Guys And Their Jealousy: Sweet or…?

Guys are becoming more jealous than gals nowadays. I hope I am just kidding and that better not be true. From what I can see, guys are tough business when it comes to their jealousies. Sometimes you don’t even know you have done something to trigger that jealousy, and the next thing you know, he’s already pulling a long face. If you think this is always between you and your special guy, maybe not. Sometimes he’s just another friend who wants a bit of your friendly attention and you’re too busy with your guy, suddenly you don’t know you have hurt a heart. Gosh, guys are becoming really fragile. Like you can’t say the wrong word, speak about the wrong people, not to mention to just go ahead with all you care to do without thinking that picking to step with the wrong foot might also make them read it differently! My goodness! Hahahaha. Ok Kidding. Of course not that bad. But hey, just a bit of reality check, are you guys sure that you have not switched place with the gals for being the crybaby in the relationship?

Okay, I know that not all men are really the jealous type. But I am surprised that the ones I have closely associated with from before, are all the jealous type. Sometimes I wonder if their Jealousy Mode: On will depend on the gal. Which means, they used to be not that jealous when they dated their exes before but then with you, they become the SuperJealousMan. You gotta be kidding me. No gals would want to have that power to turn on jealousy mode in guys. I can bet on that. Cos to me, it’s the most uncool thing to deal with when it comes to a guy. You can stand him being a little childish for wanting more attention, but when they are jealous, they just can’t think straight. And the worst thing is, you don’t even know that it’s happening. It’s like, you don’t know something is broken then how can u fix it?

My advice to all the jealous guys …Okay listen. I am being spontaneous again here. The gals can say everything to sooth you if they know that you are having some kind of funny jealousy. Remember that they are not always there when your jealousy level is starting to climb. It’s a struggle within you yourself. Remember the times when you know that you shouldn’t feel jealous when you see your girlfriend talks to a guyfriend in an innocent manner, but you just can’t help but get consumed in that feeling. Maybe a little bit of possessiveness and insecurity, plus it’s simply because you love your girl so much you don’t want to risk losing her. Look, your jealousy could be your worst weakness. After all said and done, if you think you want to keep your girl so much, maybe your jealousy is gonna go against you. You sure don’t want to be one of those breakup cases that rooted from untreated jealousy. Yes, you must know how to treat and handle your own jealousy.

Here’s some tips. Date someone who you can trust, that’s the KEY. Make sure that her job, her social life are all under control and under the safe limit that you can adhere. If you know that she has some “warning signs” that she gonna burn your trust, that means you are walking into a toxic relationship, and prepare to go all wrong. If you pass this stage of picking the right person to date, you can safely hand her your trust and you need to adjust to that. Give her some space, no more silly jealousy. It’s not healthy for both of you.

Anyway, jealousy in guys is needed too, in proper balance, please. She might find it sweet if you know how to express it to just enough for her to know that you care for her that much. From your jealousy she knows how much you want her to be his alone. That gonna put fuel into the relationship. The keyword is Balance. Anything too much is never good. So, ready for the jealousy challenge? It’s 2012 already, wake up…No more jealousy stories in the headlines, okay guys? Hehehehe. 

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One day of my so called heavy breakfast for the no-lunch intention. Been in this habit of skipping lunch because it makes me sleepy, but just in case I really get hungry again, I am so free to break this rule and it's not like I don't have a desk to nap...Hahaha

The Day A Friendship Is Saved

Even how matured I have become, or how much wisdom I have, still I am still subject to anger and grudges. Despite being a person of Peace, a person who talks about positive things most of the time, still, I believe that people can’t use that excuse to step on me. It’s a very simple rule. I say it again, RESPECT is such a big word. If people break this rule, I will then have reason to break that same rule, against them. And also, I believe that if I can’t change people , and they don’t even show some feeling of remorse or guilt, then I rather avoid these people than to get stuck with them and let them poison my mind and my heart by speaking bad words about them. I want to focus on the positive things in my life and let the toxic people stay out of it. This is among the cruelest thing I did in my life. To me, it’s my last resort of not making more intentional sin, which means sins that I can avoid but I still do. By keeping them away, I will not keep anger in my heart. Let them be in the world of their own. If I don’t do they good, at least I won’t do them bad. It’s the best thing for both people, I think.

