" The Useless Child" PART II

Continuation to Part I

After the wedding, finally all came out to the surface. The wife finally found out the guy was actually Penniless, Jobless and has nothing but Debts. The guy was so smart because he picked a rich and independent girl to be his wife and after sucking his parents’ blood to get the girl, it was time to suck the wife’s blood since he was staying at the wife’s family house. The RM60k that he said he waited for NEVER came. The wife found out that the project was also halfway done so it was logic that he didn’t get any payment from it. Now that he was jobless, it was his reality that he could not hide anymore after the marriage. The wife knew he slept the whole day and only woke up at the afternoon and did his activity around the house and slept so late watching movies and surfing the internet without bringing back any benefit. The wife got so tired of this she even cried in the middle of the night.

But it wasn’t the end yet for the parents’ sorrow. He kept coming to the house asking for money. He said it was for “another project”, building “another company” and all the stuff that made his parents thought he was going earn more money by take a few month thousands from them. Not enough with that, the wife also now start sucking his husband’s parent’s blood by borrowing money for her business and promised to pay in 2 weeks but she never paid. Maybe because she thought even her husbands borrowed almost RM100k from his parents and never paid, why should she pay such a small amount of RM3K. Now with the habit of coming and taking more and more money from the parents saving, IMAGINE what the parents felt. So is this what the parents get after raising him as an educated person?

The lady who came to me and told this story was the guy’s sister. She was in tears when she told me the story. The parents are so helpless because they believe that money is not everything. They shouldn’t make enemies with their children just because they borrow money and never pay back. The rest of the siblings did ask the parents to stop giving money but the guy has a way to ask from them. He become so SHAMELESS cos everytime he comes he brings a new excuse that is not even reasonable and he always PROMISE to pay back. As if he never stops believing that one day he gonna get a million by fluke. The most pitiful thing about the parents is that they NEVER stop believing that the son will finally tell the truth about him being responsible for his debts. Now that the debt is accumulated to RM100k, it’s almost everything that that the parents have and it all goes to ONE child only. The child that was one they praised so much to be “THE BRIGHTEST” because of his achievements in school. He also has good attitudes compared to his other siblings because he is good with socializing while the rest are not so friendly with relatives. The parents were right at one time. But NOT ANYMORE. People change. Life gives us non-stop challenges that make us go haywire and this is how our strength is tested. This is how we are tested if we could use our “weapons” to never get distracted from our values. If you choose to get lost in your own fairytale, this is what happens. If you play foul, you have a price to pay. If you make mistakes and never repent, they are going back at you in a different way. The point is YOU want to change your life or not. You want to quit your stupid dream or not. IF YOU HAVE A FUNCTIONING HEART that make you think wisely IF THIS IS HOW YOU SHOULD TREAT YOUR PARENTS.

I cried as the sister spoke in tears because she reminded me of my own parents too. She told me how hard the parents raised them. She didn’t believe that her brother would do this to them after they sent him to university and got a degree. Just a few days ago he came again and asked for RM5K from the dad. The sick dad had to dress up quickly and went to the bank to take out the money from his ASB. After he got the money he sent him back and pretended like nothing happened. The next time he visit the house, he won’t say anything about the money. He would act like the most innocent child who occasionally come to visit the house and talk of his future plans as if his parents have not even spent anything yet on that stupid almost too-good-to-be-true dream. The most painful thing is he refuses to find for a job because he thought the normal job won’t make him rich. They also refuse to take a job as a engineer because he said he doesn’t want to get transferred. So what he prefers to do is to sleep the day off and dream to get one-off deal to become an instant millionaire.

The good news is that – The Useless Child is only temporary. Just like when he becomes The Favourite Child, is also temporary. I made mistakes to my parents too at one time in my life. But I have admitted my fault. I have repented my mistakes and freed my parents from the sorrow I once caused them. If you happen to be this Useless Child now, FIND YOUR WAY BACK home. God gives us a lifetime, guys. This is not a punishment. FIX IT… GO FREAKING FIX IT before things are too late.

GO FIX IT, GUYS. God gives a way. Please make the effort. Help yourself only then God can help you. PLEASE… PLEASEEEE…

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“The Useless Child” PART I

Remember how our parents brought us up. Especially when they were not highly educated. They didn’t land a good job. When they started to have us, their lives were becoming harder. Budget was tight. They barely spent for themselves. They dedicated their lives to their children.

