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Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Falling Before Meeting: Possible?

Have you ever fell in love with someone you have not even met? Ask yourself that. If yes, means you have the answer to the title. Yes, It’s Possible!!

Last nite, a chatfriend brought this up. He said that “How can you fall in love with me when you don’t even meet me yet?” He did say anyway that at least you use webcam or call everyday, Maybe. So what he meant here is when you fall in love with someone with the limited way of conversation. Maybe just chatting or texting. So what do you think?

This is what I answered him. I said, “Love grows in the heart.” Maybe it’s not so much about visuals or things – cos when you feel the spark, it just happens. So when this happens, some people call it with different names. As long as there’s a name. So it just happens that they call it Love :)

Maybe some of you argue or doubt that this is Love. Hey…hey…come on. Let me share my view. It doesn’t matter what they call it. You know that there is something special has taken place been you and that someone. What if they have very lack of vocabulary, the best word they can think of is “Oh I Love The Person”. So if you don’t agree what they call it, does it matter? You know something is happening in your heart. Maybe your heartbeat is getting faster when you think about the person. Or you can feel adrenaline rush when you see the person’s nick around. You see that? You don’t plan what gonna happen to you. You don’t plan when all your nerve system and brains start to act funny when you think about someone. Although what you have in mind might not be that visual enough, but WHAT TO DO when you still undergo all the auto reactions? Maybe there’s something about the person that stimulates your senses that causes all that reactions. Then if all that happens, what’s wrong if they choose to call it Love?

Maybe it’s just admiration. Maybe it’s just infatuation. Maybe it’s just feeling of awe. The real thing could be anything but it doesn’t matter what the word is. You just know it’s so overwhelming and it engulfs you with nice feelings. So the question is, does all this take place only after you meet the person? You can meet the person millions of times and still No Sparks happens. I’m sorry to say that I don’t think our feelings follow any system or procedure. When you feel something, you just feel it.

So when 2 people who have not met but declared love for each other, I’d say just give them the chance to see where it’s taking them. We, who are not in the picture shouldn’t worry so much whether or not they use the Right word to call their feelings. To me anything good that has started somewhere could go far from there. Just give them the chance to explore the feelings. This thing with our hearts knows no rules :) So now why you question when they claim to fall in love before they even meet? When they eventually meet, they will redefine the whole thing.

It’s all good, guys. Just let them be so they have a story to tell, a unique story that defies conventionality. I'd say, Why Not :)

Blue Or Red Ink?

What colour you dislike the most when looking at your Report Card back in school? Red of course!! Hahahahahaha. But today I found out something else. For the married couple, Red Ink is what they want to see! Hehehe.

Okay, don't give me that look. I'm just sharing my joy with my female friend who dropped by just now. I asked her, "What's new with you?" She said, "Macam-macamlah." Then I asked her, "So what about now. You pregnant sudah ka?" With her eyes wide opened, she said, "YES!!! How did you know??" I was like, "Whattt?? Omigawddd I was just guessing!!"

Hahahahahahahaha.

Yes, I'm happy for her. Pregnancy becomes an issue in her life after she's been married for more than 1 year. The mother-in-law made some hurting accusations that she could be infertile. She "ran" away from the house for quite a few times just because of that. Now you know why I am happy when she finally is pregnant. *giggles. She brought with me the test results since last year so I borrowed and scanned it and put here. Anyway I'm happy for her. Hopefully this pregnancy gonna change their life to better.

Note: Nope, that's not my result lah. Gila ka... *Lols

Everyone Asks For...

Everyone asks for a miracle. Some a house, some a car,and some for love. Be happy with what you have and remember: your miracle is that your alive today.

I Got Bitten

Monday, September 13, 2010

He, The Way I Remember Him


It's funny when you still talk about your ex. Not all of them (considering you have more than 1 ex), but just this particular one. Even after years not hearing from him, what makes a lady still talking about the freaking ex?