Knowing that I have that kind of way in handling toxic people in my life,I have already disowned one friend of mine before, who brought really bad influence to me by her social lifestyle and toxic attitudes. Earlier today, I was so close to disown another friend who has been giving so much heartache not just to me but also to anyone else around her for that matter. No one has so far escaped from her. She cheated people’s money and the next time, she just forget about it and pretend innocent. Looks like she’s gonna drag more and more people in her really bad money management, and I thought that she has enough people to bother. I decided to just send her a text message, that I consider anything that she owed me is settled BUT she should never show up in my office again. Yeah, sounds so bad, right? I had to. I wanted her to know that it’s because I am someone she knows, doesn’t give her the right to just take advantage of my kindness. Someone has to give her a lesson. No one has done that so far. They just swallowed and talked behind her back and repeatedly get hurt by her. I have too many things to do. Don’t have time for that.

I was thinking again and again, if the text was proper. That she would understand and won’t get hurt. Something delayed me. And then another, and then another. It gave me time to think harder. When I was finally ready to send, I just sent a very short one instead of a long one, too short to even say my intention. Shortly after that, she appeared at my office door, with a bright jovial face. The moment I saw her, I could see some sincerity in her face. Oh God, I thought I just forgave her right then and there. She came to pay all her debt, which I planned not to ask her to pay so she could stop bothering me. I didn’t care much about the money, it’s the kind of betrayal when I thought she took advantage of her friendship with me. So we talked like usual and when I saw that happy face on her, I WAS SO THANKFUL TO GOD that I did not send her the text message that would definitely spoil her good mood. I would make things more complicated if that happened. Arguments could happen and it gonna lead to more heartache. Yeah, sometimes we are not thinking straight. We still do silly things. We are never too smart for another mistake. While she was talking in front of me like nothing happened, I recalled my morning prayer. Every morning before I leave my room, I will read this prayer, and I sort of memorize the prayer because it’s always relevant to ask for God’s guidance everyday. I speak this particular line in Malay since it’s straight to the point, and I first heard or read this prayer in Malay also. So it goes like this, “Teranginya akal dan fikiran kami supaya kami boleh melihat dan menilai sesuatu perkara dengan betul dan bijaksana, dan membantu kami untuk membuat keputusan yang tepat.” My prayer was answered. I remember that even how angry I was, I still have that little compassion asking me to THINK AGAIN before I send that text message. And that’s how a friendship was saved today. Thank You, Lord.

I hope the journey in the friendship with her gonna be better this time after she told me the most painful experience she had a month ago that really taught her some lesson about her mistake. Although I have dissed a friend, I don’t favour to lose even another one if I can keep them all. May God protect the valuable friendship that we have with one another. Amen.

Picture Of The Day

Back in primary 5, our English teacher told us that our memory is never enough to memorize everything. That's why we need a notebook. I only listen to it now. Hehehe. I need a notebook that I can bring anywhere and just jot down anything instant that cross my mind. I have wasted and lost a lot of good piece of mind because I thought that bring a notebook with you is outdated and tedious. NO, it's not. This book takes little space in my handbag, and so far it already helps alot. *giggles. Oh the numbers are so cool...the are in shiny gold outlines. hehehee.

Who and Where You Are, For A Reason

This life is kinda tricky. Seriously. Something that you did many years ago, sometimes you can’t even remember about it anymore, finally took you all the years to realize and see how it all be made into a certain outcome. Something that you did so innocently a long time ago, just with a little intention, with a lot of honesty, and today you find out, whatever you have today initiated by that. Sometimes the thought is so miraculous. How could it all look so nicely planned and plotted.

