I have written about the same idea long before. I think it goes with the title “The Alternate Life”. The Alternate Life means the life that you could be leading IF you did not take certain decision that you took which finally brought you to where you are now. Yes, if you entertain the thought of WHAT IF you did not take certain decision in your life, What would the outcome be? Well, let’s simplify it once again. Maybe when you have time for this, you can let your mind wander to the Possibilities that could happen should you take a different decision before.
I’m going to tell you a little story that I got from a movie, that tells so much about this concept. There was this lady, who was still single in her 30s. She was working with a magazine, a job that she enjoyed doing. The thing about her current life was that she started to get sick of her routine. She came home alone and did not have time to cook so she just picked anything from the fridge, be it cereal of some stale cake, as long as she eats something. She has no date. She has been trying to look for a good date to at least accompany her to have a good time out, she kept failing. She was sick of her life. She thought that she Did Not have a so-called life to begin with. She even thought of committing suicide. She hated her life.
She saw her other friends, they were married with kids. She began to have that thought in her mind, reminiscing the past when her boyfriend asked her to get married. If Only she agreed to him, maybe she might not be leading a boring life now. She might have kids to attend to, and a husband to wait for by the door. She was wondering so much with a bit of regret. “What if she agreed to marry him?”
She got up one morning, going into her routine, a car almost hit her and she fainted. When she woke up, she saw another lady, who looked exactly like her. The lady was HER. Herself in the alternate life; if she decided to get married to her boyfriend years ago. The lady told her something before she left, “From now on, you are me and this life is yours” then she disappeared. She was shocked finding herself in a house. She saw her wedding picture and family picture with the kids. She heard children screaming around the house. Suddenly the kids were calling her Mommy and started to do all kinds of attitudes that she has to handle. She tried her best to act like she was their mommy. Then here come the husband home from work. She was startled seeing the man. The man that she loved so much and refused to marry. But wait, since that she was in the alternate life, she was now married to him. She felt so good inside to see his face again. For once, she finally found the answer to her question WHAT IF she got married to her ex. She almost agreed that yes, Life was much better if she married him. At least no more loneliness. She has kids although they were nuisance and noisy, and she has a husband who slept beside her. So much different from her version of Reality.
After a few days going through the day as herself in the alternate life, she started to argue with her husband and she sometimes got too irritated by the kids and too much house chores. She almost didn’t have time for herself. She started to miss her other life, yeah maybe she was single and all…but at least she has the freedom and peace. She started to recall all the good things in her single and boring life. She realized that the life she had before does have shortcomings but strange…she was missing that life.
Finally she learnt something from this. Luckily her journey in the alternate life was short when the lady came back to exchange place with her. She didn’t wait too long to get back to her single so-called boring life. She was so thankful that she didn’t have to get stuck in the alternate life forever. She thanked the lady for the experience that she won’t forget.
Life was never be the same again after that. She woke up to a brighter morning, changing her routines and adapted a new spirit. She began to see life differently. She realized how much she appreciated her life after she was given the rare chance to experience her alternate life, which she claimed to be better than her real life, UNTIL she found it out herself. She stopped nagging and started to approach the guy that she liked for a serious relationship instead of just having a one night stand. She finally found the key to happiness.
Yes, there must be something bad about your life now. Then you start blaming yourself for a decision that you took before. To add salt to the injury, you started to feed yourself with the “fairytale” possibility that your alternate life MUST be better than the life you are having now. The answer is, You Are Wrong. Whichever decision you take, there’s always a battle, a pain, a heartache and tears waiting for you, despite laughter and smile. So it doesn’t matter which road you take, it’s still THE BEST road for you because it’s where your feet are. You could not be missing something that you’ve never reach and telling yourself lies that the other road is surely better. The answer is you have to take life as it is ahead of you. What’s behind you WILL NOT shift or change a bit no matter what you do so If you want to continue to grieve for your life now, you may do so. Or maybe you can just turn it totally the opposite. Like my favourite phrase, “You don’t have a choice. You want to mourn over your life or lift it and make it victorious. It’s all up to you.” Don’t worry about the alternate life. The Best is still the one in your hand now. Live That Reality and make it a worthy life that is better than any alternate lives that you could have.
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