Silent Emotions Of The Best Of Friends

We notice it or not, even among the best of our closefriends, there will be unsaid emotions that "everybody understands but won't speak about." That they think you are a great companion, and yeah, plus all the good years of ups and downs from college, and life might be treating each of you differently, some achieve more, some achieve less. But yes, we can still sit at one table feeling totally at home being with them. We share the most original jokes. None of these are forced on us. But ironically, we don't fancy our friends keep telling about the good side of their lives only. We dislike that they keep showing the bright side of only, hilighting only what's good about their physicals and relationships; sharing photos that are showing too much of happiness - I mean, they can take that, but only at a certain limit. 

 Deep inside they know you well. Noone has a perfect life, and they prefer that you stay human, show your defects, admit your misfortunes, speak about your sadness and insecurity. Too much of -only the good things- will make your friends feel uncomfortable, and they silently begin to "hate" it. It's strange, but it makes your friends feel better about themselves if you talk about your problems, talk about your struggles. They prefer if you upload some really messy photo of you, no makeover, no grooming, cos either way, it won't impress them so much too. They just... prefer the humble you and stop trying to impress them for they know you so much better than that. Aha...

Can I Get A Discount?

An older customer came today and said he wanted something like what he ordered before but he found another place that charged lower that what he paid before.

He kept asking "can I get a discount?" So upon hearing that he found another place that charged lower, I said, "Oh, why not go to that place this time?" which I really meant it.To me it's their right to get the cheapest price, they have the choice. Then he was giving me that look of, "No no, that's not what I mean". 

So he continued, "I only ask in case I can get a discount but if I can't, it's okay," Maybe he thought he had hurt me or what, but he didn't know what I was really thinking! So when he said that he wanted to order in quantity, then I said, "Ohh, why don't you tell me earlier?" So just like that, I gave him a price, which was lower than the price he expected. 

My reason is, price is just something, but it's not everything. I can understand his situation that they only started business and still came to me knowing that I charge higher, I actually have a special "price adjustment" for case by case basis. Plus, they order in quantity, so I no longer feel guilty for the generous discount. At least I agree with, Keeping your old customers is 5 times cheaper than getting new ones.

So you know, sometimes what you do effortlessly is what will earn you the discount, instead of keep bugging to get it, which won't work for me. So in the end, it's always Win-win with my customers. Fair enuff...hehe

The Dancing Sun; Do You Believe A Sun Can Dance?

I was looking for some story of Divine Mercy in youtube, when I saw this clip of the dancing sun in Philippine. If you know about what happened in Fatima, many years ago, during the first apparition of Mother Mary before the eyes of 3 kids, and how the kids requested her to show something for the people to believe that they did not make up story about seeing her. So she asked them to invite the people to gather at the field to show them a sign. So they did gather. Next was the sun started to move towards them. Well, nothing was recorded but it was witnessed by some 70,000 people from different faiths. So looks like something like that actually happened in the modern days, and they took the video live. Then I tried to look for some scientific explanation about the dancing sun; well, you can read all the theories of what people say when they refuse to believe. 

Considering the faith that I have, I also look for science alternative behind something out of curiosity. We all know that there's nothing that the technology cant do these day, we've seen enuff. Especially when you rely on things that you see and read on media, and not experience it yourself. Some will believe just about anything, as long as it will deny that it's God behind it. You know what, faith doesn't need all that miracles. Faith is around before things can be seen. To me, these miracles are for the believers. If you believe, it will work wonders on you. And you don't need explanation. After all, we believe that God made you and me, everything, every single thing even from the smallest atom. It's God that made them. So what do you think that God can't do? The Miracle of the Sun, of any kind of supernatural that are related to the existence of God, it's not so much about that miracles per se, but the IMPACT it has on the believers. Those who keep saying that this is the work of the Satan, hold it there. I am sure that Satan's mission is to divert us from our faith, and not to strengthen it. And these believers are praying to that same God, even without the miracles. It's no necessary, but when He wants to do it, you know He can do anything. ANYTHING AT ALL. 

