“Masing-masing Cari Bahagia”

Translation: You Seek For You Own Happiness

I remember watching this series of Sehati Sejiwa on RTM1, a program where the host Misha Omar interviews celebrities husband and wife to share about their marriage life. In this particular series, the guests were Normala Omar and Zulkifli Zain – the veteran actors/actress in local films. What interesting about this particular series, they both looked so happy and opened about their marriage. As they went about the important points in their marriage life, I was surprised to learn that it was not even near a bed of roses. There was even this time when they went into a big tribulation in their marriage when the husband set eyes on another girl. Zul, the husband, spoke openly about what happened.

He said that men are like that. Sometimes they just got into affairs without really putting their heart and soul into it. They sort of just go with the flow just to get thrills in life and of course they make mistakes too when their manly natures take over their head and lead to actions that they might regret. He was about to marry that new girl. When his wife found out about that affair, she did not snap at it. She finally found the way to overcome her own emotions and just accepted what life has in store for her. She refused to make the situation worse, and what she did was she decided to accept the girl’s presence. She gave his permission for him to marry her. During the majlis akad nikah, he said that the wife was sitting at the front, making sure that everything was in place. She was the busiest person to arrange things so that everything went smoothly. That was the time when his heart was so touched, and then only he realized There will be NO another woman that can love him like that. He then realized that he already got The Best woman he could afford to have. And so…the wedding didn’t take place. I was called off.

I was amazed at the fact that they both could speak about it openly, how the guy admitted his wandering eyes and how the wife decided to give in to the husband’s intention instead of trying to fight it. They both taught me something about life. Sometimes life throws at us all the things that might not be favourable to us but it’s still up to us how to react and let these affect us in the good way or otherwise. It’s really a lesson to learn how TO CHOOSE not to destroy your own self and life by emotions that might just temporary be there to make things look worse. What is the most important thing is OUR ATTITUDE to face Life because life can sometimes be cruel the decision how badly can it turn our life to be, is STILL UP TO US!

From the way they spoke things…it really shown they have found the real formula HOW TO LIVE. I remember that both of them agree that “we must know how to make ourselves happy”. We must know how to react to circumstances in the way that we can go on with life with a light heart instead of giving up and make our lives go haywire. Yes, the decision to be happy is OUR decision, no matter how bad, how cruel life treats us sometimes.

Now that you know that Your Happiness Is Your Decision, Would You Decide To Be Sad?