Now it's my turn since it's my blog. I want to talk about this particular ex of mine. Even if the breakup did make me us both cry, even if I thought he hurt me, but actually he got the most wounds. It was me who break his heart. Until today, I still have good memories of him. Not all the details actually, JUST THE WAY HE TREATED ME.

The more and more guys I found after him, made me realize that not ALL men are like him. Even if he was fierce with jealousy, but one thing that he NEVER failed me. He has always protected me. ALWAYS. In everyway. Even when he was so in pain because of me, he NEVER FAILED me that one thing. Even when I was not being the way he wanted me to, he NEVER failed to protect me.
Although there was a time he wanted to "hide" me from the world, like when he won't mention my birthday in public because he didn't want to see people started greeting or wishing me that would make him jealous. He said to me, "I'm bad, right? I don't want people to know that today is your birthday." I just smiled because I understood him. To me it didn't matter if people wished me or not. I didn't think I was denied a right. I still remember when he was around while I was chatting in chatroom, he would kick anyone who mention my nick. he would curse anyone who said something bad to me, he would NOT let anyone type my nick for any suspicious sentence - like, "I had a wet dream of you last nite o". He would immediately talked to the person, "You don't write something like that about my gf? I don't like it." Because of his way, I remember having to apologize to some people for his behaviour. I said, Sorryy sorryy. He only wanted to protect me. Yes, Protect Me.
My oh My. That was him. Maybe it doesn't take a genius why I'm still talking about him. Not even in my intention to meet him back, Nope. I just know I remember him in a certain way that is special enough that I could talk about it again and again without losing its value. Even on the last day that we spoke, he STILL never failed to protect me. He NEVER said anything BAD to me even if he was so hurting inside. Even the breakup was said by me because he WON'T say it. This man has learnt how to take care of my heart so carefully. He knew how fragile I was. Anything bad that comes out from his mouth would make me cry. The last time he accidentally raised his voice, I cried right away. That was the old version of 256. He accepted me just as I was. He adjusted to my ways and he never complained about my childishness. 

Even when we were having our final conflict, he did not use anything that he has about me to get back to me. Not even anyone in his family got access to my stuff in his belongings, or even spread stories or gossips about me. Even if his siblings or family had a reason to at least consult me or get clarification from me, he did not let them get into our business. If he could not settle things with me, he let it remain unsettled. He won't pass a matter for other people to settle for him. He NEVER passed my details to Anyone. Not even my phone number, not even my e-mail or my address, that could make others get access to me without my permission. That was how he protected me. 

Yeah, maybe I used to get pampered too much by this ex of mine. I would not scared to tell that if I were ready back then, I could be married to him now. It was because of my failure to commit that we broke up. Despite his other bad habits that I dislike, I made them a reason why I was not ready to tie a knot with him. But after I came across more and more men who are MORE good looking than him, why am I still talking about his protectiveness? 

I'm sorry if he made me a demanding girlfriend. Or maybe I shouldn't say sorry at all. Cos the fact that I have become a lady who is very different after I broke up with him. The fact is, I am not as demanding as I was with him. I become someone "simplified" and to the point. I don't fancy sugarcoated words or expensive gifts like what my ex used to lavish me with. I totally think that I have become so rational after his chapter. No, I won't say sorry for who I am now. Cos who I am now is a LOT better than my version that he had to handle. 

Maybe it's just the guys that I meet after him - Yes, you maybe more good looking. Yes, you maybe more attractive. Yes - you maybe ALL that compared to him. But one thing that he still did better than you, is that he Protected Me. He could be helpless when he was having financial problems or health problems. But he was NEVER helpless when it comes to keeping my matter confidential. Or maybe you guys think I ask too much. At least I found a guy who never give any way for anyone to humiliate or embarrass me or disturb my feeling. I don't say that I regret that you guys are not as protective as him, but sorry, inability for others to do that just make me remember how protective this man has been to me. Although I don't miss him anymore, I just wish that... the one by my side would AT LEAST try so hard to protect me as much as he did.
:)

