How Do You Know The Better One?

Recently this guyfriend told his experience trapped between 2 girls. He loved the first one but seldom get to spend time with her. As for the second one, she was around more often so he felt closer to her. His big mistake was when he humiliated the first girl in front of the other friends when he was caught holding hands with the second girl and made everyone bear witness that he picked the second one instead of her. When the first girl asked him to make a choice that crucial time, he spelled the end of their relationship and decided that he wanted to go with the second girl. The kind of rejection that I imagine any girl could not forget for the rest of her life. This incident remains a lesson for the guy because his relationship with the second girl was also short-lived.

So when we finally spoke again about his experience, he told me that if only he could turn back the hands of time, he would stick to the first one. I asked Why? He said, “…because she loves me more. If only I stick to her, maybe we were about to get married now.” He said that the second girl didn’t want a lasting relationship. She only wanted to fool around a bit before she settled with a better guy. When he finally broke up with the second girl, the girl didn’t wait too long to hook up. Guess what, she then hooked up with his own bestfriend. Maybe this is what the first girl would refer to as Karma. So the guy concluded that if anything like this happens again to him, he would know what’s the best choice. 

One thing that I must highlight is that when 2 persons are involved, it’s not necessarily the same thing. Like what we often hear people say, the stepmother is always the bad one. She would treat the kids from the first wife badly and even abuse and torture them. This is the general idea that we get especially when we’ve been fed with stories like Cinderella. When It comes to reality, it’s not always like that. We hear cases where the real mom was the culprit and not the stepmother. So when we rely on the “popular beliefs” that the first one who comes is the one who gonna stay, or who have what’s real for you—Is not that applicable in real time situation. It’s case by case basis.

If you know that the first one is willing to go extra miles for you, you won’t know if the second one is NOT willing to do it too if given the same chance and situation? How do you know who is more loyal to you? How do you know that the second won’t make her biggest sacrifice just to be with you? How do you know who is going to stay by your side through thick and thin? How do you know that it’s always the first one who does it better? How you do know that the first one must be the one who even die for you or be beside you on your last moments? See that? We don’t know yet. We can’t judge our situations using other people’s situations and experiences which don’t exactly have the same details like our own unique situations.

I’m not giving you the answer about Who is better. I just want you guys to keep your mind opened that YOU DON’T KNOW what the answer is UNTIL you reach there. You don’t simply punish people just because “the history” told us that the first love is always the best. People who went through it know for real that it wasn’t always true. It’s not even about who comes first. It’s about who will stay and never leaves. But you don’t know the answer is until you really give them the chance they deserve.

I have been posed the same questions too. They said, you don’t know yet who is really gonna love you for real. So you can’t just shut the door for other people just because “people say” the one who comes first is always the one who’s gonna stay. Your life. You decide :)

Afraid Of Losing Him? Don't Be.

 

A few days ago, I talked to a customer…a girl who was so angry and upset with her situation. She said she argued with her boyfriend. I asked, Why? She said she was so jealous that he has many admirers, and some of them are even her own friends. She kept making it an issue to raise arguments with her boyfriend. She questioned his loyalty and fidelity. I was like… “Why did you do that? If the girls fancy your boyfriend, it not his fault, you know that?”

Jealousy which is built on Assumptions is among the main contributor to arguments. When one of them has other fans, the other one starts to Assume that the partner is getting so excited to get all the attentions. And the assumptions go further – that the partner is giving response that make the fans excited and make more moves instead of backing off. Instead of blaming the fans, the partner is repeatedly attacked with questions of doubt and even accused of “inviting” the little crowd by giving them “Guest treatment” instead of telling to their faces that “Hey, I have someone special already and no thanks, I’m not interested.” I mean, try and count how many times you hurt your partner by giving series of accusations on something that you simply assume and not even based on facts? This is crazy, guys.

She said she’s so worried of Losing the boyfriend. She loves him so much. But jealousy almost took her life cos she couldn’t stand it when the girlfriends are showing interest in her boyfriend right in front of her eyes. I sensed one kind of immaturity there. When the boyfriend is likable by many of the girls, Hey, that could be ALL. Don’t make the story long. You ladies have to know how to tell the difference. If your guy is that charming, he might have many female friends who like having him around but not more than that. Why make it complicated. I told the girl, If your boyfriend is that charming, don’t you think that’s a reason to feel delighted that – Hey the charming guy is MY boyfriend. Why do you have to build tears out of your boyf’s charms? Omigawd…what happen to you ladies? Stop focusing on the wrong thing!

Ok, I understand. Maybe she’s afraid that one of the girls might get his attention and takes her place. Omigawd. Let me tell you ladies something. If that’s gonna happen, BE THANKFUL that it happens THAT SOON! Trust me I know how painful it is when your own boyfriend leaves you for another girl. I mean, the feeling of rejection and Unwanted that you think that they can send you up to the recycling centre to be among all the garbage right away! Tell me about it, ladies. Trust me I KNOW! But you can’t stop him and tie his hands on the pillar and claim to the world, This guy is mine. This is a free world. If he wants to jump from you to another girl for any reason, then it’s his call. WHY ARE YOU AFRAID? Are you afraid that A F*CKING LOSER is leaving your life? Gimme a break!! Trust me, if he does that, he doesn’t even deserve to be there in your life. You get me?!

You be the best girlfriend you can. And the rest if up to him if he wants to return the favour. You can’t stop a LOSER from becoming a Loser because that’s what he’s made of. I know I am being rude by referring the guys like that. But this is HOW IT WORKS, you ladies and gentlemen!! You CAN’T go against this flow. You can never fight this. Just follow how the nature is doing it. It’s the only way that you can tell if you have THE RIGHT ONE by your side. 

JUST LET YOUR MAN DO WHAT HE WANTS. Let him BE A MAN with all the nature he’s created to have. If he has wandering eyes or extra sexual hormones – let him meet the world and adjust himself how he gonna survive another day with his dignity intact (or not, heaven knows). We ladies worry too much on something we can’t control. Trust me ladies, it could be you who are in your man’s place. When you are the one who faces all the temptation to be disloyal and your man is the one who is practicing the wisdom of “Let she do what she wants and see what happens.” Cos this is HOW you find the perfect match for you. You can’t lock him in a room so that he can only see you and no one else, and you live with that Make Believe love fairytale that you create, cos eventually when he finally sees the world, sooner or later he’s going to still leave you for someone who you think doesn’t even come near your level. But that time you’re going to hurt so much more cos this is what happens when you try to go against the flow.

So yesterday I posted on my Facebook status that… 

There’s always some1 who is smarter, prettier or handsomer than the 1 by our side. But who cares? Why r we bothered that we don’t settle with the best of them all? Just because we always believe that “we want the best” – we forget that “The best” means the one who thinks that we r “the best” for them even if they know ...that we might not be the smartest, prettiest or handsomest people they know.

10 Serious Signals That You Should Cancel Your Facebook Account

1. When your Facebook starts to make your partner emotionally disturbed

2. When your Facebook is the reason why you and your partner argued

3. When your Facebook is all your partner relies on to accuse you of committing infidelity

4. When your Facebook is the reason either you or your partner cried

5. When your Facebook makes either both of you think that you don’t love each other the same anymore

6. When your Facebook gives a reason why you and your partner not talking for a while

7. When your Facebook is how your partner thinks that you’re keeping many things behind him/her back

8. When your Facebook becomes a taboo subject that you guys avoid to keep peaceful conversation

9. When your Facebook is the reason why you start thinking that you are not anymore happy with your partner

10. When your Facebook is why you started thinking you are not right for each other

If Facebook is the reason why you guys head for a breakup, let me remind you again that Facebook is just an online socializing site that gives people the way to connect to friends and relatives. It COULD NOT be or SHOULDN’T be the reason why you guys change your love destiny just because Facebook doesn’t work the way that it’s safe to be used without affecting your life. So if the signals are here, maybe you should try one thing first before you do anything sillier than to end your relationship – CANCEL your Facebook account. Maybe it’s all the magic you need to clear the air and to get back in love. It sounds strange but if a Facebook account is all you need to break up, so that means a Facebook account is all you DON’T need to make up. :)

Finally Arguments Beat Happy Moments

If you guys are wondering about this life, I tell you what. Me too. That’s why we are in the process to uncover many of the mysteries as we go by with our days. Let’s once again go into the lovey dovey arena. I have something to share with ya.

