Being a broken-hearted person…You know how difficult the days are. Everything in your life seems to lose their meaning and relevance. Imagine the sudden emptiness that takes place. Suddenly you don’t see the colours anymore. All you see is in black and white. It’s so dull. It’s so painful. It’s almost worse than taking your own life.
For someone to be in this situation, it’s normal that the person needs something to regain back the senses to feel alive again. Sometimes they are so desperate to find something to fill that emptiness. I write this article because I want to speak about this situation that many of the brokenhearted people experience. I want to knock some senses into them that they might experience this, and if they notice something, maybe they can do something before they get even lost in their own sad song. Imagine you are a girl who gets into a life of a man who has just broken up with his longtime girlfriend. You can see his teary eyes even if he pretends to speak about his favourite movie. You can hear the sad crying voice that he hides in his laughter. Yes, he desperately wants to pretend that he’s not sad anymore. You come there as a help, with the hope that you can comfort him and make him forget his grievance. If you are in this girl’s place – you must know that you’re in for a risk that this guy might just take you to fill that emptiness. He is still traumatized by his breakup. It’s like a concussion after got hit really hard on the head. He might forget how to love. He might not even know what he’ s feeling at the time. He can’t find the right word to define anything. What obvious is his heart is empty and he must fill it. The pressure to tell his ex that he has moved on, and the pressure to make an act in front of her ex that he could handle the breakup, yes you can blame it on his manly ego.
The pitiful situations that always happen to them is when they find a substitute fast enough that you thought the breakup must not even pinch him. Suddenly he’s showing a lot of excitement that “I’m in love again”. He wants to tell the world about his new girl. He wants to tell everyone that “I am soo happy to be me because I have her”. If you become the spectator, you would feel so puzzled that his excitement is almost exaggerated. You would like to doubt if that’s even real. You never saw him like that. You almost thought the breakup could be a blessing in disguise to have changed a very sad man into a very happy man.
Yes…you guessed it. This is all just FAKE. He creates a make believe paradise to LIE to himself that he’s stopped mourning over his last breakup. All the manifestation of love that he does to the new girl is all a big fat lie. After faking for quite a while, he would realize soon after that finally the Paradise that he created doesn’t look so beautiful anymore. The emptiness that he thought was filled, suddenly feels even more empty than it used to be. The he would realize how stupid he feels about himself. The new girl is so worthy, but it’s too bad that he’s not ready yet to love again. After he builds hope and dreams with the new girl, yes he invited her to that Paradise where he promised to make her the Queen. But when all this has reach a limit, suddenly reality makes everything looks like a kid’s tale. “That Paradise is never there.” In a short period, he smashed someone else’s dream. He has to say I’m Sorry to his new Queen, he has to break all the fresh promises and present his stupid self to the world once again that since his last breakup, there isn’t anything that called Love that has taken place.
Some Breakups are really not easy, right guys? Pity on them who have to do this just to get over the pain. Imagine if you were in the guy’s place who has this dilemma. And then imagine if you were the new girl who suddenly brought in and end up becoming the victim. I write this so you can identify your situation. Don’t fall in that Love Trap. Don’t make things worse by making another person cry. Never rush love after a breakup. It could be just A Paradise that you build, but it’s not there. It doesn’t exist.
Your pain will subside. It WILL. Just handle it like an adult. If it hurts so much, it takes time to heal. Lying to the world only makes you feel a total loser in the end. Gain back your strength with honour. You don’t have to hurt another innocent heart….cos that Paradise that you built, was a paradise that never there.
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