If you can't explain it with your science, maybe for once, it's simpler to just believe that God is really up there. *winks

Do Bad Guys Necessarily Make Bad Customers?

I first know this guy about 6 years ago. He had an affair with a senior friend when he was still married, and was involved in a few cases of blackmailing/threatening people, besides being a hardcore alcoholic. Knowing all this didn't really bother me since it was none of my business. 

I dealt with the guy recently when he came as a customer. I noticed that he was really courteous. He asked for a certain favour and he never argued about price etc. He did not speak outside the deal, or said something that disturbed me. In fact, in the end, he actually said Terima kasih, which made me think again, if he was really a bad guy. 

Cos I've met guy customers who appear to be more educated, friendlier and appeared to be nice at first only to know that they could be quite disturbing. I really dislike customers who flirt, or who harass ladies even just with words, who keep bugging to get special price etc. I think guys should save us ladies from difficult attitudes, cos guys should be simpler to handle, less fussy and more considerate; assuming that they have bigger responsibilities and better things to do. Some guys really get it when certain ladies are only interested in the job and entertain no hanky panky. At the end of the day, however the guys are in other side of their lives, if they know how to respect a lady, they are still better than the rest who don't.

What Did I Get From Watching Bruce Almighty?

I watched Bruce Almighty like 3 weeks ago and I thought the movie sucks. The movie didn't try its best trying to depict how a normal man got the power of God; that God wants to see if he can handle everything as he expects Him to do. Of course it's not logic, but it's worse than not logic. It should be known to us that there's no way he can do that in a human capacity. He's not given the thought like God's. He's still functioning like himself, who is mad at some people and wants to get back to them now he has God's power. That's already a lost battle against God, right? God only gives His power but not His wisdom, so how could he manage to do better? But wait. There's one very valuable reminder that I get from this movie. It's about FREEWILL.

If I wish I were kinder or more generous, can I pray for it? Not that God can't, but would He do that? Have we been praying to be given new attitudes when we are still doing things the same way? I am wondering myself. It's ridiculous. Cos if God gives us this life just to follow everything that are pre-planned, we will be a bunch of barbies or robots, that He has no more question or judgment to make since we will all go and do what we are set to do. Correct? I really agree with Freewill. It makes the whole sense why we still choose to be bad when we know what is good, all those stuff. According to the movie, it's the only thing that God won't meddle with. If it involves Freewill, He will not have His say. So that's why, when Bruce lost his girlfriend who used to love him, he could not use his Godly power to make her love him back. Because it's out of her freewill that she thinks Bruce has changed and she doesn't love the new man he has become.

We can't simply pray to God to make anyone love us, it's our job to do something that gives people the reason to love us willingly. Just as much as others can't use God to change our feelings towards anything else. But God can help us by making us understand through things that we encounter. Even that involves freewill. If we are egoistic, if we are stubborn, we will always think that we are always right. So God can't reach to people who are without a humble heart. They will not see beyond things to understand the message that God is trying to send. So guys, now that we know about Freewill, can me make a good news out of this? Isn't this a superpower that God gives us, that He totally leaves it to us to decide. So you know, if we turn to righteousness after knowing that we could turn the other way, that explains why God really appreciate it. Because following God is the choice of freewill, and that's what it's all about. It's only through Freewill that we can become kinder, more generous, less sinful etc. How can we not use this power to become a good person? 

Stop thinking that everything happens because it's God that makes it happen that way. We have choices to make everyday. How can these choices have no impact in the outcome of our lives? So if we try to disengage the fact that everything happens "as written", we will take charge instead of just waiting for things to just simply happen. We have freewill, brothers and sisters. We will not waste this power. We will do it better from here. Alleluia! Thank you for this gift of Freewill, God. May this gives us better understanding of how much we can do to make our live into Your favour. Guide us oh Lord. Thank you :)

When The Food Is On My Plate...

