He said that there’s this one lady from his department. They have been close for almost 6 months. He was a bit concerned how the lady gonna react when she learns about his marriage. That’s why he plans to only pass the wedding invitation to the office on the same day he leaves to his hometown. I asked him, “What happened?” He said that everyone in the office thought they were a couple. I asked again, “How come?” He said they were seen together many times. They went to eat and he occasionally dropped her off at her house with the excuse, “Ikut jalan yang sama bah… “ Then he said they also occasionally SMS each other. That lady had broken relationships in the past and even a called-off engagement. So they are both officially Single guy and girl. His main concern was, the girl has fallen for him. I asked him “What about you?” He said, Nope. “She’s just a friend to me. I am friendly with everyone. But she misunderstood.”
Then I paused. “It seems to me that how you treat her is actually extra special. I’m sure you don’t take just anyone to ride your car and drive her home. I’m sure you don’t call everyone asking “How are you today?” or make the casual invitation, “Have you eaten? Come let’s dine together”. He was denying that this has anything to do with him. He said that he’s naturally a friendly person. But a few lines skipped his mouth – that he thought the lady is beautiful and he only tried his luck and it hit the target. It’s clearly the man’s intention to get close to her and then when the lady starts to feel something, he starts to freak out and tell everyone that “Itu perempuan syok sendiri.” Damn it. I needed to correct something!!
You guys dengar sini baik2 ah. Lelaki yang mengeluh mcm ni bukan susah mau cari. Dalam satu bulan, I could come across a few who complained that a female friend is having a crush on them or want more from them when they only see her as a friend! When I ask a little bit more to analyze, I found out that the girls have a reason why they expect and feel more for the guys. These guys are crossing some “friendship safe border” to the extent of holding hands, hugging and calling each other sweet names and even buy her gifts and then --- the next time I know, some of these guys speak ill of the female friend that “They are so perasan”. Damn it!!! I must speak for the Eve generation because to me we are being ill-treated by the men IF you guys could do all the sweet stuff and hate us if we feel smitten and react accordingly to the good treatment. That is So Unfair!!
Sia pernah brainwash my guyfriends yg hadapi situasi ni. Kalau hati tidak suka, then buat cara kawan biasa. Normal friends don’t hold hands and hug intimately and call each other sweet names or maybe even kiss on the cheeks or even buy decent gifts. And if you guys are so friendly and thoughtful, you guys jangan stop halfway when the ladies feel touched and start to feel something special towards you. Do they have to ask your permission to BE A HUMAN? They have a heart too. THEY HAVE FEELINGS, for Pete’s sake!! So u boleh la complain kalau u sudah maki dia, sepak terajang dia and STILL dia terhegeh2 dengan kamu. That one memang clearly a mental problem . Tapi ini tidak. It doesn’t take a genius ba. You guys mau deny lagi mcm2, humiliating some ladies yang kununnya dorang ni perasan dan terhegeh-hegeh and desperate – sedangkan u guys yang MULA semua ni! Or maybe even if the girls yang start, kalau sudah tau tu perempuan punya perangai mcm nda betul, u jangan asah lagi taring buaya u dat and pegi layan her and then bila dat girl sudah floating sikit, mula la tuduh mcm2. Come on la! u guys have balls or not oah??
I speak for the ladies yang TERKENA hal ini sebab sia pun perempuan, sia paham yang dorang ada sebab untuk buat mcm tu. But these guys kan, Tidak mengaku yang dorang start the fire, jinak2 dulu mau tinguk buli makan umpan ka tidak and then excited pula bila kena respond and then kasi tuang sikit lagi tu minyak biar lagi thrill and one thing leads to another, suddenly mau complain, “Why the house got burned?!” Dorang tidak akan mau mengaku yang dorang pun menyumbang kepada kejadian ini. Dorang tidak mau mengaku dorang initially mau flirt2 saja to have fun. All they say is they are TOTALLY innocent. Itu perempuan yg salah paham kunu.
U guys pikir we tidak boleh buat mcm tu kah? Apa u guys rasa when I treat you so special, spend good times with you and then call you all the sweet names and then when u start to have that funny feeling, confess your feelings to me and suddenly I said, Sorry, sia anggap kita ni kawan ja. Mesti u pun rasa tidak puas hati sebab perbuatan sia buat u guys salah paham. So, mau kena batang hidung sendiri baru tau sakit kan?
