256's July Journal Day 12: 8 Reasons To Quit Facebook -I Agree

I get this list in one of the sites my bloglist...I think they name among the most relevant ones although not all...Here they are...See for yourself...

1. Privacy Please

Privacy is one of the biggest reasons to quit Facebook for many people. Facebook’s privacy policy has always been somewhat controversial and many people don’t like the idea of their info being used for Facebook’s benefit. People also complain that it’s difficult to completely delete your account whereas it’s very easy to deactivate your account where all information on your profile is saved.

2. Get Personal

Social media can sometimes eliminate the need to call or see people which many people see as a reason to quit Facebook. If writing on walls and private messaging on Facebook has replaced all communication with friends, it might be time to give it a break and reconnect on a more personal level! Get offline and call people up to get status updates!

3. Time Flies

 Let’s face it, Facebook can be a huge timewaster and many people have found that to be one of the top reasons to quit Facebook. You log on to see your notifications and before you know it, you’re getting instant messages, private messages and looking at your friend’s vacation photos and hours have passed! Use that time to do something nice for yourself or someone else instead of just zoning out in front of your computer!

4. Playing Tag

Another benefit to quitting Facebook is that you’ll no longer have to worry about getting tagged in any embarrassing photos or getting tagged in locations that you want to keep private. I’ve had high school friends tag me in photos from many years ago and I am not trying to relive those moments! If you’re friends with co-workers or your boss, they have full access to your personal life and if you happen to play hooky from work and you check in to the spa-you’re caught!

5. Too Much Information

 I think one of the best reasons to quit Facebook is that you won’t be overwhelmed with information about anything and everything. Facebook can document every little thing you and your 500+ friends do and it can be a little much on a daily basis. I think we all have those friends who share too much information and post updates of their day all day or post things that are way too personal for Facebook!

6. Compare and Contrast

Another excellent reason to quit Facebook is that many people end up comparing their lives to others and end up feeling bad about themselves. If you go through your news feed and feel like everyone is out living it up or accomplishing all these great things while you’re living at home or you’re stuck at a job you hate, this can easily get to you and get old fast!

7. Request Denied

All of those annoying game requests and event invites can be enough reason to quit Facebook for some. A lot of people take their Facebook games seriously and get annoyed when you don’t respond to their game requests or random people can name you as a host for events that you know nothing about. I was once listed as a host for a free iPhone giveaway which was obviously a scam and I wanted nothing to do with but I couldn’t remove my name off of the event-so annoying!

8.Stalker Tendencies

Whether you’re the one being stalked or you’re Facebook stalking someone else, it’s just another one of the excellent reasons to quit Facebook. Cyberstalking is creepy! There’s nothing more embarrassing than getting caught stalking someone’s wall and admittedly knowing things about them that they haven’t told you yet! Facebook can be a fun way to connect with people from around the world and keep up with childhood friends but if you find yourself getting stressed or frequently annoyed after logging on, think about these reasons to quit Facebook or just take a break from it and see if you feel differently about it. You might be surprised at how much easier your life is without it!

Source: http://Lifestyle.AllWomenStalk.com

256's July Journal Day 11: The Loyal Guys Club

Have you found one from the club? I have found quite a number of them. I’m so surprised to recall meeting a few from this extincting species. Even lucky to have one of them as my special guy before. Their traits can easily be detected. But wait, lets just first find out their similarities with the rest of the guys not from the same club. Some of them could still be showing a lot of interest in woman, not limit their encounter, they do play around and even can get a lil flirty sometimes. Yeah, they are almost like other guys, with their nature. 

The one that I had close encounter with, must be the Secretary of the club. LOLS. Since that he was being so reserved with others, but showed everything to you. Not even one time that I recalled being jealous because he just didn’t mingle too much with other girls. U girls should be lucky if you find a guy like this. You will never worry about him when he goes outside cos he won’t show that much interest to others. 

Okay, then when can we finally tell their differences that earn them the club membership? Aha…they will let everyone know they are taken. They will often speak about their partner, or would not mind to be seen walking together…and most importantly, they will hilight the part “I’m Taken” and would never cross the limit where other girls might misunderstand their friendship. They wont speak the first word that gives other girls different idea, or they will even say it directly that, “I’m just the type who will never cheat my girl”. Those in this club can make the other girls pack their bags and leave. Guys in this club are just untouchable. Speaking of that ex of mine, I still remember that after the relationship was over and then I came back in the picture, although he might have a lot of good memories or feelings for me, but when he was attached with the new girl, he was reluctant to even say a word to me, not wanting to open possibility for us to hitch back. Not that it crossed my mind. But I tried to put him on a test. He once would jumped for joy if I said that I would like to meet, but no, he didn’t even answer my invitation for coffee. When I called him with his nickname, he did not answer. But when I called him with his real name, then only he said Hi back to me. Although I could say that he was too hurt to even do anything to my favour, or maybe he was taking revenge, I still could sense the genuineness of his intention to BE LOYAL. It doesn’t matter if the girl he married was just his no.2 by the time he married her, what matters is THE LOYAL GUYS take wedding vows SERIOUSLY. I’m impressed and instead of feeling hurt, I wanted to clap my hands, I’M PROUD to find this rare species. Was glad to be loved by him once, and the part where it didn’t work out, call it the work of destiny, but still…KUDOS to you all in this club. I hope my guy can now decide to happily join this club now…hehehe. STAY LOYAL :)

