Lelaki-Lelaki Perfectionist

These perfectionist guys are among us. It’s not hard to tell whether or not the guy you are talking with, belongs to that category. I have found quite a generous number of them. In fact, they are not hard to find! You find them among the friends you associate daily in real word or even in the internet. You can just tell these guys are SoooO freaking perfectionist! Hahaha. OuchH!

The first and crucial sign that you come across one of them is HOW THEY COMMENT on women. Normal men won’t go into DETAILS when they make their comments on certain women, but THESE perfectionist guys do look through a special kind of lenses that make them see more! When you meet a guy who I categorize as normal, when you ask them about a certain gal, they would only come up with “Oh she’s cute and nice.” “She looks so sweet” “Her smile is cute” etc, something like that. On the other hand, the perfectionist guys go into much details that even the girls don’t realize that they were inspected to that length. They would detect the smallest defect on the girl’s appearance. They would comment on the hair being messy but out of courtesy he would say, “You look so much better if you go rebonding” or, if compared on the “boobs appearance” with the comments like, You two looks good but she has a little bigger breast, and when they talk about preferences on girls, they would comment about how much they dislike bad breath and bad odour in woman and they would never be a second date if they come across women like that. Wow. You guys see that?

These guys have a long list of criteria that they don’t write down but they evaluate the ladies using that criteria without them knowing! They only go out seriously with a reasonably good-looking ladies, who have perfectly put dimple, whose eyes are equally in size and guitar-shaped body, who they would not feel shamed to be caught walking together with. Ok, I’m sounding a bit too much, do you say? This is what they have been doing all along. Mind you, these guys don’t even know they belong to that category until the crucial time that they realize it’s tough to find for a match cos most of the good looking ladies are not available, and the search could take forever. Yes, they do mingle with the rest of the ladies below the criteria but they would put “Just Friends and Nothing More” when any of their friends try to matchmake them with these average ladies. Yes, they can be a good friend, they can be a good colleague or a good team player in futsal game but when it comes to a lifemate, it’s a long windy journey. It’s always about spotting “a brainy girl who is beautiful, sexy and outgoing” – Oh yeah, then “I’m gonna ask her out.”

What to do if you belong to this category? No, of course you shouldn’t weep. This isn’t something that you choose to be. It’s just how you develop your taste on women. The bad news is… these Perfectionist guys easily get unhappy because of their expectations. They always see the shortcomings in the women they meet and at the same time, keep hunting for that qualities; but as we all know…Nothing is perfect. They get frustrated a little too often because you know it’s damn tough to find something even near perfection. Luckily, many things are considered Subjective so there is still a change that some lady hit their target point. Speaking of a relationship, these perfectionist guys have so many conditions to obey. They want so many things from their gf. In case things turn sour, they would walk out from one relationship to another, for the silliest reason. Ok, don’t throw that stares at me. Hahaha. At least one or more things are true with what I just listed down. Don’t you think so? Hahaha

So as the time goes, these guys might feel a little too pressured with themselves cos they never find someone good enough to be the one they want to be with. With aging and maturity, they would then understand and realize that they should bring their standard down and tolerate more in order to find that someone who is good enough. The rest of it, you go and ask them if they are among the lucky ones who manage to get the one who perfectly fit to be called the Mrs of Mr. Perfectionist.

To the ladies who become the target of these perfectionist guys, it’s an ego-booster. But the question is, can their perfectionism help them to be good enough for you? Haha. In my experience, these kind of guys make the girls feel uptight and want to always present they best they can. In other words, to hook up with a perfectionist guy is very stressful. Ouch.

Well, this is not what the guys want. They just have it by nature. What I can say is, Perfectionism is just one of your characters. It’s tough to be a perfectionist in such an imperfect world, but I have a dare to all of these perfectionist guys. If you dare WANT a “She’s all that” kind of lady, question now is, Are you that “He’s all that” for her? That’s a Wow question. Ask yourself. Don’t just use that perfectionismon others, but on you too. Fair enough :)

NOTE: OMG, I did not mention about Perfectionist Ladies, did I? Hey hey…we are even :) (Pheww…luckily I don’t belong to that category…hehehe…*ahem!!)