Sunday, September 12, 2010

8 Things You Didn't Know About Dreams

Source: Yahoo Health

1. Dreaming can help you learn.

If you’re studying for a test or trying to learn a new task, you might consider taking a nap or heading to bed early rather than hovering over a textbook an hour longer. Here’s why: When the brain dreams, it helps you learn and solve problems, say researchers at Harvard Medical School. In a study that appeared in a recent issue of Current Biology, researchers report that dreams are the brain’s way of processing, integrating and understanding new information. To improve the quality of your sleep—and your brain’s ability to learn—avoid noise in the bedroom, such as the TV, which may negatively impact the length and quality of dreams.

2. The most common dream? Your spouse is cheating.

If you’ve ever woken up in a cold sweat after dreaming about your husband’s extramarital escapade with your best friend, you’re not alone, says Lauri Quinn Loewenberg, a dream expert, author and media personality. “The most commonly reported dream is the one where your mate is cheating,” she says. Loewenberg conducted a survey of more than 5,000 people, and found that the infidelity dream is the nightmare that haunts most people—sometimes on a recurring basis. It rarely has anything to do with an actual affair, she explains, but rather the common and universal fear of being wronged or left alone.

3. You can have several—even a dozen—dreams in one night.

It’s not just one dream per night, but rather dozens of them, say experts—you just may not remember them all. “We dream every 90 minutes throughout the night, with each cycle of dreaming being longer than the previous,” explains Loewenberg. “The first dream of the night is about 5 minutes long and the last dream you have before awakening can be 45 minutes to an hour long.” It is estimated that most people have more than 100,000 dreams in a lifetime.

4. You can linger in a dream after waking.

Have you ever woken up from such a beautiful, perfect dream that you wished you could go back to sleep to soak it all up (you know, the dream about George Clooney?)? You can! Just lie still—don’t move a muscle—and you can remain in a semi-dreamlike state for a few minutes. “The best way to remember your dreams is to simply stay put when you wake up,” says Loewenberg. “Remain in the position you woke up in, because that is the position you were dreaming in. When you move your body, you disconnect yourself from the dream you were just in seconds ago.”

5. Even bizarre dreams can be interpreted.

While it can be hard to believe that an oddball dream about your mother, a circus and a snowstorm can have any bearing on real life, there may be symbolism and potential meaning to be mined in every dream—you just have to look for it, says Harvard-trained psychotherapist Jeffrey Sumber. "The meaning of our dreams oftentimes relates to things we are needing to understand about ourselves and the world around us,” he says. Instead of shrugging off strange dreams, think about how they make you feel. “We tend to dismiss these dreams due to the strange components, yet it is the feeling we have in these dreams that matters most,” he explains. “Sometimes the circus and the snowstorm are just fillers that allow us to process the range of emotions we feel about our mother and give us the necessary distraction so we can actually experience that spectrum of emotion.”

6. Recurring dreams may be your mind’s way of telling you something.

Do you have the same nightmare over and over again? Loewenberg suggests looking for underlying messages in recurring dreams so that you can rid yourself of them. For example, a common recurring nightmare people have involves losing or cracking their teeth. For this dream, she recommends that people think about what your teeth and your mouth represent. “To the dreaming mind, your teeth, as well as any part of your mouth, are symbolic of your words,” she says. “Paying attention to your teeth dreams helps you to monitor and improve the way you communicate.”

7. You can control your dreams.

The premise of the new movie Inception is that people can take the reins of their dreams and make them what they want them to be. But it may not just be a Hollywood fantasy. According to the results of a new survey of 3,000 people, dream control, or “lucid dreaming” may be a real thing. In fact, 64.9 percent of participants reported being aware they were dreaming within a dream, and 34 percent said they can sometimes control what happens in their dreams. Taking charge of the content of your dreams isn’t a skill everyone has, but it can be developed, says Kelly Bulkeley, PhD, a dream researcher and visiting scholar at the Graduate Theological Union in Berkley, California. The technique is particularly useful for people who suffer from recurring nightmares, he says. Dr. Bulkeley suggests giving yourself a pep talk of sorts before you go to sleep by saying: “If I have that dream again, I’m going to try to remember that’s it’s only a dream, and be aware of that.” When you learn to be aware that you are dreaming—within a dream—you not only have the power to steer yourself away from the monster and into the arms of Brad Pitt, for instance, but you train your mind to avoid nightmares in the first place. “Lucid dreaming enhances your ability to learn from the dream state,” says Dr. Bulkeley.

