To be in a mutual loving relationship is like one wish comes true. Which means you have won the heart of a person whom you love. So does that mean after you won his heart, you should stop there and enjoy the victory?
A relationship is better when you can make it feel "new" all the time, just like when you two are still in the chasing stage. Remember the rapid heart beat all sleep smiling and floating on the cloud 9? Of course after a while., when you two start to get really comfortable with one another, the feeling of "newness" will slowly leave. There will be more visible temptations for you two. At one point, you realize that winning his heart for the first time is not enough. Same goes with him. Just like my bestfriend said, and she was married for 4 years, keeping the relationship exciting is a constant effort. If you stop making effort, it will run downhill. It might be out of sight soon, when you stop trying.
That's why. Never think that you have done enough for your partner. Always find new ways of showing each other, and renewing the feeling. We have to accept that this is how it works. New people will come, which grab your attention and his attention, especially when the new people are able to give each of you "a new type of thrill" which is gone from your relationship, and it's not even anybody's fault. It's just the natural course that things have to go through.Your role is to constantly making efforts and never forget that apart from love, it's responsibility, it's commitment, it's devotion - even when things feel like fading away a bit, be quick and put more colours. When you remember the fact that each of you is God's mission, people who come, will never stay. Cos you won't let them. Especially when you remember that the one by your side is THE BEST and irreplaceable. Remember the story about "The Most Beautiful Flower"? I posted it in Malay version before. When you found someone you truly like, forget about the rest that you haven't met, and don't worry if they could be better than the one you have now. Cos if you have the mission of getting "The Most Beautiful" you will end up with no one. Those who have been out there hunting for so long, will understand that you can find many wonderful people who you can opt as a lifemate. But not all can give you back the kind of love that you need and make you feel whole. It's time to count your blessing.
One more thing, if you can win again the heart that you have won, go ahead and win it, over and over again. Why waste your time winning the heart of new people when you have found the most deserving person whose heart you want to win? Yes, keep winning each other's heart and be one of the living proof that "This rare kind of love DOES exist". God willing.
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