It's kinda funny for someone who can buy any foods she wants to eat, but she often orders foods that are not to you liking, but when your food comes, suddenly it's the foods that she wants. That's my sister. When she orders something, she always eats just a bit and let others eat the rest because It's not tasty or I can't finish it, she said. But when it's others who order the same food, suddenly she looks like she never saw the foods at all. Suddenly it's so yummy and she can't help but steal it. Hahahahha. I saw this many times, when she scoops my foods when when I am still eating them, then the next time going there, I have to remind her to order foods that might taste good, and not just the normal kind of foods that she orders. That's why when the eatery is good, she tells people that it isn't. Simply because she orders the wrong menu, and judging from how many times she looks at what I have on my plate, I knew it that she could have picked a better menu. But she's just stubborn thinking that "my taste is different than yours" but judging from how she looks at the foods on my plate everytime, I don't think so!! Hahahaha. That's my sister. Above all that, I love her so much. The best sister in the world. So blessed to have a sister like her. As much as I dislike it that she orders the wrong menu and victimize me for that, I think it's hilarious, and the only reason why I often find the way to critisize her is that, I'm just playing the "annoying lil sister". I guess I'm used to bla bla bla whenever she takes anything from me without me handing it to her. LOLS. My oh My. Now I'm reminded how luck I am to have a sister, and that I become closer to her again because of the times we spend eating out together after work...Hehe. 

Thank you God for the foods on our plates...:)) 

How Personal Is Your Fb Like?

It used to be very personal to me. When I click Like to any post or page, it means that I don't just like it, but I agree to every idea that the person is writing, that the post must at least inspire me, or entertainment me at some level, and my Fb likes mean that people can tell something about me from what post I click Like. Whoaa, I really did take it seriously back then, didn't I? Hahaha. Plus, clicking Fb like is not usual to me. I am very particular about what I click. Only a few times that I donated my click just to help a friend to promote a competition page, or just to say thank you to a friend who uploaded pics of foods because I requested her. Other than that, it must be very personal for me to click Like. Well, but that attitude won't do much to me in this social network, cos most people click Like to support each other, or to return the favour. Most won't do it to the inactive likers like me. This is truly understandable, and fair. Hehe.

But then, it becomes a problem to me when it comes to my work Fb networking. Since I don't click Like on people's post, people don't click Like on mine too. Likes are important when it comes to marketing. It gives the impression that you have a good network and that your reputation is good. But then, I can rest assured that the Fb Likes that I get so far are genuine. They know they won't get the same favour from me, but they still do it cos they really like certain posts or pictures. I appreciate it. But I must do something to boost my networking to promote the services that products that I offer, right? I am also not the Liker of people's page, despite how many invitation I get. I dislike the idea that I have to click pages that I have no interest of following, just for the sake of replying the page invitation. The same concept that I do with my page. I want people to like my page because they like my products. Not because they feel forced or because I invite them. I am officially a Passive Marketer. Hahaha. Same with my Instagram, my Twitter, I am just a backbencher who wait Followers to fall from the sky cos I won't simply follow people's account too. I deserve this punishment. Hahahaha. Ok kidding.

So, I'm glad that I finally found a way to break the shell of my poor marketing skill. Thanks to this friend of mine, who insisted on teaching me ways to make money online. Even that took a while for me to realize if "this is my thing", cos I don't want to make money using the ridiculous ways that some people do. I want it to be clear, realistic, and not too good to be true. But really, thanks to him! I found a way that people have been doing to increase their followers/likers. I saw it everywhere but I thought it was a scam. Until a friend who went through the site and told me how it works. I finally registered at the site, and I find it very very interesting!!

Through the site, I can get people to Like/Follow my social media accounts, but only IF I have points. The points I can only get from clicking Like to other people's accounts too. It will show me a bunch of Fb pages, and they all come with points. If I click Like to the page, I will get the point. So when I have points, my pages too will be available at the site for others to click Like/Follow. It's so interesting! The thrill is like playing some games that keep you excited, cos you can see the number of your points, will go up when you like, and will go down again when someone Like/Follow your accounts. You can include all your social networking accounts, and the most interesting thing is, you starts getting plenty of notifications!! That people are "rushing" into your list of followers. O-M-GEE!! Hahaha. Nice isn't it? I really like it. Imagine the Likes that I never get in years, I got only in less than an hour. And this isn't no crime. Cos it's not clones who Like/Follow, but it's real people who click. They want to get points too so they will click just about any account that appears on the site.

