You Say Trust Is The Most Important

 Most of you will answer that TRUST is the most important thing in a relationship. So looks like everyone realizes and knows about how crucial trust is in a relationship. But how well do you Trust? Can you even trust at all? In a few talking sessions with different people, I have my debate ready. To me Trust is not the most important. In fact, TRUST is a very controversial word in a relationship. It often gets manipulated and even abused to the max. I don’t know why you guys pick something that very less people are capable of doing it right. Yes, you heard me. You can’t be preaching about Trust, but you can’t even do it yourself. So what’s that?

My argument is very simple. When you say that TRUST is the most important, maybe you need to elaborate more. In a relationship, there are two people. One person is the who gives the trust, and the other one is the person who is given the trust. I bet you must be talking about the person who is giving the trust. Cos if you ask me, yes, you must be able to trust your partner. And so you guys know it’s the right thing to do, TO TRUST your partner. Now lets talk about the other one, the one to whom trust is given to. Is it written in any kind of law, that whenever you trust someone, that someone is worth that trust? That the person will do exactly as what you trust the person to be and do? No, Right?

By the time you say you trust someone, it’s just one sided. It could be meaningless virtue when the person who gets the trust is doing it otherwise. When you think you trust the person for always telling the truth, what if he’s been telling only 10% truth. And you don’t even know it. All you know you give your trust without a doubt. And you think by giving your trust, you’ve done the right thing and you can sleep soundly. Gosh, don’t you notice where it does it go wrong?

Love and beloved. Sounds like a perfect match, right? But to love without being loved back in return does happen a lot. And the beauty of Loving someone is there, with or without getting loved back. Love is a standalone verb. It can be beautiful just on its own. But different with Trust. Trust must be 2 ways before it can mean something. It’s totally a joke when you give your trust to a person who can’t be trusted. It’s an incomplete cycle. If the person who gets the trust from you totally fails you, it makes the whole Trust cycle a stupid meaningless cycle. It can’t work any other way except for You Trust your partner and partner is as Trustworthy as you expect.

When you say Trust is the most important in a relationship, you know it’s something wrong with the sentence. Cos it also means that your partner should completely be righteous, that he doesn’t lie, he doesn’t flirt, he doesn’t two time you etc, and maybe he can pass it for a month without cheating, what about the rest of the years with you? That’s why I go straight to the point of Loyalty. Instead of trust, I pick Loyalty, because if the person is loyal, no matter what, he deserves the trust. Loyal means the person is steadfast and sticks with you and not cheat you. That explains the element of Deserving the trust, and then Trust game can come handy. So my answers from many years ago, still remain the same. I still think Loyalty wins over Trust.

Yet, I never underestimate Trust. It’s like a wonderful gift your partner can give you, provided that you deserve that trust. But then, careful. Trust easily becomes the culprit. You overlook what you should see. You give comfortable space for your other half to misuse that. You should know HOW to trust :) But if you really are confused with the issues that I raise here, stop making it difficult. Just follow your heart. If you can’t afford doubting, then go ahead and just TRUST; but make sure you deserve the same kind of trust from him. :)

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