Would You Lie For Your Friends?

Maybe it’s a question of friendship, integrity and principle – but would you lie for your friends when you can save someone else from trouble? When the truth can help others be more cautious?

Would you lie for your friends just to let them continue doing their bad actions and intentions towards other people you know?

Would you close your eyes on their misconducts?

Would you carry on misleading other people about your friends just because you deny the truth that you know about them because you want to prove how trustworthy you are?

If you can save someone else from a mess by telling the truth about your friends, would you still pick your friendship over saving someone?

Does friendship mean you will be by your friends’ side even when they are committing a crime?

I’m just curious. If you have your answer already, IMAGINE you are the person who can be saved from the mess if only someone speaks the truth about his/her particular friend. Do you still want them to pick friendship rather than saving you?

People backstab each other everyday. Even families, even relatives, and now we are talking about friends. Why people always find the wrong reason to do something? The bad people backstab their friends to see them fall. If people really have to find a reason to backstab their own friends, then maybe they finally find a virtuous reason to do it. I’m not suggesting that you betray your own friends, but if it’s for a good cause, maybe you should think again. :)

A Gadget That Might Help Save The Day

Don't tell me your handphone isn't important to you. It's what you use to connect with your loved ones, business deals or negotiation, work purposes and even emergency situations. To some of us, handphone is something that never leaves the hand, especially now that handphone is more than just to make and receive calls and SMS, but also to watch movies, listen to songs and even surf the net.

Imagine you are SMS-ing or calling while you’re lying on your bed. Suddenly your handphone is giving you that signal of critical battery power which is going to auto-off anytime. Then you have to look for the nearest source of electric power where plug in your charger. Lucky if that is near your bed. If not? You have to sit near the electric source and stay there while you continue on your mobile-phone activity. In the situation where you can pull the extension near you so you can lay back on your bed, you never know when you gonna fall asleep in the middle of SMSing and you never know anything funny that can happen with the electricity. And think about the times of a sudden black out that sometimes take hours and when you’re away from home and when it’s unpractical to run to your car just to charge the phone during emergency times. This is when this charger is very useful. You can practically charge your phone away from the electric source (which can give you electric shock if you’re unlucky) and as you go out to have your chit chat meal or hangout with your friends, you can continue charging your phone inside your handbag!! How convenient is that? *grinzz…

It’s very cheap. I bought it with the price of RM10 for the body, and RM3 for the cable. I believe, some of you maybe buy it at cheaper price. This charger only needs 1 AA battery, for use for emergency only, of course. You never know, this charger could save your day.

Back To Square One

Just because you feel sick living in your old house, you start a fire and then you have people help you put off the fire. The difference is – now your house is burnt and u got no place to stay. You waste your time, you waste people’s time, you even hurt others as much as you hurt yourself – Just to get back to square one.

Imagine how much you could have saved if you just learn how to appreciate what you have in the first place.

:))

Thanks For Being That TeddyBear

I finally downloaded Yahoo Messenger last nite, which happened to be the request of this new IRC friend. I used to receive requests like that but I always ignore them. Maybe I was trying to keep the distance so that I don’t get too close with my IRC friends because that’s my unwritten policy about separating online and offline world. I think it’s just the way I do it but my intention is always good. Finally after more than a year trying to deny the chances to know some IRC friends closer, I finally gave in. I said, Let’s do it!

Maybe some of you who go online and bumped into new friends never actually believe that online friends can really be taken to the real world. I always believe that friendships can form in many different ways and cyberworld is just different in terms of approach but it’s still human beings who are playing the part as the friend. In my situation now, I am SO LUCKY because even after showing my reluctance, some people never stop trying to make friends with me. I FEEL SO SO LUCKY. I might ignore them, avoid them and making it hard for them to know me more, but the fact is that…they are the ones who ARE THERE for me when I’m in need of a friend. I feel so touched thinking that who would have guessed these people saved me from loneliness and sadness. They were the friends who told me no matter how much I have ignored them, they would not give up easily on me. Suddenly I feel like my fate is giving me a slap of reality – I never know they could be the ones who are there for me when I need most of a friend. Yes, it’s not the friends who I spend so much times nourishing friendships with, or the friends who I spent laughter with – instead, they are the friends I ignored and who I won’t pick to share my good moments with.

