256'S July Journal Day 7: When Things Go Wrong…

Things don’t always go in rhyme. Sometimes you do your best and still, things can still go wrong because of the expectation that is not met. Even you are not expecting much, but it’s not possible to not have expectation at all. So when a mistake is done, which is something that we do daily, intentionally or not, still you know that things have turned out of direction for a moment. It’s a trying time for you, cos at a few seconds, it feels unbearable. You are out of focus, you are certainly distracted and very much disturbed. You are looking all around for the fix. You need the peace again. So what should u do now? After going through this so plenty of times, and how it had once pushed ur limit of patience, that you even saw how it started to wreck your treasured possession. You have let go some, but when you think you don’t want to lose some more, you gonna fight to keep it. The world is getting older. We might or might not have that long to keep failing and trying again. Opt for understanding, communication and - Losing each other is not the option. It’s time to make it work. God willing :)

256's July Journal Day 6: The Epic Of Before and After Testimony

When you go through a product advertisement especially on health and beauty, what you’re always looking for are the testimonies. You can say that testimonies are very effective way to make people want to try your products. Especially when you can see an image of Before and After. Yeah they do work. But I’m not sure if most of you notice that a lot of Before and After images used by some products are just not convincing enough. In the era of “Photoshop Is The Best And The Cheapest Makeup” makes you even critical about testimonial pictures. Are there really the results of a good product or just a good photoshop skill? Or worse yet, not even photoshop at all. The before and after images are just – Epic Fail.

If you are selling some skin beauty products that need you to convince people that they pay a few hundred bucks on some pills to get really smooth and fairer skin, using the wrong images will only make people doubt or even lose interest when the images are trying to "buy impression with a cheap price" cos with your effort of putting images with extra lighting, extra make-ups - you expect that people would just believe it's all the work of the product that you are selling. I mean, even if your products really work, but never expect to get people's confidence cheap, cos it's not. It's good if not many are as critical as I am, cos I understand that not everyone works with pictures a lot to even question much. Okay, maybe I'm just your unlucky case. Okay, but if you can, don't ruin your marketing like that. Just saying. Good luck peeps :)

256's July Journal Day 5: So Now You May Leave The Hair Alone

My customers and friends have asked me the same question, “What’s the name of the colour of your hair?” The fact that I randomly picked this brave red colour, I did not really think too much about it. It was just another experiment to me. Yeah, I experimented quite a few red range and some of them didn’t work. For some reason, I think it’s better not to disclose. I remember back then when I asked people what kind of colour they used on their hair when I thought it looked cool, I never got a serious answer. I ended up finding it on my own, and risked getting  alien hairs from wrongly chosen colours. Hahaha. I think that everyone should have that experience to use different colours on their hair before the find the best one that fits them. They deserve the same experience, don’t they? Hehe. I’ve been using this same type of red since last year cos I decided that it was the best so far in terms of matching my personality, my looks and others. Okay, maybe the commentary from others also convince me to think that way. For quite a few times, I was asked my kind of red that I used on my hair, I had to answer with - Colour Mix.  I have customers who are operating hair salon and they mention about colour mix that usually gives better results. So again, whenever people ask me, I don’t feel obligated to answer it. It’s my right to protect the paten of my hair colour. *LOLS. Kidding. Maybe they thought, the colour creation from hair colours leftovers is the most believable answer. Or they understood that I wanted to keep it secret so my hair would remain unique among us there…Hahaha. Kidding again. Those who asked about the colour, usually because they were thinking about having their hair coloured too. So if I go with this colour, you go with that colour, the more variety colours, the merrier, isn’t it? Hahahaha Luckily, my mom and my sister never asked. Predictable, since they are not into hair colours. So I never really have to reveal. Until last Saturday, my close cousin mentioned about doing changes on her looks. Since she is my closest cousin, also a good confidante, it’s just so evil to not tell her the truth. So finally, that same question popped out again. I was like, Okayyy, I will tell youuu. Then I told her where I bought the colour. Then suddenly I had the urge to say, Wait, u r not gonna use the same hair colour as mine, just because we are cousins, rightt?? LOLS. It started to sound ridiculous, that since we are family, we might as well share the same type of hair colours. What if the colour doesn’t suit them as much as it suits me? Okay, too much of a fuss. So much of my individuality, maybe I should stop minding about it. People can have my hair colour, people can have my hair style, my hair length, anything they want. It doesn’t make me any less or lose anything. I should  have thought of that much earlier. But I would prefer if people adapt something exemplary about me, I’d feel more honoured that way. Maybe they can try to adapt the kind of passion that I have towards my job, and some force of positivity that always help me survive a bad day. Why not pick that? Help yourself, thank you. Hence, now u may leave my hair colour alone, okayy???