256's July Journal Day 10: More From My Peculiar Life

Yes, my life is peculiar, my personality is peculiar - instead of trying to compare myself with other people who are in the mainstream, I decided to just learn my peculiarity and now I'm loving it...:)) But now I decided I WANT MORE from it...Why not get something bigger than this. Why not :)) Thank you God for giving me Life... Beyond words. Amen.

256's July Journal Day 9: I Was So Ashamed at Him

I have stopped reading my daily night prayers for a long time because I always ended up falling asleep in the middle. This is because I expected the prayer to be long and detail to think that I completed a session, so I always didn’t get to finish my prayer. That’s why my daily prayer takes place in the morning, before I leave the room. Rest assured that I am at my best energy, and consciousness, and I read prayer that is quite short, but to the point. Of course there’s an exception when I’m facing difficult situations that I can’t wait until morning to say my prayer. When my heart is saddened by something, and emotional breakdown is taking over me, I feel that I need to address it to God, at least just tell Him that I’m feeling so down and I hope He can make me feel better. Just casual talking instead of a proper prayer. Something happened again yesterday, when I was having a little argument with someone special and caused me a heartache almost the whole day. It’s been awhile that I felt that way because my emotions are always at peace and that’s how I like it. Until yesterday. A lot of things that coming to my mind, that made it unbearable thinking about the bad consequences that would put many treasured things to waste. Coming to my senses, I just put my hands together and prayed to God…I started it with How Ashamed I am to come to Him during my times of needs, but I was so desperate. I asked for mercy and peace of mind. I asked for His guidance so that we can work things out. After that, I slept well and woke up fresh the next day. The first thing that came to my mind this morning, Thank You Lord for making me sleep well. And the good news was, we finally patched things up and it brought so much delight to me. I thanked God, and told him, I was so ashamed that I came to Him during my times of needs, I was so ashamed that God has to give me hard times to say my extra prayers – But then I told God, that never once that I forget to thank Him first after every single good things that happen to me daily. The blessings, The people, The Love… Thank You Lord. Alleluia, Praise Be To God :)

256's July Journal Day 8: The Great Woman By Your Side

I was surprised to hear the cases where the husband, whose wife is so beautiful, yet obedient and loyal to him, is still not grateful enough. I wonder if these men can see how these women are dedicating their whole life just for their dear husbands. Bearing his babies and then raise them, while the husband still seeks pleasure, having affair with other woman not even half like his wife. Whatever you say the issues are, the neverending marital and relationship problems that have become very common, I’m just wondering if the man had tried hard enough to be the best man for the wife. Coming across these few women, whose fate as such, I just continue to wonder what has come to the men to still be looking for someone else when the one that was rightfully theirs was even envied by other women. And the other men look at these poor women, admire them at first sight. And they wonder the same thing. If only the husband can see it through other man’s eyes – how stupid he is for not seeing his blessing. Relationships will always have ups and downs. Be aware of this. And this is no alien to our flow of life. So when it gets rough sometimes, yes, anger will be triggered, all the bad emotions will take their turn. Sometimes it makes us want to curse our other half because of the anger that overpowers us. We all do that. But deep inside us is totally the opposite. Our love and care for the person, are always there but just overshadowed by the bad times. For all the men out there… Just like we think it’s not easy to locate the right man to date and have relationship with, we are sure you guys also face that difficulty. But when you find a lady who would stand by your side, and who is making effort every step of the way to understand your shortcomings, and appreciate your qualities… Remember that she is also a human being. She might just get on your nerve at times, she might get angry at you too and even shout at you back, but remember that it shouldn’t change her true values. Remember the good times when you decide that she’s the one for you, and how much u adore her for all her gifts and how many times she made you laugh, all that cute sweet moments that she definitely remember so well about you. Cos all her qualities, other guys can see it too but they are not just as lucky as you. Some even envy you to have such a woman. If you lose her you might not find another one. Life is short. Don’t let go off the right woman, especially if u r thinking u might find someone else better than her. That could be your biggest regret for the rest of your life. Men, one of your missions in life is to take care and love the great woman that God has sent to be your other half. Those who complete the mission, the reward must be enormous :)