I could have cried in GRATEFULNESS because there are people who really would appreciate my friendships. And it’s just a painful truth when they may not be on top of my list, and they are there during my times of needs. If you ask me, what should I feel towards the friends who don’t appreciate my friendship? My answer is very simple. I don’t see WHY I should grieve, because now I see who are really worth it to get my friendship. Luckily, I am always appreciating these people’s presence, just that I didn’t give enough way, and now I know I should.

Thanks to all the friends who are there for me when I need them the most. Who never judge me for my wrongdoings, they always find the way to accept and understand, who will forgive me even I cancel a phonecall date in the last minute, who would call me immediately when I SMS that “I want to chit chat with you tonite” and who would stay up until midnite just to accompany me and make sure I go to sleep smiling. These people – they are not even the ones who I give priority to, or the ones I would call and say my first greeting in the morning, or get warm hug and kisses from me. BUT THEY ARE THERE WHEN I NEED THEM. This is among my biggest blessings in life. I want to thank God for giving me these people. Thanks for being patient with me, guys. I am just a normal human who makes mistakes and you guys tell me you won’t judge me for that. Thanks for reminding me that I should be thankful to be myself and I don’t have to be sad just for some ungrateful people who don’t know how to appreciate my presence in their lives.

A Big Warm Hug to you guys…THANKS for being there for me.

Peace Of Mind, Where Are You?

What most of us don’t realize is that what bothers us the most is when we don’t have that peace in our mind. Whether it’s a problem about debts, or court charges that being made on you – all that actually make you feel restless, worried and unhappy. If you have all those troubles and still you can adapt that peaceful feeling, maybe that’s a different story. I realize that it’s the feeling of PEACE that each of us want to have. We want to be able to really give smiles that come naturally and laughter that sounds so carefree that really comes from the heart.

I’ve been there too, people. I have been in serious troubles with certain parties, which can get even serious if I was unlucky. Then I could not even walk properly. The rest of the world was still going in its own pace, like nothing different had happened. Isn’t it good if we can just be like them, regardless what happen in our lives? As much as I think it’s all in the mind, it’s another easier said than done thing. We wish that we could just grab Peace and put it in our mind and suddenly the world looks like a different place. I know how it feels to be totally trapped in anxiety. Suddenly it feels like the organs aren’t working at their 100% anymore. Where can we find that peace?

My sister is currently having a trouble that really disturbs peace in her mind. Luckily it was the Holy Week, she suddenly felt the need to attend all the special masses like never before. She said, It’s the blessing during the mass that you can’t get when you pray alone. I understand the situation she is in. But actually her problem isn’t as serious as she thought but she refused to make it easier for herself. She wants to think for the worse so she won’t have to be shocked if it really happens. The problem is, trying to exaggerate a problem won’t do anybody good. She could not eat or sleep like normal. This really robs PEACE from her mind. I handed her a prayer book Novena Prayer for The Sacred Heart of Jesus, “Read this.” She said, “Does it work or not?” Totally a wrong question to ask. If it’s a prayer, it would be just a piece of poetry if you DON’T believe that it will work. Maybe it’s not the prayer. But it’s because of your FAITH that prayer will bring you closer to a greater power that is IN CONTROL of your situation, then it’s how you get your peace back.

I have actually experimented this myself. More than once. I faced a big problem and everytime the peace was taken away from me, I turned to Prayers with such Faith that this world and everything inside it is only temporary. Our problems are only A Joke to our lifetime but we fail to see it that way. So when I read the Novena prayer with such devotion, my Faith is doing its own magic. I believe that God will help me see the way out by giving me Peace. Yes, do you believe when I say that once that Peace happens, you finally see many options out from your problems?!! No kidding!! After it happens a few times, I almost screamed. I could not believe that simply by surrendering ourselves to God – we could begin to see the ways out. Then I told myself, I WON’T DOUBT anymore. When you can think clearly, suddenly the fogs that cloud the solutions are cleared. The road ahead is easier.

You want Peace of mind? PRAY – finally a 4 letter word that really brings a lot of magic to those who have faith in it. You won’t know it until you try. TRY and See for yourself 

When The Customers Get "Too Smart"

This happened a few days ago. There's this paper cutter that occasionally used to cut papers of any kind. 2 customers came and asked for something to be done. So I had to use this paper cutter to get the job done cos it has something to do with papers. After I was busy with things around the desk, I realized that I needed to clear the desk by putting the paper cutter away. I MUST make sure that the iron cutter is locked so I just pushed down the blade and guess what? They laughed!! Because I just accidentally cut some money. Whatttt????