Another nice idea that I want to share with you guys is among the checklist that you should do to know if the person is the right one.

I read this recently. According to some study, whether or not a couple is good to go is NOT according to HOW HAPPY they are together. Wow, isn’t that strange?

Instead, it’s better that the couple go into a lot arguments and misunderstandings, cos the more they get into problems, they more they learn to understand each other and cope with each other during times of troubles. Wow, isn’t that logical!?

But you guys sedarkah apa yang kita buat selama ini? Kita lebih pentingkan SIAPA yang boleh buat kita rasa happy, boleh buat kita ketawa dan for us, itulah yang diperlukan dalam hidup kita. But after reading the articles, suddenly sia sendiri terpikir bahawa memang betul pun apa article tu cakap.

You guys imagine. When kita pegi dating, mesti kita mau happy2 saja. Kalau boleh, kita mau stay out of problem. Tidak mau gaduh2 with orang yg kita sayang. Kalau boleh, hal2 kecil tu kita sweep masuk bawah carpet. But according to mereka2 yang sudah spend banyak masa untuk buat kajian, hubungan yang bersandarkan kepada “happy moments” saja ni memang tidak kekal lama.

Logiknya macam ni. Once the couple is married, masa tu baru keluar semua reality kehidupan. Akhirnya kita sedar yang hidup ini bukannya fairytale. Akan keluar macam2 problem itu dan ini. Masalah kewangan, masalah kerja, masalah keluarga – Then masa tu you guys tidak akan ada space untuk mau happy. Masa itu it’s about COPING with your partner how to handle the conflict. If you guys can manage to work together towards the solution and survive the hard times, Yes…you guys are going to make it long :) So sebenarnya, teman untuk ketawa bersama tu memang mudah dicari, tapi teman ketika kita kesusahan memang sangat susah untuk dicari. Adakah partner kita tu akan tetap sayangkan kita kalau dia nampak macamana kucar kacirnya hidup kita ketika dilanda masalah? Adakah dia boleh menerima yang ada masanya kita melatah bila diuji?

So now you know that it’s okay to get into arguments and misunderstanding at times. What important is you guys can find the way out. After everything, if you guys are still there, appreciating each other and decide that he/she is the best one for you, so you know maybe all the arguments make you guys understand and love each other Even More. Oh that’s soo sweet. :)

How To Help Someone Forget You...

Anything strange? I’m sure at least one time in your life, you would need to do this strange kind of favour – that is helping someone to forget you! Erkss!

Yes..as strange as it is. In what scenario that we need to do something like that? Doesn’t everyone want to be remembered? Why do we need to help someone forget us? Ok..ok.. I have the answer. Sometimes life isn’t so sweet being together. Being in each other’s mind is only a poison to “moving on” with your life. And you need to move on for a greener pasture. This happens a lot when a chemistry ceases to happen.. When the love is gone. When the feelings are fading away. When two persons decide to part ways and find a new life. How is that possible when at least either one is still clinging to the past? How is that possible when the other one keeps bringing up the past memories to stop the other one to move on?

Whether it’s the guy or the girl could be the clingy one. I could easily blame the girls because of their softer nature; so they tend to be clingy. But maybe not always the case. The guys can be clingy too. So it depends on case by case basis, anyone could be the one who NEEDS this help. Yes, the person needs your help in order to… forget you. Yes, forget you.

Have I ever be the one who needed this help? I could say, Yes, I have. Only once. And that’s all I could take. In my case, I don’t actually want to forget the person, though I need to. I was feeling very comfortable living with my past memories. But I was making it harder for the other person to move on. The person needed to forget me to stop getting hurt. It depends on how you look at things, actually. So he needed me to forget him as much as he wanted to forget me. This was what he did.

Answer To NOTHING.

Whether it’s phonecall, SMS, email – Anything for that matter. If you want to make it even easier – Change all the contacts that makes the person easily drop you a “bomb note” with the message, “I have not moved on, so you can’t too.”

Yes, even if he had to do it in pain. In tears. But he had to do it.

If things were working out. No conflicts and heartache would even take place in the first place. So since something untoward has happened, getting haunted by the past gonna hold you in that heartache forever.

If you have found your way, let it be one last kindness. Help your ex to forget you.

Your ex will feel hurt at first…but trust me, he/she will thank you for helping him/her to forget you.

Note: You guys can’t be together, so there’s no point of holding on. There are many fishes in the sea. If you can’t make your decision on moving on, you always gonna be a life jacket for your ex – A jacket that has no life but save the life of others and others only come to get you when they need you. Think about it.

In The Same-Sex World Of Their Own

The scenario of someone attracted to the same sex person is not that unheard anymore. We speak too much of gays and lesbian and homosexuals and what not. I have written about this topic before. I said We shouldn’t blame them. They DON’T want that to happen too if they can do it the normal way. I said that No one would pick to fall in love with someone from the same sex. But now I am not sure if I still agree with that statement. Are you sure that people don’t do it For Fun? Are you sure that the Same-Sex attraction is not to be blamed on genetic or anything natural? Why it becomes like A Trend? Why does it start to sound like Experimental? Or Adventure? Seriously. I think this scenario is worsening.

Are you surprised when I say that the common reason why people who are not born lesbians/gays become one because they fail to have a proper relationship with a partner from the opposite sex?

Is it acceptable to you when those who lose faith in the opposite sex might just turn to the same sex to get the dose of affection and attention? So is Heartache an enough reason to be One Of Them in this same sex sexuality world? It’s definitely easier. I know one girl who had it enough with guys. From being sexually abused when she was a child to failed relationships with different guys. She quit hoping for a better man. She then tries out with some tomboy and simply share bed with the knowledge of the parents since that they thought it was innocent. I know it’s not as innocent as her parents think. This girl is still very young to know her conducts. From the way she talked about becoming a lesbian, I can tell she’s very enlightened to become one and very much into the sexual too. Becoming a lesbian looks like a fun option to her. You go out with a female. You can share bed without your parents questioning so much. You can have fun all you like without the risk of getting pregnant. If you ask her if she is born with the tendency to be romantically involved with the same sex, she has a clear answer. But now SHE CHOOSES to try out same sex relationship because of the heartache. Now you see that if this can happen to her, a similar thing can happen to many girls out there. I just want to let you guys see how this is becoming like a trend. For many reasons, when the girls fail to have a proper relationship with a guy, they make this Same Sex relationship as an option. I have read the same thing from men. When they are frustrated with the opposite gender, they turn to the same gender. Can we just let this thing happen and make this world go berserk?

I’m not here to give the verdict or to try and correct anything. It’s your sexuality, it’s your freedom. If you’re cursed with the tendency to only get attracted with the same sex, maybe there’s not much u can do. But in the case when you make this same sex relationship an experiment or escapade, nobody can tell u otherwise because u have the power to your own life and body. The only thing I’m concerned is when you do it because you lose faith in love. I think it’s such a weak reason to becoming another freak of the same sex world. I think that you’re making your life more complicated that way. If things don’t work out, relax and enjoy your singleness. Why the rush? Love will happen again when it’s time. You people make the rest of them think that this world is short of love and compatible people that you can share proper relationship with. It’s NOT true. My last line would be – If you can have a normal proper life, why choose to have it differently?

It doesn’t have to be more complicated than it already is :) Think about it.

One Great Way To Learn A Man

One obvious way to learn a man is how he speaks of the ladies in his life. How he speaks of his ex girlfriend(s) to the things that he comments about his female friends and the female that he saw on the street. He couldn’t hide so much because from how he see things with other women is how we gonna see things with you.

