Mengambil Kesempatan Dalam Kesempitan

If you guys kenal sesiapa saudara mara yang ada kemahiran tertentu, then adakah kamu akan mempergunakan hubungan saudara kamu tu untuk mendapat faedah daripada kemahiran dia tu? Contohnya, mentang2 la kamu ada saudara yang mahir bertukang, kamu berabis pok mau dapat ukiran kayu dengan percuma daripada dia? Kamu buat permintaan itu ini, and then cakap, “Nanti sia bayar”, but then bila sudah siap benda tu, and then bila dia kasi harga, kamu rasa nda puas hati sebab saudara sendiri pun mau juga caj mahal2. Or paling senang cerita, kamu actually expect benda tu free bah!!!

Nah…kamu pikir sekejap, sama ada kamu adalah jenis org yang mcm ni. Orang yang mengambil kesempatan dan memerah abis abisan keluarga dan saudara mara kamu, cari ruang yg kamu boleh mendapat keuntungan daripada apa saja, mengikut apa yang boleh dikasi oleh dorang yang boleh membawa faedah sama kau.

Sia ni SELALU kena macam ni. Sebab sia suka buat macam2 benda yang berlainan. Walaupun sia tidak lah sebagus mana dalam setiap perkara tu, but compared sama orang lain yang betul2 tidak tau, memang apa yang sia boleh buat tu maybe good enough. Better than nothing. So, when you become a multi-tasking punya orang, memang kau lah jadi orang yang paling sibuk bila kau diperlukan.

At times, you feel that you’re a very useful person. So the feeling is very rewarding. Like everyone is looking for you, coming to you to refer about something – sampaikan kau rasa, kalau kau teda sana, memang byk benda yang tidak jadi. Okay, actually benda ni best juga. Kau rasa betul2 berguna. But ada masanya, kau rasa betul2 tertekan sebab bebanan tu terlalu banyak untuk kau tanggung. Okay fine. Memang bagus menjadi orang yang diharap.

But when it involves your professional skill, it should be a different thing. Time for leisure tu memang kau tidak berkira, because it involves you. But when it doesn’t involve you, and when people just come and ask for your skill, it should be professional business deal. Because you are paid for it by your other customers. So when your own relatives come and ask for your favour that involve your professional skill, should it be for free? It’s so easy to say Yes, when it is you who are asking for it. But wait until you become the person they ask the favour from, then you‘ll know what I’m talking about.

And not just relatives, the friends of your parents, the friends of your siblings, the friends of your relatives- are using their link with the person who has blood relationship with you, to get the best price, (if you really can’t give it free! Ouch!!!) This really puts me in a hard situation. For example, my mom’s friends are using my mom to get special treatment for my favour, like they want it fast, but then they can pay anytime they want, since that “I know your mom ba, so bila2 pun can pay.”

Actually, I’m more on the ethics side of this. I can say to you that the money is nothing compared to my ethical concerns. I don’t like it when people are taking advantage. I HATE IT SERIOUSLY!!! The money from some unethical customers won’t make me rich, but if I let them do this to me once, it’s my own failure in sending the message that I don’t take craps. The lesson that I want to teach them is that, they can’t use any of my family to get family treatment from me! Instead of going to me directly, they use my parents. So memang they come to the right people to do it, cos my parents ni kadang2 lembut hati dan tidak sampai hati mau bertegas. So they can pay bila2 saja dorang suka. Sia paling tidak suka when orang take advantage sama my own family just untuk save a few ringgit yang tidak pun kasi kaya dorang.

Ini betul2 satu perangai yang “tidak boleh pakai” punya. I can only give that treatment to my own family, itupun dorang tidak akan buat mcm tu. Even my own parents insist to pay for my favour that involves my work. Because they know this is professional deal. If ini cuma hoby suka2 hati, maybe itu lain cerita. When it becomes someone’s source of income, it’s totally a different thing.

I give a clear scenario. Some of my relatives insist that I do some work for them, and they ask it through my dad. I become so hesitant to do the work because my price for those works is not low. I don’t ask for these people to come to me. I emphasize that my price is higher than what they might expect. They still insist. It’s so so annoying! I know that they insist that I do it because they can use the “familyship” to maybe get those works for free. And then if I still charge – mula lah complain2 cakap, “Teruk oh si 256 tu, adakah sama saudara sendiri pun mau berkira.” Aiyooooooooooooo!!!

So situasi mcm ni memang bikin pening kepala. Something that you can do is respect orang lain. Itu yg paling penting. Kalau kau respect orang, kau akan tau value kerja dorang. Sia paling nda suka sampai mama bapa sia pun kana babit, gara2 dorang mau dapat special price. Kalau these people masih buat mcm ni, you guys know what I’m gonna do? Sia akan reject semua tu kerja. Senang cerita.

*Grinz.

/me tinguk tempat lain sambil buat muka nda tau apa2. Hahahahahaha