I remember back then when I attended this marketing practical, the sales manager tried to teach us how to close deals. “Especially the girls…You have a lot of advantage. You can use your charm to get customers.” That time, I was so naïve to understand the game behind this. Women and their ways to get things, Do they really have all the advantages going towards their goals?
The Eve generation is prone to be the victims of situations. After being labeled as “the weaker ones”, you can imagine how exposed they are to discrimination and inequality. When a divorce happens, women are going to worry more. They are used to have support from their man but not anymore. They gonna go haywire for a while. Just to count from the few who are around me, there are already a few cases of divorced women who have to raise their kids singlehandedly without a penny of help from the ex-husband. I saw their struggles. They are not hard to find. This post is about them.
Maybe it’s true that women are weaker when it comes to physical strength, but mind you, these women know their other strength that men don’t have. It’s when survival is crucial to them, they finally have their last resort; to use their weapons. After doing my little studies which actually happen coincidentally with my day to day experience with them…Yes, most of them actually involved in ways where they have to sacrifice their moral and virtues in order to get a steady ground for a brighter tomorrow. Men and their soft spot on women, easily got manipulated by these women. Suddenly this is not the game of righteousness, but SURVIVAL. No one cares to play it clean when such desperation turns them into tigresses. Don’t ask me who are the names of the victims, one thing for sure, They are ALL MEN. Is this a result of “The World Is Round”?
The first of them I know, who belong to this league has to raise 6 kids on her own while her ex-husband migrate to another country. With no steady income, imagine her struggle. Maybe I shouldn’t really blame it all on her for having her goodfriend’s husband to back her up. It was the guy who always come to help her with things, and of course financially too. Yes, it was wrong to allow herself to get that much attention from someone’s husband who has 7 kids himself. And imagine the betrayal to her own goodfriend who doesn’t know what is happening behind her. I know what the lady does is wrong, but for the survival of herself and her kids, she needs a backup. Only this man is there for her. She doesn’t have much choice. The advantage of her over her goodfriend is she is younger and prettier, and she doesn’t need commitment to hook up with a guy, so that man just grabs that chance and get what he wants with a little price. This is evil, I know. I never agree to it. But it’s from that, she never runs out of methods to survive another day. She gets to send all her kids to school despite her small income. At one angle I can look at her as the evil one but what if she did all that while putting her children first and considering her little options, her children have a big duty to repay their mom for that.
There’s another single mother with a little kid. She’s very beautiful and used to work at a Spa. After she got divorced, she needs to think about her future and also the son’s. Looks like the husband left her with nothing much. Her survival method is getting the rich men to sponsor things for her. From one guy to another, she finally has a saloon on her own, wholly sponsored by a rich old guy, who best suited called A Sugardaddy. Maybe just some guy who are married and wanted some extra experience outside and so he caught this lady. After the saloon was opened and she started operating it as a boss, she broke up with the rich old guy and now hooking up with a guy just around her age, who has a steady income. When I spoke to her worker, the worker said, “Which sugar daddy? The old or the younger one?” If she didn’t do that, she would still be working at a spa, and never get to dream to be a boss of her own Spa one day. Now, her survival strategies make that dream happen before time!
There was another young saloon owner that got to open the saloon sponsored by her boyfriend, who was a married man with 4 kids. The lady herself has 5 kids, and divorced from a drug addict husband. They both met at a saloon where the lady worked as a shampoo girl. They hooked up for years with just a gf-bf status, never get to legalized the “husband-wife” relationship between them because the husband’s first wife asked for a divorce should he want to marry another lady. The lady entirely depended on the boyfriend for income, and she got no money source since she has quit as the shampoo girl. Luckily, she’s very pretty, young and she gets a lot of attentions from different men, but the man proved that he wants her more than just to have a fling with. Although she claimed to be in love with the man, and the man seemed to be getting “husband-treatment” from the her, but it didn’t come free. The guy has to take care her financial needs. The house, the lady’s kids and others. We don’t know how long are they going to be that way, but speaking of survival strategies, the lady sure knows what she’s doing. Emotionally attached, yes, but she makes sure that she gets something back for everything that she “gives”. As a result, her 5 kids are well taken care of. She, who was only a shampoo girl, got to be a saloon’s owner without even getting married with the guy who forked all the money.
Are we still concerned about Ethics in surviving life? It’s so easy to speak but not to do. To get something rightfully yours might be hard for these ladies, but survival is crucial. Are the ladies victimized these men to get what they want? Maybe Not. Guys will be guys. They would still look for ways to flirt with the eager women. So knowing this, these ladies only use their advantages and still, the rest is for the men to decide. When these men dare enough to play with fire; the game is on. These ladies don’t have to be cunning for these guys to want them. They are still easy victims for womanizers; and it’s because the ladies are smart, they make sure they won’t be empty handed.
I have spoken closely with each of them and I could see that they are not bad women. I tried to justify their doings and put myself in their shoes to be feeling that they are not far of a devil compared to me. They are sane, they believe in God and they have virtues. I never experienced the part when they might think Love has failed them. These people might not believe in Love anymore. They only care that they would never cry as much if a man walks away from their lives again. They must tap on everything they can afford to get from the man before anything bad happens. This is how I see The Eve’s Survival in this filthy world. Who I am to judge them, but I have a lot to learn from these people. When it comes to life, they sure are “the smarter ones”. At where I am now, I still let my constraints lock me in. I’m terrified just to think about how tough one’s survival could be. Whatever it is, I salute these women for their courage to keep walking despite emotional heartache that seem unbearable to people like me. But the little voice in me says, the true hero is the person who can walk out from this battle victoriously, with clean hands. Go figure :)
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