Back then, you would always thought that your destination is everywhere but not this one that you are having now, but it’s happening now. And all you can do is feel that amazement – and those who believe in a Greater Power up there, would easily have this thought, “Is this part of God’s mysterious plan?” And good thing is, what you have today, feels so right and you would not ask for more.

I have said this many times that I believe that there are certain things in life are destined to be. But the percentage is very small. The Book of Life is blank pages and we are writing the content every single second. How you make your life turn out has a lot to do with what you do, and the decisions that you make. Now look at that little Destiny game. I would like to think anyway, that in parts of the Book, there are some typewritten texts that are there since we were we born and those I would like to call Destiny Points, where no matter what you do today, you will eventually reach that points that you really have no say about it. But then, I also believe, after meeting those points, it’s still up to you how to respond and react to it from there. You gonna make it work or just try all you can to defy it. As you wish.

Look at your life, are you happy with where you are, who you are today, and whom you are with, today? Have you witnessed that a mysterious plan slowly unfold for you, and that’s why, always give your best today cos you never know where it gonna lead. 

For those who are being righteous, there’s always a bigger reward. Never lose faith and anything you do today, plant something good, it will grow and give you good fruit. Believe that we deserve the best that life can offer, but first, we must do our best too. Best of luck, buddies :)

Picture Of The Day

This is my current Fb profile picture. This picture was displayed on my handphone screen and I took picture of it using my camera. It's one creative way of doing your profile picture. Hahahaha.

Note: I am really late for my 16th day update (now is already in the dawn of 17th...hehe) because I had dinner outside, and came back a little late, had time to take shower and laundry and then got engaged on the phone for almost 2 hours before I napped and woke up at 2 something. Goodness gracious me. Hehehe. At least I'm completing my late post, and it's completed now, yes! Hahaha

The Truth You Deserve

 Just to refresh your memory. Why do I choose my name Twofivesix[256] in this blog? Isn’t it strange. Of course you want to know why, right? I also have to recall back why I picked that name. How can I forget. I first started my online life in MIRC chatroom and twofivesix[256] is my nick there. I started going to IRC in Aug 2008 and decided to make this blog in October 2008. Believe it or not, one of the reasons why I make this blog is for my chatfriends to know me a step closer, at least to answer their question about my gender. They didn’t even get my gender right so I thought this blog could help. That’s why I just adapt my registered IRC nick to this blog so they know this blog is mine. Until today, I still go to IRC although I don’t really chat as much as before. But there are always new friends, and it’s just come in handy for them to know that I own this blog. I don’t have to divide my effort on “branding” and I don’t have to introduce myself using different kind of nicks. I shouldn’t be more complicated than this, should I? Hahahaha. Yes, my online identity that has been standing strong and still is, enough for you people to throw me 1001 kinds of questions. Just out of pure curiosity.

You have no idea how many questions that I collect along the way. Everytime a new friend appears, I just fail to make them not curious. I won’t say I’m bored, because I always handle it the same way. Whatever my way is, I don’t give a frustrating answer all the time, cos the rest of it I just refuse to answer at all. Hahahahaha. So, imagine all the things in that you curious about people that you just met. Maybe a stranger whom you find attractive, or you just want to challenge yourself to dig as much details. Whatever your reasons are, why is it hard for some people to just TELL IT ALL? Is it because the truth gonna bring them down? Are they embarrassed of the truth? Do they think the truth gonna bring them some trouble? Or maybe they just do it for fun, maybe? Aha, that’s already more and more questions there. O gosh, when are we gonna stop asking questions! Hahahaa

For me, because of some principles of separating online worId and reality, I have to be very reserved. Consider this a self challenge. I won’t get hurt if I just tell all the truth and answer all your questions. I just want to do it differently because I enjoy having an online identity and at the same time, loving my life and who I am in reality. I think I did it the best way I can ever imagine since 2008. I can’t just spoil all this feeling by making my details leak so easily, but I do have a condition that can be met in order for me to just TELL ALL. As I am in reality, I don’t just pick anyone to be my friends. Just for some security purpose, I have to be extra careful when it comes to online world. I do have stages where you can reach and the higher you go, the more comfortable for me to just spill the beans. Hahaha. So don ‘t sulk, don’t get mad, don’t feel bad if it’s just so hard to know anything about me. I come online with a good intention, we can discuss about fun things, we can share stories, we can debate about hot issues, and can laugh at each other’s jokes, but when it comes to the kind of truth that you seek in myself and my personal life, You gotta show me that you deserve it.

