The Gold Digger In Disguise

What’s a Gold Digger? Anyone? Definition from the Wikipedia, Gold Digger is A person who dates others purely to extract money from them. Aha. Some of us would be more familiar with the name Razorblade or Pisau Cukur which is a term used in Malay language. The general idea that most of us have about the gold diggers is they are women who have it all plotted, they would only mix with the guys who they can get things from, those who easily lavish them with luxury and gifts. That’s very familiar. These women, you can sometimes know them by their appearance. They are presentable, attractively groomed, they wear accessories that makes them stand the crowd. I mean, that’s what most of us initially thought how the gold diggers start their mission to hunt for the big jaws. One more thing, if you are just The Average Joe, she might not even turn her head to you even how nice and how courteous you are to them. I don’t suggest that we generalize these presentable ladies, but just assume that we are right about a number of them, that’s good enough. This is a good indicator, not for us, ladies, but for the guys. Why? Because you men are the potential victims to be. Wow…the word victims is so terrifying. What are the things the gold diggers do to victimize these “poor” guys? Not poor in that sense, of course. Hahaha. In fact, you are seen as a Gold Mine by them before they put their spell on you and dig your gold as much as they can before they just shut you off from their lives. Whoa, that harsh? That’s the normal modus operandi.

Now the question is…is it really that easy to tell whether a woman is a gold digger or not? What about those average ladies, with their own attractiveness but are not the show offs category. Are they all safe to date? This can be tricky. Just because they look kind, good manners, good background, it doesn’t give you men the security just yet. They might be one of those gold diggers, and before you know, they have already started digging gold from you. Of course, because you are fooled by how they present themselves, you find it hard to accept the fact. You end up asking yourself why did you let yourself got dragged that far and everything that you spent on her which you consider as a worthy investment, thinking that she might be the one for you to marry and have family with, all ends in vain leaving you feeling like the most useless man on earth.

Sometimes I wonder if these ladies are all gold diggers on purpose. What if they don’t even know that they fit that name. They thought they are just being nice, follow the flow, accept a man’s kindness and generosity as far as what he’s willing to give and offer. You give her a fancy gift, you insist that she takes it, and she does just that, one after another, and another and another… until it comes to the point that you think you put so much investment on this lady, and what you can see is, she doesn’t look that thankful. Yes, she does say thank you everytime, but she does no t show the reaction that you expect. Not only that she never gives her word that she is your lady, she doesn’t even show any affection, she even ignores you whenever she has bigger things to deal and only comes back to you when she has something to benefit from you. Aha, isn’t that obvious enough? But some of you men just refuse to take this as a warning sign. You still put hope and thinking that by putting more investment, something good can happen. But nope, nothing at all. When you men are tired and start to feel that something is wrong, it’s only you start to act defensive. Now…Who to blame? Is the man’s wrong ways to handle a normal girl has turned her into one of the gold-diggers or is she entirely to be blamed, for putting a mask to fool the man? This can be quite confusing. Now the question is, can it be the men’s fault how these women be dubbed as the Gold Diggers In Disguise?

Verdi ct. BOTH ARE GUILTY. The man’s fault is when he put his first wisdom at number two and follow his heart (lust? Woops!) instead. He’s being persistent, insist to win the lady. When she doesn’t show any sign of interest, he puts more investment thinking that she might change her mind, or maybe feel a little guilty after she has taken so much, and so she has to do whatever that pleases the guy to return the favour. That’s what the guy thinks. If the girl really does so, he’s a lucky man, but what if otherwise? This is when it gonna be totally the wrong turn. He will hate this lady and accuses her of being a gold digger. So lady, can you defend yourself?

The lady’s fault is when her friendly intention to just make friends, mix with a little evil plan to just prolong the so-called friendship with the guy with a giving nature. Seeing that the guy is so into her, she enjoys it instead of stopping it cos if she stops him too early, it kills the fun. This is when the greedy human nature will play part. She thinks that it’s okay to just hold him back for a little longer, and let him show more generosity, knowing that he has an agenda to win her heart, but she has no plan to get serious with the guy. The way she secures herself is to never really say any commitment but still speak sweet words to keep the guy entertained. When it comes to the point when the guy starts being defensive about not getting exactly what he wants, the girl backs herself up that she can say she is being obvious that she’s not interested in a serious relationship, just “good buddies who hang out and share good moments and thoughts”. Ladies, if this happen to you, lose that innocent face cos you don’t have it. The time when you manipulate a guy for his manly nature, and use yourself to spellbind and, you practically fool a heart and you are definitely NOT innocent. The good ladies won’t mislead a guy and make him spend his money in vain on them cos it’s not morally proper to do. If you do nothing like that, I have no objection if the guys call you The Gold Digger In Disguise.

If any of you ladies get caught in this scenario, you don’t just make him lost a lot of money, but you have hurt his ego, eventhough this can serve as a lesson for the guy too so they can evaluate girls better next time, and never think Money can buy love. Ladies, guilty is guilty, but if you want to make up for it, maybe you can return some of the gifts to them with or without them asking back. It’s not like those gifts are “in sincere memory” once they have labeled you as a gold digger. So you want to correct your ways, do that. At least you won’t lose any more than when you lost his trust. It could be your last chance to clean your name from his “List Of Gold Diggers”. To the men, if you have not learn your lesson well, prepare a thicker log book for that list. The journey is still long for you. *LOLS. Okay, I’m kidding. Fix your ways. If you are smart enough, you can turn the gold diggers into your lovely princess. If you manage to do that, let us know. Hehehe. Good luck!!

Picture Of The Day

This is a Strawberry Cheesecake bought by a relative who just went back from visiting Indonesia. It looks nice, but I was afraid it might not taste that good but I was wrong. It taste of strawberry top and cheese layer are so strong. Yummy...Hehe