256's July Journal Day 21:Your Dream Goddess

I talked to a guyfriend recently. He came to me for opinion on relationship. He finds it hard to hook up with girls who have interest in him. He wants to look for a wife candidate but he just can't see the line up of fans who are waiting qualified to fill that spot. For how many times I told him, with different women, I asked him it’s better to learn to love back the one who loves you than to look for someone he likes and go through all the difficulty of trying to win her, that’s if she’s even available. When I asked him why, he said that this woman, or that woman, doesn’t have the kind of look that he wants. I was like, What? Then I know his real problem. Once upon a time, every guys were like him. They watched Greek movies, read about Venus and Psyche, and saw those kind of beauty in the magazines and even in beauty pageant shows on tv. They wanted to date someone with that kind of beauty. Which also applies that she’s fair, tall, slim, smooth skin – flawless Goddess beauty. I bet the guys all started that way. Then some started to lose it when they found out the girls next door were nothing like that, but they were cute in a way. Then some even tolerated more when these cute girls next door, were lacking in things that they never knew were important before. Then some of them started to look for qualities that they couldn’t compromise, and they found out that the requirement for looks is getting to further below the list. Some of these guys have learnt that if they insist to look for Goddess quality in a girl, they would end up alone. They doubted that she even existed. Then that’s why I told this friend, until you become one of them, you would never locate the perfect woman to marry. If one day you realize the needs to accept, adjust and compromise, it’s the day when you finally find someone, cos it’s by then you are one of them. “Lose that Dream Goddess” They are only for the Greek Gods, and not for real man like you :) (And sorry, they will remain good in books and beliefs, never reality.)