Then there he is. Always there regardless the little unknown thing that was going on before. What he knows is he’s always there, putting himself in the zone that is prepared for him. Sometimes I wonder if he does get tired. Me being a person that is not so easy to handle, he has all the reason why he just can lose the fire any sooner than expected. But looks like he has his way of handling it. I saw that he means it all this time. He does.
And then…I realize something more.
I notice that his specialty is that he doesn’t Burden me the way others do. He wants to be the one who gives attention instead of just getting mine. He wants to be the one who listens more than I do listen to him. He let me talk everything I want, even if he’s too sleepy, he’ll let me cos he wants me to know that he has ears for all that and more. Although he could not spare so much thought on every single words and I have all the right to nag and sulk – but in my own limited wisdom, I just feel his sincerity more than anything else. I feel that after all said and done, he actually treats me the way I always want to be treated.
Some guys don’t get it.
They might come to me cos they think I am the most reliable person around. They like to make me their confidante. Their counselor, and they want so much to tell me a lot of things so that I can feel how important I am to them. They want to remind me how special and talented and rare I am, that they keep highlighting it to me. They can even tell me again and again how attractive can I be in some guys eyes – just because of the so called rare qualities. Yeah, if u were in my place u can imagine how flattered u’d be. But then, coming to this point of my life, I wonder if it’s what I want. I don’t know if it matters to get people flattering me for the good things – and feel needed – and feel useful – Somehow I want to take a break. I realize that I’m not a Superwoman. I wonder if they think it’s cool for me to be doing all that.
Yeah, I’m glad that I do something for others. Just to be their ears mean a lot to them. But as a woman, I do want to be, simply a woman to a man. A woman who is fragile and whose heart need to be taken care of, instead of me taking care of his heart all the time. Now I get it…Now I know.
This man does it exactly what I like and it took some time before I notice. He’s the only man who doesn’t make me feel like “an idol” that he can only admire from a distance, and think that I’m untouchable and that he can just watch from afar. No, he’s not. He’s determined that he can grab me and hold me like a man holds his someone dear. He makes me feel like a mortal human. That he can say something and hurt me and make me cry, and he doesn’t judge me by my tears.
Now I know why he’s earns that space. I just cant explain it for such a long time. But I just let him occupy that space in my life. And I think he doesn’t expect too much from me. That’s one of his winning points. Cos others just put this kind of expectation that I know I can never achieve and will judge me for every wrong move just to unreign me from being a benchmark. I never want to be a benchmark in the first place. Why make me one? This is the thing that most guys don’t get it.
But him…he just comes and he doesn’t need a guideline. He just does his things and only today I know he’s been doing all things right. He gives me comfort to be myself. I can just go ahead and play the lil girl and he will get entertained. He will let me. He will not need anymore proof that I am as smart as he used to think I am. He has done judging me for a long time.
Now I know…Now I know…
I can never think this post is as important as it is. But it is important. Cos never before that I put it so right into words The Way I Like It and Why. He just defines it all for me. Thanks, you are the man :)
