I have a friend like this. He’s very very rich. When he asked me, “How much would your dad ask for if a guy comes to ask your hand in marriage? After considering everything, including your highest certificate” I joked and popped out an amount. And he said, “Oh, ok. Are you sure that’s just all?" Even the exaggerated amount is just half from what that he spent on repairing an abandoned car at the backyard. It’s almost a shame for any lady’s dad to ask for that low if you have him as your suitor. *Lols. Just kidding. But even with a lot of money, he’s sometimes so stressed out. He is always emotionally disturbed. I would like to shout to him, “What could be a problem for a rich man like you??”
After spending quite many hours in conversation, I understand that “FRIENDS” is always the major concern to him. He’s always complaining about his friends. He can’t find reliable friends. And why is that? Maybe he’s tired that when he hangs out with his friends, it’s always him that has to take out the money. And when his friends call him for a fun hangout, is just for him to find out that he’s the one who pays the bills. Maybe he doesn’t mind at all, but at the end of the day, he feels used. He wonders why these people want him as a friend? Is it because of his companionship or is it just because of his money? It’s really getting into his nerves when they only ask him to join them when money is involved. Knowing this, he has to be defensive so that these people get the message that he wants to be treated as “a normal friend”, not an ATM machine! Like when they hang out together, he wants that they pay for the bills together. At one point, he just wants to fight for “his right” to be treated equally. He got really sick being used because of his richness. So this is why he’s always end up dumping his friends because he doesn’t want friends like that. He wants friends who want him as “a friend”. Like you want him for his companion, and not looking at him as a walking ATM machine. He would like that sometimes that you ask him out and treat him coffee. I remember he told me one time, “Someone finally insists to pay for my drink.” (Hahahaahahahha…duii giaaa) He made it sound like a big achievement when someone treats him. I was laughing big time that time because I realize that it IS very different to be rich, right?
Another thing is, whenever he’s trying to hang out with girls, his main concerns is also “Does this girl go for my money?” He dislikes that so much. He dumped many of the girls when he found out that they wanted him because he’s rich. Well, can you blame the girls for that? If your advantage is your sweetness, people would cling to you because of your sweetness. So if it’s the only advantage that he can show to his friends, what does he expect? I think this is just something that happens naturally. You must show people what you worth. If you keep flashing your money, don’t blame people if they saw nothing but your money! Agree?
I did my small observation on him. He can do something about that. Try not to talk like “a rich man”. Try not to sound like you are at a higher rank, because if you continue to do so, don’t expect that your friends can see you as “one of them”. One thing that he often overlooks is that, in order to get accepted by the friends that he wants to be part of; he always shows that he has that much money. Nobody would reject him, right? But then he becomes so upset and resistant when he finds out that the only reason why he’s accepted to be one of them is because he has money.
As a friend, I saw his other qualities. I don’t think most of his friends saw those qualities. Why? Because he doesn’t let them. Maybe he’s too busy talking about money and nothing else. But when he talks with me, I never bring up the money matters, so that he has the space to talk about other things, and that’s when I saw his different sides. So is it too late for him to correct how others perceive him? Nothing is ever too late. But he must start somewhere.
We all know that there are many things that money can’t buy. Even the rich man knows that too. But I told him something.
“You can buy friends, but RESPECT is something that you have to earn”
Yes, people can fake it that they have respects for you, but Not For Long.
Again, it’s not that easy to be a very rich man, right? Now that’s fair or what? Hehehe. Stories like this remind me how much I should be grateful about my moderate and low profile life. At least I don’t spend sleepless night in pain thinking that I’m not worthy for a sincere friendship.
Actually, he can make his richness works for him, instead of works against him. Let’s not blame on his richness, right? A little attitude adjustment might just spell wonders for him.
Good luck :)
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