8. You don’t have to be asleep to dream.

Turns out, you can dream at your desk at work, in the car, even at your kid’s soccer game. Wakeful dreaming—not to be confused with daydreaming—is real and somewhat easy to do, says Dr. Bulkeley; it just involves tapping into your active imagination. The first step is to think about a recent dream you had (preferably a good one!). “Find a quiet contemplative place and bring a dream that you remember back into your waking awareness and let it unfold,” he says. “Let the dream re-energize.” Wakeful dreaming can be used as a relaxation tool, but Dr. Bulkeley says it can also help your mind process a puzzling dream. “It creates a more fluid interaction between unconscious parts of the mind and wakeful parts of the mind,” he says.

When The Girls Fight, Who Is Innocent?


Finally…finally…after watching it on tv entertainment gossips, and from dramas and movies, and the rest I listened directly from the owner of the body who got insulted by another woman, whose man was “stolen” by the other woman – Do I really know how it feels to be in the shoes of the woman who got insulted for the same accusation?




I’m sorry if this sounds cynical that instead of trying to fight along, I make this another study case. I always wonder…in the situation where a man has eyes on another woman when he already has a woman, why we end up seeing both women argue and curse each other? And yes, suddenly the guy was out of view. I mean, something very wrong about that, don’t you think?

I remember this episode of Melodi on TV3. That time they were interviewing Amyza Adnan, a local actress, who was so enraged with this other woman who she said was disturbing his husband. She was so mad that she said she would step on the woman’s pregnant belly if she saw her eye to eye. And then, to get the other side of the story, they got the other woman on camera and asked her directly whether or not she was having an affair with Amyza’s husband, and the woman said she was happily married but it was Amyza’s husband who could not forget her. She even said that on the day of Amyza’s wedding, the husband sneaked out and gave her a gold bracelet as a sign of his affection. I am not so sure if I got every details right but I was so sure that Amyza was attacking the woman as if she was the one who was all over her husband. Or maybe even if she knew that her husband had something to do with the affair, but she still blamed it all on the other woman. It’s like, “Hey you know he’s my man, why do you still flirt with him?”

And another reality case that I came across with recently, was this peculiar wedding. I know their strange story because the mom and the mom-in-law of the bride were my customers. Instead of 1 bride, there were 2 brides in the pictures. I did not ask anything. It was the bride’s mom that told me everything. The story began when the guy got engaged to her daughter. After that he went for a 6-month vacation to his hometown, the Philippines. During that 6 months, something happened. The guy fell in love with another girl and the girl got pregnant and the girl’s father married them off to make sure the guy bear responsible for the baby. After that, the couple came back to Sabah and broke the news to the fiancée. Of course it broke her heart. Maybe out of pity and love, the guy said he still wanted to marry the fiancée. It was then the fiancée’s decision to marry him or not. The fiancée said, Yes I will still marry him, Out Of Revenge. She wanted to marry the guy so that the other girl felt the same pain that she felt. I mean, Wow… Don’t tell me who is innocent or guilty, what’s clear is one person is winning!!! The Man!! 