256'S July Journal Day 7: When Things Go Wrong…

Things don’t always go in rhyme. Sometimes you do your best and still, things can still go wrong because of the expectation that is not met. Even you are not expecting much, but it’s not possible to not have expectation at all. So when a mistake is done, which is something that we do daily, intentionally or not, still you know that things have turned out of direction for a moment. It’s a trying time for you, cos at a few seconds, it feels unbearable. You are out of focus, you are certainly distracted and very much disturbed. You are looking all around for the fix. You need the peace again. So what should u do now? After going through this so plenty of times, and how it had once pushed ur limit of patience, that you even saw how it started to wreck your treasured possession. You have let go some, but when you think you don’t want to lose some more, you gonna fight to keep it. The world is getting older. We might or might not have that long to keep failing and trying again. Opt for understanding, communication and - Losing each other is not the option. It’s time to make it work. God willing :)

256's July Journal Day 6: The Epic Of Before and After Testimony

When you go through a product advertisement especially on health and beauty, what you’re always looking for are the testimonies. You can say that testimonies are very effective way to make people want to try your products. Especially when you can see an image of Before and After. Yeah they do work. But I’m not sure if most of you notice that a lot of Before and After images used by some products are just not convincing enough. In the era of “Photoshop Is The Best And The Cheapest Makeup” makes you even critical about testimonial pictures. Are there really the results of a good product or just a good photoshop skill? Or worse yet, not even photoshop at all. The before and after images are just – Epic Fail.

If you are selling some skin beauty products that need you to convince people that they pay a few hundred bucks on some pills to get really smooth and fairer skin, using the wrong images will only make people doubt or even lose interest when the images are trying to "buy impression with a cheap price" cos with your effort of putting images with extra lighting, extra make-ups - you expect that people would just believe it's all the work of the product that you are selling. I mean, even if your products really work, but never expect to get people's confidence cheap, cos it's not. It's good if not many are as critical as I am, cos I understand that not everyone works with pictures a lot to even question much. Okay, maybe I'm just your unlucky case. Okay, but if you can, don't ruin your marketing like that. Just saying. Good luck peeps :)

256's July Journal Day 5: So Now You May Leave The Hair Alone

My customers and friends have asked me the same question, “What’s the name of the colour of your hair?” The fact that I randomly picked this brave red colour, I did not really think too much about it. It was just another experiment to me. Yeah, I experimented quite a few red range and some of them didn’t work. For some reason, I think it’s better not to disclose. I remember back then when I asked people what kind of colour they used on their hair when I thought it looked cool, I never got a serious answer. I ended up finding it on my own, and risked getting  alien hairs from wrongly chosen colours. Hahaha. I think that everyone should have that experience to use different colours on their hair before the find the best one that fits them. They deserve the same experience, don’t they? Hehe. I’ve been using this same type of red since last year cos I decided that it was the best so far in terms of matching my personality, my looks and others. Okay, maybe the commentary from others also convince me to think that way. For quite a few times, I was asked my kind of red that I used on my hair, I had to answer with - Colour Mix.  I have customers who are operating hair salon and they mention about colour mix that usually gives better results. So again, whenever people ask me, I don’t feel obligated to answer it. It’s my right to protect the paten of my hair colour. *LOLS. Kidding. Maybe they thought, the colour creation from hair colours leftovers is the most believable answer. Or they understood that I wanted to keep it secret so my hair would remain unique among us there…Hahaha. Kidding again. Those who asked about the colour, usually because they were thinking about having their hair coloured too. So if I go with this colour, you go with that colour, the more variety colours, the merrier, isn’t it? Hahahaha Luckily, my mom and my sister never asked. Predictable, since they are not into hair colours. So I never really have to reveal. Until last Saturday, my close cousin mentioned about doing changes on her looks. Since she is my closest cousin, also a good confidante, it’s just so evil to not tell her the truth. So finally, that same question popped out again. I was like, Okayyy, I will tell youuu. Then I told her where I bought the colour. Then suddenly I had the urge to say, Wait, u r not gonna use the same hair colour as mine, just because we are cousins, rightt?? LOLS. It started to sound ridiculous, that since we are family, we might as well share the same type of hair colours. What if the colour doesn’t suit them as much as it suits me? Okay, too much of a fuss. So much of my individuality, maybe I should stop minding about it. People can have my hair colour, people can have my hair style, my hair length, anything they want. It doesn’t make me any less or lose anything. I should  have thought of that much earlier. But I would prefer if people adapt something exemplary about me, I’d feel more honoured that way. Maybe they can try to adapt the kind of passion that I have towards my job, and some force of positivity that always help me survive a bad day. Why not pick that? Help yourself, thank you. Hence, now u may leave my hair colour alone, okayy???

*LOLS 

256's July Journal Day 4: What Happen To My Critics?

