The Phases

About 2 weeks ago, my bestie spent 7 hours chit chatting with me. As a busy woman, it surprised me that she chose to spend her off day mostly at my office, and guess what, we shared a lot of things and I was so amazed at her thinking. I mean, she might sound like she lost her mind sometimes but just don't take it wrongly. She's squeezing the most from her hyperactive brain. So I want to hilite something from that  chitchatting. 

It started off when she reminded me, that guys are usually very different at the courting stage. They'll say yes, they'll agree, they'll do just about anything in your favour, just so you feel good and entertained. But please don't expect them to remain the same after you guys enter another stage. Well, I was not surprised at all. I always know that guys love the thrill of the chase. So I asked her, Do you mean to say he doesn't love you the same after marrying you? Referring to her husband whom I also know. Because she kept referring to herself when she made those statements. Yet, she disagreed. It's not about change of heart. But it's just The Phases.

So she made another example. Her firstborn is now 13 years old. She always argues with her about Attention. Mommy, you don't love me anymore? She said, Of course I love you! But your sister needs more attention since she's still small. So she uses this as an example how to explain about The Phases. That it's just the next thing for them so they have to treat it according. Just like us. We can't forever act like we are 18. We will have to adjust and change, but we are still us. You guys get that?

So ladies, sometimes we want to be treated so special just like how it starts during flirting and courting. We want forever to feel like a princess. But men might see it differently. When they feel a bit more comfortable, they slowly strip you off some princess treatments. Less sugarcoated. Less beating around the bushes. In other words, they are becoming more and more like their real selves. Maybe that's what they plan on consistently doing. Cos nobody can act or fake forever right? But again, according to my friend's theory, lets not look at it in a bad way. Make peace with the reality that being real is what everyone wants to end up doing. Anything else is just too much effort and it's tiring. Ladies, does this sound familiar? That you don't like how it turns out but you just are just warming up about the idea that you'd like to see how far it goes. Does the idea of The Phases turn you off?

Maybe we should go at it in a fresher approach. Lets just accept and anticipate about The Phases. Lets cut all the unnecessary emotion setbacks that delay more happiness to happen to you. Lets just focus on Being Happy. So now when your partner starts to be more real with their emotions and attitudes, deal with it as much as you think he's worthy of. If he's worthy your understanding, give it. One day when you start thinking that he's no longer worthy, maybe it's not meant to be. But speaking of The Phases. Let them roll out. Let them happen and deal it with maturity. We are not going to be forever young. Far from being immortal. This is our life, this is our journey. Lets give our best fight and claim the reward.