They laughed like crazy leaving me puzzled. My jaw dropped as I looked at the money, almost cut into two. "Why did you put the money there?" While not done with laughing yet, one of the said, "I thought you could not miss seeing the money, that's why I put it there." "No, how can I possibly expect anything like money was there knowing that everyone knows this is a paper cutter, and I just used this a while ago." I continued, still puzzled and shocked at that joke.

These customers were not in the right condition to be playing around with money. They are the type who negotiate to get the best price because money is quite tight for them. They used to be my customers turned friends that sometimes just dropped by and have a chit-chat with me. If I would name one thing to describe them, I would not dare come with a commentary on whether these people are smart or not. I just accept them as they are. Sharing good things and sometimes funny things that I would not mind spending some time just to courteously treating my friends nicely. But this joke was undeniably Very Stupid. No, it's not because they could prove that I am sometimes too quick with my hands that sometimes my eyes even miss what my hands are doing. No, not that. They just practically showed to me as if they own a money stamping machine to be doing this which they certainly didn't. I was surprised that in their situation, they still could treat money like that and because of the experiment that they did, they thought it was funny.

I took the poor money and showed to them, "How are you going to use this?" They kept laughing. I just didn't get it. "I think you know I don't like sick money. And you practically add up to the numbers of sick money in Malaysia." Maybe I should feel relieved to see them laughing because it wasn't me who has to lose the money. Because of their joke, they have to fork out the same amount from their wallet and give to me. I still don't get it why they were laughing. Logically, if anyone should laugh that time, it would be me and not them.

Whoever you are, this is really not the way to outsmart other people. Not only that it's NOT SO funny, it's just pity to see people laughing at their own stupidity. Oh boy... don't do it again. If you really want to waste some money, give it to the needies. *Sighs!!!

Good Friday Treat

On Good Friday, I attended the special mass at 3 PM and then went to have dinner at a Malay restaurant again...hehe. Since it's forbidden to eat any kind of meat on that day, suddenly the demand for seafood was shooting high. Yeah, luckily I don't really mind to be chickenless once in a while. Hehehe. I took a snap at the food I ate. At least I have something to remember other than some not very cool thing that happened earlier that day. I will be attending Easter Virgil Mass for today. You guys have fun and in case any of you attending mass tonite, again besides rituals and others, it's a celebrating of Faith. God Bless :)

10 Serious Signals That You Should Cancel Your Facebook Account

1. When your Facebook starts to make your partner emotionally disturbed

2. When your Facebook is the reason why you and your partner argued

3. When your Facebook is all your partner relies on to accuse you of committing infidelity

4. When your Facebook is the reason either you or your partner cried

5. When your Facebook makes either both of you think that you don’t love each other the same anymore

6. When your Facebook gives a reason why you and your partner not talking for a while

7. When your Facebook is how your partner thinks that you’re keeping many things behind him/her back

8. When your Facebook becomes a taboo subject that you guys avoid to keep peaceful conversation

9. When your Facebook is the reason why you start thinking that you are not anymore happy with your partner

10. When your Facebook is why you started thinking you are not right for each other

If Facebook is the reason why you guys head for a breakup, let me remind you again that Facebook is just an online socializing site that gives people the way to connect to friends and relatives. It COULD NOT be or SHOULDN’T be the reason why you guys change your love destiny just because Facebook doesn’t work the way that it’s safe to be used without affecting your life. So if the signals are here, maybe you should try one thing first before you do anything sillier than to end your relationship – CANCEL your Facebook account. Maybe it’s all the magic you need to clear the air and to get back in love. It sounds strange but if a Facebook account is all you need to break up, so that means a Facebook account is all you DON’T need to make up. :)

Ladies With Pride

Not sure if the men learn enough about women. As a matter of fact, most men only recognized women for being the object of lust, a partner to marry to be a mother of their children, the clerk and secretary material and or maybe just a part time toy to flirt around with. Maybe you guys can continue the list. What men seem hard to accept is that the male and female are now even. It’s actually true. We are now even. In the old days, the men hold the sword and fight for the countries, and if that makes u guys think that only men are born to be warriors, to be strong and most importantly, to have that Pride that no women can ever go above...well, maybe Not anymore.

