfriend’s stupid mistake had caused that gal. But it’s strange that my bestfriend didn’t get to know that I was having such grudge. She thought it was just a mistake and “hey, lets just move on”. From there, I avoided from talking with her despite being roommates. I was pissed for days and everytime I remember the part when she just gave away my seat to the poor gal after so many times I booked seat for her, garsh the feeling was tearing me apart. But I just couldn’t work it out or settle it. I kept grudges instead. Sounds familiar?

Come to think about it, o man, she’s my bestfriend. Was it worth it to lose her for a single mistake? When I thought of it again, she was so clueless about the seat that time. She got all mix up. No matter what my reason was, it could be as simple as an unintended mistake from her. And if I cared to bring up about how embarrassed she caused the gal, heck, couldn’t it be that I was overreacting? The gal managed to get on with it maybe I WAS really overreacting. I was glad that it didn’t prolonged. We finally talked because my bestfriend, Oh man, my besfriend isn’t just any girl. It was because she was really special that she becomes my bestfriend in the first place. I c an’t abandon her over a mistake. Not this way. Not like that. Would I want to be abandoned by someone I love and care because of some unintended mistake like that? Is that all your value is, to just be dumped for a mistake, no matter how kind and sweet things you have done in the past? It’s not fair right? THEN DON’T DO IT.

End your unsaid grudge today, especially when the person involved is a friend so dear to you. In the era where virtues don’t take much space among humans, we must stand for a few good things that we have. WE CAN’T LOSE OUR BUDDIES LIKE THAT, NOT THAT WAY, NOT LIKE THIS. Please. Stop getting hurt. FORGIVE them. FORGIVE thou. Free your grudge. Free it. Be a happy person again. Try do it now. Please.Pleaseee.

Thank you...:)

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These are the very delicious cupcakes my parents bought during their vacation to Philippines last November. They didn't taste like the normal cakes at all, not sure if they have a better name. They were in large "bowl" instead of a normal cup as u can see. The purple one was Yam flavour...emmm...tasted so good. I think the other one must be Vanilla. If you happen to go to Philippines, maybe you can look for a shop by the name of Red Ribbon cos the wrapper has that name. I bet the shop must be specialize in good pastries like that. Hehehe. I took the pic after having a few bites. Yum yumm...hehehe

“I Know”, “I Understand”.

I am so clueless what to write tonite. It was my fault for putting extra work like trying out on Twitter and doing some other extra work for the online community that I join, and guess what, I foresee something like this. The hype of trying to get a few things done at once, plus, my 31 Days Blog Challenge is still definitely my top priority. Now without any topic I just let my fingers dance on the keyboard and see if I can come up with something spontaneous – and interesting of course. Hehe.

Okay, I just thought of something. Lets see. Guys, don’t you find it interesting that you can throw that look of “I Know” and “I Understand” whenever you come across funny situations that can easily make you snap? Back then, you would totally fire back all the most evil language you know at people who tease or provoke you, even how silly their issues were. What you have in mind would probably be “No Way You Gonna Win” and “I’m Right, You’re Wrong”. Yes, all that. Sounds familiar?

Have you heard of this term Reward of Time? Maybe not, because I just made it up. Hahaha. I mean, there’s always something to feel silly about when you look back in time. You’ve been narrow-minded, you’ve been greedy and you’ve been too hot tempered for all the right reasons and place (at least you thought so). You know the feeling when you feel so irritated and you would say the stupidest lines spontaneously without thinking how stupid that would make you look. Remember when you said things to back up yourself with the lamest points, just because you could not admit your weaknesses. Gosh, I’ve been there.

And guess what, aren’t you surprised when you can simply keep a cool heart when people go crazy on you, saying all those harsh things without you deserving them, and I bet back then, someone could get injured or maybe “killed” if someone does that to you. Then explain why you can just give a very determined smile of “I know and I Understand.” instead of resorting to any act of violence you can afford to give. You never thought you have grown so much since the last time you associated with something like that. But you have. Now all you can do is just let people have their way, and you would wait to be the last one to get heard. And what you have to say is just short, simple words, but able to turn into a spear that stab right to the lungs of the person who creates a scene with you. Gosh. I have just explained to you what Reward of Time means to me. Your maturity.

Those people who have not yet have it, they can easily lose all debates with you. Unless they are among the rare people who are in control of their temper and composure and ego, then they would be just one of those who make a fool of themselves whenever anger sets in. So one advice is, watch your anger because it’s the key to your worst weaknesses. One day you will understand what I am talking about. One day you would find someone who is similar to your “angry version” and it’s your turn to throw that look of “I know.”, “I Understand.” The best thing about having this reward of time is you can now cherish your time to be one of those “wise men” among your circle. You think before you speak, and you don’t speak just to regret it, and then you act, not with your emotion, but with your brain. I envy people who are there, and I know I’m going there too. I feel so in control of myself if I can master my own anger management.

There’s something that you can do to make sure you get that reward faster. How? Lower your ego and learn from those. Never think so high of yourself to the extent of belittling other people, cos that gonna take you forever and still without reward. Should I say…this reward of time comes to those who have decided to go humble, humble enough to change, changing for the better. I trust that you guys are here in my blog because you are one of these people. We definitely gonna be there soon. I have faith in you :) Good luck.