Yes, that means I have 100 answers to your 100 questions, but FIRST, be the person to deserve them, I bet when that happens, you would wonder who is actually more secretive between you and me cos suddenly you think that you know everything about me and I know nothing about you ( cos I don’t normally ask that much questions as some of you do. Hahahaha)

So the rule of the truth that I am applying here…Be the one to deserve it, and the truth is yours. Fair enuff :))

*giggles

Picture Of The Day

I first saw this mask as Party Shop and was attracted to buy it but I was in a rush so did not manage to make up my mind. The price was RM 9,90. Months after that, I went to Walk In Shop and saw this mask selling at RM2 only!! So I bought it although I was not sure when to wear it. So the next location that I saw this mask again, at a kiosk selling Christmas decorations and gifts, and the price was RM 11.90. It's so funny how something so cheap can be sold at multiple price and some people believe that the quality of something has everything to do with the price. Maybe not for Made in China products. *giggles. Oh well, this mask is lovely, not only because of the colour, but also how cheap I actually bought it. Hehehe.

You Say Trust Is The Most Important

 Most of you will answer that TRUST is the most important thing in a relationship. So looks like everyone realizes and knows about how crucial trust is in a relationship. But how well do you Trust? Can you even trust at all? In a few talking sessions with different people, I have my debate ready. To me Trust is not the most important. In fact, TRUST is a very controversial word in a relationship. It often gets manipulated and even abused to the max. I don’t know why you guys pick something that very less people are capable of doing it right. Yes, you heard me. You can’t be preaching about Trust, but you can’t even do it yourself. So what’s that?

My argument is very simple. When you say that TRUST is the most important, maybe you need to elaborate more. In a relationship, there are two people. One person is the who gives the trust, and the other one is the person who is given the trust. I bet you must be talking about the person who is giving the trust. Cos if you ask me, yes, you must be able to trust your partner. And so you guys know it’s the right thing to do, TO TRUST your partner. Now lets talk about the other one, the one to whom trust is given to. Is it written in any kind of law, that whenever you trust someone, that someone is worth that trust? That the person will do exactly as what you trust the person to be and do? No, Right?

By the time you say you trust someone, it’s just one sided. It could be meaningless virtue when the person who gets the trust is doing it otherwise. When you think you trust the person for always telling the truth, what if he’s been telling only 10% truth. And you don’t even know it. All you know you give your trust without a doubt. And you think by giving your trust, you’ve done the right thing and you can sleep soundly. Gosh, don’t you notice where it does it go wrong?

Love and beloved. Sounds like a perfect match, right? But to love without being loved back in return does happen a lot. And the beauty of Loving someone is there, with or without getting loved back. Love is a standalone verb. It can be beautiful just on its own. But different with Trust. Trust must be 2 ways before it can mean something. It’s totally a joke when you give your trust to a person who can’t be trusted. It’s an incomplete cycle. If the person who gets the trust from you totally fails you, it makes the whole Trust cycle a stupid meaningless cycle. It can’t work any other way except for You Trust your partner and partner is as Trustworthy as you expect.

When you say Trust is the most important in a relationship, you know it’s something wrong with the sentence. Cos it also means that your partner should completely be righteous, that he doesn’t lie, he doesn’t flirt, he doesn’t two time you etc, and maybe he can pass it for a month without cheating, what about the rest of the years with you? That’s why I go straight to the point of Loyalty. Instead of trust, I pick Loyalty, because if the person is loyal, no matter what, he deserves the trust. Loyal means the person is steadfast and sticks with you and not cheat you. That explains the element of Deserving the trust, and then Trust game can come handy. So my answers from many years ago, still remain the same. I still think Loyalty wins over Trust.