There’ll always be 2 groups who are related to you. One is the ones who love and care to see you succeed. While the other one is the ones who don’t bother about you but would not mind to see u crushed and fall. Even a well known celebrity, anywhere in the world, has a group of haters whose eyes are more sensitive in finding defects, even how high the fame stage you have climbed. Speaking of me, I’m not even anywhere close to any public figure, nor that I have achieved something so significantly good; in other words, I’m just “nothing much” for anyone who don’t know me well enough to even spare time to mock my existence. STIlLL, Still I do have that group of haters who are aware of my shortcomings and making my steps looking so odd in public. Coming this far in my journey, I have met a minority group who are more interested in pointing fingers, finding faults and criticizing me – I’m still thinking what kind of benefit they get from doing it. I know that I do have a bunch of Likers, very small but still, sometimes they give me the credit I don’t deserve. They overlook my mistakes, and they still point about the smallest dust of good thing I do. I know that for so many times, injustice happens to my benefit. I get too much compliments compared to my achievements and I knew about all that, all along. Not for once that I think I’m that good cos I do understand and appreciate that people are just being courteous. I’m sorry if I hurt some heart or some eyes – cos I don’t know if I have hurt anyone in this innocent process. Who knows that maybe some people couldn’t take it. They dislike it when people keep hi-liting only the good things and they are tired of it. There are a few occasions when I was smashed that “She thinks that she’s always right.” Or “What kind of qualification do you have to give all those advice.” *LOLS. Okay, sorry I laugh. Those people who said these are the people whom direction are opposite to mine, not even the same ideology, and so they were questioning everything as long as they could let people see that, “Hey 256 isn’t that good after all.” Some even question the relevance of my blog just because “ there’s no way she has some formal knowledge about psychology” to even advice others. Hello?? Sometimes when people criticize me, I just kept quiet and have some deep thoughts about my own doing. Maybe they were right. I tried the best possible to MAKE THEM RIGHT so I could change my way. But u can’t just freaking do that all the time and expect me to follow ur crazy immature mind - and they don’t even spend any time to get close to my writing, the kind of philosophy that I use and the principals that I stand by with. If they are my readers, at least they freaking know the right question to ask. I’m alive for so many years, going through a hard life resulting from my complicated nature, and trying to survive people judging me, not to mention my own emotional ordeal, which in are unique in their own forms – just like each and everyone of you. The only difference is, I find the pleasure in writing, to be able to share with all of u. These sharings are from my own experiences, so I’m sorry if you are a King or a Queen, life might be different in our shoes – but in case you were a peasant like me, you’ve been teased, been mocked, been hurt and been lied to, Yeah, just like you, life wasn’t so gentle to me too. But I made it this far, and I manage to combat constraints in my life, one by one. I have thankfully talked to so many people , which some I have helped just from sharings like this. So, I OBJECT if only now you started to question that I’m giving Crappy Advice - cos it’s too late. So to my Critics, before u speak directly to me, try to speak to the people who u would like to disagree with when it comes to their opinions on me. So that when u come to me, u have nothing but really strong points I don’t mind wasting my time hearing. Cos if you still do, I will easily categorize u into “that other group” that I put in my Ignore List. To the rest, Thank you Guys, Sia sayanggg kamu. Muahs.

*giggles

256's July Journal Day 3: You’ve Asked For It, No?

I’ve been observing this on Fb since some time ago. Some of these girls were posting some screen capture of nasty messages they received from some guys which contained obscene words, and they made it look like they were the victims of sex maniacs lurking among their long list of Fb friends. But why was I not surprised, cos these girls in question whom encountered this, are mostly those who are into posting really daring pictures of themselves, showing as less clothes as possible, doing poses that are nasty enough, and it doesn’t take a genius of what would go inside the mind of the poor creatures called men? Some of these girls even curse and swear like it’s nobody’s business. To be fair, recently I came across this nasty profile picture of a guy. I mean, guys can go baring their chest and still look macho instead of perverted, so they need to go extra mile to give you girls “the direct idea”, Yeah, like showing their private part all the way! So if u gals see this, what idea do you get about that guy? Unless u r looking for some crazy fun, u would go for him, otherwise, u will avoid him. Exactly. Same thing. Just like, you can’t give ur killer poses and still expect that others won't misunderstand you for being too open with Anything. So u can’t even handle one-liner desperate lusty line. Come on, these guys thought u asked for it! I couldn’t help but shook my head when I saw these girls made a big deal out of it, after “all the indecent exposures” and all the generous nasty posts they made. I mean, if this is just part of the drama, then maybe I made a mistake. But in case u r genuinely pissed, feel free to change your way – you’ve been scaring the good guys away. Or else, stop sounding like you are shocked – and much fuss instead of finding the Block or Delete or Unfriend button. Okayy...Stop surprising me. Get ur act together, will ya?