The girls argue and the man looks like Oops, I’m Innocent! I don’t mean to switch the limelight lenses on the man now. No. What I am trying to make you girls see is Use your freaking Sanity!! It takes 2 to tango. If the man has an affair with another woman, they are both accountable for the affair and not the woman alone. Instead of attacking the other woman, you should go consult your man first. Ask What’s Wrong!! Of course the third person is The Most Evil Bitch that you can think of when you are so angry. Or people who are looking at a triangle love think that the second woman should be stoned to death! Am I right? I can’t stop you from having your view. You can try anything to stop that affair, but if you don’t solve it from the root, I don’t think it’s gonna work. They are grown up people. They will sneak behind you or do steal and space to talk or meet behind your back if the affair is with the consent of both. 

I know it’s so easy for me to write all this. I don’t think the girls whose men got stolen are all bad girls to be getting such karma. And please note that not all 3rd persons (the second girl) are bad girls too. How she got herself in the mess could be unintentional. It’s from others that I learn that people have never stopped looking for love even after they got married. Also consider the fact that people change, love fades away, and things do run their course eventually. Everyone is just looking for a happier life. 

If I were the girl whose man was stolen by someone, of course it gonna be so painful. But there is certain point where I think I just can’t force things to happen my way. Maybe my rational mind would tell me there’s something about me that makes my man find another woman. I don’t give MEN the green light to change their hearts, but remember, you (ladies) are human too. When you have lost your feelings towards the man you give your word too, maybe I don’t have to squeeze my mind trying to explain that it could happen to anybody. When it happens, it’s not so easy to just undo the whole thing.

If I were the girl who was accused of stealing someone else’s man, like starting to be getting swearing SMS and messages from the man’s girl, I won’t fight back. I tell you WHY I won’t fight back. First, I am a grown up lady. I spent my freaking years in school maybe not really about reading books but schooling and experiences have taught me some wisdom to live life. If you think I’m going to bring my level down just because of this, and repeat the same show that I watched on tv, or just add to the statistics of “Women who fight over a man” – DREAM ON…cos if you can swear and curse at me like I am just a piece of sheitz on the street, just by doing that only make you Exactly that. It shows your mentality, it shows your childishness and it shows that it’s A LONG way for you before you reach that mind level can make you survive this harshness of life. Trust me, this life can be REALLY gruesomely harsh at times. You can’t survive with that. TRUST ME.

Today I am thanking myself for being difficult, inaccessible and emotionless because these traits have saved me from getting into the mess of stupidity. My concept is very simple. I won’t fight for, over a man. It’s a man’s job to fight his way to get what he wants. This alone will prove to you what kind of man you have become at this level. Are you a fighter? Or A Loser. I’m sorry I am not that smart to figure it out for you. 

And girls, you want to continue fighting over a man, I’m afraid when you finally done with your anger and revenge, you have come to the end of your life. Life ends anytime. Never think it’s too long that you can practice all the bad virtues first before you can practice the goods. If you want to fight, go ahead. I’m not interested. I have so much works to do for my life. :)
I have stated my views. Suit Yourself. :)

Friday, September 10, 2010

Blogwalking Award 2010 - My Turn To Do The Tag

Thanks sweet Stella for tagging me :)

1. Apakah yang bermain di kepala anda sekarang?

Wow…provided that I have a hyper brain – 1. I can’t wait to go to the office tomorrow and do many things around it…oh my why am I still excited ahahaha 2. What to do tonite before I sleep soundly 3. What are the foods available to line up for me to be my dinner and supper tonite 4. When am I going to get up from this chair and take bath 5. Should I wash my hair or not and I thought maybe not. 6. I want to clean up my room, tonite could be the nite but I don’t know where to start Soo much things to be done. *Lols 7. I like number 7 so I usually save the best for last and it belongs to number 7 which you’re not get for free… *Lols

2. Apa nama samaran anda.

I know this is funny but my online friends call me 256, so it’s either Twofivesix or Dualimaenam or Duvohimoonom *Lols. Okay it’s funny I don’t mind if you laugh. Hehehe

3. Siapakah 3 orang yang paling anda sayang?

Aiyooo…ini sia nda mau jawab sebab sepa yang disebut kemudian akan rasa dorang kurang disayang. This might create room for uneasiness hehe. So cakap di mulut pun teda guna. It’s about how I treat them. Nanti sia cakap sia sayang si polan bin si polan, dia cakap Manadaaa kau sayang sia. Kau slalu nda peduli sia. Nahh… nakamalu la sia tu kalau mcm gitu. So sia nda akan say it usually, but I SHOW. Don’t worry the 3 people should know. *giggles.

