So That’s How We Hurt Them

Actually ada benda2 yang kita buat totally di luar sedar. Sometimes we just go by with the day, thinking that we want to be happy. We want to do good things and make the best of what we have and get as much benefit from what the day can give us. Sepa sangka, dengan niat yang mcm tu…apa yang kita buat actually hurt the heart of the people we care so much. Rupanya macam ni pula kan? Kita pikir when orang yang kita sayang hurt kita, dorang mestilah sangat jahat dan ada niat untuk buat mcm tu. Kita punya rasa sakit tu sangat mendalam dan menyusuk di dalam seolah-olah orang tu la yang paling teruk sekali masa tu. Rasa diri disakiti, dikhianati dan suddenly u feel diri sangat terpinggir dan tidak dihargai. Ini la yang kita rasa bila hati kita disakiti. Teruknya perasaan itu kan? Tapi I beg u guys pikir sejenak apa rasanya jadi di tempat org yang menyakiti tu. Adakah memang betul org tu teruk dan berniat jahat?

Just now I feel how bad it is to be in the place of the person who hurts. Suddenly sia rasa so unfair sebab why on earth I could end up hurting someone sedangkan I have no bad intention at all? So macam ni pula it all happened. Kita tidak akan sedar apa yang kita buat tu akan mengguris hati orang yang close dengan kita. Semakin dorang close, semakin hurt la dorang akan rasa. That one we know already. But now when u become the person who gets hurt, please remember that you loved ones can’t be that heartless. You can’t let anger consume u and let it destroy all the good things in a blink of eyes. Cos it’s not worth it. I repeat, it’s NOT worth it. Give them the chance to explain and make up for it. Cos I tell you guys…when u accidentally become the person who hurts, you know that you DESERVE that chance you explain yourself. And you’ll be surprised that when all you have inside is nothing but the good things, you actually made your loved ones suffer excruciating pain that is mainly caused by the bond itself. The more u love the person, the easier to get hurt by the person. This is a fact.

So when something like this happen, DON’T keep it inside or sweep it under the carpet. Don’t entertain silly thoughts that you are just betrayed by someone you love so much. This is how life is playing with our emotions. This is how life is teaching us things – it would witness us hurt each other because of a small misunderstanding, and it would just see how we gonna react from there. If we are not strong enough, we would confront each other and explain, say sorry and make up. Make the other person know that the last thing on your mind is to hurt someone so dear. Guys…we can’t DESTROY another good thing from this earth. We have seen so much people who are unlucky that they can’t even learn how wonderful to love and be loved, not to mention to experience the wonders of the good bonds between two people. We have seen people are struggling with their lives to survive wars and violence. What we have now is almost the closest thing to heaven, guys. When we are given abundant of gifts to enjoy, when we are given love and care and most importantly we are given the people who can share all those with us….ASK YOURSELF again if it’s worth it to lose it all over one unsolved misunderstanding. ASK YOURSELF if you think your loved ones would want to hurt you after all the things you’ve gone through. ASK YOURSELF WHY they don’t deserve another chance to explain themselves and make up for it. If we have this realization, we will know how to handle it should a hurting scene happen without intention.

We won’t lose the good things this way, guys. Tell yourself that whenever there’s a devilish whisper asking you guys to stop loving each other – This is the time to practice wisdom. You know there’s nothing that is stronger than the union between 2 people when it’s built on sincerity and trust. Stop getting hurt for the wrong reason. We don’t have so much time for that. KISS AND MAKE UP. It makes all the difference in the world and u are not gonna regret it even a bit.

Never go to bed with unsettled discomfort…especially not when you have to endure your whole nite getting hurt by someone you love when you can spend it to love instead. :)