The Unexplainable Prince Charming

Once upon a time, you wished for a Prince Charming everyone was talking about. The one who was in the image of a perfect guy that you could ever imagined. From his looks, to how he behave, to how he could provide you all the life necessities, and most important, how he treated and loved you dearly. You’ve had that kind of wish when you first started watching Cinderella and Snow White, and how you dressed up your Barbie doll and combed her hair, and looking at the images in the magazines and tv, made you picture yourself when you grew up one day. What a perfect match you imagined you would become for the dear Prince Charming. People been talking about all this Fairytales ideas that have been exaggerated and influenced our mind, which has misled us about the reality of “no such fairytale”. It took us a while to realize that maybe we should come up with a better formula to fix our childhood idea of a Prince Charming. 

All the criteria we list since we were early teens were really tight. We wanted a lot of things in a man. When we looked at our list, it was a little ridiculous when what we wanted was actually even contradicting to one another. For example, you like a guy to have a rugged appearance but at the same time you want him to have that professional career man appearance so he can impress your parents. Something like that. After going through the list, we notice that our specification is already too good to be true for any man or any human being to be. Year by year, sticking to our requirement only makes us complain that it’s just hard to locate for the Prince Charming. Every year looking in vain, slowly we are fixing our list. The harder it takes to find someone that fits the cut, the more alteration should be made to the list. Some of our criteria has changed with maturity. Most surprisingly, our Prince Charming was all started with this vision of A Handsome Man. 10 years later, No more Handsome Prince Charming. Not that it’s hard to find one, but we finally realize that a handsome face is just nice to look at, but does not promise anything. It even brings insecurity when he gets a lot of attentions. Oh man. It’s just funny how we start to count at things that we never thought would matter. Now we know…now we know. 

Still, the quest is as tough as ever. Especially when we have this list of Rejected Traits, we didn’t even give them the chance to prove themselves. Oh man. Now what? Hahaha. Then to our surprise, we start to compromise on that list too! As much as we make ourselves clear that we would Never date someone with certain character; the next thing you know, YOU ARE DATING ONE!! How do you explain that? Suddenly all your list gone haywire because you are dating someone who are totally not evaluated in a way that compliments your list. But then you are dating him! Can you explain that? Back then you said you like a rugged guy with slightly long hair, with ear ring and tattoo, and sweet smile etc, Oh, and look at the man you are dating. He’s nothing like that. Maybe he has one or two things that still in favour of your list, but back then, you would not give this person with such trait, a chance to even know you more. And the things in your Rejected Traits list are there in this man you are dating, whom you won’t be dating if you find him not attractive in the first place!! Explain that! All the things that you have no tolerance for, in reality, are the things that you are currently tolerating, and you take every comfort of doing that. It’s not even with hard effort. Things just happen so miracoulously easy for you. The things you Won’t Do before, are the things you are putting into a habit and you are enjoying it because you find out exploring new things are not even breaking your principles yet. I mean, Garsh, what have been holding you back all this time? Can you explain that?? 

That’s why, to those who have not yet gone through this process…let me just make it easier for you all. Go easy on this criteria things cos most of the things that you built from your younger days are not exactly what reality can offer you. I mean, reality offers you MORE adventure, More surprises and definitely, more fun. How’s that? Reality doesn’t look at any fricking list before it can happen before your eyes. You have to keep your option opened for anything unpredictable because it’s the hidden treasure that will only open when it’s time. And in the quest of looking for your Prince Charming, just say sorry to your old list if you have to tear and burn it cos maybe you want someone who has everything you listed but maybe just as a main character of your next storybook or movie, but NOT the one you want to marry and live with. Yeah, imagine that. The one that you want to live with is just a normal man who swears, who gets angry, who tell white lies, who is lazy at times, who doesn’t have a stylish hair, who doesn’t have a six pack and the list goes on. How average is this man compared to your childhood Prince Charming and why does everything feels right? This is the point of discovery that it’s not you looking for someone with certain qualities then only you hook up with him, but it’s after you hook up with someone and find everything is in place, you realize whoever that person is, is your real Prince Charming. 

One more thing, ladies, don’t you think the guys have their dream Princess Charming too? Look at who we are today, do you think we are close to that ideal Princess Charming they guys are looking for? Yeah, the next thing they know, they are dating us and we are nothing like the princess charming of their dream. Explain that, please? Exactly. You get my point. Exactly the same process like the above. We are our Prince Charming’s Princess Charming… and what makes it right is when both of us finally make a pact and complete this match. Another God given grace to human race. So much for the coming Valentine’s Day, Congrats to those who found their match. The next mission is To Live Happily Every After. Emm.

*giggles.