If he complains that the female friend’s butt is too big for her, you know he’s doing the same ridiculous observation on your body contour . If he thinks that a female is “not that pretty because her chin is too slanted”, that means he would find a way to evaluate you so much on your looks. If he comments that the lady who just passes by looks really funny wearing a slipper at town, u know that he cares about the silly details of how you gonna make impression with other people with how to present yourself in public.

The words that he speaks about the other women will also show you how much he would respect a lady. If he speaks about his mom and sisters in the most respectable manner, you know that you will earn that respect too if you become someone special in his life. So the guys can pretend to see you like a princess in the early stage of courtship, he couldn’t mislead you anymore than he already did before he started giving comments about the other ladies in his life.

For me personally, if he has to go against me to protect and to stand by the important women in his life from getting bad reviews from me, this is actually A Very good sign that this man will stand by my side and this man will also fight for me if I become part of his life. Yes, I don’t mind if he has to almost lose the relationship with me because at the end of the day, we ladies realize even more that sugar-coated words are only a man’s sword to win our heart at the beginning but how he gonna treat us in the long run is what matters more. If one day he has to pick between you and her sister, it’s a good sign that he picks his sister. You can see it right away how he sets priority in his life and he must be really rational to know that Family Must Come First and a responsibility towards his family is number one; even if he has to put his romantic relationship on the line. If this man becomes your husband one day, you’ll know why you should be thankful for that.

So men…it isn’t hard to read you guys actually. You can’t pretend to be a Prince Charming if you can’t even speak the right language to your own mom. We know we have to decide once again if it’s worth it to spend another year with you trying to figure out what kind of a life partner you would become.

So…Treat The Ladies Nicely, you guys… :)

How Personal Is Your Handphone?

Today began with a disaster. I found out that my other handphone was missing. Something was really wrong. Suddenly the morning wasn’t so bright anymore. I looked all over, almost with watery eyes…Where’s my handphone???

I paused and thought for a few seconds – What should I do Now??? Suddenly I thought that I could not go with the day. All my initial plan to start doing my work was reset back to zero. I could not go without that handphone. What did I most concern about?

I realized that if the handphone was empty, I would not care that much. It’s the content of the handphone that made me feel like it belongs with me and only with me. It’s only by then I realized how PERSONAL my handphone is for me. I could not just pass my handphone to people and let them use it all they like. And now what if that happens accidentally?

Maybe that’s the price of being someone who is so reserved – I don’t usually share with people about my private stuff. It’s from the gadget that I often bring that has all the answers. But the problem is, once the gadget goes to the wrong hands, they will know a lot of my private matters. A total violation to my privacy. I am the type who likes to keep as much stuff possible because I really appreciate all the nice things people sent to me, and in this case, the text messages. So from my handphone, u definitely know if someone is special or not in my eyes. I will keep hundreds of SMS from the same name which to me are personal. My goodness. So that explained why I went haywire this morning?

To some people, this habit might definitely teach them a lifetime lesson. I remember many years ago that my ex called me during odd hour and he was so panicked asking me – “Could u please call my number cos I think I’ve just slipped the handphone somewhere.” I could remember that tone as if someone’s life was in danger. I called it but the line was off. So it was obvious that someone took the phone and remove the sim card. My ex told me that he put a lot of personal stuff including my pictures and his family. “So u mean other person has all the pictures now?” It’s such a bad feeling when something that you thought would be your personal possession is shared with the people who are not even anyone in your life. I mean, the feeling is so bad that u got really phobia about saving things in your handphone . Suddenly you feel that it’s crucial to not rely on any gadget to get in touch of the pieces from your loved ones. Suddenly you feel that maybe it’s impossible, but you have your memory and your warmest thought where u store all the nice memories of your loved ones, and not in the gadget like a handphone that could change hands by accident.

So is it wise to keep your handphone very personal? Of course it’s obviously NOT WISE to do so, but if you still want to challenge yourself that you gonna take care of it as carefully as your take care of your body and soul, maybe that option is viable. Hehe. I found out that after my ex lost his precious handphone, he never looked at his handphone as something “very dear” to him anymore. So he had to be heartless by deleting all the messages so that there’s no message left in the Inbox in the name of – “Trying to keep my privacy protected”. Come to think about it, I mean, do you have to deny the right and need to store the everyday thing that comes from your loved ones thinking that “it would be easier the next time should I lose it again.” Ouch??

Personal or not – Take good care of your precious handphone okay? :)

Note: The lesson I learnt today is – My clumsiness can cost me more than the price of a new handphone :) The good news are – My handphone is here back in my hand. Privacy still intact? Hopefully. Phewww… *Lols

A Fairytale Story-Teller That Never Was

Pernah dengar cerita cinta yang almost like a Fairytale? Wujudka Fairytale di alam reality?

Ada sorang customer-turns-friend yang selalu lepak2 sama sia. Dia ni Nampak sangat average. If orang2 yang judgmental memang akan bagi dia ni not-so-good review sebab her penampilan very sempoi dan quite selekeh actually. Dia ni suka juga cerita macam2. Sometimes her story memang a bit like “too good to be truth” but memang setakat yang sia dapat ingat dan dengar, almost all her stories memang tidak bertindih. So all that while sia memang No Prejudice dengan semua story2 dia, biarpun ada yang terlampau dasyat dia punya 18SG atau 18SX. Yang paling tragis cerita dia sendiri watch sexual harassment di lift yang berlaku kepada sister dia and how her sister was traumatized. Terlampau dramatic pula. Kalau satu kejadian saja, nda apa juga. Tapi terlalu banyak kejadian yang dikira overdose dan betul2 significant untuk diingat.

Actually being a good listener ni pun bukan senang. Sometimes sia pun terpikir juga adakah sia cuma buang masa dengar cerita dongeng dorang or memang some people ni betul2 ada life yang begitu dramatic macam satu storybook yang diolah dengan begitu menarik sekali. From her story, dia tidak juga tinggi diri. Bad experience dia diceritakan dengan begitu baik dan logic sekali. Her love stories pun mcm tu juga. Ada macam2 lelaki yang cuba approach dia and how she ends up dengan her husband now. Tapi memang dlm cerita berkaitan lelaki2 ni la yang bikin dia “kantoi” dengan sia tadi. Sia sudah catch satu point of story dia yang bercangggah. Sia geleng kepala ja. So, is she another compulsive fairytale narrator ka? Like it’s an illness to make up stories dengan orang2 yang tiada kepentingan pun untuk bagi her anything from the made-up fairytales. Can I ask again, WHY? I don’t understand.

Her lovestory was almost a fairytale cos the guy that she didn’t get to marry was like so crazy in love with her. Sampaikan dat guy sudah bawa her pegi ambil gambar kawin di Yes, I Do di Penampang. Dorang ambil pakej RM1999. Semuanya memang logic untuk setakat itu. Dia cakap that studio kasi hadiah dorang kek kawin dua tingkat lagi dan dorang makan berdua saja di tepi pantai. Sia belum pernah dengar ada studio pengantin yang kasi hadiah kek kawin dan terus bagi that kek lepas ambil gambar. And then, masa makan kek tu dat guy almost bawa dia pegi register kawin. Setau sia bukan u senang2 datang and register. But since dia nda mau, so dia kasi kawan sia ni cincin. Cincin Couple yang kalau disambung barulah bentuk Love tu lengkap. But biasanya masing2 simpan yang sebelah tu ba kan? But dia simpan dua2. Memang hairan. So di bahagian yg dia betul2 kantoi is when dia cakap pasal gambar kawin tu. Not fair juga dia simply reka cerita and waste my time dengar ba kan? Maybe her memory is quite good, but mine is better than hers. Dia lupa yang a few months back dia bagitau sia dia teda gambar kawin yang diambil di studio gara2 itu studio Everbest punya cameraman lupa pasang flash, so gambar dorang semua gelap. Dorang siap minta balik duit. I still remember her story time tu sebab I asked her if dorang ada take pic studio for wedding package. So she was trying to tell me yang dorang ada pegi ambil but gambar tu rosak. She didn’t say “We don’t have the budget”. Nevermind. But tadi, bila dia sebut pasal sudah ambil wedding shots tu dengan her old lover yang she didn’t get to marry, she suddenly sambung that cerita yang kununnya masa dia kawin dengan husband dia tu, that cameraman terkejut tengok muka dia datang untuk ambil gambar di studio tu lagi, tapi dengan lelaki yg berbeza. Dia terpaksa bisik2 dengan that cameraman yang lelaki yg lama tu bukan husband dia. And dia sempat lagi suruh dorang kasi masuk gambar dorang yang kena display dalam album sample. Sebelum husband dia tu Nampak. Nahh…sense the mistake?? Ertinya dia just claim yang dorang take pic di Yes I Do juga!! Sedangkan a few months back dia cakap dorang ambil di EverBest yang kununnya gambar dorang rosak. Patutlah sia heran kenapa professional punya photographer boleh lupa pasang light? Kalau pun lupa, mesti nice juga tu cuma lighting effect ja yang berbeza. Rupanya ni semua cerita rekaan saja dari mula lagi . Kalau sudah cakap pasal rekaan, confirm la itu tiang studio pun dia cakap runtuh masa sedang2 ambil gambar. Aduiiii….WHYYYY??

