If you agree with me, we developed at different pace. Some were excellent at school and then slowing down. Some are the opposite. But back then, we used to be kids who were only starting to learn how to live. We didn’t know what’s best and what’s proper. Depending on the lesson that our parents taught at home, we started off so innocently. Some of us were the nasty kids who were hated by everyone. It’s funny that we remember people with the last memories we have with them. The last time, he was a gangster at school, so what do you expect from him when you meet him 10 years later? So u thought a little thug at school must now become the most wanted criminal?
I write this post because this is the reality. If you notice during a class reunion, only a few would show up. Not enough with that, sometimes when u guys bump into each other, one of you might pretend to not recognizing the other person. You guys know why? One of the reasons is because, it could be that the last memories they have with you are not a pleasant ones. The last time, you were someone you were not proud of. For a lot of reasons, you started to be so humble for that chapter in your life. And logically, some people would remember you for that poor chapter. After many years later, maybe they are not sure if they want to recall back all the unpleasant memories so they just pretend to never know you. If they don’t, you might bring up all the funny things in front of other people that gonna embarrassed them. Gosh…you guys do that? Ask yourself again, you guys DO THAT?
I used to have this one guyfriend who was poorly affected by his schoolday image. He was this rich kid who once thought he owned the world because his dad was so freaking rich. He was was hated by everyone in the school. Nobody wanted to be his friend. Maybe because of the mistake that he did, he still stepped on the kids’ toes thinking that he was so powerful because he has money. Being helpless and less-sensitive, he finally got himself in a beating incident where he got beaten so profusely by the other kids who had enough of him. He got so traumatic by that incident and he quit school without finishing his secondary school. Maybe his dad’s wealth makes that possible. After that he joined martial arts to gain back his self esteem and to protect himself from incidents like that. He took years and years to learn all that just to build up himself again. Over the years, maybe he learnt so much why the kids didn’t like him. After many years later, he became someone else. He now knows to respect people who deserve it. He earns people’s respect from the new man that he becomes.
After years living with peace, he mixes with new people, have new friends and all. Suddenly his pastime is catching up. I, as one of his new good female friends, didn’t know about his past. Out of nowhere, the person who used to know him bumped into me and started saying things about him. More and more of his pastimes were exposed. When I relayed the things to him, he became so disturbed and embarrassed. He said “There’s something so bad happened to me before. I won’t tell you no matter what you say.” Suddenly he became so vulnerable and like he totally lost that power and drive. The incident must still be haunting him. I didn’t understand. Until soon after, I heard from more and more people that one of the schoolmates leaked the embarrassing incident that he got beaten up badly and had to quit school. I felt so pity on him because He was Punished for his past. I told these people this, “Hey stop it. Whatever you guys speak about the person, I don’t buy it. You are talking about 10 years ago. Are you guys that great already? You guys never make mistakes?” Is it fair? Do you want anything like that to happen to your younger brother or sister? Or maybe one day, your kids? My goodness people. Don’t you guys see that?
If you try to influence people to start punishing someone because “he was a bad kid” 10 years ago – tell you what, your act of Framing this person today – I hope someone would punish u back 10 years later. STOP it, you hear me?? Get a life! Let people start a clean slate. People make mistakes. People learn from mistakes. Whatever that people feel about someone, let it be because of their own evaluation on who the person is at the present and you don’t bring up what’s past cos trust me you were once that dumb kid who knew nothing until you learnt something from school. You are in no position to punish others. Especially in most cases, the person didn’t even do anything wrong to you. You were just the spectator and now you become the executer. Whatta pathetic loser that makes you!!
As much as you would want to be given a second chance to be a better person, you first MUST give that chance to others. Come on you guys…Life is short. Let people have their equal space on this Earth. If anybody were to punish anyone on this planet, definitely not you, but if you still do it, I think you deserve to get punished by someone else too later in your life. Whether you like it or not, let you decide about it later. Fair enough.
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