What you men should know is in the modern era, there’s this category of women who might be slightly different from the rest. You don’t find them often, but it’s not hard to bump into one. These women have High pride and dignity. But of course, you won’t know it at first glance. It’s not something that you can hang on your neck or wear on your face to make you notice that you have come across one.

These ladies have their pride and dignity of top on other values. They are not an easy business for the men who seek for taking without giving in return. Ladies, are you one of them?

These ladies…

1) have their inner strength shown in their firmness in stating their principle and making decisions when they deal with people. They know how and when to say No

2) don’t play games with emotions or purposely making stupid drama in front of the men to waste their time - they are not cheap attention getters

3) don’t argue with other ladies over a man because they believe men have the say before an extra affair with another woman takes place- so the first to blame is the man

4) don’t say words of love very easily because they only say it to the one who earns it

5) don’t like to assume what men are thinking or feeling because actions speak louder than words as much as they know men can’t read them that easily too

6) want accurate explanation over something before they can accept it and understand it, as much as they don’t want to jump into easy conclusions.

7) don’t like to date men who don’t know what they want and who have wandering eyes bigger than their brain.

8) asks for much respect from their men because without proper respect for the important woman in their lives, men are almost worthless in terms of self value. He respects a stranger more than he does to you? Uh-Oh. Big Trouble.

9) expect to be her man’s priority cos that’s what her man expects from her. What, so the men want best treatment but share good treatments for you with other ladies who don't even care so much about him? They don't have time for men who still enjoy playing at the playground.

10) are a bit difficult to please because of their conditions but they usually know how to please their man unconditionally. They ask that much because they can offer that much. They only seek for justice for themselves. Why surprised?

Unfortunately, these ladies don’t just plan to be like this because it’s tough to be different. Maybe it’s just circumstances, experience and expectation that make them slightly different from the rest. Being a hard shell to crack, only guys who are up for challenges who go for ladies like them. So for the guys, if it’s worth the challenges, ask yourself. Are you man enough?

Why Things Aren't The Same Anymore?

At one time in our life, we look 2 steps backward and realized we are already two steps forward. Sometimes it’s just so funny that you’re NOT ready to be 2 steps forward. You ask yourself, “Why things are not the same anymore?”

Then I ask you back. How come you expect things to be the same when you’re already way ahead from before? You make your step everyday and your steps are talking you further and further each day. And yet you still ask, Why the things are not the same anymore? Don’t you get the answer, yet?

It’s meant to be, my dear friends. Just look at a human being itself. I remember about my little baby brother. I saw it from the day he was born. I really saw my little brother as one adorable little baby. He was so cute. I saw him growing up. At one time, I just wished that he would never grow up. It’s because if he grows up, he wouldn’t be that little small kid that I could lift and carry around like I used to. But do I want him to stay as a baby, forever? The answer is No. What I want is for him to grow up and see what kind of human being he becomes. I want to see him achieve his dreams. He’s a human being. It would be silly to expect a human being to stay a baby forever. So it’s the process that you can’t defy. He has to change even if I think he’s adorable enough as a little baby. So as he goes by with the normal process that everyone else goes through, should I still complain why he can’t stay a little baby boy forever? Don’t you think I should start speaking about how well he has progressed as a teenager or what an excellent student he makes now? And looking at where he is and what he has become, can it all be possible if he still stays as a little baby boy?

It’s the same with the changes in life. It doesn’t mean that if things are not the same like a year ago, things are going bad. It’s not so. We need changes to see how better we can progress from here. In a relationship for example. After you understand all this, would you still complain why it’s not the same with months ago? Of course it would never be the same. Now that you guys know each other better and you guys experienced so much more than before - how can you still expect things to be the same? And mind you, not the same doesn’t mean it’s bad. Remember that. Changes mean maturity and betterment. Let’s say the changes really spell something worse. Then too bad, guys. Just face it. It’s a risk you have to take. If changes are leading to destruction – Do not blame it on “changes”, but blame it on why people use “changes” to get to somewhere worse. It’s a choice. It’s a decision and it’s a challenge. But then, never complains about changes because without it, you won’t go anywhere. Being Static when you are meant to be dynamic – is the most unacceptable thing. Almost like dysfunctional or “system failure”.

We Need To Change. Just Change and Reach Somewhere.

Our Job Is Just Simple – Make Sure Those Changes Are The Good Ones. :)