Sia sudah pernah nampak ILLNESS yang macam ni. SIa pernah ada kawan seorang yang Obsessed with STEALING and then since 2 years ago sia ada kenal dengan the single mother yang Obsessed with LYING. Dorang punya obsession ni memang sangat strange. Yang si pencuri tu akan mencuri biarpun dia tidak berada dalam kesempitan. Dan yang menipu tu akan kasi twist cerita biarpun dengan orang2 yang tiada kepentingan pun dalam penipuan tu. And then this one lagi satu Fairytale story-teller yang tidak pun memerlukan impression yang baik dari sia, yang cuma seorang yang dia baru kenal. Whoa… Kalau sia mau tanya, Kenapa obsession yang pelik macam ni boleh wujud? Adakah yang boleh jawab?

Daripada sia pening2kan kepala, bagus sia jaga hal tepi kain sia ja. Memang manusia ni betul2 pelik. Kita sebagai orang yang deal dengan dorang ni, kena pandai buat apa yang patut supaya obsession dorang tidak menyusahkan kita cos kalau mau harap kita kasi betul dorang, kita sendiri pun belum tentu lagi terlepas dengan Obsession yang pelik2 macam tu. So senang cakap macam ni sajalah…Masing2 pandai cari bahagia. Jangan sampai menyusahkah orang lain dan disusahkan oleh orang lain cukuplah.

NOTE: Yang Si Fairytale Story Teller tadi ni sebenarnya sudah wasted my time juga but sia halalkan saja lah. Siok juga ba tu macam dengar cerita fairytale sekali sekala kan. Hahahaahahahaahaha.

The Cost Of Her Smile

“I want to eat sweets. Can you buy some for me?” You say, “Sweets? It’s bad for your teeth. It’s too childish. Later la I buy you some Ferrero Rocher but I buy when I have the time to go to the mall. “But I want the sweets, now” she insists. “Alaa..no need la. I’m sure you like the chocolate more. Later la ok?” But the grocery shop that sells sweets is very near from them. How much do the sweets might cost? It’s as cheap as 3 sweets for 20 sen and for that little cost, why do you give so many excuses just because you think you know what is better for her. You never know that the little request is all she asks for. And you never know that your inability to fulfill her smallest request tell her a lot about how much she actually means to you. If you think her request is too small for her to pout if you exchange it with someone bigger, you can be wrong. If you think that she won’t care if you don’t fulfill it as long as you have bigger things in mind, you are wrong. The sweets could be all she wants and yes, because of your reluctance, you could hurt her so badly. Unless she’s really no one to you, maybe you don’t care. What if she’s the person that you care the most?

It’s funny when sometimes we still find excuses for the simplest thing. What can be simpler than a little request from the person that you care so much. Even when the request is too ridiculous or quite laughable, it could mean a lot to the person. It could be as simple as buying sweets, but it could lead to arguments that cause both of you heartache and tears that might put your relationship in jeopardy. Sometime this is what we do subconsciously. The easiest thing become the hardest thing because we think that the person we love must be asking for the universe before she can be happy. Why make life difficult – if she asks for the simplest thing, give her that simplest thing.

At the end of the day, you’ll realize that The Cost Of Her Smile is not about how much, how expensive or how big. It’s the thoughts from you that she can feel from the little things that she asks for. You’ll realize that to feel hurt in the end just because you have hurt someone you love is – Almost Stupid, when it is all caused by your insensitivity that you don’t believe that the little things are actually all it cost to make her smile. :)

Miss You Till I Miss You No More

Sometimes some people let us miss them so much at one time. At one time, you feel that you are overpowered by the feeling of longing to have the person around. You are asking all sorts of questions to yourself, Why isn’t the person be around for you? At times, you can’t hold back and just let yourself weep thinking about the person. You miss the good memories, you miss the things that you guys have spent together, and you miss all the fun things. Everything that the person has said that once cheered you up, playing again in your head. How cruel it is for the person to not be around and let you miss him? You are thinking what have you done that causes this distance. Was it anything that you have said or done? Have you done something really wrong to deserve this?

But this feeling might not stay for so long. If the person whom you miss is cheering because he can turn your life upside down just from missing him, he’s not going to be so cheerful any longer than that. Cos this feeling might be gone before you know. Yes, this feeling isn’t here to stay. The next time the person shows up, you forgot about missing him. You could even ask him, “Oh, you’re here.” Emotionless.

It’s good to be missed but make sure the people whom you let miss you, aren’t the people you care. Cos they might decide otherwise if you let them miss you too long. You thought they gonna jump for joy when they hear from you again, but you could be wrong. Suddenly your presence DOESN’T matter anymore. They are used to not having you around. They have learnt to accept your absence. Now that when you think you want to appear again, you have to REGAIN their attention all over again.

Something that maybe we don’t think much of. We thought that people who miss us will always miss us and waiting for us. The fact is, they know if you’re worth-missing. If you make yourself absence out of selfishness, they will soon find out about it. When you make yourself occupied just for indulgence without thinking about the people who want your presence, they will know it. That’s why before you do anything like that, make sure you don’t get yourself hurt in the end. Cos missing someone can be painful. That’s why we want only miss those who care if we miss them or not. And if you care, you won’t let them miss you for that long :)

If someone cease to miss you, now you know…

…Bukan Yang Cantik

I overheard perbualan dua orang salesgirls yang sedang berdiri sambil tunggu customer. Maybe di kedai baju tu. I don't remember sebab benda ni berlaku berminggu yang lalu. Sorang tu yang kenampakan sibuk bercakap dan sorang tu lagi dengar. And ngam2 time sia limpas tu…sia dengar this part,

"Semua ada yang cakap mau yang jujur la, setia la, macam2 la, tapi teda satu pun yang cakap dorang mau yang cantik."

Masa tu, I couldn't help but smile sebab I think the girl yang bercakap tu baru baca dari satu magazine or dengar dari radio tentang "Apa ciri2 idaman yang ada pada perempuan yang dicari oleh lelaki." Believe it or not, I was once in the girl's shoes too. That time I was still wondering apa yang dicari oleh seorang lelaki pada seorang perempuan. Cos dalam macam2 reason tu, satu benda yang the girls CONFIRM yang lelaki akan cari. Iaitu that girl mesti CANTIK.

But the more you read or hear, memang betul JARANG yang terang2 cakap mau yang cantik. Like that one is cliché already. Dorang start sudah cakap pasal quality lain such as understanding la, pandai hormat orang tua la…macam2 la. Semakin banyak membaca dan mendengar, lama2 bila tiba2 terjumpa a guy asyik bercakap pasal kualiti fizikal – Sia mau yang cantik, yang seksi and bla bla bla…suddenly u tengok dia lain2. You rasa yang this guy betul2 immature and belum kenal dunia.

