Are You A Big-Hearted Donor?

Do you know how to measure the price of one’s sweat?

I’m not used to “giving price” to one’s sweat, that’s why I always ask, “How much do you ask for if I ask for your favour?” The main reason I ask is so I know how much the person is expecting so that I know how much I’m going to pay. It’s like a fair trade. But there are times when the people you ask for favour from are not bold enough to name the price. They tend to say, “It’s Up To You.” Or “Ikut kau saja”

Doii!! Punyalah sia nda suka bila orang cakap macam tu. I actually prefer it to be professional. I ask for your favour, I should pay a certain price that you think equivalent for the task that you do for me. So lately I needed a lot of work to be done. I needed a lot of people to do tasks for me. It’s even harder when your family members offer to do the job – and usually if you pay them, they will feel embarrassed to accept the money. Of course usually we prefer our family or relatives do the job for us thinking that we could save money because they won’t ask you as much as the what other people would. But if this is what you’re after, you might be wrong cos sometimes you could end up paying more, thinking that you have to be compassionate with your family members. “Jangan terlampau berkira sama sodara sendiri” orang cakap. Hehehe. Well, what do you say?

Tomorrow I’m going to ask for some “helping hands” to move my stuff to my new workplace. So I asked my mom just now, how much should I pay these guys?

My mom said, RM 50 sounds like a good amount. I asked, “Tidak terlampau banyak ka tu?” Cos all they need to do it lift the furniture downstairs, that’s all! Then my mom said, “Kira macam kau tulung2 juga ba dorang tu. Lain kali besar hati dorang mau tulung kalau ada apa2.” Then I was thinking – I thought that RM50 was too big for the task. But the same guys helped me before, I actually gave them RM 100 for helping me to move my stuff into another room and to disconnect the electrical appliances. “Sepa suruh kau kasi banyak sebelum ni,” said my mom. Then I went pening sekejap. For tomorrow, the job is much easier. I thought that it is a large amount for them, and it won’t be so much task for them because lifting the heavy furniture is just nothing to them. But I spare them compassions knowing that it would be a big amount for them and it would mean so much to them because money doesn't come easy. Like my mom always say, “Macam sedekah juga ba tu.” But then, look at me, am I in the position to be a big-hearted donor? Now that I will need to use a lot of money to arrange things since I move to a new workplace, is this the time to be generous? Hahaahahaha.

I agree with my mom that it would mean a lot for the people if I can be a little generous to them. I know that it’s gonna make them happy. I know that God will be happy too. But what I have in my mind is I should be in a very good financial situation before it’s proper for me to “donate”. Erks. But the question is, is it just an excuse? Will there be a time when we have Enough to share a little portion of what we have with others? Or are the people who use this excuse are just plain stingy? Like so kedekut like Haji Bakhil? *Lols

I remember having my brunch at a nearby restaurant. It has been many mornings that I eat there. Biasanya akan ada ni apek tua yang datang dari meja ke meja untuk minta derma. Macam sudah jadi satu jadual untuk dia yang dia akan datang restoren tu setiap jam sebab biasanya dalam tempoh tu memang orang yg duduk di meja tu sudah bertukar. Awal2 tu, memang sia tidak akan bagi. Sebab masa sia mula selalu datang makan di sana, sia sentiasa pikir my problems so memang sia rasa yang sia sendiri pun lebih banyak problem daripada tu apek. *Lols. So maybe kebanyakan orang di sana pun pikir mcm sia cos jarang yg mau bagi. That apek memang sedikit disabled dan dia memang sudah tua. So adakah orang2 di sana memang ada cukup2 duit untuk bayar makanan saja, or dorang rasa tu apek malas berusaha or dorang takut tu apek akan sentiasa minta dengan dorang bila dorang bagi sekali? Ahaa… macam2 sebab.

But until one morning. Hati sia hepi sikit. Sia tengok keliling. Sia cari itu apek. “Mana tu apek ah?” Hahaahahahaha. Then betul2 panjang umur dia. Nda lama tu, dia datang lagi dan mula lah pegi dari satu meja ke satu meja. Yang funnynya, oleh kerana mood sia bagus tu hari, sia memang mau derma sama ni apek. So lucu juga sia rasa cos biarpun dia sedang menuju ke arah meja sia, dari jauh lagi sia ready untuk bagi dia. Itu apek pun takajut tu kali sebab “uii…bersemangat jua ni urg mau kasi derma,” dalam hati tu apek. Hahaahahahahahahahaha.

Pernah juga dulu. Masa sia keluar lepak dengan kawan2 sia. Ada ni org pekak/bisu yang datang and jual that red bean yg ada tulisan, dorang minta RM5 untuk setiap tu. It’s like menderma and get a gift. Tapi ganjil pula kan sebab dorang yg tentukan jumlah derma tu. Heheehe. So masa tu sia terus kasi keluar duit and bagi. Dalam hati sia, “Dapat berkat juga ba tu.” But then, my friends mcm sembunyi expressi terkejut dorang. Maybe dorang pikir yg, ndakkanlah si [256] nda pandai pikir yg dorg tu semua lengkap anggota badan, cuma bisu dan pekak saja. Tapi kejanya cuma minta derma. Tangan dorang buli buat byk keja yang layak untuk dorang digaji. Then…the question is…

Adakah kejadian “memberi derma” tu adalah berpandukan kepada keikhlasan tangan yang memberi atau “kelayakan” orang yg menerima derma tu?

Bagi sia, biarpun sia tau org tu sangat susah dan layak menerima derma, tapi kalau sia sendiri pun rasa diri sia sendiri pun tidak berkemampuan untuk bagi apa2, still I don’t give. Tapi kalau rasa diri berkemampuan, biarpun orang tu bukannya susah sangat, tetap ringan juga tangan memberi. Pokoknya, memang bagus dapat share something dengan orang dan buat dorang senyum. Kalau rezeki kita murah, inilah masanya bila kita tidak payah berkira berapa yang kita mampu bagi dengan orang sebab kita nda tau bahawa apa yang kita bagi tu mungkin dapat menyelamatkan satu nyawa atau menyebabkan kebahagiaan dan kegembiraan. Mungkin kita tidak tau pun yang ada orang bersyukur dalam doa dorang “for sending me an angel” dan angel itu adalah kamu. Pikir punya pikir, like my mom said…itu harta bukan bawa pigi dunia sebelah. Kalau mampu, share2 la dengan mereka yang kurang bernasib baik :) Sepa tau, esok lusa, masa kamu pula :)

Note: Mudah-mudahan Tuhan kasi banyak rezeki boleh share2 dengan orang yg baik hati...and hopefully dorang get inspired by it and dorang pun akan share2 juga dengan orang lain bila dorang senang nanti :)