Yet, I never underestimate Trust. It’s like a wonderful gift your partner can give you, provided that you deserve that trust. But then, careful. Trust easily becomes the culprit. You overlook what you should see. You give comfortable space for your other half to misuse that. You should know HOW to trust :) But if you really are confused with the issues that I raise here, stop making it difficult. Just follow your heart. If you can’t afford doubting, then go ahead and just TRUST; but make sure you deserve the same kind of trust from him. :)

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The Matchmaker Don't-Wannabe

First, I know I am already late because I was on the phone until a few minutes ago, which was already past 12 midnite. So I have to at least make it before I hit the record of being 3 hours late. Forgive me for my tardiness, ladies and gents. Hehe. 

Last year, I have guyfriends who brought up the topic of asking me to find them someone to date. These guys who said that to me, giving me the idea that they came to me for the task because they thought I should know someone who they can date. But another interesting thought is that they might think that I pretty much be in the range of gal that they can date, for example, maybe they want to date Kadazan girl, so since I am a Kadazan, maybe I can easily find one for them to consider dating. Hahaha. Gosh, the idea was funny to begin with. Yeah, can I just grab any Kadazan gal and present it to you like a Barbie doll? It’s ridiculous.

I tried it once on my friend. This guy was one eligible bachelor. From the descriptions, anyone would definitely find him viable to date. To gals, the highlights are on the job, the looks and some clue about the attitudes. If I hit my testimony right, I can just get the gals jumping to get that chance to get matched. Hahahaha. Maybe, for anyone who does this job, their reputation does count. If they are known as people with dedicated views, whatever their opinion on another person really does matter. It gives pretty much the impression that the person they are suggesting are shortlisted candidate if you know what I mean. Hahaha. Okay, what I did was, I told my friend about this guy and like expected, she was so interested! But then, deep inside of me, I was concerned if the guy might find the girl “too simple” because she is not the type who grooms. I might do a good job for introducing the guy to the girl, but what if the guy thinks my choice was not up to his standard. I just stopped halfway, when I saw that excitement in the gal’s face, I became more concern that this won’t work out and it gonna break her heart. My extra knowledge on the guy’s preferences was that, he did say that he admires things about me and that’s why he just thought maybe I have a friend that he can date. I was thinking, What if the guy put me as a benchmark, that whoever that I intro to him, should be someone like me, or better. They might certainly like my blog and appreciate my writing talent, but don’t assume that my friends are all like me. Don’t assume that my friends gonna be as friendly and as jovial as I have been to them. That’s why, any attempt of trying to make me a matchmaker, I responded this figurative statement. “Before that, you must understand that not all of my friends have red hair”. I hope they do get the clue. Hehe. I also did another attempt to match another gal with the same guy, to initiate the thought that they can try and hang out some times. I know the guy likes smart gals. I remember that I was impressed by this gal for having brain and thought that the guy might think the same, yeah, he did think the same but he did not want to date her. When I tried to be a persistent, asking him to reconsider, he just snapped at me and said, Picking a lifemate is not like going to the market where people can ask you to buy any vegetable and you can simply buy. Oh man, I did it quite bad, didn’t I. Hahahaha.

I consider that instead of A Matchmaker Wannabe, I rather be called A Matchmaker Don’t-Wannabe. So much for the knowledge and empathy to understand and read people’s minds, I still think I can’t do this job.. Sthing that I learn from all this is that…Attraction doesn’t translate itself in words. You must experience it and feel it how your body reacts when the object of attraction is there. When they say they want a brainy gal, and you present them exactly that, they refuse, because they want her to not just be brainy, but all the other things which makes her intelligence is just a bonus. You picky people, please self appoint yourself to be your own Matchmaker. Others can never do it for you. Trust in yourself, you can do it!

(*LOLS)

NOTE: Whatta note from a failed matchmaker. Ok don’t laugh. Hahahaha. 