I mean, generally, when we grow up, we tend to judge everything from the physical. Cos itulah satu language yang "tidak payah orang ajar". As long as u have eyes yang healthy, you see something and then get the impression from it. If apa yang u nampak tu something nice, you akan suka. So as we grow up, that very basic thing actually terbawa-bawa. Mata kita ni memang suka tengok yang nice2 only. Tapi sebenarnya – MUNGKIN juga yang "apa yang sedap dilihat oleh mata" kita ni sebenarnya terhenti di sana saja. Sebab impression yang lahir dari pandangan tu cuma Itu Kulit Buku ba guys. Hehehehehe. Itu isi buku belum tau lagi.

Dan mungkin juga lah lelaki2 yang tidak meletakkan kecantikan seorang perempuan tu sebagai criteria yang dicari pada gadis idaman dorang tu sebenarnya sudah PERNAH KENA sebiji sebab pernah mengejar2 si cantik dan akhirnya find out bahawa oleh kerana terlalu obsess dengan kecantikan dia tu saja, akhirnya he learnt a lesson. Sebab finally dia sedar yang setakat cantik dan sedap mata memandang tu saja nda ke mana pun. Satu kali u find out perangai dia teruk, baru u sedar yang apalah ada pada wajah yang cantik. That's why la, from experience dorang sendiri or experience kawan2 dorang, maybe dorang pun find the middle way bahawa bagus cari dulu kualiti itu dan it's a bonus if she's pretty. Another quality yang I think the guy SURE paling suka antara kualiti2 lain yang maybe dorang pun nda sedar – dorang mau perempuan yang SAYANG dengan dorang. Kalau tu perempuan serba-serbinya bagus, tapi dia tidak pun tengok ke arah you, sama juga you akan terus mencari perempuan yang buat you rasa like "the real man" yang tengok u as someone yang boleh protect dia, and orang yang dia boleh harap dan akan rindu you when you jauh and worry if you sakit. Masa ni baru u tau yang "Babai sajalah" dengan kecantikan itu semua. Banyak benda lain lagi yang jauh lebih penting dan berbaloi dalam mencari pasangan yang sesuai untuk spend life sampai hujung nyawa.

So untuk golongan2 perempuan yang diwakili oleh salesgirl yang sia terlimpas tu ari…now kamu jangan heran lain kenapa perempuan2 yang kamu nampak as Si Plain Jane tu pula yang "jauh lebih laku" daripada kamu yang kununnya Si Cantik Manis yang semua akan tinguk bila u limpas. So don't worry so much la about cantik or tidak cantik, sebab tu semua di mata kamu ja. Lelaki yang bakal jadi pasangan kamu tu ada mata dia sendiri. Bukan pun dia minta pinjam mata kamu. Hehehehe. So jangan decide for him sebab dia sendiri yang akan decide if you're "pretty" or not. Dan IF he thinks that you're pretty and you tidak setuju sebab you tinguk di cermin you tidak juga macam tu Snow White, then now you know apa yang dia maksudkan itu adalah you have the BEAUTY yang dia cari, dan beauty yang dia cari tu bukan sama definition sama yang si beauty pageant. So if you ask me, of all the qualities yang ada sama kita, I think itu "Cantik" akan ditaruh di pisuk2 so inda apa la kalau inda menang tu Unduk Ngadau ba… Ingat tuu…dorang mau cari yang baik, yang bersopan santun, yang pandai masak, yang bijak…all of that…dan Bukan Yang Cantik ba…*giggles.

The Memorable Valentine’s

This feeling keeps on getting good reviews this time of the year. That feeling called LOVE. It’s Valentine’s Day again, people. Although I don’t believe in celebrating this day anymore, but if it’s the only way you guys can strengthen the love bond between you and the people you love, then Go Ahead… Celebrate it.

I don’t believe in the hype of celebrating Valentine’s Day anymore because I hate to remember how I got too carried away with celebrating the day and forgot why I celebrated it in the first place. So what I do now is trying to get in touch with the REAL purpose of celebrating it. That’s why, I don’t let this day distract me. I still believe anyway that sometimes people need excuse to do something more special for the people they love, so if this day is that excuse, go ahead. Celebrate it. But don’t forget that it’s for the two of you to love each other more. It’s not about expensive gifts and dinners. Get your feet on the ground and realize that the person standing in front of you is WHY you celebrate the day. If the person standing in front of you brings no flowers or chocolates, as long as he is there. That person is the Purpose of your Valentine’s.

I still remember one Valentine’s when I received 2 expensive gifts from 2 different guys. A gold necklace and a gold bracelete. And I hate to remember it because I was so heartless and immature back then to practically keep 2 guys in my life at once. I saw it how I mocked the purpose of Valentine’s. I could preach about how I could only love one guy at a time, and I think I was telling the truth. It’s just that, life put me in a funny situation that I actually fell in the trap of betrayal and not brave enough to settle the matter. I learnt the hard way that Love is also responsibility. If you cease to love your partner, tell the truth. Don’t make someone who loves you cry because of your act of irresponsibility.

Make this day a memorable one, okay :)

Happy Valentine’s Day to all the people that I care and love. Yes, including you my readers :) ♥ ♥ ♥

Is He The One?

The Valentine’s Day is coming up. I know that most of those who are in the courtship are especially very nervous and excited for the day cos this is the time that you guys gonna reveal “more” of your affection for each other.

What IF one clairvoyant comes to you and says, “She/He’s not the one for you. The right one is still out there.” What would you feel? Of course when the emotions are running high, of course you would answer the clairvoyant back, “She has everything I want! She must be the one!” Then it’s the time to ask you…

“How do you know if she’s the one?”

I have been browsing around Oprah’s website lately and I spent some time reading about Soul mates theory. Oh man, I have actually written about The Theory of Soul-Mate long ago and I have published it some time in this blog. So Soulmate theory is nothing new to me. But I’m not here to mend the theory based on other people’s opinion. I just want to highlite One Point that about the idea of our Mr/Miss Right.

We heard A LOT. And then we also ask for A LOT. Oh boy. Come to think about it, some of our requirements are not realistic at all. What we want is not Mr/Miss Right, but Mr/Miss Perfect!! Hahahahahaha. Nevermind. You guys will learn sooner or later that Nobody’s perfect! So maybe this is when you will make use of this One Point that I am going to highlite here.

According to what I read from the website that I can agree with, which I write back using my own words and understanding; - The Right One is the one who can make you progress as a better human being as time goes by. The person doesn’t necessarily be everything you want by the time you meet him, but YOU will lead him and be that best version of human being, and at the same time, he makes you progress as a better human being too.

So she might be hot and beautiful – but she doesn’t make you be a better person in the real sense of human values – it will all be temporary. Having a partner is NOT all about showing off or bragging to your friends that you get the best girl on demand. No. This is more than just superficial. If the person is fun to be with at the time but doesn’t contribute to your self-progression, I think that gonna spell the end for you guys too. Cos if that connection doesn’t exist, both of you are said NOT to be right for each other. At the end of the day, you will understand that relationship is not just meant for a year or two, but it’s for the person to stay beside you through thick and thin, and achieve great things together. Imagine what a boring and meaningless life could be with both of you are not “growing” in many senses cos life changes with time. You need to keep in pace and still be happy with each other.

Yes, maybe I have thought so long before. Though I didn’t have the proper words for it that time, but I just knew that I was holding back TOO MUCH of myself just because I dated the wrong kind of guy. I didn’t ask for someone who have the same interest as me, but at least he appreciates the passions and the talents that I have. And he just supports and let me pursue what I want. If you’re dating someone who’s “holding your breath” – Uh-oh…maybe that’s a red signal over there. Cos the longer you spend with that person, imagine how much you are wasting for yourself. We ain’t gonna live forever. So it’s not too late yet. If you’re in a steady relationship, this definitely is the time to re-examine whether or not your partner is The Right one for you to “till death do us part” with. Hehehe.

Some people who are lucky have found their match and have accomplished great things together. For the rest of us, as long as we are still breathing…the Hunt is on. So whether or not your partner is The One, now you have the clue :)

“Why Are You NOT Jealous?

Uh-oh...this picture might raise suspicion. It's whether the guy is jealous at the guy or the girl (if u know what I mean. *Lols)

Hahaahaahahahaha. It’s funny, right? It’s normal when people ask, “Why are you jealous?” And then when you are not jealous, then people come again and ask, “Why are you NOT jealous?

