What Really Matters For The Hearts

I’m really putting into practice the concept that I’ve delayed for long enough. We heard about moderation way too often. But this is more than that. This is about trying to focus on the basic elements that connect 2 hearts. Sometimes, trying to be at par with what’s latest on the trend will only take the real essence away, and the next thing you know, you are losing consciousness on why you are doing all that and for what. That’s why I want to start doing it differently. Act before it’s too late. Focus on what really matters for the heart.

I’ ve been there where special occasions were really important and we demanded too much from our partner to show his love for us. And your partner demanded the same from you. Everytime it was coming to a special date, suddenly it became so stressful, because you wanted to do or give something better than last time. You and your constraints, and knowing that as if the day is all you have to show that your love is still ongoing. Anything less might be a bad signal to the other, and instead of making him/her happy, you make someone come home in tears. Although your love is still standing strong, you just could not catch up with the demand of love parade, and you are obligated to give more than you can afford to make that happen. Been there?

Suddenly a relationship that has started with a pure chemistry and attraction has strayed from the track. Now it becomes more to “how much you can actually show it” – it’s as long as other people can see that and have an impression that “you’re loved” it’s good enough for you. Suddenly your relationship is entirely about A SHOW. Although both of you have not anymore talking the way you did, no more really interesting details in communications, no more butterflies in the stomach and no more heart beating faster, suddenly the only thing that left is THE SHOW. As long as others are still impressed by how you two are doing it in public on special occasions, the relationship is still relevant. But as time goes, it’s almost no more element of “pure interest”, just a very tiring and troubling relationship. And sadly, the next thing you want is for it to be Over. Been there?

That’s why I want to make it a habit, to always keep in touch in WHY we are together in the first place. Experience showed me that the most humble couple are those who can make it through. Yea, back then they were losing it a bit when they didn’t get to impress a lot of people with their moderate relationship. People were having firecrackers up in the sky and what they have was only a candle lit at the corner of the room. But today, I am impressed that they have realized about this way before and I am only starting to do it. During special occasions, what matters to them is to just spend some time together, having intimate talks that are sweet enough for each other’s ears, reminding each other “Why are we here in this relationship in the first place”. That’s why they never forget and never think that it’s burdensome to be by each other’s side. It’s just another body sitting beside another, without the outside element that define the bond any better than their pure feeling for each other.

That’s what I want and we have enough of testing ground, it’s time for the real deal. Go back to what really matters for the heart. One is You, one is Me. Just you and me. Nothing else. :))