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Not sure where my sis bought this choc cake, but I was the one who finished it. As much as I tried to deny that I am not a choc lover, I still think choc cakes taste the best so I just can't help. Hehehe

"Never Wrong Them"

Today my day was filled with nothing but hearing complains and sharing dissatisfaction with 2 people who have issues with 2 different people. These 2 people in question, I also have issues with them, the same thing with what the complainants were talking about.

The root to the problem is, again, The Chief Devil; Money. These 2 people did something the same. They both have problems with money, and they both have wronged other people involving money. These 2 people are my acquaintances. They are also ladies like me who have vision of their own. They have a dream and they pursue it. It just that, the outcome is not the same. They have failed to stand by very crucial virtues that really count in life. I can’t deny that sometimes we are so tempted to just sacrifice all these good values that we’ve been practicing forever. When we come across problems and troubles in life, we have to resort to survival strategies. We will look at the priorities at hands, and that is biggest test. Whether or not, we will lose our values just to put our self-importance on top?

Like what these people did, they have changed their priority. Instead of putting other people who support them in their work, they put themselves first. So they did it in such a manner that it hurt those people who were actually the backbones of their job. They did not pay their workers on time. Not only that, after all the tolerance from the workers, they took advantage from it. They abused it to the extent that they were practically making people suffer. After the long wait, they paid their workers lower than expected. These people who were treated with poor professionalism, have started to plant anger and grudge towards these 2 concerned people. As a result, they have caused these people to suffer. What I found out from their complainants today was that, it could be that these 2 people didn’t even know they have gone too far. They claimed to be innocent. Then to that point, I was thinking too, should they be made responsible for all the blames when they have lost the part of the memory of doing the misconducts? I really don’t know anymore. Not enough with wronging the people working under them, they even extend it to making their friends suffer too. They borrowed money and takes forever to pay. They never have enough money to even pay a small amount, but they do have money for other things that are considered not yet settled, and they are busy making new “book”, now with their friends. Suddenly, everyone around them are liable to become one of the victims. It’s just a matter of time, whether it’s sooner, or later. I really don’t know, can they just stop it all and start doing something right from now and fix things from there?

In life, we must have the values that we will NEVER ever compromise. Those people might not be anyone that can give you promotion or credit that put you in limelight, those people might not be known to your superiors, enough to give you some advantages, but these people bust their buns, working day and nite to finish work that you are assigned to do, and you pick their work and claim credit all by yourself. These people have better position in your life, than a King will ever have. DO NOT WRONG THEM. Those who know their values, would rather skip meals so these people can go home with smile, bringing something to feed their kids. Do Not Wrong Them, or your whole empire might go down with your values. Seriously. May these lost people find their way back, o Lord. Let them not wrong more innocent people. It’s not too late for them, just open a way for them to lead a way of righteousness. Amen. 

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This picture is considered expensive. Hahahaha. It has almost 6 hours of my time to prepare them, with the assistance of my cousin. These were the meals I prepared for my family last Christmas. I cooked them all. My cousin only helped me to wash and cut. Definitely something I will remember in a long time...Have you read this somewhere that the biggest gift you will give someone is Your Time? It's because you are willing to spend the time for them and you know that time will never come back. It makes sense. *giggles.

5 Things About [256] That Are - Unbelievable? Believe it.

 I hope it hits to your target question right. *LOLS. This is very spontaneous. I am quite nervous. Hehe

1. I have 2 Fb accounts. 1 is for my personal use where I only have my online buddies in the list, and one is for company. There are so contrast in number, one has 4850 with 230 pending requests (which should reach the quota once I accept all the requests) and the other one only has less than 45 friends. Unbelievable? Believe it.

2. My job now totally counted out my Degree. I remember being asked to fill this form for a certain qualification, and I was asked for any certificates that are related to my field of work. Then when I was too happy to present my degree in the document, the representative said to me, that’s not needed. Other normal certificates will do. I almost thought it’s okay to throw it somewhere. Hahaha. Unbelievable? Believe it.

