Ni Barulah Husband Mithali!

Yesterday I took the chance to meet my best close buddy who gave birth to a babygirl less than a year ago. Apa lagi si kawan, menginterview la abis-abisan! Hahahahahaha. (Si kawan dalam ayat ni merujuk kepada sia sendiri ok? hehehehe) Dia ni pernah tinggal sebilik dengan sia, pernah cold war dengan sia, pernah complain sia pasang radio terlampau kuat, selalu sindir2 sia sebab suka nyanyi masa mandi, dan antara banyak2 kawan sia, dia la yang paling kenal perangai sia. Jadi KALAU la ada sorang di antara kawan2 sia yang wujud di dunia ni yang masih stay jadi kawan sia sampai bila2 adalah DIA, pun sia rasa syukur sudah. Sebab she knows keburukan sia, dan masih anggap sia ni bestfriend dia. I tell you guys, cukup syukur sudah kalau ada satu kawan macam ni.

I know her husband too. Also a friend sama2 study dulu. Who would have known, this humble guy who wasn’t famous enough to be “the talk-about” among the girls, actually become my best buddy’s husband. So, is he a good husband or what?

“Masa kami pulang kerja, mula sudah dia sibuk. Dia cakap, “Bah, capat2 kau mandi, sia mau cuci kain ni.” Terus sia main ampai ja tu kain2 di lantai, kelam kabut dia pungut dan pigi cuci. Lepas tu dia pigi jemur tu kain semua. Lepas kami makan, dia yang cuci tu pinggan mangkuk semua. Lepas tu, dia sapu lantai. Lepas dia sapu, dia mop lagi dua kali. Kalau masa malam tu masa tidur, selalu dia yang kasi bangun sia, “Tu baby mau menyusu sudah tu.” And then kalau tu baby kami batuk2, capat2 dia kasi angkat sikit kepala tu baby. Dia tukar pampers lagi semua. Kadang2 dia yang berjaga lewat tu untuk tinguk tu baby. Lepas tu, ada masa yang sia plan mau kami dua ja keluar and kasi tinggal tu baby tempat mentua sia, terus dia cakap, “Jangan sekali2 kasi tinggal tu baby kita.”

Masa kawan sia cerita tu kan, sambil jua sia terbayang tu muka dan perwatakan husband dia yang nampak calm saja. Cakap pun slow ja. And sia terbayang dia buat semua benda yang kawan sia cakap tu kan, terus sia pula yg terharu ni ba. Balik2 sia cakap… “Duiii giaaaaaaa” Dakat2 keluar jua air mata sia o. *Lols.

Since kawan sia tu sudah lalui kesakitan yang mcm2 selama berbulan-bulan masa mengandung dan beranak, so mimang dia take over banyak kerja sebab dia rasa bini dia tu terlalu penat ba sudah tu. Dan dia buat semua dengan volunteer ja. Buli2 kawan sia cakap, “Actually, mimang menyapu sama mop lantai la kerja dia hari2 tu.”

Kawan sia yang gayanya nakal2 jua mcm sia tu, selamba cerita in a sarcastic way. Sampat lagi dia buat lawak ba. Dakat jua pecah memecah tu dinding daripada kamirang punya ketawa. *Lols

Then after that, I said to her,

“You made the right choice kan.”

Kawan sia tidak buli deny yang she made the right choice. Actually I knew how hard it was for her back then. She loved another guy who seemed to give her “the thrill” of life that she was seeking for. She loved the guy separuh gila. But this man (her husband now), was there for her all the time she was experiencing disappointment in relationships. Maybe because he was there all the time, she could not see him more than a friend. He was “an easy catch” for her when she could actually try out with better guys out there. It was what in her mind back then. She knew she could opt for better life with the other guy that she loved – she could travel and she could expect bigger things. But fate has a way of telling you what you are destined to be and to do. The ways got really tough for her and the man she loved and finally she picked the patient guy who might not offer her all the thrills in life but A simple Life to be shared with her.

It was a sacrifice. I know how much my friend cried for weeks because she had to let go the guy she loved after doing so much thinking on WHO would be the best person to live with. It was painful for her when her wisdom picked the guy who she didn’t love that much. But this guy could give her security that mostly comes from the many years of friendship.

Ini betul2 satu cerita yang membuktikan satu teori sia.

A Good Life Is Not A Fluke. Kau yang buat keputusan, kau akan terima baik buruk keputusan kau.

I told my friend just that. She sangat2 setuju.

“Kalau sia pikir cinta, bukan dia yang sia kawin. I could end up regretting my decision when I come to this very same moment. But as a result, I can gladly say,

“I’M GLAD I PICKED HIM.”

Ini betul2 satu bukti bahawa kau berkuasa buat pilihan dan sama ada kau ikut akal kau, atau hati kau – tapi usually, yang ikut akal ni, kau nda akan menyesal punya, melainkan takdir sudah campur tangan dan kau teda kuasa mau ubah.

Then speaking of her husband, I asked her this,

“Oh Man, What Else Do You Want? You Have Everything sudah tu.”

Of course my friend akan cakap…”Tapi dia tu bikin geram juga tu kadang2…”

Then I potong,

“I tell you ahh…bini2 orang di luar sana tu yang husband dia jenis tidak peduli dan tidak akan buat benda2 husband kau buat, I bet dorang akan wish “Kalau la husband dorang tu buli buat semua yg mcm husband kau buat, dorang akan tolerate with semua kelemahan husband dorang yang ada. Pasal bukan senang mau dapat husband mithali macam tu ba, kau tau ka?”

Terus kawan sia angguk sambil senyum malu2 kunu tiba2. Deiiiii. *Lols.

Tiba2 ada husbandnya tu datang duduk kejap with us. Sia senyum ja tinguk muka dia yang calm tu. Lagipun sia rasa dia belum tau tu yang sia sudah tau dia paling rajin menyapu dan mop lantai rumahnya tu. Hehehehehe. It must take a man yang hatinya betul2 committed towards a family yg bagus, baru la buli buat semua tu.

Anyway, benda mcm ni la yang sia mau lihat dan dengar, then I can feel so good about this life.

Good things still exist pula kan guys :)

Maybe satu dunia tidak payah tau yang dia tu adalah seorang husband Mithali, yang penting, anak bini dia tau they have the best man that will take care of them, dan kalau ini berkekalan (mudah-mudahan), harap2 juga jadi contoh dan tauladan sama yang lain kan :) (Erkss…ya laa…termasuk diri sia sendiri la baitu. Deiii…mau jua sia cakap ba. Hehehe)