How You Can Be Good Enough To Date but Not Best to Marry?

Hey ladies. Do you ladies realize something? Let me tell ya. Lets say you go for an interview and failed to get the job, what do you think? You think you’re not qualified? Think again, my friends. I learnt about my friend who was rejected for a job, despite knowing English and Mandarin so well which was the job main criteria. The only reason is because she asked RM50 more than what the company offered for the job!! Seriously!!! She learnt about it because one of the interviews was a friend to her friend. So, a potential candidate like her got rejected, just like that~!! And it was for RM50??? Whoaa… now you tell me. Is it enough reason to grief? Of course No!!!

So let’s apply this in what is seemingly more challenging than to get a freaking job. It comes down to romantic relationship and --- to tie the knot!! Why is it so hard to find the right man to match the picture of the Prince Charming in our mind? Most importantly, why the guys who date you never actually bring up the question of marriage? Why? Why you have a lot of fans who want to cling with you but never even imagine you become their future wife?? Yep…let’s see what I can spontaneously compile here for ya guys, especially the ladies.

1. You’re Too Brainy

Some guys are not a fighter. They are always insecure. If you’re that hot and always get attention, this will put him on fire. One is jealousy because the other men are tailing you, the other type of jealousy is when you make him feel inferior because he doesn’t get that much attention from other women. Like, it’s not a fair game. He doesn’t get the chance to make you feel like what you make him feel. This is definitely a point-out for their ego. If their losing on their ego, Ah-ah…he might not be able to handle this pressure too long. He’ll date you but silently look around for a lady who could give him the security – to be the one to become his wife. Yes, and she might be less hotter than you! *giggles.

3. You’re Too Friendly

Some guys would kill because of their jealousy. They could not get over it. They hate it when you make too much friends, especially the blokes. And in extreme situation, he actually hates it even if you are with your female friends, when you’re spending so much quality times with them instead of with him. At one point, you could be listening to his explosion, “Do you think you are marrying her, or me?” He might prefers someone who put him as priority and nothing else. I mean, now you know why less outgoing ladies could have a lot of fans too!!

4. You’re Too Independent

Whoa…this one is VERY serious actually. Well, not to count to the losers who are depending on their wife’s money. I’m talking about the real typical guys who actually believe in becoming the leader of the family. I found quite many of them still, so don’t think that this species is already extinct. One of my good guyfriends told this to me, “I want the girl to need me. I want her to call me in the middle of the nite so I could take her to the hospital to visit a relative, or something like that. I want to feel useful and needed. I want that there are times that she couldn’t go on without me.” That says it all. So if you’re already very independent, again, it hurts his pride and he might not think you’re the best person to be his wife. Ouch!

5. You’re Too Strong In Characters

You’re very well-spoken and confident – your characters become noticeably a lot stronger than him. You’re a better decision maker than him. Leaving him feeling stupid and useless, again. This also contributes to insecurity, hurt of pride and ego and you’re not helping him building his self-respect- especially when you are very opinionated and thinks that whatever comes from your mind is true and his is just second class (which could be true!) so when he feel so unreliable when he’s with you, I think he would settle for someone who listen to what he says and follow him around without further disagreement.

6. You’re Too Career-Driven

A lot of women these days are educated. It scares the heck out of the single guys out there. Especially the old fashion lads who want to be the boss, inside and outside the house. Yes when he’s dating you, you can have your job, but when it comes to marriage, he might want you to stay at home and look after the family alone. The educated ladies might not agree with this because they don’t want to waste their abilities on becoming a housewife. Why they don’t want you to work? Because you’ll be exposed to affairs with the men you associate with. (Other reasons are only excuses, such as, I’m worry about your safety, I want you to concentrate on our home and the children we are going to have…and bla bla bla… all excuses only that!!! /me capat2 tapuk sebelum mendapat sebarang bantahan Hahahaahahahahaha)

7. You’re just TOO GOOD for him!!!

Oh well, here’s the real issue actually!! *Grinzzz. Hahahahaahaha. You’re too good for someone like him that he thinks that he’s not your match. When you’re too good, there’s a chance of the marriage to get shaky because you have much larger options than him, and he has everything to lose if he marries you. He prefers to pick a lady who is still a long way behind him so that he feels in control. He doesn’t want to lose you to someone better and that gonna end him up in disaster.

Oh well, what do you guys think??? (HAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA)

Okay, let me make this very clear to you. I write this to boost the confidence of the ladies who think they are NOT good enough just because nobody speaks of marriage to them yet. I tell you, the guys reject you as a wife NOT like what you normal think. Not because you’re not good. It’s all the question of security, ego and pride – which to us, are tolerable. But not to them.

So ladies….please don’t ever feel down just yet, cos a man who is good enough to lead you and make you ever better, is out there. :) Remember, it’s not because you’re no good enough, it’s because you’re just TOO good. :)