Omigawddd!! Haahahahaahhahaa. Now, can we ever stop at once and accept the beauty of things? *Lols

This thought just occured to me. If someone claims that he loves me, how come he’s not jealous when I get a bit more attention than what I should deserve? I talked to a guyfriend recently and he asked me, “Do you think it’s silly to feel jealous?” I answered, Hell No. He said, some of his friends thought that jealousy is silly. But I said, only when you become jealous that you know you feel more for the person. If you are hard to get jealous, Uh-Oh, that’s dangerous. You guys might send the wrong signal to your gf that you don’t love and care for her. Or maybe it’s just something in the blood. Some people are just hard to get jealous. Fullstop. Is that so?

I honestly hate it when I start to get jealous. Jealousy ties me up to an emotional attachment that sometimes I want to deny so much. Jealousy is like pulling me to a place before I’m even ready to go there. Something like that. I hate it when it comes uninvited. But luckily I’m not the kind who get jealous easily when I saw my friends are looking hotter than me or wear all the fancier things than what I could afford. Maybe because I also don’t dress up or colour my hair just to trigger jealousy in other people. I know some of my friends who get jealous because of stuff like that. I also believe that Jealousy is not your fault. Yes, I accept it that it’s in the blood. You know you shouldn’t feel jealous, but you still feel jealous, and you can’t help it. It’s your nature’s call.

But I do believe anyway that NO ONE is ever so safe from jealousy. Especially when you have a hearty thing going on with someone. You MUST feel jealous to verify that, Yes, there’s something hearty going on. If not, isn’t that strange? I must admit anyway that I’m used to having jealous boyfriends. Not enough with that, I also have had guyfriends who got jealous even when they don’t actually have a hearty thing going on with me. So, if a normal friend can feel that, why doesn’t a “more than normal” friend feel that? Which one do you prefer, ladies? A guy who gets jealous or who doesn’t?

I don’t know. To me, jealousy is not so cool but I need it as a security that he does care for me. Blame it on my former boyfriends cos they create the tradition that – 256, I’m not jealous until I’m in love with you. But is it fair for me to measure one’s affection from jealousy? Hahahaaha. I know it’s silly to ask that. But as funny as it gets, I believe that jealousy is here for a reason too. Maybe it should be put in the right place so it can make 2 close things – closer, and not make 2 close things break apart.

Anything too much is never good. So No Jealousy or Overly Jealous – both spell disaster, agree? Erkss. *giggles.

Why To Get Something Means To Lose Something…

I ask this question WHY? WHY do I have to lose something just because I decide to take something into my life?

This is so NOT fair. Why 2 elements have to fight for a space when you prepare two very comfortable spaces for both of them. This isn’t about life being unfair. This is how STRANGE human beings can be by trying to create conflicts that shouldn’t be there.

I remember when I first hooked up with my ex years ago. I didn’t know how much this affected the people around him until his friends came to me and said that “he has changed a great deal”. He didn’t have time to answer them, or even have the little space to say Hello – like they didn’t exist at all. I remember a female friend, who knew him earlier than I did, and she was considered a close friend to my ex before I came – she told me she felt so upset because of his changes. “Like I wasn’t there at all,” she said. I didn’t understand WHY my ex was treating his friends like that. Was it because of me? I didn’t intend that my presence would change anything good. It shouldn’t be that way. I never actually told my ex who he should make friends with. In fact, it was him who did that to me. But if you ask me, I’d say, I don’t want him to lose his friends just because he was taking me into his life. Why Humans do something like this? We don’t have to!!! Trust me, friends will always have a special place that can’t be replaced by the our families and or lover. It’s the same with our families. Do you want to lose a brother or a sister just because you hook up with a new person? That’s not how it works, people.

Love is such a broad thing. If it has length, it must have a great length. If it has distance, it must be at least thousands of miles. We have definition for each kind of love that we have for everyone that we have in our lives. Yes, we are able to do it. If you have to freaking choose whether or not to keep your brother or sister just because you are marrying someone, How Stupid is that. They can’t take each other’s place in your life so remind them that they don’t have to fight for a spot. They don’t have to leave your life just because you have a new person coming in to your life. Please do not create unnecessary heartache cos this one is really caused by no one but you!!

I mean, if you are in the position of the Host, where one special person makes his way to the door just because he saw someone else coming in from the other door, don’t you think you would be surprised enough to ask, “Why are you leaving?” Then the person said, “I think I need to give space for those who just came in.” Then you know what I would answer? “You don’t need to leave. There’s an ample space for everyone. OK?” What if the person insists? “Sorry 256, I really think I should leave.” I would scream, “No, Don’t Leave! I mean it.” What do you feel? You think I’m kidding? Do you think I can’t be a good Host for every guest? Do you think I can’t help but give a better treatment for those who just came? No, you are wrong. I mean it when I say that. And if you think I’m happy that you think you are being courteous enough to volunteer leave the house to give space –you are wrong!! If you still insist to leave because of that, I will burst in tears in front of the other guest. That’s HOW SAD I feel inside. When I say Don’t Leave, I freaking mean it!!!

If you are in the position of either of the Guests…now you know what the Host is feeling. Don’t be stupid by making the decision for the host that you should leave. No. You are wrong. This world might be filthy and all, but there are people who really appreciate all the special people in their lives. So the line “To Get Something Means To Lose Something” is not true until you make it true. You’ll know how hurtful it can be when you become the Host itself. There’s enough space for everyone, so please stay :)

Si Mata Keranjang

Sepa mata keranjang sini???

/me angkat tangan!!!!!

Hahahahahahahahahahaahahaha.

Haa! Silap kamu if u think lelaki ja mata keranjang. Actually…perempuan pun mata keranjang jua baa! Betulllll…nda caya ka??

Perempuan mata keranjang ni…macam lelaki juga. Kadang2 pandai cover line. Kununnya muka innocent bila ada lelaki limpas, padahal satelit dia sudah analisis tu. Oh, kiut ka tu lelaki. Then analisis badan dia lagi. Adakah ketinggian dia ngam sama badan dia. And what about his hair?? Ngam ka tidak dengan muka dia? And then tengok tu arms dia, ada muscle ka tidak? If got muscle nampak so masculine. Diam2 dia piwit kamu tu dalam hati. Hehehehehe

Itu baru yang basic2. Bila ngam sudah di mata dia, dia analisa tu baju yang dia pakai. Ngam ka tidak, or pandai dressing ka tidak. Pas tu, dia tinguk tu seluar. Kalau sikit silap pun, tidak ngam sudah di mata dia. Kalau semuanya mcm okay ja, tapi tiba2 nampak dia punya baju tuck out, inda ngam…Ohooo…Warna seluar tu, ngam ka tidak dengan warna baju. And then what about his shoes. Got socks or not.

And then when he walks by…do you think that only the men will look at the girl’s butt? Hahahaahahahahaha. The girls will also look at your butt as your walk. They also complain is your butt is a little too big for you or otherwise. (*Lols). So actually bukan perempuan ja yang have to worry about hips size…thank YOU for sharing this burden with us, MEN! *Lols.

Jadi…[256], adakah kau mengaku kau ni mata keranjang? Oh well, macam gini saja la. Inda jua la sia mau mengaku, but kalau kamurang paksa jua sia mengaku, sia TERPAKSA jua mengaku untuk menyenangkan hati kamurang tuu…Sampai gitu sekali kan. Baikk sungguhh. (/me berabis ketawa)

Silap haribulan…perempuan punya “Proses Analisis Ke Atas Spesimen Cromosome XY” adalah jauh lagi detail. Siap tinguk lengan tu lelaki. “Ishhh…Gali pula sia tinguk so hairy o that guy…Aiyaaa~!! Yaiii!! ” And then, masa kamurang minum2 depan dia tu, jan kamurang nda tau dia ble detect tu daki di kuku kamurang that. Bila kamu ketawa, dia tinguk tu gigi kamu kalau dia ble nampak plak2 gigi yang kelihatan. (/me pingsan tawa)

And then, bila ada satu lelaki limpas, mata dia pun akan ikut that guy…dengan terang-terang dinampak oleh lelaki yg sedang duduk semeja dengan dia. Ishh…Lelaki pun pandai jua tapuk2 woo…perempuan lagi yg kadang2 lagi staring dari kamurang that. Kalau hensem dan bergaya, lagilahh mata dia ikut tu lelaki sampaiiiiiiiiilahh saaaannaa Ranauu…Nah, apa macam, ada fight ka?