4. Panggilan Untuk si Dia

Okay, let me try to Not skip this question this time. Erks, can I skip this? Hahahahahahhaa. “Dear can you answer this for me? Hahahaha

5. Hadiah yang diimpikan daripada seseorang yang istimewa.

His loyalty.

6. Blog mana yang anda selalu lawat?

Entertainment gossips!! If I have time after that, I visit the most intriguing topics on my list. Hehe. So it can be your blog too. :)

7. Tagkan kepada 15 blogger.

Gosh 15? Hahahaha. That’s so much for a not very social blogger like me hehe. So whoever happens to read this blog and you feel like you have 15 friends to tag, maybe you should do it and go ahead and tag them and see how they answer the questions. *giggles.

“Just Be That Dinosaur, I Told Her”

Sometimes when you are having a personal crises within yourself, you could be giving yourself peculiar options that only other people can see how stupid they are. During the hangout with my friends recently, my bestfriend asked our opinion on this. She started with…

“Consider the options that I have now, ok. I have been thinking of quitting my job and start a business. Do you think it’s worth it? Cos if I don’t quit my job, it’s whether I become this Dinosaur in the department, who is considered experienced and senior compared to the new staff but still remain doing the same post for years, or I try to become a professional engineer IR which gonna take some time but achievable, but I saw my superiors, and their workload isn’t easy. Considering that now I am already too busy that my man even complains that I only have time for work, I can’t imagine if I get busier than this. Then the best thing is maybe to quit my job and do business on my own so I don’t have to deal with this.”

By the time I listened to her words, I didn’t take that much effort to come up with an answer. I told her, “Just Be That Dinosaur.”

My other friends laughed at my answer. They thought I was joking. But guess what, I was giving the my real view on her situation. Since that it wasn’t the first time when she posed me a question like that, I knew the nature of that little thought inside her of quitting her job. She thought it was too hectic. She wanted more personal time for herself and her family. Her job doesn’t make it possible. And she thought that she has to get stuck there for the rest of her life because applying to get a promotion is not going spell things well for her judging from her current situation when her man always made it an issue of argument when she keep saying I’m Busy. Her man couldn’t understand the demand of her job. Yes I understand that. It doesn’t take a genius. Although the job is making her busy, but it’s the job that is giving her the life that she has now. She has everything under good care because her financial situation allows it so. She doesn’t have to worry about money. She can spend all she wants. She can go where she wants if her time allows. Another thing is she is worried about becoming “The dinosaur” because of other’s perception of her that she is considered senior staff but never get promoted. I said to her, “So you are worried about what others gonna say when you still at your chair after years working?” She paused and said nothing. Maybe she was thinking of what to say. “This thing about other people, let me tell you. They gonna talk what they want and when you get too worried of their impression about you, look at them, do they have a life half as good as yours? If you quit your job just because you don’t want to be A Dinosaur, these people are not there for you when you don’t have enough money for your monthly spending. These people won’t be there for you if you fail in your business attempt. I’m not trying to be negative here but I tell you what’s the reality of business today. To start a business is so easy but to make it successful, tell me why do you have to go through all this when your professionalism is already at your grab? We are talking about all this because you are considering of letting go something that is SURE you can pull off satisfactorily. The last person I know who quit job to look for a greener pasture that he has lack skills on, now living in hardship because of the decision to let go the job he was so good in. It’s whether he was greedy or bored, you must weigh the good and bad consequences from your options. Every work has its own pain and struggle. Once you venture into business, you are starting from zero. If you are not used to this mental challenge, maybe you would get discouraged in a short time. By that time you have lost many things that you won’t even have to consider losing if you just tolerate with the thought of staying as A Dinosaur.

