“Wait For Me…”

Once upon a time, there was this one loving couple. They had been going out for a year or so and their relationship was looking good. Although they didn’t meet up everyday, but they always kept in touch on the phone. The girl told me how she was approached by a few guys before she decided to pick the guy as her lover. 
 

Although the girl had a lot of fans who kept approaching her, she was always the loyal type. However, they both never took the initiative to meet up with each other’s family because they thought they weren’t ready for that. Throughout the age of the relationship, they had been through so many tribulations to stay together. One of the biggest was when she received a phonecall from a friend telling that she saw the boyfriend’s name in the invitation card for the upcoming wedding at the kampong nearby and the girl was so in shock and she cried so hard. She got the boyfriend on the phone and her boyfriend denied it. He clarified the matter that it was really a mistake because of the same name. They got through one wave of test after another and it made them even closer together despite the little distance.

One day, the guy rang her up. He told her about a 1-month course that he had to attend in Japan. The girl was so devastated knowing that the guy had to go miles away. She cried all the nights counting to the day of his flight. At the airport, the guy was feeling so heavy looking at the sad girlfriend’s teary eyes. She was so concerned on how they gonna be in touch during that 1 month. She told him that he must try all he could to contact her so she won’t have to worry about his safety and everything. He said he would do exactly that. He told her not to worry. He told her to take care. He told her to “Wait For Me…” before he left for the plane.

The countdown began on the day after. The girl was counting every minute, every second and day. She was always restless even at the office. She kept waiting for a phonecall. Every ring made her jumped. But it was NEVER from him. She tried to ring his number and it got through but no one picked up. She sent SMS and MMS countless of times but she never gotten a reply. It made her dead worried that anything bad could happen to him. For 30 days, the last word the guy said at the airport kept playing in her mind. The words that gave her Hope. She remembered his face while saying it. It was the most sincere face that she could recall. She remembered when he said, “Wait For Me.” Yes, she would wait for him. After everything that they had gone through together, you bet she would wait for him. 30 days were finally over.

She waited for the important call that he had arrived back to Malaysia. He should be back on the first day after the 1 month was over. She didn’t receive a call. She waited on the second day, and then the third and so on. After 3 months, she officially never had gotten any news from the guy. The girl was out of tears to cry. She came up with 1001 theories on why he didn’t even ring her. But everytime she thought that the guy was cheating on her, she denied that thought because if he meant to leave her, he would say anything else but not “Wait For Me.” She asked us, Why??? Why did he say that if he already has someone else? Why did he lie to me?

Not long after that, she heard some news that someone saw that guy in town. Another news was from another friend that his boyfriend’s name appear in the invitation card for the upcoming wedding. Of course she thought it was a joke. She had it worse before, she won’t believe it again. Just that, this time the boyfriend wasn’t there to speak for himself. She even thought of hiring someone to bring her to the guy’s kampong to meet him and ask for explanation. After weighing all evidence and her hunch, she could feel that the news could be true. The guy has someone new and did not have the guts to tell her and used the course to Japan as an excuse to get rid of her. My gawd. Imagine that.

“If he has someone else just say it. It won’t be as much hurting as being left stranded like this asking a lot of questions every single day and never found the answer. After everything, at least I deserve to get a goodbye if he has ceased to love me. To get a goodbye in the form of False Hope only make him the most heartless person I have ever known and I couldn’t even put a name to the memories of his existence in my life. I did everything to him and this is how he repays me. He lied to me even in his very last words to me.”

Men…are we not complicated enough that we couldn’t find any logic in your decision, to make you guys less complicated than us? Men…do you have a heart or a brain or none of the above to at least treat the woman who you once have loved in a respectful way? Why do you have to mislead the girls with thousands of sweet words that you didn’t mean and didn’t any of your lifetime lessons teach you anything about how virtuous it is to keep your words and promises, at least to be responsible in your every words and acts and do you even know that the girl you have been feeding lies are also A Human Being? This friend’s case alone made us agree on many things about guys. One of them is that – We know nothing about men.

Men…if you fail to be A MAN it doesn’t mean that we deserve to not be treated as the woman we are.

“WAIT FOR ME” means you ask the girl to wait for you and you will come home for her. We don’t need a freaking months of agony just to find out that what you men mean by that is actually “Don’t Wait For Me.”

Note: That was such a sad story. Luckily the girl has moved on and found someone new who loves her wholeheartedly. She said to me, had he not been a loser earlier than that, she would get stuck with him longer.  I adore that courage. Remember, “If it doesn’t kill you it will make you stronger.” :)