So the women sekarang, more than ever, TAU yang bukan dorang saja yang jadi Subject of evaluation kepada kaum lelaki cos Now dorang pun pandai juga guna mata dorang dengan bulu mata melentik tu untuk BALAS BALIK kepada kaum lelaki. If u think kamu ja boleh mock a lady sebab her butt is too big for her, Guess what? Now it’s Fair and Square. Kamu akan tekejut kalau kamu tu, even back in schooldays, my friend sudah label this teacher sebagai “kelebihan berat” di punggung sebab she always saw him naik his motor. Uinaa…Tu mataaaa…Menganalisis kaitu geng?

Hahahahaahahahahahahaahhahaahhaha…Layan ketawa jap.

Then my pengakuan ikhlas is…Yes, I AM a mata keranjang punya kategori. But not in the sense untuk mencari kekurangan lelaki tu. I always adore a guy for kelebihan dia. But memang sia jenis suka tengok…sia nda segan2 pusing kepala untuk tengok the guy dengan lebih lama. It’s like Appreciating the view ba tu…Ha, sama mcm kamu jua ba. Tapi the guy must have something yg menarik perhatian sia, baru la sia mau tinguk lama. Ha, sama mcm kamu juga kan? Jadi apa beza antara kita?

I remember kawan lelaki sia ni – whoooa…Pandai betul dia cover line. Kalau kau tinguk dia ni, mata tidak pandai merayap pun. Asyik sibuk bercakap tentang kerja, bagi penerangan kepada orang yg datang sama dia. Kalau kau limpas, kau rasa dia tidak pun tau yg kau limpas sebab dia betul2 buat expression yang kununnya dia nda peduli. Satu kali bila sia akhirnya ada chance cakap dengan dia one to one, dia cakap dia sudah pasang satelit since day one lagi. Dia pakai ujung2 mata dia untuk tengok how I eat, how I walk, how I dress, how I talk dan macam2 lagi. Siap laporan ba, bilang si Jojon. *Lols. “How come I didn’t sedar u do all that?” He said, “Ha, jangan silap. Kau pikir lelaki mau kasi tunjuk ka?” Nahh… kalah sudah kamurang oo guys… Sia tinguk pun tidak tapuk2 woo… Apa macam ni geng?

Are we ladies are more Honest about our Wandering Eyes or what? Even in this, we can still manage to do it courteously and pleasantly in the name of PowerSharing ba…so next time, you ladies jangan complen2 dengan your man why mata dia selalu wandering masa keluar makan dengan kau – jan banyak cakap…BALAS balik baa…Kalau dia mau rasa Oren ka, Mangga ka, yang penting u buat balik apa yang dia buat – let him decide apa Perisa yang dia rasa or…is it kana gigit semut itam or semut api. If you think kamurang ja ada THOSE NASTY EYES, you guys are totally wrong.

We Are Now EVEN!! Yesss!!!!! (Hahahaahahahahhaahahahahahahahhahaha :PPPPP)

NOTE: Want to know ciri2 lelaki yang menarik perhatian sia? Senang jaa…Sepa2 yg dapat rapat dengan sia tu, memang dorang ada ciri2 tu… EhemMMmmmmm…ada la yang blushing ni kan. Hahahahahahaaha.

Have a Blessed Monday ya :)

Purnama Yang Merindu Dan Dirindui…

If I ask you guys one question…entah u guys boleh jawab ka tidak. Do you find yourself to be in the place Who Miss or Who Is Missed? Merindu atau dirindui? Ahaa…Most likely, you guys never find out pun. You guys mana tau berapa ramai orang rindu kamu. Kamu cuma tau berapa ramai yg kamu rindu, itupun bukan kamurang kira juga kan? Hehehehehehe

Well, one thing for sure…Merindu ni sesuatu yang quite memedihkan. Especially merindui sesuatu yang dulunya ada, and then lepas tu tiada. Biarpun ketiadaan itu cuma sementara saja. Tapi asalkan namanya merindu, tetap juga pedih.

The other day, my youngest bro was sent off the airport, taking flight back to where he studies. Memang suddenly the house terasa a bit sunyi. But my bro made it easier for us cos he was not noisy enough to make us miss the noise that he made during the holidays. My sister said that nite, “Sunyi pula o kan?” – Aha…from the sound of her voice, I knew my sister missed my little brother’s presence in the house. Memang biasa macam tu lepas family members leave the house lepas satu holiday yang panjang. Kita miss dengar footsteps dorang turun tangga, or bunyi dorang memasak di dapur, or just bunyi the shower yang menunjukkan dorang sedang taking bath. All the simple things yg they did to make the difference in the house. Suddenly on the first day dorang suddenly tidak spend masa at the house, kita akan rasa sunyi dan seolah-olah something is missing. Kalau mau dilayan sangat perasaan tu, buli juga mengalir air mata ba kan. Hehehe

Then teringat satu kenangan masa kecil. I was very close with my sister when we were small. Like belangkas. Di mana ada dia, di situlah ada sia. Gaya kami pun lebih kurang sama, sama2 hyper. But my sister ni much adorable than me masa kami kecil. Sia teringat, ada sekali tu, she purposely ketuk2 tu kayu di batu and made a sound. She said that she wanted to make the sound so people remember her when she wasn’t around, for example when she pulang kampung, orang akan rindu dia. *Lols. Kici2 lagi sudah pandai saiko oo kan. Hahaahahahaha. Then, satu hari tu, my mom bawa dia and my bro balik kampung. So when sia bangun tidur, I saw a note my sister wrote. Dia letak di tempat tidur dia. Dia cakap “Babaii…sia pulang kampung dulu.” Masa tu sia nangis berabis teringat my sister. Hehehehe. Padahal balik kampung ja ba. Rasa rindu dan rasa kehilangan dan kesunyian tu ba. So not cool la the feeling. Bila tulis balik pun terasa mau keluar juga air mata. Biarpun cuma kenangan masa kecil saja and my sister now berada cuma di sebelah bilik ja. Hehehehehe.

My point is…Oleh kerana kita ni ada perasaan, memang kita nda akan lepas daripada merasa rindu. Dan merasa kepedihan perasaan rindu tu. Kadang2 macam kena hiris nipis2 ja tu hempedu kamurang that. *Lols. The feeling memang tidak best. Tapi, feeling tu menunjukkan yang hati dan jantung kamu berfungsi dengan baik. Hehehehe.

Sia sendiri pun banyak kali miss dengan orang. Sia lagi ni yg si tukang nangis…sikit2 rindu pun mau nangis. Pedih. Memang pedih. Then pasal tu la…sia rasa sia nda mau terlampau sangat layan kerinduan dengan orang. Paling senang adalah build A GAP supaya jangan sampai diri tu menjadi hamba dengan kerinduan. Yes, I know that missing someone is not a bad thing. But gara2 merindu, kerja pun boleh terbengkalai. Asyik melayan rindu. Kerja pun tidak terbuat. I don’t like that. Suddenly I started to see “missing someone” as satu weakness. The more you let yourself miss someone, the weaker you are. Sebab suddenly your emotion is ruled by the person that you miss. Tiba2 orang tu call you, u baru dapat energy you. If dia tidak call you dalam seminggu, silap2 u jadi macam tu sotong kering ba guys. U jadi tidak bermaya. Muka nda berseri. Asyik biut ja muka u guys tu. Hehehehehe. Rupanya dalam hati terasa rindu yang teramat sangat. It’s a weakness, agree?

