"Her Forgiveness"

Sammi Cheng and Andy Hui, both are famous Hong Kong celebrities, got married in 2013. They were referred as fairytale couple. But is fairytale even real? 

Then one day, the bomb was dropped. The taxi recorded the video that proved Andy Hui was cheating on his wife with another celebrity, Jacqueline Wong. The taxi driver actually sold the second video that might reveal more. Lets say the video was never taken, the cheating still took place but no one had to come forward and explain. And apologize.

So maybe after the pressure that was built by the media, friends and family, Andy Hui did a press conference and admitted everything. Tearfully. He said he was drunk but could not make it as an excuse. He also admitted being lusty and he did not know himself anymore. Actually the affair has been on for months and no one would know if it was not for this leaked video. The woman he has affair with also has a celebrity boyfriend.

Actually, it's nothing new right? Cheating, infidelity, extramarital relationship, it's all at the tip of your fingers. According to my friend, cheating is just so easy to do. From her experience with the male colleague that she had to spend long hours on a car trip with, something could just happen between them and their spouse will not have to find out. They could just do it out of convenience, out of boredom, out of mutual understanding etc, cos when you spend a lot of time with someone that you are comfortable with, and you get too familiar and comfortable to exchange adult jokes and conversations, the next thing could be IT.

Actually, sesiapa pun buli ada di tempat si Jacqualine. Kalau kau ada chance mau rapat sama someone yang you find attractive, especially when kau adalah perempuan, kau mainkan peranan besar dalam satu cerita kecurangan. Dulu sia heran, kenapa mesti wife serang orang ke-3 dalam kebanyakan kes yang kita dengar. I used to say, "Kau tampiling duluan husband kau" (LOLS) tapi banyak betulnya juga kenapa si perempuan kedua tu yang kena serang duluan sebab...lelaki adalah lelaki. Dorang memang ada nature buaya yang sukakan perempuan. Dorang sudah kawin ka, anak sudah berderet ka, dorang sudah dicipta begitu. Begitulah kejadian makluk yg berjantina lelaki ni. Perempuan adalah kelemahan dorang. So kiranya orang di tempat si Jacqualine yang memang sudah ada boyfriend pun, kalau kau decide untuk test kau punya power sama lelaki yang kau idolize tapi kau tidak boleh miliki sebab dia sudah kawin, and then jerat kau mengena, maka terjadilah kecurangan. Tu lelaki boleh ja tolak tapi bagi dia, selagi kau nda goda dia, maybe dia tidak akan buat. Dia letakkan diri dia dalam situasi Helpless atau Tidak berdaya dan akan salahkan perempuan ke 2 tu yang goda dia. Since we know nature lelaki yang kununnya Helpless melawan godaan, dats why perempuan2 di luar sana akan terus hantam tu perempuan ke 2 duluan sebab memanipulasi kelemahan lelaki. Gitu kaitu? Hahahahahaha (Tulunglah...LOLS)

But kamu tau kah, apa yang paling menyakitkan bagi seorang perempuan? Adalah when her man cheats on her. Kau buli tolerate dia malas. Kau buli tolerate dia kedekut atau berkira. Kau buli tolerate dia tiada kerja. Semua tu memang cukup teruk. Sama juga kau buli buang dia dari hidup kau BUT sakit yg dicurangi tu sangat lain macam pedih dia. Jadi what do you think kalau kau jadi si Sammi? Belum tau lagi tiada pertumpahan darah kan? Hahahaha. Considering popularity dia, actually benda ni sangat sangat memalukan dan mencalar maruah dia. Apa lagi bila dorang laki bini sudah pamerkan imej pasangan bahagia. But what Sammi did was, SHE FORGIVES HIM. Seriously! She did that!

Berapa orang yg boleh jadi macam si Sammi? Mampukah kamu kasi maaf pasangan kamu yg curang? Luckily life ni not just about kamu dua org. Dorang kena ambil kira kerjaya, fans, family, dan reputasi. Sia teka ja yang Sammi actually teda choice yg lebih baik sebab maybe dia faham kalau dia berkeras, cerita ni akan jadi besar and it will hurt even more. Why not just publicize yang Dia maafkan laki dia especially when si Andy sudah bikin sesuatu yg sangat berani dengan menangis dan mengaku di depan press. Dia sudah ganti sama malu yg cukup besar dengan buat gitu. But then dalam hati si Sammi, hanya dia seja yg tau.

Actually teda sepa pun yg layak untuk advice sebab kita sendiri belum tentu tidak akan diuji berada di tempat si Jacqualine. And seteruk-teruk satu kecurangan, belum tentu kita tidak akan bikin macam si Sammi yang memilih untuk memaafkan. Anything new kah dalam world ni? Kawin 30 tahun pun belum tentu boleh terus sampai ke akhir. Manusia ada hati yg boleh berubah. Soal hati sangat rumit dan abstract. 1000 kali kau rasa kau tidak patut and tidak mau suka someone, but takes only one time for you to decide to listen to your heart. Sometimes it takes sacrifice juga untuk elakkan benda2 ni semua berlaku. When responsibility kau sudah melebihi kemahuan diri kau sendiri. Especially when kau ada wife yang berusaha, kau sampai hati kah? Same with the ladies juga. Kita sampai hati kah? Kalau ndamau dilambung ombak, jangan berumah di tepi pantai kan? Then pandai2 lah menilai priority masing2. Apa pun kau buat, jangan sampai MENYESAL :)