Work Hard, Play Hard

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Kamu notice ka ada certain friends kamu yang kamu nampak macam kuat jalan, kuat makan di luar masa weekend, macam kerja dorang membazir ja. Sudah la susah mau cari duit kan? Especially yang kerja sendiri, kais pagi makan pagi, kais petang makan petang. But sekali membuang duit, macam teda hari esok. Pernah kamu berada di tempat org yg memerhati and muncul fikiran macam tu? Okay difahami. Tapi orang2 ni, kamu nampak ka struggles dia di hari2 bekerja?

Sepa yang tau kan? Sometimes dorang sampai ja rumah, nap awal untuk dapat energy, bangun dan bubut kerja sampai subuh. Bangun awal pagi, bersiap awal pagi sampai ofis. Kerja yang nda siap tu sambung bikin lagi. Masa tu mungkin orang lain ada yang masih tidur. Dorang makan breakfast ja and then petang baru makan lagi bila sampai rumah. Lunch biasa skip supaya nda buang masa kerja. Ni lah cara dorang2 ni berusaha untuk bikin task masing2. Yes, behind closed doors. Nda semua dicanang. Yang penting, kerja siap, customers puas hati. Lain ceta lagi kalau yang ada hal berbangkit. Kerja 1 hari jadi 1 minggu. So struggles dorang ni orang tidak perlu tau. Masing2 jaga kerja masing2. 

So bila sampai masa cuti atau hujung minggu, of course it's easier to share pictures pi mansau, pi makan2, pi shopping la, orang nampak macam berboros nda ingat esok. Ada ja masa free mesti cakap pasal mau beli kasut la, baju la, beg la, semua yg mengundang keborosan. Seolah-olah teda la kerja lain. Asyik membuang duit ja. Sedangkan kau rasa kau lagi berduit dari org tu, tapi nda pula kau macam dorang. Okay, sia faham. Kalau orang tu menyusahkan kau, pinjam duit kau tapi nda bayar sedangkan boleh bermewah2, itu lain cerita. But now lets just talk about those yang actually fall in the category of Work Hard, Play Hard.

I like to mansau sebab dia meluaskan pandangan dan kasi chance kita create new memories, connect with enviroment, dapat ilham baru, sedut udara di tempat baru, oh gosh, punya rewarding. Peluang yang ada tu rugi untuk dilepaskan. Before pandemik lagi, sia sentiasa grab tu chance untuk explore tempat baru yg nice. Take pictures, take videos untuk kenangan. Sebab ingatan kita ni singkat. Tu semua akan jadi harta hari tua. But then usia kita meningkat. Ada masa muda yang sudah kita bazirkan. Some of us start late. Sekarang baru sedar betapa bestnya jalan2 tengok tempat baru. Tapi ndapa, better late than never. Tapi yes, aktiviti ni memang memakan masa, duit dan tenaga. Boleh ja kita banyak alasan cakap, Eh, malas la. Teda duit. Mau rest lah. Bagus lagi tidur. Semua alasan ni sia pun buli guna juga. Tapi cukup lah. For me, ini la masa dia sia mau tebus balik semua masa2 zaman remaja yang sia bazirkan dengan tidak cuba benda2 baru, yang asyik mau play safe. So ini masing2 punya cara ikut kemahuan masing2. Yang pentingnya adalah? Adalah apa?

Masa Kerja kita Kerja, masa Enjoy kita Enjoy.

Of course work is more important kalau kita terpaksa memilih, tapi kerja tu boleh kita siapkan. Dan camana kita atur priority hidup kita seharian untuk siapkan kerja yang mendatangkan pendapatan. Itu cabaran kita. Nda juga buli sentiasa hidup beralasan. Ini la gunanya akal untuk cari jalan untuk semua masalah. So untuk apa semua ni? You know the answer already kan?

Yes, BALANCE. That's why the saying goes Work Hard, Play Hard.

Kita kerja and kita enjoy secara seimbang. Ndapa kalau sekali sekala salah satu tu berlebihan, tapi aim kita sentiasa mau dua benda ni sama rata. Masa kita berupaya dan bertenaga, ini lah masa untuk kerja. Enjoy pun macam tu juga. Tidak perlu tunggu sampai betul2 ada duit, ada masa, baru mau jalan2. Sebab masa tu mungkin kita tidak ada tenaga yang macam sekarang. That's why, kalau sudah ada kesedaran pasal Balance ni, jan tunggu bisuk lusa, sekarang juga kau bikin. Ok kamu agree?

So just because kau ndatau camana dorang struggle dalam kerja dorang, terus kau judge dorang macam2 bila nampak dorang enjoy sikit. Besanya yang suka judge ni mesti yang belum jumpa tu WORK = PLAY. Kalau pun kau fikir kau tau but still nda setuju dengan cara orang lain, selagi dorang nda guna duit kau atau menyusahkan kau, fahamilah yang dorang sedang memaksimakan hidup dorang. Rest assured, dorang sudah jumpa tu formula Work = Play. Lets try to be one of them and kita sama2 kerja kuat, sama2 enjoy, sama2 Happy. Confirm teda objection kan? Yeah, lets do itttt :))

The Phases

About 2 weeks ago, my bestie spent 7 hours chit chatting with me. As a busy woman, it surprised me that she chose to spend her off day mostly at my office, and guess what, we shared a lot of things and I was so amazed at her thinking. I mean, she might sound like she lost her mind sometimes but just don't take it wrongly. She's squeezing the most from her hyperactive brain. So I want to hilite something from that  chitchatting. 

It started off when she reminded me, that guys are usually very different at the courting stage. They'll say yes, they'll agree, they'll do just about anything in your favour, just so you feel good and entertained. But please don't expect them to remain the same after you guys enter another stage. Well, I was not surprised at all. I always know that guys love the thrill of the chase. So I asked her, Do you mean to say he doesn't love you the same after marrying you? Referring to her husband whom I also know. Because she kept referring to herself when she made those statements. Yet, she disagreed. It's not about change of heart. But it's just The Phases.

So she made another example. Her firstborn is now 13 years old. She always argues with her about Attention. Mommy, you don't love me anymore? She said, Of course I love you! But your sister needs more attention since she's still small. So she uses this as an example how to explain about The Phases. That it's just the next thing for them so they have to treat it according. Just like us. We can't forever act like we are 18. We will have to adjust and change, but we are still us. You guys get that?

So ladies, sometimes we want to be treated so special just like how it starts during flirting and courting. We want forever to feel like a princess. But men might see it differently. When they feel a bit more comfortable, they slowly strip you off some princess treatments. Less sugarcoated. Less beating around the bushes. In other words, they are becoming more and more like their real selves. Maybe that's what they plan on consistently doing. Cos nobody can act or fake forever right? But again, according to my friend's theory, lets not look at it in a bad way. Make peace with the reality that being real is what everyone wants to end up doing. Anything else is just too much effort and it's tiring. Ladies, does this sound familiar? That you don't like how it turns out but you just are just warming up about the idea that you'd like to see how far it goes. Does the idea of The Phases turn you off?

Maybe we should go at it in a fresher approach. Lets just accept and anticipate about The Phases. Lets cut all the unnecessary emotion setbacks that delay more happiness to happen to you. Lets just focus on Being Happy. So now when your partner starts to be more real with their emotions and attitudes, deal with it as much as you think he's worthy of. If he's worthy your understanding, give it. One day when you start thinking that he's no longer worthy, maybe it's not meant to be. But speaking of The Phases. Let them roll out. Let them happen and deal it with maturity. We are not going to be forever young. Far from being immortal. This is our life, this is our journey. Lets give our best fight and claim the reward.