So Teman Tapi Mesra ni kena apply di tempat yang betul. It has to be MUTUAL, means it’s on both’s side punya concern that the friendship might go a little too far but the intention is innocent. Don’t do it one side only and blame the other for reacting in a certain way sedangkan you guys pun akan react mcm tu if certain girl buat exactly mcm tu dengan kamu. So for me, if you guys agree on Teman Tapi Mesra, itu hak kamu. But if this term is misused to make the other one look silly and desperate, I think you guys have to learn SOME RESPECT for the female. Before you know, another female is doing it on you and when terkena batang hidung sendiri, I’m sure your victim wants so much to say, “SERVED YOU RIGHT” . Imagine ja if adik or kakak kamu kana cakap gitu oleh some guy just because the guy yang layan lebih2, memang kamu melenting kan. So jangan buat gitu dengan kawan2 perempuan kamu. Mau kawan, kawan bagus2. Kalau mau tekel, tekel bagus2. Be A Man of your word and actions. Tu barulah staring :)
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Hahahahaahhahahaa...citmon...kalau u baca my post lama2, lagi laaaa tajam tu bahasa ba. Baru jua kunu mau garang2 sikit balik ni...garang2 manja ja baitu citmon... *Lols /me tatap jua pasik pipi si citmon hahahaahhhaa
Teman tapi mesrah..1 ungkapan yg mempunyai banyak makna bukan 100 atau 1000 makna yg org selalu war2 kan. Dlam hal ini (teman tapi mesrah dilihat dari ruang lingkup yg luas) memang dua2 pun salah la..tapi tengok dulu sejauh mana betul tidaknya sebuah cerita itu sendiri. Mesti mahu tahu dari ke dua belah pihak baru kita boleh buat kesimpulan dan pandangan.
So dlm cerita ini, memang nyata yg lelaki itu memalukan diri sendiri bahkan secara tidak langsung membuat tanggapan perempuan akan berubah terhadap lelaki secara amnya. Dia tahu yg dia akan kahwin dalam beberapa bulan, logiknya dan sepatutnya dia tidak akan buat atau terperangkap dengan hubungan yg melibatkan perasaan dengan perempuan lain selain gelfrendnya. nah di sini lah yg dari dulu kita tidak faham hati manusia ni. sentiasa berubah dan mahu lebih dari sepatutnya. Kata org berkawan biarla 1000, berkasih biarlah 1. So pandai2 la jaga hubungan dgn kawan se pejabat ka, kwn sekelas ka, kwn serumah sewa ka...biar hubungan itu selayaknya dipanggil hubungan yg berjiwa teman bukannya teman tapi mesrah yg boleh mengeruhkan hubungan yg lain.
Boleh jadi lelaki itu pada awalnya hanya just frend tetapi kita tidak dapat elak kemesraan demi kemesraan itu akan mewujudkan bibit2 keserasian yg akan mengundang rasa saling tertarik dan menyukai...tetapi bukan salah lelaki saja kan. dlm cerita ini, dah 6 bln hubungan itu berlangsung, nah mustahil kalau kerja 1 pejabat..perempuan itu tidak tahu yg lelaki itu ada gelpren ka tunang ka kalau perempuan itu sendiri yg memang mahu menghidupkan hubungan dgn lelaki itu sendiri. HUH!! Tidak perlu diulas dgn panjang lebar. Perempuan dan lelaki semua sama saja...banyak skandal dan agenda di luar walau masing2 sudah berpunya..tetapi pasti komen sy akan berbalik kepada asal BUKAN semua lelaki atau perempuan yg mempunyai perangai atau sifat seperti itu.
kasihan juga la dalam apa yg kita baca tentang lelaki ini..dia tersangat naif la, tidak mahu kalah atau rasa bersalah dengan apa yg dia buat dan hanya mementingkan diri serta mendabik dada 'akulah yg betul' Huhauhauhauha... kalau jumpa lelaki seperti ini, kirim salam sama dia dan bagitau dia "perempuan zaman sekarang tahu bezakan samaada lelaki itu hipokrit atau lelaki sebenar" so jangan buat perangai yg mcm di jerman la. Gitu juga la dgn perempuan, jgn mudah tergoda dan jadi tipah tertipu selalu. kan banyak sudah contoh dan cerita2 seumpamanya...masih lagi mahu jadi dan menghidupkan watak si TIPAH...hauhauhauha. inilah ironi sebuah hubungan 'teman tapi mesrah'
Memang the lady tau that guy sudah tunang tapi dia nda peduli sebab dat guy layan dia baik2... kan dat lady pun sudah pernah putus tunang so she thought, maybe the guy pun terpikir juga mau kasi putus tunang dia when dorang sudah hook up.
Memang dua2 ada silap ba ni. Cuma kan...kalau berani main api, mesti berani face consequences... Tapi sia nda pecaya yang dat guy betul2 teda niat. Kalau dia buat alasan mcm tu, inda heran kalau lepas dia kawin pun benda ni akan berpanjangan, dengan alasan, "Kawan saja ba", but mcm belangkas. Whoaaa...pandai2 la masing2 jaga hubungan masing2 ah... :))
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