3. Although I am a Kadazan and a Catholic, I don’t take pork! It’s been this way for so many years since secondary school because I was used to Malay foods at boarding school and not just I have stopped eating pork but I'm also not a fan of Chinese restaurants because suddenly my taste buds have preferences for spices and hotness. Hehehe. Unbelievable? Believe it…hehe

4. You guys know, I have this funny thing going on about me and blogging. I can spend up to 2 hours trying to work on a blogpost (because a lot of delays in between the time) and even how hard it took me to finish it, I always assume that “Everyone will be too busy to read this topic, I’m sure whoever mentioned in the post won’t even notice it” *LOLS. For the times when I learnt otherwise, I laughed so hard and I had that Uh-OH I’m busted, they actually read! Hahaha. Unbelievable? Believe it. *giggles

5. People know me as a workaholic which should go with the trait of hardworking but I am the opposite. I am the laziest person that I know. Among them is when I notice I almost have nothing else to wear for the next day, you know why I suddenly do laundry the night before. Hahahahaha. About the same attitude in everything else. I would delay a work for months and when I am reaching the deadline in another hour, I can finish doing it in half and hour. That’s just the lucky case. The worse case is when I got caught not even starting a task I was given and I’m lucky that my customers usually forgive me but I could never forget the kind of stares they gave me that time. Hahahahaha. Unbelievable? Believe it! Hehehe

Whooppsss…I did this post almost 3 hours late than I should. I hope I am forgiven for this, because I did double-laundry earlier and I was too tired and went to nap in the middle of writing this so luckily I got up before the sun shines and I practically forgive myself too, just one time, and I am now assuming I am still on time for my Blog Challenge Day 11. Hehehehehe :PP

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This is a gift to one of my first cousin's wedding, years ago. I could not recall what year, but he was my first cousin who first got married at a young age but very rare story that they did not even stay married for long because my cousin went abroad to work and left the wife for at least 2 years. As a result, they got divorce after a procedure was done by the wife and my cousin's parents and now they are both with new partner. Looks like they are happier with their new partner and life. One of those rare case, almost unbelievable too. This picture is considered antique cos it's from a memory card of my broken phone... hehe. Luckily it saves me for today's post (which is already 3 hours late) Hahahaa

Keeping It Burning But Never Get Burnt

When we walked into a relationship, it gave us cold feet, butterfly in the stomach, not to mention getting a goosebump everytime you guys see each other. You can never deny that the early stage of relationship is the best stage. If only this remains like this for as long as you guys are still in love. And guess what, logically speaking, if both can still having that “early stage thrill”, I’m sure no relationship would ever end. It’s always the lost of Spark that makes the relationship less matters.

The question is, is that possible to keep the flame inside your heart for your partner? So that there will be no expiry date to the kind of feeling that makes your heart beat faster. If only that’s possible. I don’t say that it’s not possible, but the reality is that everything has its own course, and everything is going towards that end of line where suddenly to break apart is the only favourable solution available. But wait, ladies and gents. It can’t sound that easy, right? Don’t we have something to not be part of this cruel ending. No, since when life is that predictable. I believe that…There Something We Can Do…

It’s between 2 hearts that have vowed love for each other. There’s a special bond that ties those two. Of course when there are outside elements of strong force that could get between you two and somehow makes the bond start to loose. Not to mention human nature that makes the process easier. We can get bored, we always judging each other and we sulk over small things and all the other emotional elements that never go to rest. Then is it possible to keep the feelings burning?

In my opinion, YES it’s possible. When 2 persons want the same thing so badly, how can anything be stronger than that, except for the will of God of course. So when 2 persons still fight for the relationship, that’s like the first green light that things can work out. Of course, over time the feeling will fade away a little bit, especially when you guys share so much and the thrill of curiosity starts to take the excitement little by little. It’s cruel, right? How come something so good that has gotten better and better, is only for the sake of making it bad and turns to worse from there. Can we defy this?