*LOLS 

256's July Journal Day 4: What Happen To My Critics?

There’ll always be 2 groups who are related to you. One is the ones who love and care to see you succeed. While the other one is the ones who don’t bother about you but would not mind to see u crushed and fall. Even a well known celebrity, anywhere in the world, has a group of haters whose eyes are more sensitive in finding defects, even how high the fame stage you have climbed. Speaking of me, I’m not even anywhere close to any public figure, nor that I have achieved something so significantly good; in other words, I’m just “nothing much” for anyone who don’t know me well enough to even spare time to mock my existence. STIlLL, Still I do have that group of haters who are aware of my shortcomings and making my steps looking so odd in public. Coming this far in my journey, I have met a minority group who are more interested in pointing fingers, finding faults and criticizing me – I’m still thinking what kind of benefit they get from doing it. I know that I do have a bunch of Likers, very small but still, sometimes they give me the credit I don’t deserve. They overlook my mistakes, and they still point about the smallest dust of good thing I do. I know that for so many times, injustice happens to my benefit. I get too much compliments compared to my achievements and I knew about all that, all along. Not for once that I think I’m that good cos I do understand and appreciate that people are just being courteous. I’m sorry if I hurt some heart or some eyes – cos I don’t know if I have hurt anyone in this innocent process. Who knows that maybe some people couldn’t take it. They dislike it when people keep hi-liting only the good things and they are tired of it. There are a few occasions when I was smashed that “She thinks that she’s always right.” Or “What kind of qualification do you have to give all those advice.” *LOLS. Okay, sorry I laugh. Those people who said these are the people whom direction are opposite to mine, not even the same ideology, and so they were questioning everything as long as they could let people see that, “Hey 256 isn’t that good after all.” Some even question the relevance of my blog just because “ there’s no way she has some formal knowledge about psychology” to even advice others. Hello?? Sometimes when people criticize me, I just kept quiet and have some deep thoughts about my own doing. Maybe they were right. I tried the best possible to MAKE THEM RIGHT so I could change my way. But u can’t just freaking do that all the time and expect me to follow ur crazy immature mind - and they don’t even spend any time to get close to my writing, the kind of philosophy that I use and the principals that I stand by with. If they are my readers, at least they freaking know the right question to ask. I’m alive for so many years, going through a hard life resulting from my complicated nature, and trying to survive people judging me, not to mention my own emotional ordeal, which in are unique in their own forms – just like each and everyone of you. The only difference is, I find the pleasure in writing, to be able to share with all of u. These sharings are from my own experiences, so I’m sorry if you are a King or a Queen, life might be different in our shoes – but in case you were a peasant like me, you’ve been teased, been mocked, been hurt and been lied to, Yeah, just like you, life wasn’t so gentle to me too. But I made it this far, and I manage to combat constraints in my life, one by one. I have thankfully talked to so many people , which some I have helped just from sharings like this. So, I OBJECT if only now you started to question that I’m giving Crappy Advice - cos it’s too late. So to my Critics, before u speak directly to me, try to speak to the people who u would like to disagree with when it comes to their opinions on me. So that when u come to me, u have nothing but really strong points I don’t mind wasting my time hearing. Cos if you still do, I will easily categorize u into “that other group” that I put in my Ignore List. To the rest, Thank you Guys, Sia sayanggg kamu. Muahs.

*giggles

256's July Journal Day 3: You’ve Asked For It, No?

I’ve been observing this on Fb since some time ago. Some of these girls were posting some screen capture of nasty messages they received from some guys which contained obscene words, and they made it look like they were the victims of sex maniacs lurking among their long list of Fb friends. But why was I not surprised, cos these girls in question whom encountered this, are mostly those who are into posting really daring pictures of themselves, showing as less clothes as possible, doing poses that are nasty enough, and it doesn’t take a genius of what would go inside the mind of the poor creatures called men? Some of these girls even curse and swear like it’s nobody’s business. To be fair, recently I came across this nasty profile picture of a guy. I mean, guys can go baring their chest and still look macho instead of perverted, so they need to go extra mile to give you girls “the direct idea”, Yeah, like showing their private part all the way! So if u gals see this, what idea do you get about that guy? Unless u r looking for some crazy fun, u would go for him, otherwise, u will avoid him. Exactly. Same thing. Just like, you can’t give ur killer poses and still expect that others won't misunderstand you for being too open with Anything. So u can’t even handle one-liner desperate lusty line. Come on, these guys thought u asked for it! I couldn’t help but shook my head when I saw these girls made a big deal out of it, after “all the indecent exposures” and all the generous nasty posts they made. I mean, if this is just part of the drama, then maybe I made a mistake. But in case u r genuinely pissed, feel free to change your way – you’ve been scaring the good guys away. Or else, stop sounding like you are shocked – and much fuss instead of finding the Block or Delete or Unfriend button. Okayy...Stop surprising me. Get ur act together, will ya?