I have to learn to be a little heartless. Bukan sia nda sayang, but sia memang anggap “kerinduan” tu cuma melemahkan sia. My emosi akan terganggu. My work banyak help me untuk tidak melayan perasaan rindu2 macam tu. Sebab menjadi seorang yang cengeng ni memang mencabar. U kena buat extra work untuk put a shield supaya u are stronger. Sebab once the tears keluar, memang itulah segala-gala kelemahan yang cuba disembunyikan selama ni. It makes me feel as if kematangan tidak memberikan sebarang hasil pada sia kalau sia tidak boleh get in control of my emotion. So untuk tidak terbawa-bawa dengan kerinduan adalah satu petanda yang bagus. Sia anggap bahawa how we handle perkara ni adalah menunjukkan yang kita boleh mengawal perasaan, dan kalau kita boleh kawal perasaan, banyak benda yang kita boleh buat dengan baik. Sebab, hal2 emosi ni yang biasanya yang menjadi gangguan utama kita ba kan.

Apa pun…Rindu merindu ni best juga ba. Cos when you rindu, u sure akan lebih hargai kehadiran orang tu the next time he’s around. Maybe juga dengan perasaan rindu ni, manusia akan lebih menghargai sesama sendiri dan tidak ambil lewa saja masa2 yang dorang spend with each other. And actually Rindu ni sebenarnya mengeratkan lagi ikatan yang ada tu kan. Heheheehehehe. So, sekali sekala menjadi Purnama yang merindu, apa salahnya.

Tapi yang lebih best adalah bila menjadi Purnama yang dirindu. Sebab when ada orang bagitau you that dorang miss you, baru kita tau yg kehadiran kita dalam hidup dorang ni sebenarnya ada kesan juga. If someone tells me that, walaupun sia tidak akan percaya sangat, tapi I feel good inside. Apa lagi kalau orang ingat semua gelak-ketawa kau, lawak jenaka kau –sedangkan kau rasa benda tu semua seimbas lalu ja.

Suka atau tidak, RINDU is satu perasaan yang menghubungkan sesama manusia. Walaupun pedih, tapi sekali sekala layan rindu pun best juga. Tambah kita rindu, tambah kita sayang. Betul ka tidak? So sekali sekala merindu tu apa salahnya kan. Heheheehe. Layan ja laaa…

Note: Kalau rindu sampai nangis2 tu, pandai2 la lap air mata sendiri ah guys… *Lols

One Is Better Than Two

If you have one car, you know you will take care of it with all your heart. But after that, you have another car, do you still think you will love and care for your first car the same? Aha!! DON’T FREAKING LIE to me with saying Yes cos the answer is definitely No!!

I have asked this to my ex long before and we almost argued because he claimed that Yes, he would love all this cars. Easier said than done. But my point is, whether or not he still loves and care for the first car when he has another one to take care of? Of course, it’s humane to be greedy. My ex claimed he would still love all his cars. Of course he would. Cos having more than one cars actually feeding the greed in having more materials. But the point is, whether or not he still loves every car the same? It’s impossible. Usually he will have one favourite and doesn’t care much about the rest. That is a Wastage of affection, don’t you think?

I tell you why I think so. Because when I have one thing that I like so much, I will not divide my attention. So I can experience the real feeling of giving the best attention and care towards it. When I have another one, which could be better, I couldn’t help but like the new one better. And even if I know I’m losing touch with the first one, I couldn’t help it. I would just give in though there’s a little regret in my heart that “I wish I could love them all the same”. You get my point?

It’s no use to curse why you have to be that way because it’s a human nature, but you can do something so that it won’t steal something from you. To me, I prefer to give everything to one thing and not give anything to the second and after that. Because not only that I can give my one and only, the best I can offer, but I also feel that it’s the best it should be. I can experience and savour it so much because my focus is only on one thing. When I start to have another and then another, that feeling of “sticking to one” is gone. You start to feel disoriented and lose your focus. It’s whether you can still love all of them just so-so, or you would not love any of them at all. It’s because you can’t focus which to love more or less.

Of course it’s good to have more. But in this case where I question about whether or not you can love each of them fair and square, that one I really doubt. So you apply this in other aspect of your life too. Sometimes you become that “one thing”, sometimes you become that “second thing” that steal the attention from the first, and sometimes you become the person who experiences that you can’t never love two things the same.

It applies in anything especially when the “thing” involved is some being who has feelings. When the thing knows how to demand for attention but you fail to give it just because you have other things to divide your attention. Maybe you will understand if you become that Thing that has to suffer from a divided attention just because someone is a little greedy and thinks that he/she can still love 2 things the same.

That's why I said...

Sometimes...

1 is really better than 2 :)

The Demanding Girlfriend

I remember talking to my bestfriend when she was caught in triangle love between two men. One man was a special boyfriend and the other one was an old classmate who always had a crush on her. My friend was in love with her boyfriend, and the other guyfriend was showing a lot of affection to my friend since college years. My friend knew that the guyfriend still put hopes on her.

My friend was one example of a very demanding girlfriend, I must say. It was actually the first time that I heard a lady speaks of how firmly she wanted to be treated as a special girlfriend. Because the boyfriend was working in Peninsular, my friend was always accompanied by the guyfriend who would do anything to win her heart. I could say that my friend was starting to have “a second thought” especially when the boyfriend didn’t care much about special occasions. The other guy was gradually winning her attention.

I remember hearing her commenting on her situation. I remember feeling a bit suspicious about my friend’s stand. I mean, her boyfriend might not be there all the way, but since he was the boyfriend, she shouldn’t just simply punish him for that. It shouldn’t be an easy excuse for my friend to just change her heart.

“I don’t know what’s with him. Even if he’s far, he must at least send me a flower or maybe fly here to surprise me – Do Anything just as long as he does something to show me that he cares. He Must Keep Me Excited if he wants me to stay. He cannot stop “trying” when he’s already my boyfriend. He must still do something to let me know that I’m special”

Then I thought, “Wow…that’s very demanding!”

My friend said that when she told that to the boyfriend, the boyfriend answered, “Don’t hope for special treatments from me. I’m not good with that.”

Guess what? She wasn’t kidding. She really dumped her boyfriend not long after for the old classmate who could provide her with all the “excitements” that she wanted. Finally she didn’t mind picking “an easy catch” to a big jaws…just as long as the guy is willing to put extra effort to show her that he cares.

Another female friend spoke to me. She was another case. She has boyfriends all over the place. I tell you, I think I should learn from them. *Lols. She told me, she has a condition for every guy who wants to be her boyfriend. “He MUST call or sms me EVERYDAY.” If he misses a day or two with an excuse, I would forgive. But if it reaches one week without call or sms, automatically he’s not my boyfriend anymore.”

Then again, I was, “Ahh? Ouch!”

Oh well, That’s Very Demanding. Hahaahahaha Most of these ladies who are fit to be called A Demanding Girlfriend are usually those who are “the ladies on demand” where at least 2 men are craving for their love. So no wonder they become that demanding right?

Or else…maybe we don’t need to be popular to be demanding. Maybe this is exactly what we should do, don’t you think so?

To the men…don’t you think we, as the most special lady in your life, should demand for a special treatment from you? Don’t you think when you are late you should explain to us why? Don’t you think you should feel guilty when you don’t return our call or reply our sms? Don’t you think you should soft-talk us when there’s something that you want to speak to us, even if it’s the simplest matter of “don’t wear that dress in public”? Don’t you think we deserve more respect, that you can’t simply raise your voice and accuse us doing something we don’t do? I mean, the way you do things to other people, don’t you think we deserve to be treated slightly better? If we sulk or pout, don’t you think you should do something to coax us and make us smile again and tell us that everything is not as bad as we thought? Isn’t being your special girlfriend is an enough reason to demand for all that?

Then after this, hopefully you don’t complain to us why we ask for too much. As a matter of fact, I don’t think we ask for too much. We deserve to be asking it all to begin with. If we can’t even ask to be treated more special than normal, what’s the point of being the most special lady in your life?

Fair enough? *giggles.

Note: Treat Your Girlfriend Good, Ok?