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This was my first attempt of Nasi Ayam a.k.a  Chicken Rice which I cooked on the first day of New Year. I prepared an extra special dinner so I decided to cook this, and I took the risk of spoiling the New Year meal by this first attempt but guess what? It was not bad at all! The chicken tasted good, the chili and the soy gravy that went with it also almost similar to some of the recipe I have tasted in some Chicken  Rice shops. Only the rice, it could have been a bit more chicken-flavoured. And it was because I left out one of the ingredients in preparing the rice. I almost sure I could prepare a superb one next time around *giggles. (And make the chicken look better than that. Hahaha). Ok, don't laugh. At least I'm feeding myself some positive words okayy...Hahaha :P

The Art Of Keeping Secret

Secret is sometimes very tricky. It is intended to not be told or to be kept away from certain people who might get affected by it. Something that we seldom discuss when it comes to secret is when it can put us in a dilemma, from someone who has no significance in the secret involved, and then the next thing you can’t sleep because of it. How is that possible?

Secret means that you need to hold the truth from someone, or hide the truth pretending that you know nothing. This can put you in a difficult situation when you feel guilty because of what you know but then you can’t just reveal it, thinking of the consequences. Most of the time, it involves people that you care about. What if by revealing it, you are putting in jeopardy your friendship with another one, but then by keeping it, you think you are betraying yet another friend.

Here’s the art which I spontaneous compile from my understanding. Secret is something to be kept for a while, from certain people, for a reason, whether it’s good or bad. There’s a common virtue that when someone tells you a secret, you must keep it. Especially when the person is someone who means a lot to you. Of course you won’t just take it for granted. Then you find out that the secret is about someone else, and the person should know the secret to know there’s some unnoticed happening is going on in her life, and the longer you keep it, the longer you keep the person in the dark that she has something alarming that she should know. So when you are trapped in this situation, that makes you feel guilty and torn apart…here’s the tips.

Always go back to the INTENTION of doing something. Knowing that if you reveal someone’s secret, you will destroy the person’s trust. And although you think you are just trying to save the other person from getting further in a mess that she doesn’t know she’s in, but you might mess things up even worse from there knowing that you are not the best person to reveal the secret since the secret doesn’t belong to you. Your responsibility is just to be The Ears for someone who trusts you and you should do your role. As for feeling guilty from keeping it, you must understand that keeping a secret for the time being, is the right thing to do. Remember that when you don’t care, you would just go ahead and tell it right away. But because you care for the people involved, you stop yourself. You know that the friendship you have is not worth to destroy. The way to handle it well is always - know your role in the secret. If you just the ears, you don’t deserve to be the one who speak about it. Do what you can to let the person who owns the secret to confront the person who is concerned in the secret, so something can work out from there. I know this sounds a lil confusing, but if you are torn between 2 friends because of a secret, you will understand what I mean. 

As for the guilt, let it go away. You are not the person who should spend sleepless night because of the secret if you know your role and you are doing the best thing in your position. One day when the truth be revealed to the person you keep the secret from, of course she might feel pissed and maybe betrayed, that’s very familiar. But I remember many times being in the person’s position who only learns about a secret after too long, I felt the same way, but then I understand why my friends keep it from me. I would do the same if I were them. So no one has to hurt or get hurt any further anymore than what the truth of what the secret is holding. You shouldn’t make it more complicated from there.

Conclusion is, sometimes to keep secret is necessary. To have secret is also necessary. Knowing that things have proper time to reveal and knowing that secrets don’t last forever. The issue is just the right timing. So ladies and gents, whatever it is, always go back to the intention. To the owner of the secret, if you can find a way to reveal the secret sooner, the better. Don't wait until the truth doesn't count anymore. You don’t know you might save a relationship from a total wreck. That’s the beauty of truth. Congrats to all the people who have been trustworthy and making use of the art of keeping secret well. You might just need people like that to share your own secret one day! hehehe...Good Luck :))

 Picture of the day:

This is my extra phone, an experimental phone because I want to try out some new Malaysian brand phone and see how long it can last. It's such a small investment but I want to see if it's actually worth more than the RM involved. No harm at all. I do this kind of experiment once in a while but so far, it's working well. We shall see...hehehe

What Is Faith Without Actions

This is what I believe. You can speak and preach all day about going early in the morning, or rushing on a train after work – just to be there at the church on time. You speak about how you think God helps you in finding the solution to your problems. Keep telling people about how you never abandon God even in your hardship. They are all good. Your faith is your strength.

Anyway, I believe there’s sthing else besides that. That Faith, just like Love, is not about words. It doesn’t matter how well you speak and affect people with your preach, making people feel awe at you, but it’s all Void if you don’t show it in example. To me, good faith doesn’t speak in word of mouth. It speaks in lifestyle. If you claim to be holy and pious, it must goes along with how you do things in your life. You don’t go around and cheat people’s money. You don’t go around and make people in misery just so you can have your way. You don’t go around taking advantage of your friends and their friendship with you. If you live this way, you can preach all nite, but if you don’t walk the talk, that faith is Nothing. This is I believe. Faith must speak through the way you live. It must not only be spoken, but to be lived.

Now that I believe in this, I try my best to do the right thing everyday. Although I have times when I might just be a little cunning instead of being innocent all the time, I might bend some rules, but there is one that I will never disturb. Whatever we do, even if you have to do it a little evil than it should be, never drag people into it, and make them suffer while you get the treasure. That’s the unbreakable law of humanity, personally to me. If you break this, look at it how you like but you are still Less than a person of virtue. Be responsible of your own risk and mistake and let people stay away from it.

All in all, let the way you live your life speak for your faith.

“May the lost sheep find its way home…”

During the last hangout with my 3 bestest buddies. After we ate some western food, we moved to another eatery to have some drinks. The one closest to the lense was my glass. Hehe . This picture means a lot to me because it keeps a piece of memories of us spending very rare time sitting down and chitchatting. If you have friends that you treasure, you'll cherish every second with them...:))