They laughed at me because I sounded like I was being cynical. Then my bestfriend hugged my arm and said, “Okayyyyy You are right! I won’t quit my job!!!!!” Okay, then she agrees to be the Dinosaur, guys… *Lols.

Don’t get beaten up by the mental challenges. These challenges are the biggest cos you don’t know how your own mental can be your biggest enemy that attempt to change your life into a bad way. Positive thinking is good, Yes, I know. But positive thinking must come with other “equipments” then only it can give you positive results. It’s a world full of temptations and challenges. One wrong step is all you need to turn things upside down. Be rational. Dinosaur or not, it’s too small to make it a big deal. Or if you insist, just be a Dinosaur that is wearing a diamond crown. I’m sure everyone won’t laugh at you. They now WANT to be a dinosaur like you too. Hahahahaha :)

When A Choice You Should Make Is A Choice You Don’t Make

Let’s make this to the point. Recall situations where you are stuck between 2 choices. In order to proceed, you should pick one because of the constraint involved. Don’t tell me you’re not familiar with situations where you need to make a choice because both choices happen on the same time so unless you can divide yourself you have a surrogate robot to represent you, then maybe you can have both choices. Hahaha. Okay, imagine the normal situations where you have to make choices. Sometimes it’s tough to decide cos picking one choice means letting go of the other choice that might mean something to you too. So how?

Here’s my little situation recently. A few days prior to that, my best buddies asked me when I could hang out with them – doing our routine of spending hours chatting and updating each other about our lives. Since that my best buddies are only free during certain time, I should adjust my time for them since I’m more flexible with my schedule. So I agreed right away to set my time free for them, considering that I won’t have last minute urgent work. I made sure all works were done before the day. Suddenly something came up. My cousin called me that she needed an urgent work to be done. She gave me the work on the nite before the day, but she said it was due in 2 days so I could have my free time on that planned day. Unfortunately, she called again that morning and told me she wanted to pick up the stuff on the same day! Considering that I could only do my work at the office, and then that day I already made my plan with my buddies to go out together which means once I left the office to town, I won’t be going back to work, or else I would be rushing and wasted so much time and energy on the journey. Then my mind worked so hard to find a solution. I almost considering to cancel the plan and just let my buddies go without me cos the work was more important. But I felt painful to miss the date with my buddies especially when our hangout only happens once in a few months. So I just sat there for a while and thought of something. Suddenly something hit my mind. Hey, WHY am I making a choice? Making a choice is time consuming. It’s pressuring and I hate to lose one of the choice. Suddenly I realized that NOBODY forces me to make a choice actually. Then WHY should I try and make a choice?

Without further ado, I took a middle way. I WON’T MISS BOTH. I told myself that I could finish the job in time cos when I checked the time, I had about less than 2 hours. Considering that the last minute work is within my proficiency, it was the time to show that “I could get the job done” given whatever circumstances. I was trying to proof something to myself, at the same time giving myself the benefit of having both things without making a choice. I called my bestfriend telling her that I was gonna be about an hour late. Yes, that was the adjustment that I made. Nothing comes free, you see. It has to cost you something. But the one hour delay that I asked for, was not critical. I know that my buddies would be late too. They usually would arrive about ½ to 1 hour late especially when they got stuck in traffic jam. So there was a possibility that I still won’t miss anything. I just concentrate doing my job and finish them fast and efficient. I noticed that the work that had been bothering my plan was not that hard to do. If I just spent 1 hour of undisturbed time for the work, I could performed wonders in getting many things done. Just as I set it, my work was done with additional 10 minutes and with the help of the surroundings that didn’t make things harder for me, I arrived at the mall when my buddies have not yet had their meal. I mean, I was so delighted I did not miss anything. It was so funny when we force ourselves to make a choice when we don’t even have to make a choice. Try and think of a middle way. If you can work something out without having to lose anything, Trust me that’s an accomplishment. If you can do it, proud of yourself. *giggles