Question is, I have to say farewell to my old days when Fb Likes used to be personal. No more, no more! I totally violated my own principal, but I will stay stagnant and a non-mover if I don't accept changes. These Likes, tho they are just in numbers, give me new spirit to market my products more. They mean a lot, cos after all, I do deserve that kind of Likes, No, not because I'm good. But because if I have smaller Likes, they won't know how passionate I am in my job, and how efficient can I be, how good my skills are and the experiences that I have in dealing with different customers. They can't belittle me just because of lack of Likes on Fb, just because of my poor marketing skill. I mean, you have to give yourself credit for all your hardworks too, you deserve it. It's not an easy journey to me so no matter how weak I am, at least there's something that right that I've done. So guys, allow me to get all this blind Like/Follower okayyy... Hahaha. O ya. In case you're interested, go join this site!! And remember to prepare enough space for the pouring Likes and Followers that will come to page. Hahaha. Good luck!!

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Re-Friend-Ed

I have this one friend, who used to be - Not the favourite- girl in school. Simply because of her attitudes and lifestyles. I had to cut all contacts with her because she would stick to your like a leech and drag you in all her scandals. I took the decision after some deep thoughts. I thought that I could not change her. I thought that at the same time, I could not go with her way anymore, or I could be in constant heartache trying to be a friend in a toxic friendship. It's been years since I never talked to her anymore. 

Recently, she had to find me to get some works done. I was so reluctant when a friend passed my number to her. But then I decided that I have grown up since then. I shouldn't act like a small girl anymore. Especially when what she offers me is some good business which helps me with my work. No, not just about that. I saw some changes in her too. Thank God that motherhood keeps her occupied to the noble works of raising his kids, instead of getting in bad scandals like before.

So despite my reluctance, I have accepted her into my circle of friend again. In fact, I find reasons to admire her. All her patience and strength, despite having friends who dissed her, she keeps standing strong and building her life. I know that her weaknesses will not be completely gone, I always know she has these qualities, but after the test of times, it takes extraordinary courage to still keep going strong. Plus, I can see that she's making the effort, even if she actually doesn't need me in her life. She has options. She accepts that only when she has business to give me, then only we contact. It looks selfish, right? But it's not. It's Symbiosis. Maybe I trade convenience with business. 

So, if you ask what I feel. I feel better this way. I always feel guilty of what I did to her, just by not talking to her for years. Now that I talk to her again, I feel like this is the way to go. One of the things why I love maturity so much. It just makes you wiser. Thank you Lord. Please bless the friendship that I have with my friends. Forgive us for the wrongs we have done towards one another, and help us to become a better friend to each other, with You as the pillar. Amen.  

What's My Obligation To You, Again?

I've been in the young girl's shoes who did a lot of stupid stuff, just from being naive. I saw how people took advantage of me, and thought that they could fool me just because I tried to be nice, and the next time I know, that kindness was a joke to them. Maybe they gave me back some good words that made me feel good about myself, but I don't find that amusing anymore. It's okay with just real friends who talk the real stuff.  

But life unveil its skin day to day, so do people. I have to take care a lot of things in my life. Problems that I deal with, I have to deal with them alone, cos unlike some people, I do not share my troubles that easily. Whether my ego is just damn high or I just don't want to spoil people's day by hearing my problem, and drag them in. When people come to me to speak about their problems, they have no ideas that mine could be worse than theirs. But I am always at the chair, who owns the Listening Booth, and nobody freaking cares if that booth has its own problem too. And I could go on this way as much as I can still spare a bit of time and attention to. But I guess I finally saw my end line, that it is the most that I can go. When I am clearer with my priorities, I finally realize I have less time for dramas. Just because I was more generous with my time before, people think they have the rights to it. They can just claim it anytime, and when I don't comply, I am the bad girl. 

