We Are Not Toy Soldiers Too, Said the Guys.

I write this post to justify things from my previous post We Are Not Barbie Dolls. I talked to my cousin just now. I asked her. “What do you feel when your man cheats you before your eyes?” She said, “That’s freaking painful.” What do you feel when you man spoke all the words of love to you and you find out only a few weeks later he’s been doing the same thing to another girl? She said, “Indescribable agony.” I thank my cousin because she opened my eyes to something else.

She was just like any girls before. She fell in love and she loved with all her heart. But what she got was the man cheating on her when he “accidentally” fell in love with another girl at work. My cousin recalled slapping her boyf’s face for how many times she lost count. Her heart was crushed and scattered all over the floor. That was years before. Now it’s a different story. She is dating a new man and about to get engaged. The old guy comes back and out of pity, she still treats him well behind her man’s back. She is practically cheating her ex boyfriend into believing that they are still in a relationship and also cheating her fiancé to be. She said she did it FOR FUN because she could ask the old guy to buy/pay her things. So she has a point when she told me…

“Men women are the same. Both are cheating each other. So the question of How Hurtful it is when your guy cheats you, the guy can also be asked the same thing. We are EVEN.”

In the old days, women could be the victims because they were expected to stay at home and be the wife and mother. But not anymore. We Cannot stay the victim forever because now that we are getting even in education and then professions - now we could see why it’s so easy for men to cheat on their women as written in history. So doesn’t matter who started this, but women know now that they hold as much power. I don’t say that this is A REVENGE but logically speaking, the women just open themselves to the same options men have so this is WHERE and HOW it all happens. When you have so much temptations in front of you, THIS IS WHAT HAPPENS. You can pick 2 men instead of one and you can get your payback time before the next sunshine. Speaking of who is toying who – Yes, you guys are right that you men could be the victim too. Your lady could sweet talk you and sweep you off your feet with their charms when she’s doing the same thing to the other guy(s) behind your back. And when you find out the truth, you would start cursing all the same thing that could come out from a girl’s mouth. When she says, “I’m not a Barbie doll”, he would say, “Hey guess what, I’m not a toy soldier too!!”

What I want to conclude here is…This isn’t about gender anymore. This is about how you are going to play the game. If you have the chance to two-time your partner and you take the chance just to try out the thrill, Fine, that’s your game. If you want to make more people curse and hate you for toying with their feelings, hey, that’s individual choice. We can’t be the judge. It’s either we become the person who get hurt, or hurt – or just be the one who watch from afar (and maybe ends up writing an article like this for other people to read.)

My article with the title We Are Not Barbie Dolls was made for the guys WHO DON’T KNOW yet that WE could also turn them into a Toy Soldier if we want to. So this isn’t about gender. This is about YOUR CHOICE if you want to be virtuous and do the right thing in your love journey. If you still think that relationship is A Child Play that you can change your I Love You into I Don’t Want You Anymore in a freaking single nite, Whoaaa…trust me now is when the girls would want so much to believe that Karma does exist.

NOTE: They say that If you are a good person, your match is also a good person. How I wish that it is TRUE!!! …:)