FLIRT THE TRUST

In the chatroom this morning, this topic appeared out of nowhere. The topic of divorce that is becoming very common in the marriage of celebrity couples. The fact is, not only among celebrity couples, but also people with all types of occupations, ages, races etc. So this is not really about being rich and famous. So what's the reason?

Then this one senior chatter said that he's been married for 25 years and still in love. So never think that it's not possible for marriage to still last long. Then I asked him, "How do you handle jealousy? Lets say when your wife is being too friendly or flirting to some guys?" Then he answered, "Why need to be jealous? You must have TRUST. If she speaks to some jerk, no need to be jealous." Oh, he didn't consider the possibility that her wife might be too friendly to some attractive guy friends. I added, " I know, but don't you think your partner should know their limits too, that they must not be over friendly with the opposite sex, to the extent that can raise any problems with you? Does flirting sound alright to you?" Then he went silent. 

I really don't know if you guys get it. When people speak about TRUST, yes, of course. You may preach about how you should have trust for your partner... so, everything is solved from there? No, that means you guys don't get it. When you speak of TRUST, it's not the trust giver, it's the receiver. U can't simply order people to Trust someone, no matter what kind of bonding they have, until the person PROVES that he deserves that trust. Then you can speak of trust.

And yes, when you know that you already have someone, you can't just act like you have no one, in the name of freedom. If that's the freedom you want, don't waste anyone's time to be in your life cos people like this are better off alone. When you already make someone be in your life, that person has a heartbeat that beats totally like you. That person is human! If you think she's anything less than you that it's okay for you to just do what you want without thinking what she feels, I don't think even God likes what you do. Not just you are selfish, you are not loyal, you have lack of religious and moral values, WHAT ELSE? If you can't even take care of the heart of a person you love, you are almost good for nothing kind of person. Don't waste people's times -you may go with your way back to the playground and stay there as long as you want, but never come back with regrets. 

You're cheating on God. If  all you want is your own way, flirting with the world every chance you get, you end up enemies of God and his way. And do you suppose God doesn't care? 

(James 4:4, The Message)