This is no more the days when I go use 3 phones, replying messages to 3 different people, talking totally nonsense, or talk till morning comes, without any benefit. I could sit there in front of the chatroom, seeing people chat, despite my works need to be attended. I have done superstupid things with my times so far. I'd still do it for my close friends, which only require me once or twice in months time. I'd do it for my beloved family, I'd take the day off just to be with my little nephews. These people don't tie me to any judgment or evaluation, I can feel free to slip and trip in front of them, they will accept me. If you are outside this territory, that I only have to speak nice things to impress you, or look good all the times to make you smile to me, I'm done with all that.

I only need a sincere and effortless relationships in my life. I no more want to impress anyone. I am not looking for flattering. If you feel anything good about me, just treat me nice, and save your sugarcoated words. And I am always true with one thing. You can be mad if you don't know your wife's full name, or ic number, or where she lives, or spend time with you anytime you want. Only she has the obligation to do all that to you. You can't expect this from the ladies out there who are not your wife. Take care of the people who matters the most to you. They need your attention, and people like me don't deserve it. 

Note: You have no idea how much people lost just because they did this mistake. 

Peace :)

If It Doesn't Come As A Gift, It's Meaningless

Read the topic and what first comes to your mind? Do you imagine you saw this item on the rack, expensive but you have the money. You want it so much cos everyone else wants it, but a lot of them don't have the money, and then one more thing. You know that it can take everything in your bank account but this Item doesn't own-able that way. This Item will only give you its magic when it comes to you as a gift that you don't request. Puzzled now?

I realize that a few things in life are like that. You cannot simply ask God to give it to you. You can't force it to be in you now matter how hard you try. You can fake having it for a while, but if you don't really have it, you'll end frustrated knowing that you can only do so much. You want to know what is that? One of them is LOVE.

Just now it just hit my mind. You cannot even stand sitting beside some strangers. Maybe they smell, or maybe you don't like how they dress, and you don't like the idea that they might start a conversation, and try to be nice, when you know for sure these people - are just not your type. Yeah, maybe it's too early to know a stranger to feel anything towards them. But when you speak of having a special feeling of Love, I bet even the most charming guy in his club also won't interest you. You'll find issues why this guy or that guy - is just not your cup of tea. But even the guy you thought is not interesting, is the most special to some other girl. So it's not the other person's fault WHY you see them the way you see them. Cos when Love is not given to you to give to that person, you can't just relate to loving that person even How Hard you or that person tries. Ah, get my point?

I mean, if you have received this gift called Love, that you give to someone, who also will smell when they get sweaty, who will also look awful when they don't groom - you don't even look at those points. Suddenly your senses are being ignorant, with your permission. Love will give the person you love, advantages that you won't give anybody else. The advantage to just show their weaknesses, without you having to judge them. This will come in package along with forgiveness, acceptance and tolerance. You think you can fake Love? For a while, you might think you can. But sadly, you can't fake the packages that come with it. When that finally happens to you. you know what I mean. That if you don't have that feeling, no freaking way you can live through it without suffering or holding your breath. 

You want my conclusion? I conclude that - maybe it's true that Nobody can ever forces Love on you, just like you can't force love on anybody else. So even when you are together for so long, there's No Guarantee. Look at the divorced couples who are now married with someone new. Imagine if they force to be together when Love is not there anymore, what kind of life would that be? It's bitter to swallow that sometimes we want things to go our way, but These few items are not For Sale.Whether you have it, or you don't. If you don't have it yet, you have to patiently wait for your heart to open. It will open one day, and it might not be there forever. Treasure it when it's still there. If we understand this concept, we will know that there's not really about right or wrong, good or bad, this or that, It Is about having the gift yet, Or not. Or maybe you can try prayers to heal your hardened heart before you can receive this gift again...:))