256's July Journal Day 2: 10 Guilty For 1 Innocent

I learn an important lesson today, how people could be spreading stories that are totally untruth about someone, and it could go miles and miles, doing damage to the person's good name and reputation, Without the person knowing it. I saw that it's happening to a colleague. I was shocked to hear how bad things sound when it comes from other people's mouths. Refusing to believe it right away, I asked her directly, and she explained it in a very easy sentence, not even beating around the bush. Her transparency and logic made me feel guilty of every doubt that I had in her just from listening to people's stories. This world is full of evil hearts, and are using every bit of our weaknesses to ruin the remaining goodness. Wisdom is there for a purpose... I rather overlook 10 bad friends than to misjudge 1 innocent friend. Another Lesson learnt.

256's July Journal Day 1: Sorry Milk, You Have To Go

Hi everyone. My first post. Hehe. As some of you know, I did this No-Milk month for the whole June. Just in case u ask why, well, I did it Just For Fun, really. I am aware that my diet isn’t that healthy overall. I like to eat and enjoy food, I almost has no restriction to my diet for…forever. Erks. Hahaha. As a coffee lover, I loved it to go with condensed milk, I liked it creamy, and thick. I notice that of all the things that I consume daily, Milk is just something that is so easy to eliminate, since I still can enjoy coffee without it. Cos I don’t just drink coffee for indulgence, but more about focus and energy to start the day. Milk might just help the taste but not the effect on me so – Sorry Milk, You Have To go. 1 month, NO milk in my coffee at all. You ask me what I feel, I FEEL GREAT. I feel like I’m doing it healthy, and other things just come easily, like I start to use Sesame/Corn/Sunflower oil for cooking instead of the normal Helang/Buruh cooking oil. Also, No sausages AT ALL. I used to buy the Premium Ayamas Frankfurter Mushroom/Blackpepper  weekly . Yeah, they were eliminated too without them knowing. Hahaha. One more thing! I also drink A LOT of mineral water!! Seriously, I need the world to know this. I was a person who never drank water (unless you consider a cup as significant enuff) and now, u can see me rushing into a grocery shop and come out with nothing but a 2 bottles of mineral water. OMG, congrats to myself. Even the water is shocked at me. After a month under all those restrictions, u want to know how I feel? I feel GREAT. I will go into details about the changes that it does to me. Ladies and Gents…today let me say this to you. You want to have a healthy eating habit in the world full of delicious foods, it’s tough, right? Be realistic. You don’t want to stop enjoying life trying to cut your foods. Just pick the easiest ones that u can do, and u’ll be surprised that it’s just so easy, and it makes you feel good and it makes you look better too. I’m gonna extend my food restrictions for the month of July (shss… Don’t tell August and the rest yet…I want to keep it a surprise to them.) *LOLS. Stay Healty, Stay Happy. God Bless :)

New Blog Challenge: 256's July Journal

Hi guys. I miss u guys, seriously too. I’m so sorry cos I’m looked like I was taking revenge from my January Blog Challenge that I dissed my blog for so long after that.  I’m just all geared up for 2012,  doing a lot of stuff, trying to maximize my time, and enjoying life, and still poor in time management, caused me to not having enuff space to blog. So that’s why I’m here again. I love my babyblog. July Blog Challenge is how I make amend to all of you. I hope I can make up for all the time I was away from blogging. Writing is still in my blood so, I’ll see u guys around. I usually won’t lose my own challenge, most definitely u will get to see I complete this. I have no doubt. As if. Hahahaha. Miss u guys. Muahss.

"A woman marries a man..."

Found this on a comment page and share it here, wondering if those who are married agree with it...

"A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn't. A man marries a woman expecting that she won't change and she does."

Note on Mom's Day 2012

As a rebellious kid since the early days, I always find disagreements with my mom. Everytime my mom said or did something that I didn't like, I always took it to heart. I take some time from today, to remember the rest of the things that my mom did...how could I forget. Especially the part when she never gives up on her kids even how many times we have disappointed her - and the part where she never sheds tears in front of us; and never one time that I recall that she slows down facing her days because of lack of courage no matter how big the problem she's facing that time. Again and again, I just can't help but whisper to myself, She's the strongest woman I know. I might not be able to show it as well as I could write it, but coming to this point in my life, I figure out that the best thanks that we can give to our moms is to become the person that she can be proud of... 

People say that you can never understand how much your mom loves you until you become a mother one day. What else can I say...God gave me the best mom...Thank you. Luv u mom...:))