They sent us to school with a big hope that ONE DAY we gonna have a life nothing like the life they have. They did everything that their parents didn’t manage to do for them, so that we won’t end up in hardship like them. So that we don’t have to cry while we alone, thinking how we gonna pay the school fees and books that our kids ask for, just like they did. It’s not easy to bring up kids. If it’s easy, TRUST ME nobody wants to dump their babies. Look at how many of the babies got dumped. WHAT WOULD HAPPEN IF OUR MOMS DID THAT TO US BEFORE????

My point here is don’t think that every parents will love and care for their children. NO. Not only that they don’t necessarily love you, they don’t even necessary want you with them to begin with. Judging from what happens around us, you know that some parents may not even want you ALIVE!!! So look at yourself now and what kind of parents you have!! Now that you are a grown up, with good education, with people around admiring you for your capabilities and your charms – Look at WHO you are now! If our parents decided not to have us, I’m sorry to say that you’d be lucky if you are still alive at your age now. Now do examine what are you doing in your life that has your parents’ name in it?

After what their parents did, now that the parents are getting older, they thought they could slow down and now it’s time for their children to follow the course of their own lives. Now what some Useless Child does is this. Here’s one case of Useless Child. A useless child would NOT let their parents rest. After how hard they brought him up, now when he’s big, he starts lose direction of his life because of his own greed. He got too tired of working with the salary of RM1500 thinking that it couldn’t make him rich. He’s too tired of waking up in the morning and keep getting call asking for his whereabouts. He’s sick of taking orders and he’s sick of feeling tired. Finally he found himself a girlfriend who is high in taste who was driving BMW and wearing a RM3k handbag, he suddenly felt so embarrassed with himself. To overcome this, he started doing extra contractor job under another licensed big contractor who was willing to pass some work for him to handle. He thought that he could build a new career from there, he quit his job at the property company that gave him RM1500 per month. It was the starting point where he started to suck his parents’ blood. He said he didn’t have enough capital to run the small project. Logically, he was just a sub-contractor he should convey his problem to the main contractor and not the parents. Now he asked the parents to “lend” him some money with the promise that he would NOT spend the money. He only wanted the money in his account so he could be eligible to get a license. What he did was not that. He actually used the money to do the works and since he didn’t have a monthly salary now, also to high his own ego so that he could match his gf status. With all the juggled things in mind, he found of the money of RM60k was still not enough to complete the job and it was only done halfway. The main contractor refused to pay him anything. The few months work was in vain. Luckily the gf was super happy because the guy spent so much on her. With the engagement that was extraordinary expensive than normal, he won the gf’s heart as well as her family and also the relatives of the gf thinking that the girl got herself the real prince charming. Handsome, Rich and Generous. Now what’s with the parents?

Their smiles were built on the parents’ sweat. He LIED to them about the money. The money that he used to buy other people’s heart came from his parents saving accounts. Yes, money from their tight spending since the child was small. What kind of punishment these parents deserve to be treated that way? He kept telling people that he’s a contractor but the fact was the only project he was assigned to do was A FAILURE and nobody knew about it. He was using his “talent” to mislead everyone about his situations. He made them believe that he has so much money to spend for the gf when the money was all his parents’!! Now that his other siblings smelled something fishy about their brother’s bad steps, they started to fight him and argued with him. The parents were in big heartache seeing their kids argued over money. The other siblings only wanted to stand for their parents’ right but the parents didn’t want to see them argue like that. It make them so sad as if it was all about money.

He kept doing it. He said he had another big project. The money of that project expected to be cashed in before his planned wedding. That was what he told his parents. The wedding was getting nearer but no money yet. They parents believed that he was waiting for some RM60K in his account so they took out their money first since that it might be too late to prepare things if they waited. The parents ended up sponsoring the whole wedding without a penny from their son because he was just rich of sweet lies and not a single penny. Even at this point, he had no guilt or feeling of remorse or anything. He even got mad at the parents on his wedding day because all the money gifts from friends and relatives given to the parents and not him. He thought that it was his wedding, he should get all the money. He even complained about the shortcomings of the wedding event because he thought he was the person to be celebrated, it’s other people who should take care of the event. My oh My!

To be continued in Part II...