From my little mind, can I just suggest a few things that can be done. I have never tried them yet but I am just using logic. I think like what most people think, to have a little bit of ups and downs in a relationship is crucial to give it a little adventure. Everytime you guys make up from an argument, it makes you two wiser about the relationship and wiser about each other. When it starts to go on a flat boring line, no arguments, no jealousies, no sulking - yeah, Peaceful as it seems, but it’s the sign that you must do something to spice it up. Do something new, surprise each other, change your way of doing it in the relationship; for example, when he listens to you all the time, it’s time for you to listen to him instead. No one is the master and the slave in a relationship. You two have both equal power. Never hold too much feelings, say it and let the partner know how much he means to you too. Or just try to generously show it in action. All the little efforts, although most of them might go unappreciated, it’s how you put a fight to keep the flame burning that matters. When he does the same, how can this go wrong. When this continues, if one of you are really tempted to walk away for the most stupid reason, your value as a partner will hold your partner back. Just in case the worst thing happen to your relationship, The kind of efforts that you give, will stand out. Eventually any sane person out there can evaluate. They can never deny the person who loves them the most, especially when they have once loved the person so much too. Maybe this will bring back all the reason why you two are best stuck with each other. The grass might be greener at the other side, but who cares, when you have the most beautiful flower with you.

Never give up without giving your best fight. And yes, you can keep it burning. Some people have proven this if you are lucky enuff to find any of them. I have, and I believe that I can do the same. Same with you. So go ahead and keeps the fire inside you burning, burn endlessly, for the rare kind of love that is worth fighting for…AMEN :)

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My ring...:)

Perhaps A Few Little Things That Men Don’t Know

 Men sure know a lot about ladies. Men do know how they need attentions, how they like to be pampered, to be flattered, to listen to your sweettalking, to hear you talk about your feelings for them, to be loyal, to be caring…All those stuff. You guys know all those already.

Maybe because of what men already know, they think that ladies are demanding creatures. They want everything for themselves, they want everything from you to make them feel loved, they want every last piece that you can give them. So maybe that’s why men overlook the part where ladies don ‘t exactly want everything from their men’s lives. Ladies do want men to keep a few things and never want to steal these things away.

Little did men know that,

We don’t want them to lose their buddies just because they are paying too much attention to us or spending too much time with us,

We don’t want them to put us above their families all of the time, unless it’s crucial and necessary cos they have certain respect for men who know how to set priority and their parents and siblings should never get less attention from them for whatever reason

We don’t want them to be less efficient in their job just because they are busy in the wonderland with us. Their job and how they earn money should never be compromised because of our presence in their lives.

We don’t want men to try and be Mr Perfect cos we aren’t Miss Perfect either. We won’t mind that you look funny and silly knowing that it’s much better than seeing you all wrong trying to fake things up.

And if I shall add more serious demand from ladies, they are:

We know that men value us for certain qualities that they find in us, but we wish that, seeing us with the same kind of affection without our makeups, without our appealing clothes, without our groomed hair and without us wearing our angelic halo – Is part of that.

One more thing if I should add, Ladies want it badly that men make it a lifelong commitment to love us and treat us right, in health and in sickness, for better and for worse – and we give forever for men to prove that.

Those sound familiar, too familiar that the men overlook this. That…

We don’t want men to lose “who they really are”, they can keep the history and the past, even the embarrassing ones. Yes, and hopefully when they understand this, they finally care enough just let us be who we really are and accept our shortcomings and never judge us for our past mistakes. And that, it’s within our will that we ask for as much as we can give. Men won’t believe this but it’s true.

With this understanding, maybe we can see a brighter road ahead of us. Amen.

*giggles :))

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I only have 3 sets of lipsticks at the moment that I know are still around. I have a few that I misplace and have not found yet. *LOLS. I left the other one at the office. I've been using SilkyGirl Moisture Rich for years. I know some of the colours that really suit me but I'm not telling which. Hehehe. The blue one is only experimental, I bought it from Cosway, forgot the name but I will use it when I am in aggressive mood. Hehe. Although it's not the main reason why I use lipstick, but I think lipstick does make your smile look sweeter. *giggles